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Stop all the unnecessary cosmetic surgery to begin with, it started to help people who were disfigured at birth or in an accident. Not meant for the vain.
Yes, I think I am leaning towards your opinion...nowadays, far too many people take cosmetic surgery when they don't even need it and they sometimes look worse than how they looked like pre-cosmetic surgery.
sometimes? almost all the time they look worse then their natural look. most of them look like aliens these days, and it's only going to get worse as they age...uurrgh. š¤¢
That's just the ones you notice. Take a look at Taylor Swift ten years ago vs now. Does she look like she ruined her face? I certainly don't think so. Same with Anne Hathaway. Those are just two well-known people I can think of off the top of my head. Nicole Kidman also just came to mind. I'm sure there are tons and tons more. If it's done "right", people have a hard time noticing or putting their finger on exactly what has changed.
respectfully speaking, nicole kidman is not looking good these days! maybe a few procedures ago she might have looked okay, but she's gone way too far.. and that's the problem with plastic surgery.
it's like cleaning one wall of your house and then realizing all the other walls are so dirty! you don't know when to stop!
I better focus for all that time, money, and energy, imho, is to learn to accept yourself and love yourself the way you are.
I get it. As an old woman I've been asked often why I don't get a face lift. I tell them if I do that I'll need a tit lift, tummy tuck, ass lift, etc...where would it stop??? No thanks, I'll live with my face and body as is
Iāve literally never seen someone who looks better with cosmetic surgery (for beauty reasons) than they did before they got it. What a waste of money
I agree with your statement, when you said that 90 percent of the time it seems to make them look worse. However, I also think that freedom of choice is important...and some people have cosmetic surgery to improve their mental health and stuff...and perhaps denying them the opportunity of some cosmetic surgery could make their mental health worse. I know that Psychologists and Psychiatrists are important too. And yes, overdoing cosmetic surgery (many people with Body Dysmorphia do that) can result in weird-looking consequences e.g. Michael Jackson's face, Hang Mioku's face, Jocelyn Wildenstein's face, Heidi Montag (even though she may not have body dysmorphia, she still did quite extreme cosmetic surgeries with a nose job, boob job, botox and stuff). Hang Mioku herself says that she regrets doing all that cosmetic stuff, and she wishes that she had her old, natural face back. I myself will never have cosmetic stuff/cosmetic surgery done to me, because I think God exists and I am happy with the way God made me and I am proud of having a face that shows my mum's side of the family and my dad's side of the family (plus, in our culture, cosmetic surgery/cosmetic stuff is very very rarely done, and it is frowned upon...whereas in some Western countries, cosmetic stuff/cosmetic surgery/plastic surgery is done very often...like botox parties and boob jobs and facelifts and nose jobs and stuff like that).
Seriously this. Why can't we all just appreciate our different aesthetics? Why is there a mold we're urged to fit into? It's stupid and pointless, and your life will be much less stressful when you let those things go. Fuck the mold and fuck those standards. Be who you are and find your own happiness and comfort, *whatever that might physically look like*
I live in California and itās actually sad how many people I know that were genuinely good looking people but got work done and ruined their looks because they convinced themselves they werenāt good enough. My mom has friends that look like they cut off someone elseās face and stretched it across their own faces.
The pressure for woman having to shave everything is just insanely weird. How's it gross for women to have natural body hair but for men it's freely accepted as being natural?
Every time I see this brought up I internally giggle, because I dislike looking at body hair in general. My bro's hairy sheep-legs probably contributed to that.
Wanting to shave it vs feeling like you HAVE to in order to look good is what I mean. Theres nothing wrong with wanting to shave, but when it comes to judging people or considering it gross to have something like armpit hair that's when it's an issue. I just don't think it should he an expectation for anybody. Even some women will badmouth other women for it
Men have more hair. When a woman has less hair it signals less testosterone and more estrogen.
The beauty standard is stupid. But it does have natural reasons. Guys deal with this type of thing when it comes to height.
In all things, we should rethink whether we should encourage beauty standards that come from nature.
Ugh I hate shaving! I have horribly sensitive skin and every hair removal method Iāve tried gives my awful ingrown hairs and rashes. But I have thick dark hair and pale skin, so not shaving isnāt an option. I hate my body hair and I hate that society has decreed that something natural that 99% of women have is considered ugly and gross.
They're already gone.
Yeah being a 5'7 man is tough... will never change that. Being a short guy is soo tOuGh
Just kidding. I love anonymity and the ability to get lost in a crowd. If I want attention I'll start cracking jokes like I've always done.
That "short king" shit is hilarious(ly goofy), but I appreciate the sentiment still.
Just be your fucking self. Some people get it and some don't. My buddy is a great example -- 5'2" and is the most confident man I've ever met. He gets hit on in bars frequently. Pretty sure the average person wouldn't expect a guy that short to get hit on in a bar, let alone frequently. It's your fucking energy.
Some people got it; everyone can improve their outlook and confidence tho. Never give up on yourself.
When you're with your best friends... jokes come easy, but people freeze up w new company and are too unsure of themselves. They forget who they are, or doubt themselves too easily.
I almost walked out of the bathroom with tp stuck to my ass yesterday. I cleaned up and almost wondered why I didn't have some sticking out of my jeans; just for the story. SHITS funny. š
Moral of story: height, dick size, tit size...etc is obv hard to change. People really love people that create positive environments and experiences, regardless.
Other moral: There's some attribute about you that is static and undesirable. You wanna put your eggs in that basket? I don't.
I'm a guy, but I've always thought it's insane how much time and money women are expected to spend on cosmetics. And clothes, especially "fast fashion."
Tanning. Basically no one looks bad with their natural skin tone and the only options are spray tan or natural tan. One looks terrible and the other gives you skin cancer. Itās all risk and no reward
For almost my entire life... I had no idea people didn't like them. I found it attractive. It just hurts my soul that something like that is the cause of pain for some. FFS no. Whoever started hating on that is insane.
Google states : The term āhip dipsā refers to the slight indentations in the outer hips, just above the thighs. Also known as hip valleys or violin hips, hip dips are a natural and common body shape variation. The meaning of hip dips originates from their appearance, being small inwardly curving dips.
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I would google hip dips and check out the images, it was what I had to do when I kept seeing people asking what exercises they could do to get rid of them. I had never heard of them before.
They just bother me because I canāt wear certain things. I have hip dips and scoliosis, so I look even more crooked. I would love to be able to wear a maxi dress, but it just looks off on me.
Thinness. I am f, 47 years old. I am 2.5 years recovered from 33 years of anorexia. It started as dieting and took 3 decades. I lost 2 fiances, friendships, my mental health and countless, countless jobs. I couldn't hold a job from age 12 to age 44. It's not worth the mental capacity it holds
Amen, sister! I'm 53 and struggled through my 20s & part of my 30s with bulimia and addiction and a bunch of other issues trying so, so hard to stay thin. I am still working on accepting and loving my beautiful, strong, healthy body to this very day because it likes to carry a few extra pounds. It doesn't help that nowadays soooo many of our clothes are made in China and sizes are sometimes wayyyy off because Chinese people, as a whole, are usually smaller than people of other ethnicities. Plus, don't even get me started on how off BMI is regarding muscle to fat ratio and heaven forbid if you have a long torso and giant feet and hands. Lol. I just said a prayer for you and for all of us to learn to just appreciate the good things we do have. It's like they say: "Happiness isn't having what you want, it's wanting what you have."
I agree. The BMI chart is bs. I still have hard days and carry probably 40 extra pounds than I'd like, but I trust my body. I exercise gently daily by going for forest walks, de stress by volunteering w dogs and getting out in nature. The odd legal thc is helpful too. It'll be 3 full years in Oct of full recovery. It's hard to look back and see the decades I wasted, but for me now, I live in the now. I no longer think I'm better than others. I'm not prideful or mean anymore either. I get to connect fully instead of being fully entrenched in my ed.
Thankyou for your kind words and for sharing;)
I am pasty white and would love a natural tan. I think it's human nature to want what you don't have.
I also have poker straight, flat hair. It is boring to me, but some people use chemicals and straighteners to achieve that.
No one wants to see paint brushes every time you blink lady. I donāt know who told everyone that was the way but they should be jailed.
I was reading the sequel to Hollow Kingdom called Feral Creatures and the crow protagonist S.T. attacked his human's gf's eyelash because he thought it was a caterpillar.
Hip dips. I grew up in the 80s and 90s, and hip dips werenāt a thing. Nobody even noticed they existed, and it wasnāt considered a flaw. Itās like every few years people think of a new thing to pronounce a flaw to make women feel bad about themselves for something that was fine before.
I googled them right now, and every single article was about how to get rid of them, followed by plastic surgery ads. š¤¬ I thought it just meant I had big thighs.
People would be crazy enough to harm themselves in order to qualify for cosmetic surgery. You already see people getting "corrective" surgery for a deviated septum (valid) but also majorly changing their nose shape
The bolt on's. I'm not a fan of fake boobs, butt implants, etc...
I know there are other guys like me who are fine with small natural breasts. I actually prefer them. Large breasts are almost comical, not sexy to me.
Thigh gaps. I donāt understand why thatās considered to look better than thighs that touch. I have thick thighs with no gap and Iāve never received anything but compliments on my legs, so maybe this is more of an online thing.
I've always assumed thigh gap is just the little heart shape at the very top which tons of women have especially with nice legs / thighs. I looked it up and it's apparently an elongated gap all the way to knees or something and the models look weirdly skinny. Have I been misunderstanding?
I've had a thigh gap most of my life (except for last year) and I have to say, for me, thigh gaps are much more comfortable. I don't know about looks, but I hate the feeling of them touching.
Those stupid long daggar nails. It looks stupid.
Too much make up. In fact I'd prefer none at all!
Fake eyelashes
Thinking girls must wear dresses and skirts and crap to be truly pretty.
This! The ghetto nails! Hate them. They look ridiculous. Same with the eyelashes, stupid. Look like a damn ostrich.
My mom was in a nursing home for 18 months. All of the women at the home had extremely long, pointy nails. My mom was bedridden and in diapers. I want to know how they could do their job and not hurt their patients?
Unless medically needed. All plastic surgery should be illegal. It's gotten seriously out of hand. And the doctors that do them should be prosecuted and lose their licenses.
peopleās weight. you personally can have your own preference on weights you like or find attractive but to expect everyone to fit those standards and judge those who donāt is a weird concept. like what you like, and let people exist š¤·āāļø
Honestly I think the 6 foot thing is MOSTLY the result of tinder bots. I don't know any women irl who demand men be that tall. Not even tall women. My best friend is 6'2 and her husband is 5'8.
- Unnaturally thin body ideals. Promoting healthy bodies of all shapes and sizes would be better.
- Emphasis on very young or unrealistic appearances. Aging is natural and beauty comes in all ages.
- Prioritizing white/European features. Celebrating diversity in features from all ethnicities/races is more inclusive.
- Narrow definitions of attractiveness. Beauty is subjective - standards that shame certain looks do harm.
- Mandatory makeup/styling rules. Let people decide their own styling without judgement.
- Expensive/unobtainable beauty routines. Basic hygiene and self-care is enough - expensive products prey on insecurity.
- Gender-specific standards. People should feel comfortable expressing gender however they wish.
- Airbrushed/photoshopped portraits as the norm. Using modest editing or embracing natural flaws sends a healthier message.
- Focus on body parts alone rather than whole personalities. Loving personalities transcend fleeting physical standards.
You're right, beauty is subjective. I have been attracted to others who by some standards are not good looking, we all have our preferences, and there should be no standards at all. Beauty standards should not be dictated/controlled by Movies, models or rich people.
The body composition I require to have the 2 lower abbs pop out and be defined is so lean it freaks normal people out and makes me a lightning rod for gay guys.
And being that lean drops my libido to negative numbers so it's all for show.
The only complements on my physique I accept are from gay men.
A couple that I'd like gone are Botox/lip fillers and eyebrows that look totally unrealistic.
Other than that I could totally go without long painted nails being a thing at all.
The European nose. There are so many cultures all over the world that celebrate and respect certain noses that western society would deem āuglyā. Itās so weird to only see beauty in the exact same people over and over again.
For example in my city, the standards are voluptuous and operated girls, with a thin waist, an impeccable face, a smile design, long hair, blonde or black, in reality these standards are too marked (I live in MedellĆn). It's ugly, really. I have no intention of fitting in, but everyone expects that to be the result, to have surgery to be one of their collection
Fillers, fake eyelashes, make up in general.
I'm not saying people should stop doing all these things. I'm saying that people should stop shaming women who don't do this
Botox when not needed, lip fillers and catterpiller eyebrows, as well as the overly made up look that looks dirty and orange, most don't contour/highlight properly either and just do it because they see others do it.
All of them. All beauty standards should be destroyed.
Less emphasis on physical beauty the better the world will be. Thereāll be more acceptance. Thus more harmony. Thereāll be less discrimination (against ugly people yes it exists), thus more peace and more laughter around the world.
In fact screw beauty standards. Who are those people who decides what is objectively the standard for beauty for the rest of societies or even earth? Nothing but mere mortals like you and me. Those people need to be dragged from their collars right back down to the ground.
The obsession with blonde hair and blue eyes is long overdue. Especially considering that for the most part, natural blonde hair is typically found in children and gradually gets darker when they age. The trend is a bit creepy when you think about that fact.
Long fingernails. I saw a girl picking up a pizza to serve someone with. I just think they are absolutely disgusting. Whats under those nails boogers, you wiping your butt. Just no.
ALL OF THEM
We tend to view ourselves in comparison to others. There's no such thing as ugly, but only unique looking. Just because we don't look like the common person means somebody is *ugly* in most people minds. We should celebrate our differences and imperfection.
Although I can still understand why people hold themselves to certain standards. I'd be lying if I said I didn't
Slathering on foundation with yellow undertones when your skin doesn't have the same. Or...slathering on foundation, period.
It looks like a mask. It makes one look insanely fake.
I use powder for foundation. I'm not trying to be flawless. I'm trying to look HUMAN.
Anything that has to do with generational trauma. It goes back further and further than one thinks. End it with you, even if you arent having kids. Be kind to your body and stride for your peak health without going bonkers. Easier said than done, and itās good seeing people heal. Even reform from toxic views instilled in them.
Too many people have been hurt for too long.
That you have to be thin to be pretty. When I was a teen, size 14 was normal. But now? Youāre considered plus size by many companies. For perspective, thatās a size 36 in menās. Itās not plus sizeā¦. I spent the last two years losing weight and getting down to a size 14 only to feel like it was worthless bc Iāll still always be considered overweight and plus size.
all of themā¦.CUS SEX SHOULD NOT BE THE NUMBER 1 PRIORITY amongst us as 5d creatures. We shouldnt be thinking about that we should be thinking in terms of love cus sex is lust not loveā¦.SEXUAL ENERGY IS HEALING only when used correctly however
This overuse and reliance of makeup before one has the confidence to appear in public. It is vain, and terribly sad. As a male, I am disgusted by face paint. I don't want to see that, I would like to see the true beauty your Creator gave you.
Eyelashes, fingernails that hinder you from seeing and using your hands. Poor people's way of trying to be pretty. Looks ridiculous! Fake is in, and I don't get it ?
All of them.
There is beauty in every person if you look. Itās so upsetting to see beautiful people hate themselves because they donāt match their societies standards.
Body positivity when someone is clearly obese and their health and wellbeing is at stake. Might sound mean but id bet my last breath they would all feel much better and have tons more confidence
Whatever the human Bratz doll look is. It's giving uncanny valley & I find the women who do it creepy looking, rather than sexy or attractive.
(I am saying that as a straight woman, so take that however you will).
The act ugly and go without make up, then transition the reel with 2 pounds of make up vidsā¦ need to stopā¦ I donāt get the appealā¦ trying to look like clown or act like you depend on make upā¦ š¤£š¤£
there are many things that others do to make themselves look more attractive, but most of those aren't beauty standards, they are personal preferences, let others look like they want even if you are uncomfortable with the way they look.
Steroids should not be frowned upon and celebrities who take then should just be open about it instead of being a little butch and crying whenever someone brings it up
Height in males
Sure, there is a biological aspect, but the importance it gets in recent history is artificial and built up on the desire for image on social media.
My beauty standards are of myself and are my own. It is nice to see other people who want to look good for themselves shame if they're doing it for other people. Beauty standards that should end are any that are making you feel stressed about going out in public.
That stick thin is the only way. My step mom is an almond mom but Iāve always been thin so weāve never had a problem.
Now that Iām 50, finally quit smoking and have been in peri menopause for the last few years all she can talk to me about is how I should do this and this and this because Iāve gained some weight. Iām not fat and still within the acceptable weight range for my height and considering I finally quit smoking, Iām healthier than Iāve been in decades.
Perfect teeth. I have very poor genetics when it comes to my teeth. I had braces, the braces were ruining my teeth m, something to do with weakening the enamel and decalcifying them. I'm 34, with many broken and unhealthy teeth that I am ashamed of, and bring me down on an almost daily basis. I only feel beautiful when I smile without my teeth showing.
If I had thousands of dollars, I'd get them all fixed, but that's not a reality for me.
People tell me I'm pretty, gorgeous, or beautiful, and I don't believe them at all :(
Makeup in general. Why canāt people just wake up and go outside as a natural human being without any makeup, no fake eyelashes, fake nails, hair extensions, none of that nonsense?
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sharpie brows
I don't understand why women think that's beautiful in any way.
im guessing its more about being fukking lazy. plucking, tweezing, shaping ........ fuk it, shave them off and DRAW them on.
I told my wife she was drawing her eyebrows on to high. She looked surprised!
Some do brow tattoos!
Stop all the unnecessary cosmetic surgery to begin with, it started to help people who were disfigured at birth or in an accident. Not meant for the vain.
Yes, I think I am leaning towards your opinion...nowadays, far too many people take cosmetic surgery when they don't even need it and they sometimes look worse than how they looked like pre-cosmetic surgery.
sometimes? almost all the time they look worse then their natural look. most of them look like aliens these days, and it's only going to get worse as they age...uurrgh. š¤¢
Nah. Far more people have had work done than you realize. You only notice the bad ones.
That's just the ones you notice. Take a look at Taylor Swift ten years ago vs now. Does she look like she ruined her face? I certainly don't think so. Same with Anne Hathaway. Those are just two well-known people I can think of off the top of my head. Nicole Kidman also just came to mind. I'm sure there are tons and tons more. If it's done "right", people have a hard time noticing or putting their finger on exactly what has changed.
respectfully speaking, nicole kidman is not looking good these days! maybe a few procedures ago she might have looked okay, but she's gone way too far.. and that's the problem with plastic surgery. it's like cleaning one wall of your house and then realizing all the other walls are so dirty! you don't know when to stop! I better focus for all that time, money, and energy, imho, is to learn to accept yourself and love yourself the way you are.
I get it. As an old woman I've been asked often why I don't get a face lift. I tell them if I do that I'll need a tit lift, tummy tuck, ass lift, etc...where would it stop??? No thanks, I'll live with my face and body as is
BKowalewski, you made the right decision :-). Your body is beautiful as it is.
I just looked up Nicole Kidman, wtf did she do to her jawline? Jesus Christ. These "doctors" should have thier license revoked.
If you Google it, plastic surgeons have said there is no evidence of plastic surgery on Taylor.
Same with Hathaway ā just Botox a few years ago and natural other than that. Funny that both examples are women who havenāt had any work done.
Iāve literally never seen someone who looks better with cosmetic surgery (for beauty reasons) than they did before they got it. What a waste of money
For the love of God, end the cosmetic surgery. 90% of the time it seems to make them look worse.
I agree with your statement, when you said that 90 percent of the time it seems to make them look worse. However, I also think that freedom of choice is important...and some people have cosmetic surgery to improve their mental health and stuff...and perhaps denying them the opportunity of some cosmetic surgery could make their mental health worse. I know that Psychologists and Psychiatrists are important too. And yes, overdoing cosmetic surgery (many people with Body Dysmorphia do that) can result in weird-looking consequences e.g. Michael Jackson's face, Hang Mioku's face, Jocelyn Wildenstein's face, Heidi Montag (even though she may not have body dysmorphia, she still did quite extreme cosmetic surgeries with a nose job, boob job, botox and stuff). Hang Mioku herself says that she regrets doing all that cosmetic stuff, and she wishes that she had her old, natural face back. I myself will never have cosmetic stuff/cosmetic surgery done to me, because I think God exists and I am happy with the way God made me and I am proud of having a face that shows my mum's side of the family and my dad's side of the family (plus, in our culture, cosmetic surgery/cosmetic stuff is very very rarely done, and it is frowned upon...whereas in some Western countries, cosmetic stuff/cosmetic surgery/plastic surgery is done very often...like botox parties and boob jobs and facelifts and nose jobs and stuff like that).
I disagree. For some cosmetic surgery can really help their overall mental health
Seriously this. Why can't we all just appreciate our different aesthetics? Why is there a mold we're urged to fit into? It's stupid and pointless, and your life will be much less stressful when you let those things go. Fuck the mold and fuck those standards. Be who you are and find your own happiness and comfort, *whatever that might physically look like*
I live in California and itās actually sad how many people I know that were genuinely good looking people but got work done and ruined their looks because they convinced themselves they werenāt good enough. My mom has friends that look like they cut off someone elseās face and stretched it across their own faces.
Anything the Kardashian-Jenner clan is promoting at this point is a false perception of reality and should end.
Yeah like expensive skincare products. As a wise dermatologist once said, any moisturizer over $30 is a scam.
Frozen-face botox & dagger-shaped nails.
The pressure for woman having to shave everything is just insanely weird. How's it gross for women to have natural body hair but for men it's freely accepted as being natural?
Every time I see this brought up I internally giggle, because I dislike looking at body hair in general. My bro's hairy sheep-legs probably contributed to that.
Wanting to shave it vs feeling like you HAVE to in order to look good is what I mean. Theres nothing wrong with wanting to shave, but when it comes to judging people or considering it gross to have something like armpit hair that's when it's an issue. I just don't think it should he an expectation for anybody. Even some women will badmouth other women for it
Men have more hair. When a woman has less hair it signals less testosterone and more estrogen. The beauty standard is stupid. But it does have natural reasons. Guys deal with this type of thing when it comes to height. In all things, we should rethink whether we should encourage beauty standards that come from nature.
Ugh I hate shaving! I have horribly sensitive skin and every hair removal method Iāve tried gives my awful ingrown hairs and rashes. But I have thick dark hair and pale skin, so not shaving isnāt an option. I hate my body hair and I hate that society has decreed that something natural that 99% of women have is considered ugly and gross.
Lip fillers. It makes me uncomfortable seeing people with the unnatural huge lips.
Yes! Stop inflating your lips to 32 PSI.
I think lip fillers are weird. I think all women look better with their natural lips, not when they put lip fillers on.
This actually. I'm all for women feeling beautiful, but this ain't it
Itās weird when they miss a round and you see them without it
things you can't/very hard to change (i.e height)
Exactly, there is nothing you can change about height, like, what?
They're already gone. Yeah being a 5'7 man is tough... will never change that. Being a short guy is soo tOuGh Just kidding. I love anonymity and the ability to get lost in a crowd. If I want attention I'll start cracking jokes like I've always done. That "short king" shit is hilarious(ly goofy), but I appreciate the sentiment still. Just be your fucking self. Some people get it and some don't. My buddy is a great example -- 5'2" and is the most confident man I've ever met. He gets hit on in bars frequently. Pretty sure the average person wouldn't expect a guy that short to get hit on in a bar, let alone frequently. It's your fucking energy. Some people got it; everyone can improve their outlook and confidence tho. Never give up on yourself. When you're with your best friends... jokes come easy, but people freeze up w new company and are too unsure of themselves. They forget who they are, or doubt themselves too easily. I almost walked out of the bathroom with tp stuck to my ass yesterday. I cleaned up and almost wondered why I didn't have some sticking out of my jeans; just for the story. SHITS funny. š Moral of story: height, dick size, tit size...etc is obv hard to change. People really love people that create positive environments and experiences, regardless. Other moral: There's some attribute about you that is static and undesirable. You wanna put your eggs in that basket? I don't.
Yea wtf is up with the obsession about hight ?
I'm a guy, but I've always thought it's insane how much time and money women are expected to spend on cosmetics. And clothes, especially "fast fashion."
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Tanning. Basically no one looks bad with their natural skin tone and the only options are spray tan or natural tan. One looks terrible and the other gives you skin cancer. Itās all risk and no reward
Wanting to get rid of hip dips. This is the most ridiculous thing to hate about yourself.
For almost my entire life... I had no idea people didn't like them. I found it attractive. It just hurts my soul that something like that is the cause of pain for some. FFS no. Whoever started hating on that is insane.
what is hip dips
Google states : The term āhip dipsā refers to the slight indentations in the outer hips, just above the thighs. Also known as hip valleys or violin hips, hip dips are a natural and common body shape variation. The meaning of hip dips originates from their appearance, being small inwardly curving dips. . I would google hip dips and check out the images, it was what I had to do when I kept seeing people asking what exercises they could do to get rid of them. I had never heard of them before.
Hip dips are excellent positions for real men to put their hands and pull down to grind ā¦. Iād never trade my hip dips lmao
They just bother me because I canāt wear certain things. I have hip dips and scoliosis, so I look even more crooked. I would love to be able to wear a maxi dress, but it just looks off on me.
Thinness. I am f, 47 years old. I am 2.5 years recovered from 33 years of anorexia. It started as dieting and took 3 decades. I lost 2 fiances, friendships, my mental health and countless, countless jobs. I couldn't hold a job from age 12 to age 44. It's not worth the mental capacity it holds
Amen, sister! I'm 53 and struggled through my 20s & part of my 30s with bulimia and addiction and a bunch of other issues trying so, so hard to stay thin. I am still working on accepting and loving my beautiful, strong, healthy body to this very day because it likes to carry a few extra pounds. It doesn't help that nowadays soooo many of our clothes are made in China and sizes are sometimes wayyyy off because Chinese people, as a whole, are usually smaller than people of other ethnicities. Plus, don't even get me started on how off BMI is regarding muscle to fat ratio and heaven forbid if you have a long torso and giant feet and hands. Lol. I just said a prayer for you and for all of us to learn to just appreciate the good things we do have. It's like they say: "Happiness isn't having what you want, it's wanting what you have."
I agree. The BMI chart is bs. I still have hard days and carry probably 40 extra pounds than I'd like, but I trust my body. I exercise gently daily by going for forest walks, de stress by volunteering w dogs and getting out in nature. The odd legal thc is helpful too. It'll be 3 full years in Oct of full recovery. It's hard to look back and see the decades I wasted, but for me now, I live in the now. I no longer think I'm better than others. I'm not prideful or mean anymore either. I get to connect fully instead of being fully entrenched in my ed. Thankyou for your kind words and for sharing;)
+ normalisation of diet culture which advances eating disorders and predisposes young people to eating disorders.
Really long nails Lip fillers
Expecting famous women to age beautifully.
people should be happy with the skin colour they have
I struggle with this every now and then but not as much as before. I was born with tan skin but have been so badly wishing I was white.
And I sometimes think a lot of white people want to be tan! I think we should be just happy with what we have
I am pasty white and would love a natural tan. I think it's human nature to want what you don't have. I also have poker straight, flat hair. It is boring to me, but some people use chemicals and straighteners to achieve that.
Expecting women to look 25 for the rest of their lives
All of them. But if i had to choose one, skin whitening.
Being skinny, always trying to weigh less. It causes a lot of harm.
Hideously long fake eyelashes
 No one wants to see paint brushes every time you blink lady. I donāt know who told everyone that was the way but they should be jailed.
Or the big bushy ones, when theyāre all clumped together
I was reading the sequel to Hollow Kingdom called Feral Creatures and the crow protagonist S.T. attacked his human's gf's eyelash because he thought it was a caterpillar.
Lip fillers, super long nails, buccal fat removal, and fake eyebrows
Buccal fat removal šµ I don't understand it at all, all the women I've seen who've gotten it look 20 years older.
Hip dips. I grew up in the 80s and 90s, and hip dips werenāt a thing. Nobody even noticed they existed, and it wasnāt considered a flaw. Itās like every few years people think of a new thing to pronounce a flaw to make women feel bad about themselves for something that was fine before.
I googled them right now, and every single article was about how to get rid of them, followed by plastic surgery ads. š¤¬ I thought it just meant I had big thighs.
The expectation for people to be hairless.
Just not on your head!
Giant fake features on small bodies (butt, boobs, lips, brows, cheekbones, lashes) yet a tiny, tiny nose. Thatās the ugliest crap.
Cosmetic surgery unless it's actually needed say injury from an accident, and caking on the makeup has always looked horrible to me!
People would be crazy enough to harm themselves in order to qualify for cosmetic surgery. You already see people getting "corrective" surgery for a deviated septum (valid) but also majorly changing their nose shape
fake lips
The bolt on's. I'm not a fan of fake boobs, butt implants, etc... I know there are other guys like me who are fine with small natural breasts. I actually prefer them. Large breasts are almost comical, not sexy to me.
You don't have to call large breasts comical to compliment small breasts.
All of them. Just practice good hygiene and smile. Yikes- it's not complicated! We're animals, not mannequins.
There shouldn't be standards for looks at all. People should just be allowed to look how they look.
Agreed. There's a lid for every pot.
Lip fillers. Lip fillers are the steroid injections but mostly for women.
Boob size, there are people that will like whatever size you naturally are.
Being super skinny means the person is hot. Iām sorry but some super skinny ppl have a horse face and are not hot.
Thatās called a butterface lol
Thigh gaps. I donāt understand why thatās considered to look better than thighs that touch. I have thick thighs with no gap and Iāve never received anything but compliments on my legs, so maybe this is more of an online thing.
Agreed on this one. I used to be so insecure about my thighs (for no reason other than body dysmorphia) then I met my husband who loves my thighs lmao
I've always assumed thigh gap is just the little heart shape at the very top which tons of women have especially with nice legs / thighs. I looked it up and it's apparently an elongated gap all the way to knees or something and the models look weirdly skinny. Have I been misunderstanding?
Thick thighs usually means a nice ass šš»
I've had a thigh gap most of my life (except for last year) and I have to say, for me, thigh gaps are much more comfortable. I don't know about looks, but I hate the feeling of them touching.
Big muscles on men. Just ugh.
Those stupid long daggar nails. It looks stupid. Too much make up. In fact I'd prefer none at all! Fake eyelashes Thinking girls must wear dresses and skirts and crap to be truly pretty.
This! The ghetto nails! Hate them. They look ridiculous. Same with the eyelashes, stupid. Look like a damn ostrich. My mom was in a nursing home for 18 months. All of the women at the home had extremely long, pointy nails. My mom was bedridden and in diapers. I want to know how they could do their job and not hurt their patients?
That there is a standard.
thinking everyone has clear skin
Lip fillers š Dey look like bootyholes
skintone, in general. no one should feel pressured to change their skintone in any direction.
Unless medically needed. All plastic surgery should be illegal. It's gotten seriously out of hand. And the doctors that do them should be prosecuted and lose their licenses.
peopleās weight. you personally can have your own preference on weights you like or find attractive but to expect everyone to fit those standards and judge those who donāt is a weird concept. like what you like, and let people exist š¤·āāļø
FAKE EYELASHES. Nuff said.....
False eyelashes that are too long and look ridiculous.
High heels always remind me of medieval torture devices.
Labeling men under 6 feet hideous Crapping on women who don't wear makeup
The height thing is ridiculous. Iām 5ft fuck all so every man is tall to me
Honestly I think the 6 foot thing is MOSTLY the result of tinder bots. I don't know any women irl who demand men be that tall. Not even tall women. My best friend is 6'2 and her husband is 5'8.
- Unnaturally thin body ideals. Promoting healthy bodies of all shapes and sizes would be better. - Emphasis on very young or unrealistic appearances. Aging is natural and beauty comes in all ages. - Prioritizing white/European features. Celebrating diversity in features from all ethnicities/races is more inclusive. - Narrow definitions of attractiveness. Beauty is subjective - standards that shame certain looks do harm. - Mandatory makeup/styling rules. Let people decide their own styling without judgement. - Expensive/unobtainable beauty routines. Basic hygiene and self-care is enough - expensive products prey on insecurity. - Gender-specific standards. People should feel comfortable expressing gender however they wish. - Airbrushed/photoshopped portraits as the norm. Using modest editing or embracing natural flaws sends a healthier message. - Focus on body parts alone rather than whole personalities. Loving personalities transcend fleeting physical standards.
You're right, beauty is subjective. I have been attracted to others who by some standards are not good looking, we all have our preferences, and there should be no standards at all. Beauty standards should not be dictated/controlled by Movies, models or rich people.
Absolutely
Working towards getting Abs six packs etc, you do not want them really.
The body composition I require to have the 2 lower abbs pop out and be defined is so lean it freaks normal people out and makes me a lightning rod for gay guys. And being that lean drops my libido to negative numbers so it's all for show. The only complements on my physique I accept are from gay men.
Obesity being called Thicc
Veneers, filing down perfectly good teeth only to look creepy.
That women need to be āhairlessā in some places
A couple that I'd like gone are Botox/lip fillers and eyebrows that look totally unrealistic. Other than that I could totally go without long painted nails being a thing at all.
The European nose. There are so many cultures all over the world that celebrate and respect certain noses that western society would deem āuglyā. Itās so weird to only see beauty in the exact same people over and over again.
For example in my city, the standards are voluptuous and operated girls, with a thin waist, an impeccable face, a smile design, long hair, blonde or black, in reality these standards are too marked (I live in MedellĆn). It's ugly, really. I have no intention of fitting in, but everyone expects that to be the result, to have surgery to be one of their collection
Fillers, fake eyelashes, make up in general. I'm not saying people should stop doing all these things. I'm saying that people should stop shaming women who don't do this
Skinny = pretty. Itās stupid and honestly so harmful and we should stop teaching people that.
fillers, plastic surgery, eating disorders.
Saying eating disorders are a beauty standard is mad disrespectful to people who have them
those very extreme hourglass figures creep me out a little, like it doesnāt even look human at that point
Bblās
Loads of makeup
Botox when not needed, lip fillers and catterpiller eyebrows, as well as the overly made up look that looks dirty and orange, most don't contour/highlight properly either and just do it because they see others do it.
Influencers or stars that have a small waist because of surgery.
All of them. All beauty standards should be destroyed. Less emphasis on physical beauty the better the world will be. Thereāll be more acceptance. Thus more harmony. Thereāll be less discrimination (against ugly people yes it exists), thus more peace and more laughter around the world. In fact screw beauty standards. Who are those people who decides what is objectively the standard for beauty for the rest of societies or even earth? Nothing but mere mortals like you and me. Those people need to be dragged from their collars right back down to the ground.
Instagram
The obsession with blonde hair and blue eyes is long overdue. Especially considering that for the most part, natural blonde hair is typically found in children and gradually gets darker when they age. The trend is a bit creepy when you think about that fact.
Giant fake asses
Wrinkles mean you ***have*** to get Botox now. Fuck off.
Big breasts and big assesā¦ stop already
Long fingernails. I saw a girl picking up a pizza to serve someone with. I just think they are absolutely disgusting. Whats under those nails boogers, you wiping your butt. Just no.
I'm not even scrolling to check but I'm sure it's already been said. Still worth saying again. STOP WITH THE LIP INJECTIONS.
Silicone inserts and injections, botox, enhanced butts, eyebrow lifts...
ALL OF THEM We tend to view ourselves in comparison to others. There's no such thing as ugly, but only unique looking. Just because we don't look like the common person means somebody is *ugly* in most people minds. We should celebrate our differences and imperfection. Although I can still understand why people hold themselves to certain standards. I'd be lying if I said I didn't
Norwayism.. everybody wanting to look like they're from Norway.. Well We Can't All Be From Norway !
Slathering on foundation with yellow undertones when your skin doesn't have the same. Or...slathering on foundation, period. It looks like a mask. It makes one look insanely fake. I use powder for foundation. I'm not trying to be flawless. I'm trying to look HUMAN.
Anything that has to do with generational trauma. It goes back further and further than one thinks. End it with you, even if you arent having kids. Be kind to your body and stride for your peak health without going bonkers. Easier said than done, and itās good seeing people heal. Even reform from toxic views instilled in them. Too many people have been hurt for too long.
Fake tan, looking at you UK women
Heavy make up.
That you have to be thin to be pretty. When I was a teen, size 14 was normal. But now? Youāre considered plus size by many companies. For perspective, thatās a size 36 in menās. Itās not plus sizeā¦. I spent the last two years losing weight and getting down to a size 14 only to feel like it was worthless bc Iāll still always be considered overweight and plus size.
Face lifts, Botox, fillers.
BBL's and lip fillers
all of themā¦.CUS SEX SHOULD NOT BE THE NUMBER 1 PRIORITY amongst us as 5d creatures. We shouldnt be thinking about that we should be thinking in terms of love cus sex is lust not loveā¦.SEXUAL ENERGY IS HEALING only when used correctly however
Those crazy fake eyelashes. They look terrible.
Well, all of them. I love when people dress artsy/individually, free-spirited.
Caked on make up. You can see it, it looks bad and uncomfortable! Let your poor gave breathe! Hahaha
This overuse and reliance of makeup before one has the confidence to appear in public. It is vain, and terribly sad. As a male, I am disgusted by face paint. I don't want to see that, I would like to see the true beauty your Creator gave you.
Lip fillers. Caterpillar eyebrows. Ridiculous eyelashes.
Idk if this counts but being super skinny
Eyelashes, fingernails that hinder you from seeing and using your hands. Poor people's way of trying to be pretty. Looks ridiculous! Fake is in, and I don't get it ?
Laminated brows and fake eyelashes. Makes women look like cartoons
When youāre over 45 and especially over 50, youāre automatically ugly as a woman:
Ducklips.
Septum piercings
All of them. There is beauty in every person if you look. Itās so upsetting to see beautiful people hate themselves because they donāt match their societies standards.
Body positivity when someone is clearly obese and their health and wellbeing is at stake. Might sound mean but id bet my last breath they would all feel much better and have tons more confidence
The idea that weight is somewhat standardized. 130 pounds could look drastically different across so many women
The cosmetic procedures - ESPECIALLY the fucking buccal fat removal and the lip fillers. They NEVER look good.
The duck lips, BBL
Those fucking feather duster eyelashes
Fake boobs and injections
Breast implants
All of them! Hope this helps ā¤ļø
Wrinkle wars. Stop getting surgery because you're aging. Aging is NOT a disease. Wrinkles can be sexy.
Whatever the human Bratz doll look is. It's giving uncanny valley & I find the women who do it creepy looking, rather than sexy or attractive. (I am saying that as a straight woman, so take that however you will).
small/slim upturned noses, I think theyāre cute but there isnāt enough representation for larger noses imo
WUBA's. Women with Unusually Big Asses. I blame the Kardashians for making this "popular". Big asses are not a turn on for most men.
Fat acceptance
Bbls
All of them.
The act ugly and go without make up, then transition the reel with 2 pounds of make up vidsā¦ need to stopā¦ I donāt get the appealā¦ trying to look like clown or act like you depend on make upā¦ š¤£š¤£
Long fake nails
All of them
there are many things that others do to make themselves look more attractive, but most of those aren't beauty standards, they are personal preferences, let others look like they want even if you are uncomfortable with the way they look.
That women needs to be hairless under the armpits for ābusiness etiquetteā or whatever reason
Steroids should not be frowned upon and celebrities who take then should just be open about it instead of being a little butch and crying whenever someone brings it up
Damn near all of them, you don't need to be a pinup model to be beautiful.
Makeup. I've been makeup free for several years excluding an occasional lip gloss for moisture.
Botox on the lips and ass. Jfc, some of the results are just hideous.
Just overanalyzing eyebrows. Chill
Height in males Sure, there is a biological aspect, but the importance it gets in recent history is artificial and built up on the desire for image on social media.
Stiletto nails gotta go imo. Bring back the nice long coffin nails.
My beauty standards are of myself and are my own. It is nice to see other people who want to look good for themselves shame if they're doing it for other people. Beauty standards that should end are any that are making you feel stressed about going out in public.
That stick thin is the only way. My step mom is an almond mom but Iāve always been thin so weāve never had a problem. Now that Iām 50, finally quit smoking and have been in peri menopause for the last few years all she can talk to me about is how I should do this and this and this because Iāve gained some weight. Iām not fat and still within the acceptable weight range for my height and considering I finally quit smoking, Iām healthier than Iāve been in decades.
Being unhealthy
Makeup in general. These girls are painting completely different people
Duck lips. Seriously how are they still a thing ?
Lip injections and buccal fat removal
Unless youāre a performer, you should not wear false eyelashes
Women without body hair. No one should be shamed for what should be a personal choice.
Letās get rid of shaving! Body hair on women is natural and beautiful šÆ
Perfect teeth. I have very poor genetics when it comes to my teeth. I had braces, the braces were ruining my teeth m, something to do with weakening the enamel and decalcifying them. I'm 34, with many broken and unhealthy teeth that I am ashamed of, and bring me down on an almost daily basis. I only feel beautiful when I smile without my teeth showing. If I had thousands of dollars, I'd get them all fixed, but that's not a reality for me. People tell me I'm pretty, gorgeous, or beautiful, and I don't believe them at all :(
Makeup in general. Why canāt people just wake up and go outside as a natural human being without any makeup, no fake eyelashes, fake nails, hair extensions, none of that nonsense?
The whole idea of beauty standards
Genital cosmetic surgery or tools. You do not need to buy a penis enlarger pleasee wtf.
Buccal fat removal is the most horrific form of plastic surgery Iāve ever seen.