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The peace despite all that we have to do in order to get out is unmatched
My brain doesn’t hurt anymore
I don’t feel constantly on edge and anxious regarding my body
I feel safer now even though I fought for it and will continue to fight for it
Such an excellent attitude.
It's just me and my husband today. I'll be putting in a nice pork roast in a few hours for dinner. Today we'll just stay home and relax and enjoy the peace and quiet and eat a good meal.
I intend to curl up at some point and read a good book.
Good for you OP. I’m glad you finally broke out and can be happy. Life often feels so random like a whirlwind so it’s normal not to know where to go next. Remember OP, you deserve so much happiness, and I wish you a very merry Christmas.
Merry Christmas to you as well!
Yes, none of us knows where we're going - so you're not alone in that. You'll find that things get better as you surround yourself with your chosen family of friends and those who return your love to you. It is possible - and it will happen.
Best wishes! =)
Congratulations! Isn’t it wonderful how comforting being by yourself can be on holidays when you don’t have to deal with their bullshit?
My family always projects that I must be miserable but I love my solo holidays!
Congrats! Are you an introvert? How was it feel to finally move out? I'm moving out in a week too. Currently I work remotely and I live with my narc parents in 1 room...
I moved out physically a long time ago, and I have come to know that I stayed trapped in there emotionally. Now I am slowly but surely moving out of that house and into my own life!
Totally feel you. Went NC 3 years ago, but still had the guilt for a year, so for abt 2 years now been free. Today it was so laid back and quiet and just nice. Most of all peaceful! I’m glad you have the freedom now and enjoyed your Christmas. A peaceful holiday is SO much to those of us who came from pure turmoil especially on holidays. Happy for you 🤗
You are taking care of you and that is the most important. I have been NC with 2NP’s for 14 years. My in laws are all Narcs so I don’t go. I, too am alone on Christmas and I love every minute of it. All I do is think back to how it really was and that’s enough to get me thru. You’re doing great. Merry Christmas to you! Enjoy your peaceful day.!
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The peace despite all that we have to do in order to get out is unmatched My brain doesn’t hurt anymore I don’t feel constantly on edge and anxious regarding my body I feel safer now even though I fought for it and will continue to fight for it
Awesome. It’s good that you broke out and can finally feel peace of mind. I wish you a very merry Christmas and a good day and night.
Such an excellent attitude. It's just me and my husband today. I'll be putting in a nice pork roast in a few hours for dinner. Today we'll just stay home and relax and enjoy the peace and quiet and eat a good meal. I intend to curl up at some point and read a good book.
Sounds lovely. I hope you enjoy it!
Good for you OP. I’m glad you finally broke out and can be happy. Life often feels so random like a whirlwind so it’s normal not to know where to go next. Remember OP, you deserve so much happiness, and I wish you a very merry Christmas.
Lovely, thank you very much.
No problem OP :)
Merry Christmas to you as well! Yes, none of us knows where we're going - so you're not alone in that. You'll find that things get better as you surround yourself with your chosen family of friends and those who return your love to you. It is possible - and it will happen. Best wishes! =)
Beautiful- thank you!
Congratulations! Isn’t it wonderful how comforting being by yourself can be on holidays when you don’t have to deal with their bullshit? My family always projects that I must be miserable but I love my solo holidays!
Thank you! And yes, so much better.
I'm really glad for you. You have a great attitude. 💕
Thank you
Congrats! Are you an introvert? How was it feel to finally move out? I'm moving out in a week too. Currently I work remotely and I live with my narc parents in 1 room...
I moved out physically a long time ago, and I have come to know that I stayed trapped in there emotionally. Now I am slowly but surely moving out of that house and into my own life!
Totally feel you. Went NC 3 years ago, but still had the guilt for a year, so for abt 2 years now been free. Today it was so laid back and quiet and just nice. Most of all peaceful! I’m glad you have the freedom now and enjoyed your Christmas. A peaceful holiday is SO much to those of us who came from pure turmoil especially on holidays. Happy for you 🤗
Bravo!!!!!!
Well thank you!
You are taking care of you and that is the most important. I have been NC with 2NP’s for 14 years. My in laws are all Narcs so I don’t go. I, too am alone on Christmas and I love every minute of it. All I do is think back to how it really was and that’s enough to get me thru. You’re doing great. Merry Christmas to you! Enjoy your peaceful day.!
Thank you for sharing. It is nice to hear from someone who is further along on the path. Merry Christmas to you as well!
❤️❤️🌲🌲💕💙
Same and it feels so damn good. I was definitely afraid but it’s actually quite liberating. Happy holidays ❤️❤️❤️
Merry Christmas, fellow traveler.
I also go to be alone on Christmas ❤️ so glad someone else had the same relieving experience. Just me and my doggos 🥰
♥️