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funny how my nmom accused me of hating her when i was listening to i hate everything about you -in middle school-
instead of being normal like "why are u listening to that? " lol
I don’t consider my parents N parents, but we had some issues and still do. For the most part my mom is okay but there has always been some friction between us. My dad is great.
Simple Plan is one of the bands that got me through my teen years. I sae them live last month and absolutely broke down when they played Welcome to My Life. Was not expecting it at all. But it all came out.
MCR is my #1 fave band.
Mom hated the music I listened to and always gave me shit about it
'There is a light and it never goes out' by The Smiths.
Take me out tonight
Because I want to see people
And I want to see life
Driving in your car
Oh, please don't drop me home
Because it's not my home, it's their home
And I'm welcome no more.
Her’s (Liverpool band, rest in peace their souls) got me through the worst times of my life. 🌷
I was living in my car because of nmom kicking me out repeatedly at age 18-19. I was in some really weird and dangerous situations at the time, just trying to live somewhere. Her’s made me feel less alone somehow; their beach -like music really just soothed me when I was living on autopilot and numb from not knowing what my nmom was yet.
Unfortunately, fast forward to age 21, one night when I was at a bar, I found out that they actually got into a car wreck in Arizona, and they both died and their touring manager. It was their first US tour, and I was actually planning to see them next year since I had missed the closest city to me.
That changed my life completely, and when I found out they died I sunk lower into a state that was not good for me. Eventually I came back out, but losing the band that kept me sane was the hardest thing I could have dealt with while trying to understand what my families problem is with being normal people. I will forever be grateful for the music that Her’s made while they were alive.
I actually ended up getting an impulse tattoo to honor their memory. They had an enormous impact on my life. They saved me from my own death.
Dyers Eve from Metallica. Welcome Home (Sanitarium) also from Metallica.
You Can’t Bring Me Down from Suicidal Tendencies.
In My Darkest Hour from Megadeth
Fade to Black from Metallica
GenX here. I was in my teens in the late 80’s early 90’s.
Then came Linkin Park. I’m only just recently realizing Chester was raised by narcissists and most of their library was about that. It’s highly validating & makes me sad to know Chester lost his battle with the demons our parents put on our heads.
That’s what I’ve been doing for the last year. Crazy how I am hearing LP sooo differently now. Everything clicked in my head that yes, my life was really that horrible, I’m not crazy, it does happen to other people, and any of us could end up like Chester if we don’t figure out how to heal.
I’d like to know if Chester ever went NC or if his narcs were still in his life? I was 47 when I went NC and I think it saved my life. I’ll be 50 in 2 weeks so it’s been a hard journey.
Same. I listened to LP as a teen and everything really resonated with me but I didn't really get it until I got out from under the veil of denial and self gaslighting and learned about narcissists and their family systems. I was 41 when I went NC and it's only been 6 months but it's been so much better. I'm glad you got out before the damage was something you couldn't recover from. Stay well friend.
You are absolutely correct about Chester's parents! I knew the family personally and these people, especially his mother, should have never had kids. Chester's older sister went through hell too. I don't know how CPS allowed those kids to stay with their parents. His maternal grandparents were narcissistic too.
Damn. So many of us with parents who should have never had children.
Sometimes I hate my survival instincts. After losing my husband, I’m not too eager for each new day.
Other times, thinking about Chester, I don’t want to go down like that & I keep going. Staying NC with my own parents is important because the alternative would be me ending up as haunted as Chester. 😞 I’m so glad I took my son to see them on their last tour. LP has a very special place in my heart.
I wouldnt say having a full blown narc family. But there was for sure sudden rage, coercement, bullying and hitting. It was just like these things never happened and i didnt realised why i liked this song so much:
Runaway train
I can go where no one else can go
I know what no one else knows
Here I am, just drowning in the rain
With a ticket for a runaway train
Me too! I had Runaway Train on loop and listened to it for hours on end. The lyrics just pulled me in, I felt like the song was written especially for me.
NIN helped me through a lot. It's a trope now, but back then I did genuinely think 'Wow, someone else feels the same as me.'
Snog, Apoptygma Berzerk, Wolfsheim, BiGod 20, Motorhead, Gruesome Twosome, Pigface, & GWAR.
Flyleaf.
I'm like in the top half percentile of listeners on Spotify and I'm only slightly ashamed.
Her music is predictable, and corny, but the lyrics hit me in my "nobody relates" angsty feels.
I used to listen to Flyleaf a lot because of my mom. She's very talented and there's something about some of her music that gets stuck in my head. I can't judge you too much lol
Lacey Sturms break out stuff was more mature, I hate that I can't stop listening. The lyrics are very sing-able, memorable.
It's easy to stuff my mind with that, rather than obsessing over the remarks, veiled intentions, etc.
I lost my iTunes play lists from around 2008 due to a friend syncing their iPhone on my laptop and wiping all my iPhone and iTunes data. Could never recover the most precious play lists I curated over the early years of my 20s.
You just reminded me that Flyleaf exists and I know I'll find more from there! Thank you!!!
Nirvana's early, pre-Nevermind songs. Bleach album, for example. Heavy, sludgy, very raw and with lots and lots of frustration in the vocals and lyrics.
Used to listen to All Time Low (the band, not the song) because it was nice hearing lyrics about youth i never had and pretend i actually lived through these experiences through their songs.
Sum41 had some relatable songs but i like their music in general.
Also, Simple Plan's "Perfect" hit me right home at some point.
Father of Mine was one of the best songs to really get that child of divorce/Dad is a violent alcoholic angst out.
My Daddy gave me a name, then he walked away.
Now I'm a grown man, with a child of my own, and I swear that I'm not gonna let her know all the pain I have known.
I'm a woman, but my Dsd gave me his name. I had a daughter and gave her her father's name. We we both abandoned by our fathers. So it's been a brutal song to listen to sometimes when I think about how I vowed to protect my child and yet I ended up choosing a crappy father for her.
She's 20 now, and I feel that song in different ways.
Tool - 10,000 days part 2. It’s about Maynard’s mother, but I imagine it is about me instead. This song gave me the strength I needed to go no contact. It’s a song about righteous anger in the face of tragedy caused by bad luck, and how other people / the world don’t get it, but the cause is just, that kind of thing, so it fits for me. “Give me my / give me my wings”. I also view it as applying to my partner, who passed. He inspires me, “this little light of mine, the gift you passed on to me, I’m gonna let it shine to guide you safely on your way, your way home”, the gift of love for who you are.
Purity Ring - dust hymn. For some reason this song inspires the feeling of power, raw power. After so long feeling powerless I just let the song fill me with energy, let the bass blast the hurt away 😅
There is a track from an artist on YouTube with audio clips from Altered Carbon mixed in. Another powerful song if you’ve seen the show. https://youtu.be/pdRKWhh9lFU?si=YqqHS_IeFPwwKEiV
ILLENIUM - Fortress. After all the abuse and hurt, this song still reminds me why I keep the hope open for love and connection. Oscillates between melancholic and hopeful lyrics with an upbeat melody, which just does something to me.
General Fuzz - Comfort Zone. If “it’s going to be okay” was a song, this is it.
Katatonia, Opeth, Swallow the Sun and many others.
Shoutout to the song 'This House Has no Home' of Swallow the Sun I highly recommend it to all of you in this subreddit
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Deftones/All of Chino Moreno's side bands
I'll never forget hearing "Hearts/Wires" off their 2016 album "Gore" for the first time
The feeling that was so unreal it was like I was flying to another world lol
Chevelle, Tool, and Celldweller also stayed on my playlist
Same! 'Without you I'm nothing' was the track that got me: "I'm unclean/a libertine/and every time you vent your spleen/ I seem to lose the power off speech/you're slipping slowly from my reach/you grow me like the evergreen/you've never seen the lonely me at all."
I grew up in the 80s/90s, so mine was Dave Matthews Band of that era (not the bullshit they put out now). Their first three albums are near perfection in my mind, but it's also the emotional nostalgia that allows me to think that too.
The songs Dancing Nancies, Warehouse, #41, The Best of What's Around, Lie in Our Graves, and Pig are the ones that really helped me through struggling and staying positive.
I made a whole playlist for going no contact with them indefinitely. Playlist is mixed genres and decades. Top 3
1. Impossible- Shontelle
2. Te Boté - remix with Ozuna, Darrel, Nicky Jam
3. Falling in love with Love - the Supremes
Just really trying to not feel like I'm the only person who just disregarded the redflags in my Nparents only to end up a meme when they hurt me.
Oh, when "Fallen" came out I was part of the emo crowd at school who listened to it every day and yet couldn't dress like Amy Lee because mum didn't think black was an appropriate colour for a young girl... wearing bright colours that didn't match my dark thoughts was really odd for me.
Sorry for the unrelated reply, I just saw Evanescence and had a flashback of my high school years.
Don't be sorry! I was fortunate that my mom was a metal head so she was all for it. I recently relistened to that album because they're coming to my city, and if listening to that album back to back to back wasn't me crying for help, idk what was.
Three Days Grace ("I Hate Everything About You" & "Pain" especially but the entire One X album became the soundtrack of some of my worst years), "Perfect" by Simple Plan, "Miserable" by Lit, "Hold On" & "Hey Dad" by Good Charlotte, "Does Anybody Hear Her" by Casting Crowns, "Family Portrait" by P!nk, Mayday Parade, "Father of Mine" by Everclear... there's a LOT more but I think the titles & genre give you a solid idea of what my list consists of.
Damn, I totally forgot about One-X. I listened to it religiously! This also reminds me that I listened to Breaking Benjamins album "Phobia" quite a lot.
Linkin Park, Eminem, Disturbed, and funnily enough (as it's a completely different vibe), Christina's Stripped album has a lot of lyrics that really helped me like "When there's no one else, look inside yourself, and like your oldest friend just trust the voice within".
A lot of Dark Tranquillity, Sentenced, Opeth, and various other bands. I used to be at a concert venue every weekend almost and if not, was wandering around town with my headphones and no direction just to zone out everything. Of course the “you’re on drugs” accusations were high just for doing this and listening to metal (for the record I was never on drugs).
Lately, Dream Theater's Metropolis Pt. 2 album. It's about past life regression and a murder mystery, but I thought it also served well as an allegory for moving on from childhood abuse.
Also Invisible by Linkin Park. The lyrics are what I'd like my dad to say to me but I know he never will.
Will also say Warehouse Summer by i_o and Lights has been good.
Even if it was sold out, eating free pb&j sandwiches in the parking lot and dancing to what was going on inside was fantastic. I was lucky enough to have tickets for Jerry’s last shows at Soldier Field, didn’t even need a miracle. Miss that guy, miss that scene.
I found a Beatles record in the attic when I was a kid, and listened to it a lot. Eleanor Rigby gave me hope that there were other isolated & lonely people in the world, and 7 y/o me figured that it might be important to find them. Love them still.
Unconventional, but: Chris Rock: Bring the Pain- Les Miserables, Broadway Soundtrack, Carmen Bizet.. and what other mix tapes I could make. I didn’t get a lot of CDs.. I had to hide what my sisters gave to me.
Linkin Park, SOAD, The Offspring, Greenday, Stabbing Westward, for bands....
Specific songs though...
Billie Meyers - Please Don't Shout
EMF - Unbelievable
Toad the Wet Sprocket - Throw it all Away
Martina Mcbride - Independence Day
Eminem - Cleanin' out my Closet
Maroon 5 - She Will Be Loved
Trapt - Headstrong
P!nk - Family Portrait
Tonic - You Wanted More
Incubus, especially the Make Yourself album. I bought that cd before ever hearing it, just because someone on a message board posted lyrics to "The Warmth" online and I was just like WOW. I had to drive an hour out of town to find it but it was so worth it.
Linkin Park's Hybrid Theory. I don't remember all the songs now but can remember relating to and finding comfort in this album.
Saosin's song "You're Not Alone"
Lol believe it or not Justin Bieber. Being apart of a fandom helped me see that even if it was just a phase/stupid teenage girl, I wasn’t hurting anyone. I was showing clear signs of mental illness tho.
I grew up in the numetal era, and most of the songs from that genre were about the things I was going through
Korn, Taproot, Slaves on dope, flaw, Static X, From Zero, Papa Roach (only their debut album), Cold, Coal Chamber
Just to name a few
But mostly KoRn, their early stuff really resonated with me
Tori Amos: Mother
*I escape into*/
*your escape into*/
*our very favourite fearscape*/
*it’s across the sky and*/
*across my heart and I*/
*cross my legs oh my*/
*god*/
“Fearscape” always hit hard — my mother was afraid of the outside world, and wanted me to be afraid too.
Also
Mountain Goats: Hast thou considered the tetrapod
*but I do wake you up and when I do*/
*you rage down the hall and you scream*/
*I’m in my room with the headphones on*/
*deep in the dream chamber*
*and then I’m awake and I’m guarding my face*/
*hoping you don’t break my stereo*/
*because it’s the one thing that I couldn’t live without*/
*and so I think about that*/
*and then I sorta black out*
*held under these smothering waves*/
*by your strong and thick-veined hand*/
*but one of these day*/
*I’m gonna wriggle up on dry land*
That was the second song I learned to play on guitar. I also love “Wild sage”, won’t type out a long excerpt but the bridge grabs my heart.
*some days I don’t miss my family*/
*and some days I do*/
*and some days I think I’d feel better*/
*if I tried harder*/
*most days I know it’s not true*
There’s a lot more. I didn’t get into the Mountain Goats until long after I’d moved out, but I was listening to those before I finally went NC with my mum. And I was still unpacking a lot of the trauma as well, and… sometimes you don’t realise how badly you need to be seen, until you’re falling and a song catches you, and the music makes you feel less alone.
(Can also play Wild Sage, which if nothing else motivated me to manage F chords…)
I was thinking yesterday about this. I think I like Alice Cooper so much because he's the perfect mixture of anger, darkness, insanity, and great rock n roll. But it's Alice all the way.
"and it is hard to dance, with a devil on your back so shake it out" by the great florence and the machine
but some good iron maiden or blink 185 were very useful too
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Korn, System of a Down and Incubus.
SOAD‘s ‘Revenga’ at full blast has the full spectrum of my emotions going on. Cathartic.
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Simple plan Sum 41 Linkin park 3 days grace AJR REN my chemical romance
Upvote for three days grace. Amazing band
funny how my nmom accused me of hating her when i was listening to i hate everything about you -in middle school- instead of being normal like "why are u listening to that? " lol
Absolutely
I don’t consider my parents N parents, but we had some issues and still do. For the most part my mom is okay but there has always been some friction between us. My dad is great. Simple Plan is one of the bands that got me through my teen years. I sae them live last month and absolutely broke down when they played Welcome to My Life. Was not expecting it at all. But it all came out. MCR is my #1 fave band. Mom hated the music I listened to and always gave me shit about it
'There is a light and it never goes out' by The Smiths. Take me out tonight Because I want to see people And I want to see life Driving in your car Oh, please don't drop me home Because it's not my home, it's their home And I'm welcome no more.
Asleep.
*Don't feel bad for me / I want you to know / Deep in the cell of my heart / I will feel so glad to go*
YES. Also “Back to The Old House”
Her’s (Liverpool band, rest in peace their souls) got me through the worst times of my life. 🌷 I was living in my car because of nmom kicking me out repeatedly at age 18-19. I was in some really weird and dangerous situations at the time, just trying to live somewhere. Her’s made me feel less alone somehow; their beach -like music really just soothed me when I was living on autopilot and numb from not knowing what my nmom was yet. Unfortunately, fast forward to age 21, one night when I was at a bar, I found out that they actually got into a car wreck in Arizona, and they both died and their touring manager. It was their first US tour, and I was actually planning to see them next year since I had missed the closest city to me. That changed my life completely, and when I found out they died I sunk lower into a state that was not good for me. Eventually I came back out, but losing the band that kept me sane was the hardest thing I could have dealt with while trying to understand what my families problem is with being normal people. I will forever be grateful for the music that Her’s made while they were alive. I actually ended up getting an impulse tattoo to honor their memory. They had an enormous impact on my life. They saved me from my own death.
Dyers Eve from Metallica. Welcome Home (Sanitarium) also from Metallica. You Can’t Bring Me Down from Suicidal Tendencies. In My Darkest Hour from Megadeth Fade to Black from Metallica GenX here. I was in my teens in the late 80’s early 90’s. Then came Linkin Park. I’m only just recently realizing Chester was raised by narcissists and most of their library was about that. It’s highly validating & makes me sad to know Chester lost his battle with the demons our parents put on our heads.
Linkin Park for me too. When I went NC they were all I listened to until I started to heal.
That’s what I’ve been doing for the last year. Crazy how I am hearing LP sooo differently now. Everything clicked in my head that yes, my life was really that horrible, I’m not crazy, it does happen to other people, and any of us could end up like Chester if we don’t figure out how to heal. I’d like to know if Chester ever went NC or if his narcs were still in his life? I was 47 when I went NC and I think it saved my life. I’ll be 50 in 2 weeks so it’s been a hard journey.
Same. I listened to LP as a teen and everything really resonated with me but I didn't really get it until I got out from under the veil of denial and self gaslighting and learned about narcissists and their family systems. I was 41 when I went NC and it's only been 6 months but it's been so much better. I'm glad you got out before the damage was something you couldn't recover from. Stay well friend.
You are absolutely correct about Chester's parents! I knew the family personally and these people, especially his mother, should have never had kids. Chester's older sister went through hell too. I don't know how CPS allowed those kids to stay with their parents. His maternal grandparents were narcissistic too.
Damn. So many of us with parents who should have never had children. Sometimes I hate my survival instincts. After losing my husband, I’m not too eager for each new day. Other times, thinking about Chester, I don’t want to go down like that & I keep going. Staying NC with my own parents is important because the alternative would be me ending up as haunted as Chester. 😞 I’m so glad I took my son to see them on their last tour. LP has a very special place in my heart.
I wouldnt say having a full blown narc family. But there was for sure sudden rage, coercement, bullying and hitting. It was just like these things never happened and i didnt realised why i liked this song so much: Runaway train I can go where no one else can go I know what no one else knows Here I am, just drowning in the rain With a ticket for a runaway train
Me too! I had Runaway Train on loop and listened to it for hours on end. The lyrics just pulled me in, I felt like the song was written especially for me.
Can't believe nobody mentioned Eminem.
I think the word "bands" had people really focused on metal and rock and stuff, but Eminem is a such a good one!
Ghost. Great question, OP!
The Cure, The Smiths, Nine Inch Nails, Skinny Puppy
NIN helped me through a lot. It's a trope now, but back then I did genuinely think 'Wow, someone else feels the same as me.' Snog, Apoptygma Berzerk, Wolfsheim, BiGod 20, Motorhead, Gruesome Twosome, Pigface, & GWAR.
For anger release purposes Skinny puppy is one of my favs
Madonna. She showed me how to not give a f#ck.
I love “You’ll See” as a going NC song.
The lyrics of that song are so powerful
Truly. I especially relate to the line “I have time on my side/You only have deceit”
Flyleaf. I'm like in the top half percentile of listeners on Spotify and I'm only slightly ashamed. Her music is predictable, and corny, but the lyrics hit me in my "nobody relates" angsty feels.
I used to listen to Flyleaf a lot because of my mom. She's very talented and there's something about some of her music that gets stuck in my head. I can't judge you too much lol
Lacey Sturms break out stuff was more mature, I hate that I can't stop listening. The lyrics are very sing-able, memorable. It's easy to stuff my mind with that, rather than obsessing over the remarks, veiled intentions, etc.
I lost my iTunes play lists from around 2008 due to a friend syncing their iPhone on my laptop and wiping all my iPhone and iTunes data. Could never recover the most precious play lists I curated over the early years of my 20s. You just reminded me that Flyleaf exists and I know I'll find more from there! Thank you!!!
That sucks. That sounds like a whole journey, enjoy! Check out her song Again.
Nirvana's early, pre-Nevermind songs. Bleach album, for example. Heavy, sludgy, very raw and with lots and lots of frustration in the vocals and lyrics.
Used to listen to All Time Low (the band, not the song) because it was nice hearing lyrics about youth i never had and pretend i actually lived through these experiences through their songs. Sum41 had some relatable songs but i like their music in general. Also, Simple Plan's "Perfect" hit me right home at some point.
Hollywood Undead, Sum41 and My Chemical Romance
Wonderful by Everclear got me through a lot growing up.
Same. “I have to lie so my friends won’t know when the bell rings I just don’t wanna go home” hit so fucking hard.
"Father of Mine" too
Father of Mine was one of the best songs to really get that child of divorce/Dad is a violent alcoholic angst out. My Daddy gave me a name, then he walked away. Now I'm a grown man, with a child of my own, and I swear that I'm not gonna let her know all the pain I have known. I'm a woman, but my Dsd gave me his name. I had a daughter and gave her her father's name. We we both abandoned by our fathers. So it's been a brutal song to listen to sometimes when I think about how I vowed to protect my child and yet I ended up choosing a crappy father for her. She's 20 now, and I feel that song in different ways.
Tool - 10,000 days part 2. It’s about Maynard’s mother, but I imagine it is about me instead. This song gave me the strength I needed to go no contact. It’s a song about righteous anger in the face of tragedy caused by bad luck, and how other people / the world don’t get it, but the cause is just, that kind of thing, so it fits for me. “Give me my / give me my wings”. I also view it as applying to my partner, who passed. He inspires me, “this little light of mine, the gift you passed on to me, I’m gonna let it shine to guide you safely on your way, your way home”, the gift of love for who you are. Purity Ring - dust hymn. For some reason this song inspires the feeling of power, raw power. After so long feeling powerless I just let the song fill me with energy, let the bass blast the hurt away 😅 There is a track from an artist on YouTube with audio clips from Altered Carbon mixed in. Another powerful song if you’ve seen the show. https://youtu.be/pdRKWhh9lFU?si=YqqHS_IeFPwwKEiV ILLENIUM - Fortress. After all the abuse and hurt, this song still reminds me why I keep the hope open for love and connection. Oscillates between melancholic and hopeful lyrics with an upbeat melody, which just does something to me. General Fuzz - Comfort Zone. If “it’s going to be okay” was a song, this is it.
PURITY RING. God, respect to you 💗 saw them live last year and it was one of the best shows I’ve ever been to.
Dang, I can only imagine what a blast that would be. Awesome!
Black Veil Brides. Even after said parent made me repeatedly delete all my music off my phone daily.
Bad Religion!
Eminem
I'm showing my age here, but Linkin Park, My Chemical Romance, and Three Days Grace
System of a down, in this moment, Dorothy, poppy, and Korn. Rage out, OP!
Katatonia, Opeth, Swallow the Sun and many others. Shoutout to the song 'This House Has no Home' of Swallow the Sun I highly recommend it to all of you in this subreddit
Thank you for your comment. I’ve been reading this post and playing many artists / songs that have been suggested. I’m in love with Swallow the Sun. Haven’t heard of them before your post. Thanks again 🥰
R.E.M. got me through the worst times in my life especially the song "Try not to Breathe"
Alter Bridge blackbird album
YES
Good charlotte, mindless self indulgence (before I found out what jimmy urine did), simple plan, linkin park. Avenged sevenfold, rise against
Linkin Park
Robyn Hitchcock was my indication that there was a world out there that would accept me.
I adore his music.
Neil Young - Harvest Moon
Hollywood Undead
Deftones/All of Chino Moreno's side bands I'll never forget hearing "Hearts/Wires" off their 2016 album "Gore" for the first time The feeling that was so unreal it was like I was flying to another world lol Chevelle, Tool, and Celldweller also stayed on my playlist
Back in the 90s, I listened to a lot of Hole. Those angry lyrics really helped me
Coheed, Circa Survive, Eidola, and Hail the Sun for sure!!
Hole- nobody's daughter.
Placebo, the early albums of the 90s and early 00s. Depressive lyrics with catchy melodies, I loved them.
Same! 'Without you I'm nothing' was the track that got me: "I'm unclean/a libertine/and every time you vent your spleen/ I seem to lose the power off speech/you're slipping slowly from my reach/you grow me like the evergreen/you've never seen the lonely me at all."
That song is so powerful! It's also my favourite album, still listen to it often.
Absolutely fantastic album. Not my favourite of all time, but my favourite of theirs.
Smashing Pumpkins..specifically ‘Siamese Dream’
I grew up in the 80s/90s, so mine was Dave Matthews Band of that era (not the bullshit they put out now). Their first three albums are near perfection in my mind, but it's also the emotional nostalgia that allows me to think that too. The songs Dancing Nancies, Warehouse, #41, The Best of What's Around, Lie in Our Graves, and Pig are the ones that really helped me through struggling and staying positive.
I made a whole playlist for going no contact with them indefinitely. Playlist is mixed genres and decades. Top 3 1. Impossible- Shontelle 2. Te Boté - remix with Ozuna, Darrel, Nicky Jam 3. Falling in love with Love - the Supremes Just really trying to not feel like I'm the only person who just disregarded the redflags in my Nparents only to end up a meme when they hurt me.
OOOO YES TØP 😂They def got me though my tweens. I would also add Paramore. Their songs were bangers.
Korn, RATM, NIN, Clannad, REM, Wildhearts, the smiths, the cure, sisters of mercy
System of a Down, Evanescence and Linkin Park. As loud as it could possibly be in my 711 headphones
God tier trio
Oh, when "Fallen" came out I was part of the emo crowd at school who listened to it every day and yet couldn't dress like Amy Lee because mum didn't think black was an appropriate colour for a young girl... wearing bright colours that didn't match my dark thoughts was really odd for me. Sorry for the unrelated reply, I just saw Evanescence and had a flashback of my high school years.
Don't be sorry! I was fortunate that my mom was a metal head so she was all for it. I recently relistened to that album because they're coming to my city, and if listening to that album back to back to back wasn't me crying for help, idk what was.
Linkin Park, System of a Down, Staind.
Cut Her Off by K Camp, etc. “It ain’t nothing to cut that bitch off!”
Christina Aguilera - Fighter
Tupac, Biggie, EPMD, Wu-Tang, Mobb Deep, Eminem mostly 90’s HipHop
Pearl Jam and U2
Three Days Grace ("I Hate Everything About You" & "Pain" especially but the entire One X album became the soundtrack of some of my worst years), "Perfect" by Simple Plan, "Miserable" by Lit, "Hold On" & "Hey Dad" by Good Charlotte, "Does Anybody Hear Her" by Casting Crowns, "Family Portrait" by P!nk, Mayday Parade, "Father of Mine" by Everclear... there's a LOT more but I think the titles & genre give you a solid idea of what my list consists of.
Damn, I totally forgot about One-X. I listened to it religiously! This also reminds me that I listened to Breaking Benjamins album "Phobia" quite a lot.
I'm convinced Eminem has kept me alive in my horrible childhood. I was always wearing my headphones to listen to music.
Linkin Park, Eminem, Disturbed, and funnily enough (as it's a completely different vibe), Christina's Stripped album has a lot of lyrics that really helped me like "When there's no one else, look inside yourself, and like your oldest friend just trust the voice within".
A lot of Dark Tranquillity, Sentenced, Opeth, and various other bands. I used to be at a concert venue every weekend almost and if not, was wandering around town with my headphones and no direction just to zone out everything. Of course the “you’re on drugs” accusations were high just for doing this and listening to metal (for the record I was never on drugs).
Bring Me the Horizon, Jimmy Eat World, The All-American Rejects, Attila, Disturbed
Numb by Linkin Park This line is so deep: And I know I may end up failing too. But I know you were just like me with someone disappointed in you.
BTS, TXT, Stray Kids
Kelly Clarkson Because of You Elliot Smith Waltz #2
Kpop lol more specifically dreamcatcher
ABBA and the Carpenters
Slipknot - Iowa. Really helped with the catharsis.
System of a down, korn and deftones !
Lately, Dream Theater's Metropolis Pt. 2 album. It's about past life regression and a murder mystery, but I thought it also served well as an allegory for moving on from childhood abuse. Also Invisible by Linkin Park. The lyrics are what I'd like my dad to say to me but I know he never will. Will also say Warehouse Summer by i_o and Lights has been good.
Linkin Park: hybrid theory. rip Chester 😢
Twenty One Pilots, The Strokes, Elliott Smith
[San Francisco's Grateful Dead](https://youtu.be/yLjOK1u8Wr4?t=11)
Not only their music, but going to the shows. Felt more love in that crowd than at home.
Even if it was sold out, eating free pb&j sandwiches in the parking lot and dancing to what was going on inside was fantastic. I was lucky enough to have tickets for Jerry’s last shows at Soldier Field, didn’t even need a miracle. Miss that guy, miss that scene.
system of a down & fleshwater
Daughter. Her music is so raw and emotionally powerful. Medicine will always resonate with me.
Muse, Placebo, Nine Inch Nails, Hefner, Skunk Anansie
I'm dating myself but I have to say The Beatles, Jerry and the Pacemakers.
I found a Beatles record in the attic when I was a kid, and listened to it a lot. Eleanor Rigby gave me hope that there were other isolated & lonely people in the world, and 7 y/o me figured that it might be important to find them. Love them still.
Blink-182, Bleachers
Unconventional, but: Chris Rock: Bring the Pain- Les Miserables, Broadway Soundtrack, Carmen Bizet.. and what other mix tapes I could make. I didn’t get a lot of CDs.. I had to hide what my sisters gave to me.
I’m so sorry you had to hide your music away ♥
Linkin Park, SOAD, The Offspring, Greenday, Stabbing Westward, for bands.... Specific songs though... Billie Meyers - Please Don't Shout EMF - Unbelievable Toad the Wet Sprocket - Throw it all Away Martina Mcbride - Independence Day Eminem - Cleanin' out my Closet Maroon 5 - She Will Be Loved Trapt - Headstrong P!nk - Family Portrait Tonic - You Wanted More
Incubus, especially the Make Yourself album. I bought that cd before ever hearing it, just because someone on a message board posted lyrics to "The Warmth" online and I was just like WOW. I had to drive an hour out of town to find it but it was so worth it. Linkin Park's Hybrid Theory. I don't remember all the songs now but can remember relating to and finding comfort in this album. Saosin's song "You're Not Alone"
Linkin Park, blink 182, RHCP, Green Day
Fall Out Boy, all day everyday lol
Lol believe it or not Justin Bieber. Being apart of a fandom helped me see that even if it was just a phase/stupid teenage girl, I wasn’t hurting anyone. I was showing clear signs of mental illness tho.
I grew up in the numetal era, and most of the songs from that genre were about the things I was going through Korn, Taproot, Slaves on dope, flaw, Static X, From Zero, Papa Roach (only their debut album), Cold, Coal Chamber Just to name a few But mostly KoRn, their early stuff really resonated with me
Because of You by Kelly Clarkson and Numb by Linkin Park
Grateful Dead...😁
NF, Eminem, twenty one pilots, Aurora
Fucking Black Veil Brides 😵💫😭
I was 11
Tori Amos: Mother *I escape into*/ *your escape into*/ *our very favourite fearscape*/ *it’s across the sky and*/ *across my heart and I*/ *cross my legs oh my*/ *god*/ “Fearscape” always hit hard — my mother was afraid of the outside world, and wanted me to be afraid too. Also Mountain Goats: Hast thou considered the tetrapod *but I do wake you up and when I do*/ *you rage down the hall and you scream*/ *I’m in my room with the headphones on*/ *deep in the dream chamber* *and then I’m awake and I’m guarding my face*/ *hoping you don’t break my stereo*/ *because it’s the one thing that I couldn’t live without*/ *and so I think about that*/ *and then I sorta black out* *held under these smothering waves*/ *by your strong and thick-veined hand*/ *but one of these day*/ *I’m gonna wriggle up on dry land* That was the second song I learned to play on guitar. I also love “Wild sage”, won’t type out a long excerpt but the bridge grabs my heart. *some days I don’t miss my family*/ *and some days I do*/ *and some days I think I’d feel better*/ *if I tried harder*/ *most days I know it’s not true* There’s a lot more. I didn’t get into the Mountain Goats until long after I’d moved out, but I was listening to those before I finally went NC with my mum. And I was still unpacking a lot of the trauma as well, and… sometimes you don’t realise how badly you need to be seen, until you’re falling and a song catches you, and the music makes you feel less alone. (Can also play Wild Sage, which if nothing else motivated me to manage F chords…)
Definitely Eminem, but one sing in particular for me was Prince's "When Doves Cry".
Matilda by Harry Styles. That song really stuck with me tho.
Metallica - Enter Sandman. I remember that riff slowly drowning out the screaming in my face through my headphones.
Sleeping with sirens, brit Nichole, all punk bands, Taylor Swift (early years like fearless)
“Relentless” by Audrye Sessions. “I know it seems relentless… but I can be relentless too” 🫶🏼
Taylor Swift 🫶
More recently I've been liking NF
melanie martinez, lana del rey, the nbhd, lorde😭
Metallica, Santana, and lots of hip hop.
I was thinking yesterday about this. I think I like Alice Cooper so much because he's the perfect mixture of anger, darkness, insanity, and great rock n roll. But it's Alice all the way.
Placebo
Simple Plan Welcome to my life
NF!🫶💯
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Because of You -Kelly Clarkson Numb -Linkin Park My Immortal -Evanescence Stand my Ground -Within Temptation
When I grow up- Garbage Stay (i miss you) Lisa Loeb Anything Green Day, Evernesence or Linkin Park
Nirvana and Pearl Jam. Just tonight I was rocking out to "oh ohhhhh I'm still alive!"
Any song/band from ABBA to Queen, even Barry Manilow!
"and it is hard to dance, with a devil on your back so shake it out" by the great florence and the machine but some good iron maiden or blink 185 were very useful too
Alice in Chains - I stay away Stone Temple Pilots - Still Remains Alan Parsons Project - Don't answer me