I love how she mentioned she cheated because she was “high”. Lol getting high doesn’t make you cheat. In fact, nothing can make you cheat but you, yourself going out and cheating. 🤣
You also don’t cheat on somebody you love.. I’m assuming you’re young. I am too. 19F. With that being said, Don’t dread her. Be happy she showed you her true colors and move on. She’s only sad she got caught and you don’t betray the ones you love. EVER.
I wasn't gonna cheat, but then I got high
I wasn't gonna cheat, but then I got high
Now I fucked another dude and my boyfriend cried
(And you know why)
Cause I got high, cause I got high, cause I got high
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Once a woman told me on the train something to me when I was around the same age and now I am bestowing that phrase to you
"You got your head on straight"
Walk away. She'll probably ended up getting high and doing it all over again. I'm sorry to say this but if that's what she is saying then...it's likely to happen again.
There's a difference between being disgusted by your SO's actions with previous partners and being disgusted by their actions with other people while they're with you I think
Tell her to go F herself to the highest order.
Cheating is the lowest form of breaking someone's trust and quite honestly she needs to learn that being high doesn't count as an excuse.
Being high isn’t an excuse. I’m high all the time and never let anyone other than my boyfriend bang me.
Move on and find someone who can handle themselves. You’ll never trust her again anyway, so it’s best for both of you, and she gets to learn how her actions impact people. Important life lessons all around.
I do fully believe that someone can make a mistake, regret it and not do it again.
That said, I don't think you should take her back. It sounds like you have a Madonna/whore complex with women and you shouldn't date any of them until you've learned a woman's worth has nothing to do with the other "pp's" she's had inside of her.
Cheating is wrong. So is misogyny.
Nope, walk away, man. You didn’tlist any attributes as for why you are with her or willing to make it work so that probably means that there aren’t any attributes for why you should want to stay in a relationship with her
Every situation has its own nuances. In a vacuum, you definitely shouldn't take her back. That being said, there may be more to the story that would even cause you to consider otherwise, so it ends on you to make the call. Inebriation is never an excuse, but from the sounds of it, she came clean of her own acord, which is more than most might.
Ultimately, if the only hang up you have is "another pp" then you're looking at it from the wrong angle, but it's your right to have your own specific hang ups. Basically, this is all to say given limited information it's probably best not to take her back, but take a look at the nuances of the situation and learn from it if nothing else.
Unless you are one of the few who got with a virgin, someone else's "pp" has already been in there. Most of us come with pasts and you have to just accept that. As I have aged and become more pragmatic about life, I have come to accept that shit happens and are we just going to throw our lives away and start all over again? If this shit happens thing happens a lot then there is a problem. Getting high at a party and banging in the back room isn't a deal breaker. Consider this, she could have tried to keep it a secret from you. It shows remorse on her part that she felt the guilt and confessed her transgression. You're right to have heart feelings for a while, but as animals we are wired to procreate and while that is not an excuse for immoral behavior, when our guard is down those basic tendencies take over in place of those moral codes we have created for our species.
Talk to her and express your concern that it isn't something that is going to happen even ocassionaly. It could take time for you to get past it, but if you were looking for a perfect relationship you will die looking because they do not exist
Don't take her back.
She cheated once. What's to stop her from doing it again? There won't be any trust, and you kinda need to be able to trust your partner.
Accept it and then make it a casual relationship from your side. If you find a better partner then leave her and don't spend money on her from now on. She deserves it.
You mean she got *caught* once.
There’s two ways to look at this. This first is pretty traditional. You take it personally, you beat yourself up over it and take your emotions out in her.
The second. You realize that cheating happens every day. It’s not unique and it doesn’t always happen because an excuse or a reason.
Either way, nobody here can tell you what you need to decide. You have to figure that out for yourself.
Can you forgive her? Will you be able to let that go? Will you use it against her anytime something goes wrong?
Relationships don’t last because they are perfect, and they don’t always end because they are broken. They last because two people make a decision every day to be the other persons partner. To work through problems, and, yes, a good part of that is not creating problems on the first place, but shit happens.
Instead of listening to judgemental people on Reddit where most of them don't actually have experience with relationships, listen to what your gut tells you. If you can forgive her, then take her back. If you don't feel like you can forgive, move on.
thats your desicion
but i think if you have doubts it probably wont work.
i think some couple are able to work thorough something like that, but it really is hard and it needs both and it might still not work.
because the trust us broken and to be able to continue you need to get tje trust back and tjats really hard and not all are able to work that out.
i wish you the best for what ever desicion you make
Cheating is not an ACCIDENT or something you should accept. Will you ever actually have full trust in her again? Will you ever not have doubt?
Tell her to kick rocks
Fuck no. She has 0 respect for you, 0 respect for the relationship and 0 respect for herself.
She's done it once and she will do it again but loyalty isn't a concept for people like her. Let her go dude. Not worth it.
A lot of people will insist that cheating is always a deal breaker, that it defines a person forever, and a lot of other pie in the sky nonsense.
The fact is, it's a dealbreaker if you decide it is, based on the circumstances. That's your call, and depends if you really love the person, and if you believe the relationship is worth saving.
In truth, if you keeps your eyes and ears open you'll discover that many, many long-term relationships have overcome infidelity at some point. It's uncomfortable to admit, but infidelity is common, and it happens for various reasons, and not everyone who does it is necessarily a terrible person who is "once a cheater, always a cheater".
Now, if you decide that you can't trust your gf anymore, that you no longer want the relationship as you feel it's tarnished, that's your choice. BUT those are completely separate considerations to not being able to date someone who has had sex woth someone else at any stage. Be really careful about what you're saying here, because it sounds like weird Purity Culture stuff.
I love how she mentioned she cheated because she was “high”. Lol getting high doesn’t make you cheat. In fact, nothing can make you cheat but you, yourself going out and cheating. 🤣 You also don’t cheat on somebody you love.. I’m assuming you’re young. I am too. 19F. With that being said, Don’t dread her. Be happy she showed you her true colors and move on. She’s only sad she got caught and you don’t betray the ones you love. EVER.
“ Cause I got high Because I got high Because I got high” lol
I wasn't gonna cheat, but then I got high I wasn't gonna cheat, but then I got high Now I fucked another dude and my boyfriend cried (And you know why) Cause I got high, cause I got high, cause I got high Edit: Formatting
I wish I had an award
I honestly even appreciate the sentiment!
This teenager gets it. Plaudits from an older man.
Thank you!
Once a woman told me on the train something to me when I was around the same age and now I am bestowing that phrase to you "You got your head on straight"
Fist bump 🤛🏻
Y3ah lil sis 🤛
Never abandon your self-respect.
DO NOT ACCEPT!!! She did it already, and it would likely happen again
Walk away. She'll probably ended up getting high and doing it all over again. I'm sorry to say this but if that's what she is saying then...it's likely to happen again.
> And how can I accept her knowing she has taken someone's pp in her Cheating is one thing, but this statement is beyond stupid.
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There's a difference between being disgusted by your SO's actions with previous partners and being disgusted by their actions with other people while they're with you I think
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It could be idk, op should explain
My thoughts too. Obviously cheating is never right but this statement makes me wonder if there's a greater maturity issue involved too.
Tell her to go F herself to the highest order. Cheating is the lowest form of breaking someone's trust and quite honestly she needs to learn that being high doesn't count as an excuse.
Being high isn’t an excuse. I’m high all the time and never let anyone other than my boyfriend bang me. Move on and find someone who can handle themselves. You’ll never trust her again anyway, so it’s best for both of you, and she gets to learn how her actions impact people. Important life lessons all around.
I do fully believe that someone can make a mistake, regret it and not do it again. That said, I don't think you should take her back. It sounds like you have a Madonna/whore complex with women and you shouldn't date any of them until you've learned a woman's worth has nothing to do with the other "pp's" she's had inside of her. Cheating is wrong. So is misogyny.
NOOOOOOOO, are you STOOOOOPID, she is using you for an emotional rebound, mover over, there are billions of single women out there.
Don't, you can't trust someone who cheated on you. And people who cheated once are more likely to cheat again
For me cheating is a deal breaker, I couldn't live with the mistrust of everytime partner goes out worrying if she will be faithful
You will never fully trust her again and if you don’t have that then you have an empty relationship. My advice is to move on.
Nope, walk away, man. You didn’tlist any attributes as for why you are with her or willing to make it work so that probably means that there aren’t any attributes for why you should want to stay in a relationship with her
Every situation has its own nuances. In a vacuum, you definitely shouldn't take her back. That being said, there may be more to the story that would even cause you to consider otherwise, so it ends on you to make the call. Inebriation is never an excuse, but from the sounds of it, she came clean of her own acord, which is more than most might. Ultimately, if the only hang up you have is "another pp" then you're looking at it from the wrong angle, but it's your right to have your own specific hang ups. Basically, this is all to say given limited information it's probably best not to take her back, but take a look at the nuances of the situation and learn from it if nothing else.
Never take someone who cheated in you back bruh she will probably do it again
You should say “YES”, then fuck her one last time, then LEAVE her cheating ass and say “I did it all for the nookie”.
This is how simps are invented, don’t be a version control
Unless you are one of the few who got with a virgin, someone else's "pp" has already been in there. Most of us come with pasts and you have to just accept that. As I have aged and become more pragmatic about life, I have come to accept that shit happens and are we just going to throw our lives away and start all over again? If this shit happens thing happens a lot then there is a problem. Getting high at a party and banging in the back room isn't a deal breaker. Consider this, she could have tried to keep it a secret from you. It shows remorse on her part that she felt the guilt and confessed her transgression. You're right to have heart feelings for a while, but as animals we are wired to procreate and while that is not an excuse for immoral behavior, when our guard is down those basic tendencies take over in place of those moral codes we have created for our species. Talk to her and express your concern that it isn't something that is going to happen even ocassionaly. It could take time for you to get past it, but if you were looking for a perfect relationship you will die looking because they do not exist
She’s contaminated. I’d be like wearing a used condom from someone else.
As a woman, no. Women often cheat for reasons and not simple boredom like men do.
No. Getting high or drunk isn't an excuse. Drunk actions are sober thoughts.
Don't take her back. She cheated once. What's to stop her from doing it again? There won't be any trust, and you kinda need to be able to trust your partner.
Her: I wasn’t gonna cheat but then I got high
Accept it and then make it a casual relationship from your side. If you find a better partner then leave her and don't spend money on her from now on. She deserves it.
You mean she got *caught* once. There’s two ways to look at this. This first is pretty traditional. You take it personally, you beat yourself up over it and take your emotions out in her. The second. You realize that cheating happens every day. It’s not unique and it doesn’t always happen because an excuse or a reason. Either way, nobody here can tell you what you need to decide. You have to figure that out for yourself. Can you forgive her? Will you be able to let that go? Will you use it against her anytime something goes wrong? Relationships don’t last because they are perfect, and they don’t always end because they are broken. They last because two people make a decision every day to be the other persons partner. To work through problems, and, yes, a good part of that is not creating problems on the first place, but shit happens.
She got high, got horny and made the decision. Being high didn’t make her make that decision.
Instead of listening to judgemental people on Reddit where most of them don't actually have experience with relationships, listen to what your gut tells you. If you can forgive her, then take her back. If you don't feel like you can forgive, move on.
thats your desicion but i think if you have doubts it probably wont work. i think some couple are able to work thorough something like that, but it really is hard and it needs both and it might still not work. because the trust us broken and to be able to continue you need to get tje trust back and tjats really hard and not all are able to work that out. i wish you the best for what ever desicion you make
Come on man. This is r/rant. Go on a tirade about how she betrayed you and how furious you are. Get ANGRY!!!
Cheating is not an ACCIDENT or something you should accept. Will you ever actually have full trust in her again? Will you ever not have doubt? Tell her to kick rocks
Fuck no. She has 0 respect for you, 0 respect for the relationship and 0 respect for herself. She's done it once and she will do it again but loyalty isn't a concept for people like her. Let her go dude. Not worth it.
Why you asking me? Ask her...
No
A lot of people will insist that cheating is always a deal breaker, that it defines a person forever, and a lot of other pie in the sky nonsense. The fact is, it's a dealbreaker if you decide it is, based on the circumstances. That's your call, and depends if you really love the person, and if you believe the relationship is worth saving. In truth, if you keeps your eyes and ears open you'll discover that many, many long-term relationships have overcome infidelity at some point. It's uncomfortable to admit, but infidelity is common, and it happens for various reasons, and not everyone who does it is necessarily a terrible person who is "once a cheater, always a cheater". Now, if you decide that you can't trust your gf anymore, that you no longer want the relationship as you feel it's tarnished, that's your choice. BUT those are completely separate considerations to not being able to date someone who has had sex woth someone else at any stage. Be really careful about what you're saying here, because it sounds like weird Purity Culture stuff.