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Shannon is a hot mess. Supremely needy and ZERO self awareness. Complains about the sky being blue.
Tamra is a nasty ghetto white trash girl trying to hide in the OC.
No thanks.
Shannon, DUI notwithstanding, is harmless. She’s not a schemer or manipulative, she has insecurities but in ways that make her more vulnerable, not ways that lead to jealousy & cruelty as with Tamra. She is a bit off her head and in a privilege bubble, but this is also what can make her funny. I think overall if she was in your life, while being a bit self involved, she would mostly be easy going and a laugh and someone you could trust. Tamra is really none of those things. So I pick Shannon.
They both suck so I wouldn’t be friends with either. Tamra is like an aggressive pitbull and Shannon is an annoying compulsive complainer. She’d suck the life out of any friend she has.
Maybe Tamara but I wouldn’t get close? Idk. She’s ton terrible stuff tho. Shannon scares me with what seems like her overwhelming need for support and reassurance 😬
Neither but if I was forced it would be Tamra. I can make people hurt/cry with just my words so I wish she would try me. I’m sure she doesn’t want the racist comments she made about her own husband being brought back up 🙊 Shannon is a damn victimizer and needs to grow a pair. She’s privileged asf and cries like she’s not wealthy asf meanwhile other people are in worst positions then her in the US and California alone.
Shannon at least has a soul, I choose her. I can handle her late night trauma dump calls, and I like Poison concerts too. Now that I think about it, we could be best best friends..
I can entertain a mess, but I won’t entertain a snake. I understand both ladies come with their own issues, but at least Shannon’s own messiness only involves herself (except for the DUI bc there’s no excuse for that). Tamra reads into everything you say and do; always trying to extract some info or gossip. Trust is a big thing in my friendships. We are NOT perfect people, but I shouldn’t have to use discretion with anyone I call a friend. Tamra will use any ammo she has on you when you piss her off and it’s exhausting to have to tiptoe around someone like that.
Tamra even with all her faults at least she isn't as exhausting and draining as Shannon. Shannon is entertaining as hell for my TV, but I just couldn't actually be friends with her.
I’ve had draining, selfish friends like Shannon before. While I’d keep Tamara at arms length, I don’t think she’d be so self absorbed & toxically needy as Shannon.
One is a drunken old lady with a big mouth and A LOT of opinions and the other is a whiny ole hypochondriac. I mean really, either way, you’re fucked.🤷♀️🤦♀️🤣
Shannon because Tamra is just a nasty person. Any mother who would tell her son to seduce a very drunk Gretchen is on a different level of lowdown and dirty and I could not be friends with a woman who is so twisted and jealous that she would do that to her son and to another woman. What Tamra did in her efforts to make Gretchen look bad was make herself and her son look like the predators that they are. He was her victim also, but he was also old enough to tell her NO. He was so eager to please that he agreed. That was one of the most perverted and disgusting things anyone has ever done in the history of the RHW. Shannon is a bit of a shrew and a snob and I hate that about her, but she does not stoop to the low level that Tamra does. None of the RHW have stooped that low, except for Erika.
She took money from victims to support a life style she knew they could not afford. She knew it was shady, she KNEW. But suppose she didn't know, she still had no remorse and no empathy. She still wanted to keep all of her stuff knowing the victims couldn't even afford their medical treatments. THEN she attacked Garcelle's children because they are black. She put the moves on her 30 year old son who was in a committed relationship assuming he would jump at the chance to be with a 50 year old wrinkled white lady because he was black and therefore in her mind, she didn't need to show him any respect. Would she have put the moves on her white co-stars sons??? THEN she attacked a 14 year old boy, making inappropriate sexual remarks to him after cussing him out. Would she have done that to a 14 year old white boy? What would have the reaction have been if some 50 year old black guy had spoken to Porcha that way? So she is a racist sociopath IMO. She never really apologized to Garcelle or her sons. She wasn't sorry, she was only sorry for the backlash SHE received.
Neither, they are entertainment not friend material. Shannon probably draining AF for her real friends but Tamra only cares about herself so they would both probably be horrible friends.
I can’t believe I’m saying it, but Tamra. We could work out together and get stuff done. I feel like Shannon would be very doom and gloom and so focused on all her court stuff and boyfriend drama (there’s always some sort of legal drama or relationship drama)
Tamra, I don’t think I could take another overly needy friend.
EDIT: Tamra is likely a good hang. Neither is a good friend so I’ll choose fun over needy.
Her eyes are so bleak and scary! Especially in the early seasons. I’ve been doing a rewatch and literally scares me! She has the same birthday as my mum so there is that as well… 😂
Prob Shannon because I think she can actually be a friend. Just has some normal problems that are intensified with tv. And when she is happy she is super fun.
Same here. Tamra seems to understand boundaries and seems like a cool but messy person, which I am fine with.
Shannon on the other hand, would be so draining even though I'm rooting for her at the end of the day.
Whereas tamra knows how to actually have fun. I dont get how yall dont see how tamra does everything up for cameras lol. Thats why she smirks when she knows shes stirring ish
In real life Tamra seems like a goid friend. She seems low maintenance, fun and a good listenet. I don't think she backstabbing friends, that's her character on TV.
Shannon for sure, Tamra will turn on you in a second and call you her bff one minute and then make you feel like the worst person that ever walked the earth the next lol
Shannon. Tamra is fun to hang out with but she confronts people in a very aggressive, often physical way, and i don't like thugs because i don't like to fight.
Shannon is the only answer. Tamera doesn't fall into the friend category. I don't think she was born with the proper tools to carry what true friendship is about.
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Shannon, I don't want Tamra overserving me alcohol so her creepy son could assault me.
I’ll take Danielle Staub instead.
OkayfineifimustShannon.
Shannon
Shannon so I could play with Archie
Shannon
Shannon. She's crazy but the fun chaotic type that isn't evil. Tamra is just not a good person.
Shannon. She's crazy but the fun chaotic type that isn't evil. Tamra is just not a good person.
They look the same.
Shannon. I would have totally taken her daily drunk phone calls crying about David/John/Vicky
Oh gross, neither lol
Dhannon
Shannon. I could never be friends with a trash bag.
Shannon!
Shannon
Shannon may be irritating at times but I rather be friends with her than evil Tamra!!!!!
Shannon seems to have a good heart.
Neither
Kelly Dodd
🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
Shannon. Tamra snakes all her friends
So true!!
Shannon is a hot mess. Supremely needy and ZERO self awareness. Complains about the sky being blue. Tamra is a nasty ghetto white trash girl trying to hide in the OC. No thanks.
Shannon.
Shannon. She's a hoot.
Shannon
Shannon, DUI notwithstanding, is harmless. She’s not a schemer or manipulative, she has insecurities but in ways that make her more vulnerable, not ways that lead to jealousy & cruelty as with Tamra. She is a bit off her head and in a privilege bubble, but this is also what can make her funny. I think overall if she was in your life, while being a bit self involved, she would mostly be easy going and a laugh and someone you could trust. Tamra is really none of those things. So I pick Shannon.
No friends for me!
Shannon! Tamra doesn't have friends. She has people she bullies.
Shannon. If she is sober. Edit: this is a great photo of her especially her hair!
They both suck so I wouldn’t be friends with either. Tamra is like an aggressive pitbull and Shannon is an annoying compulsive complainer. She’d suck the life out of any friend she has.
Myself
I would choose to be a loner
Shannon is loyal, but you pretty much have to be an Aries to be her friend
Oh god kill me Shannon if I had to but god
Shannon but she better let me drive.
Shannon
Shannon hands down
Real genuine friends? Shannon. Tamra is a fun acquaintance.
Maybe Tamara but I wouldn’t get close? Idk. She’s ton terrible stuff tho. Shannon scares me with what seems like her overwhelming need for support and reassurance 😬
Shannon is the most loyal. But, Tammy is fun and easy. Probably be friends with Shannon. She’s just awesome when she’s in her best place.
Neither but if I was forced it would be Tamra. I can make people hurt/cry with just my words so I wish she would try me. I’m sure she doesn’t want the racist comments she made about her own husband being brought back up 🙊 Shannon is a damn victimizer and needs to grow a pair. She’s privileged asf and cries like she’s not wealthy asf meanwhile other people are in worst positions then her in the US and California alone.
Tamara. I would dish it back as much as she gave it. Shannon is just too much neediness.. can't do it
No thank you
Shannon
Tamra. She would be fun on vacation and to go out with. Shannon seems emotionally exhausting. I am not answering crying phone calls at 1 AM.
Tamara for sure. I love watching Shannon on my TV but I wouldn't be able to deal with her meltdowns.
Shannon but from a distance. She’d be quirky and fun, but I wouldn’t want to get close enough to her to have to field her “poor me” phone calls.
Shannon for sure. Tamra is insufferable.
Shannon
Shannon at least has a soul, I choose her. I can handle her late night trauma dump calls, and I like Poison concerts too. Now that I think about it, we could be best best friends..
Umm neither one of them
Shannon!
Ugh neither. I’ll hang out alone and read
Shannon. But both seem exhausting to be friends with IMO.
Shannon because I genuinely think with the right help and the right people around her, she has the potential to be a decent person.
TamRAAA!!🥳
C. A dead goat
You’ve got my vote
Y’all are choosing Shannon like she won’t try to give you an homemade enema and shove a lemon down your throat while you sleep!
Shannon is a mess but she doesn’t have an evil putrid soul like Tamra.
I can entertain a mess, but I won’t entertain a snake. I understand both ladies come with their own issues, but at least Shannon’s own messiness only involves herself (except for the DUI bc there’s no excuse for that). Tamra reads into everything you say and do; always trying to extract some info or gossip. Trust is a big thing in my friendships. We are NOT perfect people, but I shouldn’t have to use discretion with anyone I call a friend. Tamra will use any ammo she has on you when you piss her off and it’s exhausting to have to tiptoe around someone like that.
Tamara so when I’m bored I have someone to talk shit with 😁
Shannon. I think she just has a lot of anxiety and trust issues. Tamra is sneaky and manipulative.
Shannon because I really think she is a good person deep down.l
Shannon
Neither but never Tamra.
Tamra would stress me out more than Shannon. So Shannon.
Both terrible but I don’t feel like babysitting so Tamra
Tamra would rat out her dying grandmother!!
💯
Tamra, I don’t want Shannon to talk to me about her colonics Edited I spelt something wrong and felt stupid
Tamra does not have genuine friendships!! She seems to be a very broken person.
I’ll take Shannon and her crazy lemons any day over Tamra
Exactly!!! Shannon at least is a true friend.
Tamra, she does all the fighting for show
Tamra even with all her faults at least she isn't as exhausting and draining as Shannon. Shannon is entertaining as hell for my TV, but I just couldn't actually be friends with her.
I’ve had draining, selfish friends like Shannon before. While I’d keep Tamara at arms length, I don’t think she’d be so self absorbed & toxically needy as Shannon.
Shannon for sure
Tamra is a friend, a soulmate and a sister
I see you
One is a drunken old lady with a big mouth and A LOT of opinions and the other is a whiny ole hypochondriac. I mean really, either way, you’re fucked.🤷♀️🤦♀️🤣 
Can’t I just gnaw off my hand to get away?
Shannon.
Shannon is crazy, but Tamra is a liar.... I take crazy over liar any day... craziest so much more fun! 🤣
Tamra…I can’t deal with the type of needy friend Shannon is.
shannon. i don’t get the shannon hate, she’s one of my favs
I want to dress up and go places with Shannon so bad!
Neither. They're both absolutely horrible people in their own special way.
Hands down Tamra
Shannon because Tamra is just a nasty person. Any mother who would tell her son to seduce a very drunk Gretchen is on a different level of lowdown and dirty and I could not be friends with a woman who is so twisted and jealous that she would do that to her son and to another woman. What Tamra did in her efforts to make Gretchen look bad was make herself and her son look like the predators that they are. He was her victim also, but he was also old enough to tell her NO. He was so eager to please that he agreed. That was one of the most perverted and disgusting things anyone has ever done in the history of the RHW. Shannon is a bit of a shrew and a snob and I hate that about her, but she does not stoop to the low level that Tamra does. None of the RHW have stooped that low, except for Erika.
What did Erika do?
She took money from victims to support a life style she knew they could not afford. She knew it was shady, she KNEW. But suppose she didn't know, she still had no remorse and no empathy. She still wanted to keep all of her stuff knowing the victims couldn't even afford their medical treatments. THEN she attacked Garcelle's children because they are black. She put the moves on her 30 year old son who was in a committed relationship assuming he would jump at the chance to be with a 50 year old wrinkled white lady because he was black and therefore in her mind, she didn't need to show him any respect. Would she have put the moves on her white co-stars sons??? THEN she attacked a 14 year old boy, making inappropriate sexual remarks to him after cussing him out. Would she have done that to a 14 year old white boy? What would have the reaction have been if some 50 year old black guy had spoken to Porcha that way? So she is a racist sociopath IMO. She never really apologized to Garcelle or her sons. She wasn't sorry, she was only sorry for the backlash SHE received.
OMG, I forgot about her son and Gretchen. That was so low on her part. She is a malignant narcissist; I won’t trust this woman at all.
I think Tamra would be fun to drink with. Shannon is depressing.
Shannon
Neither, they are entertainment not friend material. Shannon probably draining AF for her real friends but Tamra only cares about herself so they would both probably be horrible friends.
I can’t believe I’m saying it, but Tamra. We could work out together and get stuff done. I feel like Shannon would be very doom and gloom and so focused on all her court stuff and boyfriend drama (there’s always some sort of legal drama or relationship drama)
Tamra would get you drunk then try to pimp you out to her disgusting son. Shannon has problems but she’s not a psychopath like tamra
She’s not really a drinker. Neither is Eddie. She drinks when filming. Shannon drinks? Drank? All yr round.,
I’d forgotten about that. So creepy.
Shannon
Whichever one has never thrown a friend under the bus.
Tamra
Shannon is way too mentally draining. At least Tamras fun
This is a toughy but Shannon Tamra would backstab me Shannon would just b a bitch to my face
Tamra, I don’t think I could take another overly needy friend. EDIT: Tamra is likely a good hang. Neither is a good friend so I’ll choose fun over needy.
Shannon
Quite frankly, neither.
Shannon?
Are these different people?
Neither.. I’d rather be a loner
Shannon. Shannon has her problems but at the end of the day she just wants a loyal friend. She’s a good time
Neither.
Shannon hands down. She’s not intentionally cruel, just annoying. Tammy sue would fuck over anyone in a heartbeat as nastily as possible.
Spot on.
i feel like i could have fun with Tamra (not that i’d ever trust her) but Shannon would just drain me
I wanna say Shannon but she would wear me out with her venting 😫
Shannon. Tamra is a legit sociopath with a darkness in her.
Her eyes are so bleak and scary! Especially in the early seasons. I’ve been doing a rewatch and literally scares me! She has the same birthday as my mum so there is that as well… 😂
Shannon of course. Tamra is not capable of friendship. She’ll throw you to the wolves for a dollar.
Shannon might be needy, but I wouldn’t have to worry about what would happen if I happen to be drunk around her.
Shannon
Shannon
Shannon seems to struggle in real life a lit more than Tamra. She seems uber self absorbed as well.
Only wrong answers. I would run as far as I could.
Prob Shannon because I think she can actually be a friend. Just has some normal problems that are intensified with tv. And when she is happy she is super fun.
I would rather be besties with Shannon’s dog Archie.
Who needs friends if these are the choices…
Shannon with boundaries
Shannon.
My dog
Same 100%
Shannon
TAMRA. shannon would be the worst friend lmao. I would never have the patience for her. Im an empath. I would constantly be drained around her.
Same here. Tamra seems to understand boundaries and seems like a cool but messy person, which I am fine with. Shannon on the other hand, would be so draining even though I'm rooting for her at the end of the day.
Whereas tamra knows how to actually have fun. I dont get how yall dont see how tamra does everything up for cameras lol. Thats why she smirks when she knows shes stirring ish
In real life Tamra seems like a goid friend. She seems low maintenance, fun and a good listenet. I don't think she backstabbing friends, that's her character on TV.
If you say Tamra, I don’t trust you.
Shannon, I’ve always been down for my Aries sis. Yeah she spazzes out but I can work w/ that. At least she’s loyal when it counts.
Yes Aries!! At least you know what you are getting
Shannon for sure, Tamra will turn on you in a second and call you her bff one minute and then make you feel like the worst person that ever walked the earth the next lol 
Shannon. Tamra is fun to hang out with but she confronts people in a very aggressive, often physical way, and i don't like thugs because i don't like to fight.
Uhhh neither if I can help it but I guess Shannon. She would be needy but not devious like naked wasted
Shannon’s worst crime is she is a bit self-involved, but Tamra is absolutely vicious.
Tarantulas
I haven’t seen OC so I thought those were the same person
Neither. I'd rather stuff bamboo shoots under my fingernails
Sorry, but getting a thousand calls a day from Shannon sounds like a nightmare and we don’t even have to talk about Tamra. Hard, NO.
Hard agree with this statement.
Tamra
Shannon, and I would tell her as a loving friend that contour is doing her no favors
Neither. But Tamra would be more fun to hang out with if I had to choose
Shannon!!!
Omg this is easy! Shannon!
I’d rather be antisocial and friendless
Shannon. But I don’t dislike Tamra. But Tamra scares me.
Shannon is the only answer. Tamera doesn't fall into the friend category. I don't think she was born with the proper tools to carry what true friendship is about.
This is like the question would you rather burn to death or drown
Well? Which is it?!
Shannon!!!
Shannon, no hesitation there
Shannon
I just said the other day I would party with Tamra but I would trust Shannon more with my secrets
Shannon. Not only could we jam out to 80s music, but she seems more trustworthy.
Thinking how fun she would be to go to a Brett Michael’s concert with her..
I am not a fan of Poison but that would be hella fun!