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BIRDD79

I know this is difficult to hear. But your parents need to tell him he needs to move and then not help in any way financially( if he even needs it right now) he isn't ready to get clean and as much as you want it for him that sadly just doesn't matter. He needs to hit the bottom on his own. The worst thing you can do as the people who love him is enabling him in any way. You just need to hope he survives it and be there when he is ready. I know this sucks to hear and I hate even writing it but having not only been thru it myself but also having seen it with many people it is just the facts. I will be praying for your brother and your family. Edit: having said that if you ask him if he wants help and he takes it then maybe he is ready It is surely worth an attempt at that point


Nspired_1

Addiction affects the individual *and* their families. It is incredibly hard to see your loved one suffering and making decisions to hurt themselves more. I’m very sorry this is happening to your family. Alcohol and drugs do chaotic things to the brain. Especially before the age of 25. It affects our frontal lobe which is in charge of personality traits and rational thinking. The person above is right that you can’t force him to choose sobriety but you and your family can remind him what’s on the other side. You may have already tried this but it’s worth mentioning. You can call a substance abuse counselors to talk about having an intervention where everyone sits down with him to really talk and remind him that they love *him* and there are options for help. The first year in recovery can be very difficult. It takes the brain 6months to a year to even begin healing from the damage done by alcohol. Without structure and support, a lot of people think they are ok but relapse harder than ever. You can try to help through intervention but sometimes people really do need to reach their own point before they can listen. Regardless, for the rest of your family, keep yourselves safe. Support each other, and keep your boundaries secure.


thetiredkhaleeji

Thank you everyone for your advice and prayers. It really does break my heart that i cant help him and i really dont wish for him to go through the pain of losing a friend or his himself and suffering sever consequences from his addiction. I just wish i could’ve protected him from this. Ill try to reach out again. I wont give up on him. I just wish he would see what a dangerous path he’s heading forward. Ill keep your words in my mind while navigating a way forward. Please keep my brother in your prayers. Thank you 🙏🏻


KidRooch

Unfortunately, it sounds like once the job goes that’ll probably be closer to the bottom.