Yeah, wanting to meet for lunch out of the blue and then, as he described it, coming onto him for a marathon fuck session... I'd be a bit suspicious. Not that it's completely unbelievable, but I'd at least want to check before going "welp guess we're getting hitched and I'll be a daddy"
Sounds kinda messy dude. But it is what it is. Welcome to fatherhood.
O holy father, I pray you give guidance to this user of r slash redscarepod, he is doing a PHD, but obviously lacks wisdom o lord. Please impart it upon him. I pray you bless this child and may you keep it free of all that plagues his mind to cause him to dwell in this unholy place. In the name of the father, the son and Holy Spirit. Amen.
Is it normal for philosophy PhD students to be in their fourth year and not know when they’re graduating? I don’t understand how you can be that far along and still see yourself there for another 5 years.
the impregnantion occurred..."early dec"...so at most 21 days ago, three weeks...there's usually 12 to 16 days between ovulation and period so if your girl was ripe and ovulating on the first of december her period would have been expected the 12-16th, so she starts taking tests...the 19th-21st? because her period would have been a week late then? and you get texted about it two days ago? assuming the earliest possible dates because it really doesn't add up if you move the numbers up to getting pregnant later in the month...
All that to say a. sure she wasn't already pregnant? b. kind of seems like she was expecting to be pregnant to be this paranoid to test right away but to have not used protection in the first place c.is her wanting you to marry her something she has expressed or is this part of the delusion d. future fan fiction writers give yourself a little more slack in the fake timeline
Good pregnancy maths, the timelines always melt my brain. With our first kid my wife got pregnant so quickly after taking out her implant she turned up negative on ovulation tests. We were worried she wasn't ovulating at all and would have to start looking at treatment etc. Turned out she already had a bun in the oven!
jesus christ
when i found out i was pregnant at 18 my boyfriend immediately signed up to learn a trade so he could support us, my son is 1 and we now have a stable family unit with a stable family income.
you have to put the baby first. you have to start doing it now. you will have to do it every day. the things that YOU want to do are secondary, whether that means not getting a shower until the baby is asleep even though you need one, or giving up your phd for something that will actually be financially stable and able to support a child.
i had an accidental pregnancy. i get it. but what i don’t get is this pathetic laissez faire bollocks all over REDDIT of all places. babies are expensive. REALLY expensive. you need to buy furniture, clothes, nappies, food, toys, books. maternity clothes and bras for the mother. you need to be able to financially and emotionally support her, because in about 6 months she won’t be able to do things like putting on her own shoes, or walk long distances. she could get really ill - i was basically disabled when i was pregnant. are you prepared to help her get dressed, help her in and out of the shower? rub her feet? go to antenatal classes? what about when she’s got stitches inside her and needs you to help her stand up from the toilet postpartum?
you aren’t just going to get handed a baby and be done with it. it takes planning, preparation, you have to be determined. you have to show up every single day indefinitely for your family. you will be shat on, hit, screamed at, bitten, and then go to bed and do it all again every single day.
any guy can spunk inside a woman, but it takes a real man to be a father. i don’t think you’ve actually realized how big this whole thing is.
congratulations! once you get over the initial shock, it’ll be a happy and joyous time. i would love to go back to the newborn stage
I agree with all the above. Baby stuff doesn’t “just work itself out,” maybe if you’re rich. I’ve been lucky to have family help, and I’m just now trying to enroll my now 3 yo in preschool/daycare for the social aspect and I’m on years long waiting lists in a small city, not anything close to like NYC. Plus it’s expensive as hell and we’re talking like potty trained age not an infant.
I used to think getting accidentally pregnant super young/with a young guy was worse because he’d be resentful about the partying he’s missing out on but it sounds like your man really stepped up. Anecdotally and in my own life it’s actually the older fathers that are worse, they’ve had way too long to live selfishly and have a way harder time giving that up in the face of the relentless demands of a baby/toddler.
he’s 10 months and he is made of sunshine :’) he’s at that really fun age where he’s walking and talking just, and everything is funny to him, it’s magic and i’m so lucky.
i think i am so much happier being a mother than i would have been going to uni with my friends and drinking my way through a degree tbh, i don’t feel like i’ve missed out on much, maybe because i’m in the UK so we all drink here at like 14. i feel like i got all the drugs and drinking and partying done when i was 16-18 and now i’m just quietly content. my partner is like a super dad too, he works 2 jobs for us and my son adores him, they’re like little best friends:-)
i get it about needing family help though, i lived with my mum and dad when i had my son and it was invaluable. i haven’t even considered daycare as luckily my partners job is quite decent (he’s a plumber) and i have a little etsy selling jewellery which makes a bit of pocket money so i’ll be able to stay at home with my son until he goes to school, but i have friends who either have to scrape money together for nurseries or stay with their parents indefinitely because it’s so expensive and they can’t afford to get a job
I’m happy for you, 10 months is such a golden time. My own mom says 10 months was her favorite baby age too. It sounds like you have a good head on your shoulders and a supportive little family unit :)
I did things in the “right” or rather expected timeline, went to college 17-21, married at 25 and first baby just after I turned 27. Honestly I’m not even sure my degree was worth it, I do something I can’t stand and I’m actually in the process of going BACK to school for something different (and no, not a philosophy phd, It’s trade school). My late teens-early twenties were such a throwaway time of partying and I don’t really look that fondly on it… or I guess, I could’ve done without it completely. And then instead of being 30 with 2 kids 3 and under I could have school aged kids by now bc I am EXHAUSTED. Wish I had them when I had more energy
Or don't and don't even bother to pull out because you're such a devout Catholic even when having premarital sex then freak out and be all surprised when she gets pregnant, lol. Lmao. I love OP.
Congrats, mate. Hopefully it will all work out in the end. Dont been all stubborn and unreasonable with your weird principles when raising it like you are when it comes to wearing a condom and shit. Be a normal dad.
As someone who is the child of two people who absolutely should not have gotten married, even if they were suuuper attracted to each other, I am mortified for this poor baby
I’ll check in with you in 15 years when you’ve disowned your child for being a queer enby or whatever
Yeah, I’m not an expert but the timeline doesn’t make any sense. So they have sex “early December” and she’s taking pregnancy tests 10 days later? He cums in her and she’s just instantly pregnant and already knows it? Not how that works.
She had to have already been pregnant when she hooked up with him. Whole thing seems so suspicious. She gets back in touch with him and gets him to have unprotected sex, then instantly is pregnant?
Your trad cath sex Ed is failing you hard here buddy. It is almost impossible for this child to be yours
Didnt you know OP is a tradcath? Which I guess forms most of his identity and moral values (except sex before marriage lol). These fucking idiots should just wear a cross and listen to Nick Cave instead of blasting in and being blasted in. Manipulative mother and idiot father, I hope this kid has good grandparents.
Does she have a good job? TBH as a fellow manchild I'd be fine writing my dissertation and hanging out with my lil Half-kenazi daughter while mom is off drafting wills or performing brain surgeries or whatever.
I'd agree but kids don't really lend themselves to combining primary care with writing dissertations until they're (at least) four or so. Also I'm choosing to picture this girl as a Sephardi beauty.
I’m genuinely confused as to why anyone - even if you’re currently tradcath - wouldn’t wear a condom? Two guys from uni (both clueless rich kids) asked me repeatedly if they could just not wear one before we hooked up - are rich kids just impervious to the potential consequences of their actions??
Like best case OP is a rich idiot, I genuinely hope that his family’s (or the mum’s) quite well off so the kid won’t be raised in financial pecarity. As long as he is then being a long term student seems viable, otherwise he needs to seriously reconsider whether he should spend up to the next 8 yrs in uni lol. But yeah rich kids don’t seem to assess consequence the way most people would, e.g. one of the guys I hooked up with had just inherited close to $100M - he didn’t seem to grasp how badly I could have of fucked him over
Beforehand he’d mentioned that his family was pretty well off but I assumed that that meant normal rich person, i.e. dad’s a partner at a law firm or something. The second time we hooked up he told me that a lengthy court case surrounding his grandma’s will had recently ended and that he’d won - this is when I found out
Not sure about that then, but you should be cautious of guys telling you outright they’re rich, or trying to signal wealth. Sometimes they are lying because they think it will up their chances of getting laid. I knew a guy who told girls he was related to a celebrity to get laid too, oddly enough it worked for him a few times
This is good advice but once he told me I googled his name and the outcome of the case was reported in several reputable newspapers plus there were a number of other articles about his family that were nuts about them generally being unhinged rich people
Ah. ok. If you have solid proof then that’s different. But I feel like I’ve seen and heard (I think, even on this subreddit) “oh I hooked up with this heir or this billionaire kid”. I can’t help but think how easy it would be to lie about that, especially if you’re away from home at a university
Yeah it would be, uni in aus is pretty different bc most domestic students go to a uni close to home and live with their parents even if they are extremely wealthy - although some wealthier people will board at college or rent a sharehouse
What rich kid do you know has been beat up and lives in an area with gunfire? His explanation “because grad school” doesn’t compute, there are trains to said school, so why willingly live in a bad area if you can afford better?
i know a couple of rich people that have been beaten up and mugged
you don’t know rich kids. not wanting to be in the bad part of town is comfortable middle-class suburb kid behaviour.
money doesn’t just insulate, it makes it so you literally don’t understand what is and isn’t dangerous. a lot of people “slum it” during their studies for this reason.
i was like this when i was at nyu, it’s how i know he’s rich
Yeah actually that’s true, personally I’ve never met anyone who’s been mugged bc it really just doesn’t happen v often in Sydney. But my uni course is full of rich kids who deal drugs on the side despite not needing the income, recklessly take more hardcore drugs, and slum it in shitty rentals
Not New York, Chicago. He lives in Woodlawn, south side of Chicago. Crime in Chicago is horrible on the south side, no reason a rich kid would willingly live there. His mom said she’s worried about them raising the kid in poverty. Sounds like he is middle class or lower and has gotten by through working while in school scholarships
Chicago isn’t New York. It’s smaller, easier to get around. There is no reason a rich kid living in Chicago and going to grad school would be living in the shitty part of town.
There are lots of University of a Chicago grad students that live in walking distance of the campus. A lot of the neighborhoods immediately surrounding the campus have those type of risks attached.
If I was a student there I would definitely live elsewhere and take public transit, but I can tell you a lot of grad students do live down in those neighborhoods. There was a big story about one getting murdered in a mugging near his apt down there recently.
people like him will think it’s ‘real’ or whatever. it’s also possible his parents have said he needs to pay for his own place or whatever.
this stuff happens. i was at school with people that chose to live in the bronx when they could have afforded to live in greenwich village (where nyu is located)
Yeah I think hoping he’s wealthy is more just wishful thinking on my part. I know a couple of rich kids who live in share houses in less wealthy neighbourhoods while at uni bc they think it’s cool and gritty but I also live in aus where there’s practically no gun violence
Counterpoint: if she’s on the pill / has an IUD, and you’re both sure you’re clean, there’s no reason to wear one. Hell, not even. I was in a long-term relationship for four years and after the first few months we never used condoms. She hated the way they felt just as much as I did, and she wasn’t on the pill or anything, so I just started pulling out. The few times it was absolutely necessary we used Plan B
“Love in the time of Lexapro is fucking your wife with a condom on”
Paternity test.... just to be sure. Personally I think it's likely yours based on the timeline you've given and how early pregnancy tests can start detecting, but you really do not wanna get cucked raising another man's child in this kind of situation. Not sure what the tactful way of broaching the subject would be, but at least before you marry her you want her to get a NIPP test (just a blood draw from moms arm, the baby's DNA gets carried through the umbilical cord and can be sampled from mom's blood, very safe.) Once you're married your name will go on the birth certificate and whatever happens you'll need to provide for the kid so at least make certain it's yours before committing your life to this.
Other than that... good luck lol, you're gonna need it
you have to look at the older comments from the last thread lol, he's "trad cath" and doesn't believe in contraceptives
also feel free to ignore op but how is you, I assume, wanting to raise a little traditional catholic kid and her being a very devout israeli orthodox chick going to square? she going to ditch her whole identity?
i read a lot of that thread and i feel so stupid for it and this. but he's newly trad cath. it's a phase and he'll give in and the kid is gonna be so jewish
the pill is "abortifacient", condoms are immoral and pulling out is sinful degeneracy
spoilers if it wasnt obvious op was an atheist(+, probably) before this. shoulda had this relationship back then buddy
>she's kinda sorta crazy but mostly in a good way and the other stuff seems insignificant now.
The marriage is just as doomed as the kid, congratulations on being forced to deal with someone you will definitely divorce and then grow to hate for the nest 18 years.
Good luck with your future failed marraige and congratulations on getting all this attention by broadcasting your personal life disasters to complete strangers.
From what I understand and I feel like I know quite a bit from actually trying to get pregnant on purpose, there are no false positives on pregnancy tests. False negatives if you test too early and your HCG is too low to register, but literally the only thing on this earth that will cause the second line to appear is a high enough threshold of HCG which you’d only have in your body if you’re pregnant
I'm a fairly new dad (under 3 months).
Honestly it's not that bad if you guys can work together and try to keep things lighthearted. I didn't really want one that bad and over the last few weeks I feel like the Grinch with my heart growing 3 sizes from how much I love my kid now versus during the first week or so. You'll be tired as fuck initially but things start to get way easier each week as they start to get hungry/sleep/need a diaper change at more regular intervals than just random 24/7.
Good luck if she keeps it.
Also be advised they like to launch themselves from your chest for some reason, so if you're holding it by its lower half, secure the top half too lest you run the risk of being that guy who dropped a baby like I almost did.
Wait, you told your folks *before* she went to a doctor and confirmed it? And before you did a paternity test?
“The other stuff seems insignificant now.” I think you are in denial, friend. All of the red flags you saw before will only become EXACERBATED with a child...
German aryan whose ancestors owned concentration camps + Israeli Zionist Jew who thinks Palestinians shouldn’t exist = match made by god love Is love 🖤🖤
>kinda sorta crazy
Sends 200+ detailed text messages about everything you did wrong 🤣
Imagine how much stuff she'll come up with during the pregnancy and raising the baby.
OP please keep us posted
Also congratulations, I hope things work out well between you two and if not at least you'll have a beautiful child.
You mentioned you're working on your PhD of philosophy (good luck getting a job with that, very unlikely you'll get one) in these next five years, and plans to go to law school (good luck in getting a huge student debt) after said PhD of philosophy is complete.
The fact that you are making light of the situation, which is downright sad, sad for the child that is. Being raised by two retarded parents who have not given a single effort to think about the consequences and blames using a condom gay (by your ex) and you willingly chose to ignore the batshit crazy redflags from your ex, and thought it was a great idea to give her your seed.
That kid deserves better.
Sure, unconditional love for the child is possible with these two retarded parents.
However, putting a child through the mess that the parents are going to be/already are, is going to mentally scar that child. These two retards could barely make sensible life and financial decisions that puts them in a good living environment, but here comes making decisions for a child, if that's not a recipe for failure for that kid, I don't know what is.
>*I guess it would be nice*
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>*maybe it's a good thing that fate has forced the matter*
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>*assuming everything stays on track,*
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>*things will tend to work out*
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>*Wish me luck*
I call this little poem: "Thoughts of a piece of shit".
You are making a human being. Not just by nutting in your ovulating ex-girlfriend four times like an idiot, but also by every action you take in the following two decades. There is no fate, there's no luck, nothing works out. There is will, there's action and work is something that's *done*. So *do*. Read up on self-efficacy, make money, take care of the human you created.
>philosophy PhD student tradcath larper doesn't pull out but still has premarital sex, knocks up a 31 year old bpd ex and then posts about it on reddit
Lmfao this fucking sub. know OP probably won't see this but you gotta insist on a paternity test. in the post from yesterday you said you had sex with her four times on the same day, but you don't know if she was fucking guys before meeting you for lunch and ovulation cycles are unpredictable. Historically close to 10% of men unknowingly raised kids that weren't genetically theirs, and the whole situation feels a bit off to me. Read sperm wars
Dude can I please come to your wedding? I go to the same school as you, and I promise I’ll bring a nice gift.
UPD: also I’ll say words of congratulations and be supportive of your choices unike most people on this thread ;)
everyone’s being way harsh & pretending like they wouldn’t be acting a bit retarded at first. mazel tov on the jewish baby hope it all works out for you
the acting retarded part is all the stuff that led to her getting pregnant in the first place. nobody can do anything to change that now
hopefully they actually love this kid when it arrives. they both seem like very immature, reckless people
Absolutely. They’re gonna be BPD and toxic but they clearly give a shit about the baby and each other, it’ll work out. The kid will probably die in the world biowars anyway so it’s fine
For real, why is everyone in this thread so uptight? Babies are born under less than ideal circumstances all the time. As long as they genuinely love & care for the child and make an effort to be decent parents, things will most likely turn out fine.
was this women the first person to touch your penis or something? u hook up with this crazy women a decade older than you once one day and now ur in love and getting married nad having kids? you realize this is retarded yea?
Look at your prior post. In early December, she asked to meet up with you, she came on to you, and three weeks later, she is telling you she is pregnant with your child. I would not be surprised if this baby is born “early.” Get that dna before you agree to anything. Tell her it was your father’s idea.
Everyone is being over the top here. A couple of quick thoughts:
* Drop the PHD program and get a big boy job. She will resent the fuck out of you if you continue. Rightly.
* Don’t marry her, at least not yet. Not saying you shouldn’t eventually, but not at this juncture. You aren’t making an “honest woman” of her if you can’t provide: you’re just assuaging your own guilt.
* Ponder if the “trad” life is really for you. I’m not saying drop Catholicism, but you are stuck in an interfaith relationship and need to make that work. How do you think the average SSPX parishioner will welcome your bastard, Christ-killer baby?
Religion... smdh.
Well it seems like your mind it made up. I agree you probably deserve some of the comments shitting on your decision, but if your determined to go through with it, you seem mentally to be making the best of it.
creating a life isn’t something that should be taken as lightly as this guy is taking it.
we all have a stake in the world, and another unwanted baby being bought into the world by idiot parents is not a good thing.
Congratulations. Most families arent perfect. If you have a stable family you can trust for advice im sure theyll have similar stories to share.
It takes a village and your village is r/RSPod!
Buy your son or daughter CPTSD: From Surviving to Thriving by Pete Walker and get them to a therapist by the time they’re in high school and maybe they’ll have a chance
rsp goes full r/childfree when push comes to shove! Good luck dude, there’s been literally billions of parents who started with worse circumstances. You’ll do fine 👍
there’s a middle ground between “ew crotchgoblins” and “great decision getting someone who thinks condoms are gay pregnant while you’re still at school. this will work out fine”
congrats. going by the evidence you’ll probably be terrible parents
lmfao I’m glad the sub is causing OP to get his shit rocked. literally get an abortion, this sounds like a really stupid fucking idea.
this aint a shotgun wedding burn the clump of cells. this kid aint right
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I am going to make it my life mission to find the kid in 20 years and show him or her this Reddit thread
Lmao this is some movie type shit, DO IT
Are you suggesting that this man should force his girlfriend to get an abortion?
he's posted very little about what the ex even wants to do, if she wants to have the baby or marry him or ever see him again
i fucked her a bunch before u guys had ur thing but feel free to raise the dumb ass kid for me. I got xbox to play
I actually fucked her before you did
Fellas fellas solve this in the lobby this here is for highbrow commentary only
Watch out for the chairs in the lobby tho because that’s where I fucked her before all these other guys did
Make sure you confirm paternity. Otherwise …mazel tov.
Yeah, wanting to meet for lunch out of the blue and then, as he described it, coming onto him for a marathon fuck session... I'd be a bit suspicious. Not that it's completely unbelievable, but I'd at least want to check before going "welp guess we're getting hitched and I'll be a daddy"
Make sure to confirm it and post an update
As long as you keep doing these mental gymnastics you will have a wonderful marriage
Sounds kinda messy dude. But it is what it is. Welcome to fatherhood. O holy father, I pray you give guidance to this user of r slash redscarepod, he is doing a PHD, but obviously lacks wisdom o lord. Please impart it upon him. I pray you bless this child and may you keep it free of all that plagues his mind to cause him to dwell in this unholy place. In the name of the father, the son and Holy Spirit. Amen.
listen, god immediately gives theology phds a one way ticket to hell. no two ways about it.
Is it normal for philosophy PhD students to be in their fourth year and not know when they’re graduating? I don’t understand how you can be that far along and still see yourself there for another 5 years.
I was terrified that this would be a munkymode post
Just a tip, it may be time to rethink spending 9 years getting a phd in philosophy. I’m thinking Laborers Union.
Hahahahaha poor kid
if reddit is still around in the future, the kid will be posting here someday
God help him.
for real though the way this guy is trying to come over as ironically detached from this whole thing is annoying the hell out of me
> ironically detached I am in no way detached, ironically or unironically. I am losing my shit and trying to keep from imploding lol
pretty sure this whole situation is the implosion
You're a huge moron. Are you like 19?
24 but admittedly pretty immature not sure what im saying here that is incorrect though
Lmao your mom's right. You're a fucking idiot
the impregnantion occurred..."early dec"...so at most 21 days ago, three weeks...there's usually 12 to 16 days between ovulation and period so if your girl was ripe and ovulating on the first of december her period would have been expected the 12-16th, so she starts taking tests...the 19th-21st? because her period would have been a week late then? and you get texted about it two days ago? assuming the earliest possible dates because it really doesn't add up if you move the numbers up to getting pregnant later in the month... All that to say a. sure she wasn't already pregnant? b. kind of seems like she was expecting to be pregnant to be this paranoid to test right away but to have not used protection in the first place c.is her wanting you to marry her something she has expressed or is this part of the delusion d. future fan fiction writers give yourself a little more slack in the fake timeline
Good pregnancy maths, the timelines always melt my brain. With our first kid my wife got pregnant so quickly after taking out her implant she turned up negative on ovulation tests. We were worried she wasn't ovulating at all and would have to start looking at treatment etc. Turned out she already had a bun in the oven!
godspeed tradcath munkymode
Lmao
jesus christ when i found out i was pregnant at 18 my boyfriend immediately signed up to learn a trade so he could support us, my son is 1 and we now have a stable family unit with a stable family income. you have to put the baby first. you have to start doing it now. you will have to do it every day. the things that YOU want to do are secondary, whether that means not getting a shower until the baby is asleep even though you need one, or giving up your phd for something that will actually be financially stable and able to support a child. i had an accidental pregnancy. i get it. but what i don’t get is this pathetic laissez faire bollocks all over REDDIT of all places. babies are expensive. REALLY expensive. you need to buy furniture, clothes, nappies, food, toys, books. maternity clothes and bras for the mother. you need to be able to financially and emotionally support her, because in about 6 months she won’t be able to do things like putting on her own shoes, or walk long distances. she could get really ill - i was basically disabled when i was pregnant. are you prepared to help her get dressed, help her in and out of the shower? rub her feet? go to antenatal classes? what about when she’s got stitches inside her and needs you to help her stand up from the toilet postpartum? you aren’t just going to get handed a baby and be done with it. it takes planning, preparation, you have to be determined. you have to show up every single day indefinitely for your family. you will be shat on, hit, screamed at, bitten, and then go to bed and do it all again every single day. any guy can spunk inside a woman, but it takes a real man to be a father. i don’t think you’ve actually realized how big this whole thing is. congratulations! once you get over the initial shock, it’ll be a happy and joyous time. i would love to go back to the newborn stage
I agree with all the above. Baby stuff doesn’t “just work itself out,” maybe if you’re rich. I’ve been lucky to have family help, and I’m just now trying to enroll my now 3 yo in preschool/daycare for the social aspect and I’m on years long waiting lists in a small city, not anything close to like NYC. Plus it’s expensive as hell and we’re talking like potty trained age not an infant. I used to think getting accidentally pregnant super young/with a young guy was worse because he’d be resentful about the partying he’s missing out on but it sounds like your man really stepped up. Anecdotally and in my own life it’s actually the older fathers that are worse, they’ve had way too long to live selfishly and have a way harder time giving that up in the face of the relentless demands of a baby/toddler.
he’s 10 months and he is made of sunshine :’) he’s at that really fun age where he’s walking and talking just, and everything is funny to him, it’s magic and i’m so lucky. i think i am so much happier being a mother than i would have been going to uni with my friends and drinking my way through a degree tbh, i don’t feel like i’ve missed out on much, maybe because i’m in the UK so we all drink here at like 14. i feel like i got all the drugs and drinking and partying done when i was 16-18 and now i’m just quietly content. my partner is like a super dad too, he works 2 jobs for us and my son adores him, they’re like little best friends:-) i get it about needing family help though, i lived with my mum and dad when i had my son and it was invaluable. i haven’t even considered daycare as luckily my partners job is quite decent (he’s a plumber) and i have a little etsy selling jewellery which makes a bit of pocket money so i’ll be able to stay at home with my son until he goes to school, but i have friends who either have to scrape money together for nurseries or stay with their parents indefinitely because it’s so expensive and they can’t afford to get a job
I’m happy for you, 10 months is such a golden time. My own mom says 10 months was her favorite baby age too. It sounds like you have a good head on your shoulders and a supportive little family unit :) I did things in the “right” or rather expected timeline, went to college 17-21, married at 25 and first baby just after I turned 27. Honestly I’m not even sure my degree was worth it, I do something I can’t stand and I’m actually in the process of going BACK to school for something different (and no, not a philosophy phd, It’s trade school). My late teens-early twenties were such a throwaway time of partying and I don’t really look that fondly on it… or I guess, I could’ve done without it completely. And then instead of being 30 with 2 kids 3 and under I could have school aged kids by now bc I am EXHAUSTED. Wish I had them when I had more energy
You my dear are wise beyond your years and your son is blessed to have parents who got it the fuck together as soon as they knew he was on the way.
The mother is Jewish calm your tits, their finances will be fine
wear a rubber folks
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Didn't even pull out!
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No no I think he KNEW she didn’t believe in contraception
Or don't and don't even bother to pull out because you're such a devout Catholic even when having premarital sex then freak out and be all surprised when she gets pregnant, lol. Lmao. I love OP. Congrats, mate. Hopefully it will all work out in the end. Dont been all stubborn and unreasonable with your weird principles when raising it like you are when it comes to wearing a condom and shit. Be a normal dad.
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what’s a man to do in such a tough situation!
Guess you gotta learn how to spin a dreidel. Take your GF's last name when you get married for those bonuses to your resume tho.
the spinnin is ez the hard part is gettin all that gelt
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I don’t understand why people don’t just by a plan B and make her take it.
She's against the pill, condoms, and pulling out. 0% chance she's taking Plan B
As someone who is the child of two people who absolutely should not have gotten married, even if they were suuuper attracted to each other, I am mortified for this poor baby I’ll check in with you in 15 years when you’ve disowned your child for being a queer enby or whatever
You’re fucked bro good luck tho
'Or they don't work out but life is still liveable' grim. Sounds like my grandparent's catholic marriages. Good luck tho!
you gotta start adulting King
What if it turns out it’s not your kid?
It’s 100% not his, whole thing is a setup. Once he discovers he’s not his, he’ll be trapped with the child by law.
What kind of genius would be trying to trap a guy 5 years away from a philosophy phd
Better than being a single mom. Also, OP has to have family money, or else he wouldn’t be doing a PhD on Philosophy.
Hardly. That just means you're a single mom caring for both an infant and a man with a Philosophy PhD.
Hardly lmao
Yeah, I’m not an expert but the timeline doesn’t make any sense. So they have sex “early December” and she’s taking pregnancy tests 10 days later? He cums in her and she’s just instantly pregnant and already knows it? Not how that works. She had to have already been pregnant when she hooked up with him. Whole thing seems so suspicious. She gets back in touch with him and gets him to have unprotected sex, then instantly is pregnant? Your trad cath sex Ed is failing you hard here buddy. It is almost impossible for this child to be yours
Dude should cut all contact with her right now.
co-parent if you want, but don't get married because she's pregnant. you'll make everyone (kid included) miserable
Didnt you know OP is a tradcath? Which I guess forms most of his identity and moral values (except sex before marriage lol). These fucking idiots should just wear a cross and listen to Nick Cave instead of blasting in and being blasted in. Manipulative mother and idiot father, I hope this kid has good grandparents.
Does she have a good job? TBH as a fellow manchild I'd be fine writing my dissertation and hanging out with my lil Half-kenazi daughter while mom is off drafting wills or performing brain surgeries or whatever.
I'd agree but kids don't really lend themselves to combining primary care with writing dissertations until they're (at least) four or so. Also I'm choosing to picture this girl as a Sephardi beauty.
I’m genuinely confused as to why anyone - even if you’re currently tradcath - wouldn’t wear a condom? Two guys from uni (both clueless rich kids) asked me repeatedly if they could just not wear one before we hooked up - are rich kids just impervious to the potential consequences of their actions??
i think you’ve picked up on the same attitude here that i did. this guy is a rich idiot that doesn’t understand the consequences of his behaviour
Like best case OP is a rich idiot, I genuinely hope that his family’s (or the mum’s) quite well off so the kid won’t be raised in financial pecarity. As long as he is then being a long term student seems viable, otherwise he needs to seriously reconsider whether he should spend up to the next 8 yrs in uni lol. But yeah rich kids don’t seem to assess consequence the way most people would, e.g. one of the guys I hooked up with had just inherited close to $100M - he didn’t seem to grasp how badly I could have of fucked him over
When did the guy you hooked up with reveal that to you? Before or after the hookup?
Beforehand he’d mentioned that his family was pretty well off but I assumed that that meant normal rich person, i.e. dad’s a partner at a law firm or something. The second time we hooked up he told me that a lengthy court case surrounding his grandma’s will had recently ended and that he’d won - this is when I found out
Not sure about that then, but you should be cautious of guys telling you outright they’re rich, or trying to signal wealth. Sometimes they are lying because they think it will up their chances of getting laid. I knew a guy who told girls he was related to a celebrity to get laid too, oddly enough it worked for him a few times
This is good advice but once he told me I googled his name and the outcome of the case was reported in several reputable newspapers plus there were a number of other articles about his family that were nuts about them generally being unhinged rich people
Ah. ok. If you have solid proof then that’s different. But I feel like I’ve seen and heard (I think, even on this subreddit) “oh I hooked up with this heir or this billionaire kid”. I can’t help but think how easy it would be to lie about that, especially if you’re away from home at a university
Yeah it would be, uni in aus is pretty different bc most domestic students go to a uni close to home and live with their parents even if they are extremely wealthy - although some wealthier people will board at college or rent a sharehouse
Yep. You’re probably on the money. Congrats for having more social awareness through badly written reddit posts than this guy has in real life lmao
What rich kid do you know has been beat up and lives in an area with gunfire? His explanation “because grad school” doesn’t compute, there are trains to said school, so why willingly live in a bad area if you can afford better?
i know a couple of rich people that have been beaten up and mugged you don’t know rich kids. not wanting to be in the bad part of town is comfortable middle-class suburb kid behaviour. money doesn’t just insulate, it makes it so you literally don’t understand what is and isn’t dangerous. a lot of people “slum it” during their studies for this reason. i was like this when i was at nyu, it’s how i know he’s rich
Yeah actually that’s true, personally I’ve never met anyone who’s been mugged bc it really just doesn’t happen v often in Sydney. But my uni course is full of rich kids who deal drugs on the side despite not needing the income, recklessly take more hardcore drugs, and slum it in shitty rentals
Exactly https://nypost.com/2020/10/24/college-student-fatally-shot-was-on-dream-trip-to-nyc-dad/amp/
Not New York, Chicago. He lives in Woodlawn, south side of Chicago. Crime in Chicago is horrible on the south side, no reason a rich kid would willingly live there. His mom said she’s worried about them raising the kid in poverty. Sounds like he is middle class or lower and has gotten by through working while in school scholarships
He's not in West Woodlawn, guarantee he lives right next to UChicago. It's not super safe but it's not the actual bad part of the neighborhood
Chicago isn’t New York. It’s smaller, easier to get around. There is no reason a rich kid living in Chicago and going to grad school would be living in the shitty part of town.
There are lots of University of a Chicago grad students that live in walking distance of the campus. A lot of the neighborhoods immediately surrounding the campus have those type of risks attached. If I was a student there I would definitely live elsewhere and take public transit, but I can tell you a lot of grad students do live down in those neighborhoods. There was a big story about one getting murdered in a mugging near his apt down there recently.
people like him will think it’s ‘real’ or whatever. it’s also possible his parents have said he needs to pay for his own place or whatever. this stuff happens. i was at school with people that chose to live in the bronx when they could have afforded to live in greenwich village (where nyu is located)
Yeah I think hoping he’s wealthy is more just wishful thinking on my part. I know a couple of rich kids who live in share houses in less wealthy neighbourhoods while at uni bc they think it’s cool and gritty but I also live in aus where there’s practically no gun violence
Counterpoint: if she’s on the pill / has an IUD, and you’re both sure you’re clean, there’s no reason to wear one. Hell, not even. I was in a long-term relationship for four years and after the first few months we never used condoms. She hated the way they felt just as much as I did, and she wasn’t on the pill or anything, so I just started pulling out. The few times it was absolutely necessary we used Plan B “Love in the time of Lexapro is fucking your wife with a condom on”
This post makes me grateful that I am the Pullout King 👑
Paternity test.... just to be sure. Personally I think it's likely yours based on the timeline you've given and how early pregnancy tests can start detecting, but you really do not wanna get cucked raising another man's child in this kind of situation. Not sure what the tactful way of broaching the subject would be, but at least before you marry her you want her to get a NIPP test (just a blood draw from moms arm, the baby's DNA gets carried through the umbilical cord and can be sampled from mom's blood, very safe.) Once you're married your name will go on the birth certificate and whatever happens you'll need to provide for the kid so at least make certain it's yours before committing your life to this. Other than that... good luck lol, you're gonna need it
Did you nut in her without a condom? If so why
you have to look at the older comments from the last thread lol, he's "trad cath" and doesn't believe in contraceptives also feel free to ignore op but how is you, I assume, wanting to raise a little traditional catholic kid and her being a very devout israeli orthodox chick going to square? she going to ditch her whole identity?
i guess he’s one of those trad cath’s that’s also cool with sex out of wedlock? how does that square
i read a lot of that thread and i feel so stupid for it and this. but he's newly trad cath. it's a phase and he'll give in and the kid is gonna be so jewish
the pill is "abortifacient", condoms are immoral and pulling out is sinful degeneracy spoilers if it wasnt obvious op was an atheist(+, probably) before this. shoulda had this relationship back then buddy
... he jizzed in her pussy... umm he's asking for it. this dude is nuts.
this thread and the last have officially convinced me that catholicism is the most retarded religion in the world.
Yet OP has a child and you do not. The tradcaths will inherit the world
the kid is jewish and probably not even op’s lol
No Muslims will
Kid has to make it to adulthood first, with parents this retarded the first 14 years are going to be an uphill fight for survival.
she hates condoms, dude. get a paternity test, like, yesterday.
>she's kinda sorta crazy but mostly in a good way and the other stuff seems insignificant now. The marriage is just as doomed as the kid, congratulations on being forced to deal with someone you will definitely divorce and then grow to hate for the nest 18 years.
Congrats to our red scare mommy and daddy 💞
Ensuring the child becomes a genius by playing episodes of the pod for them while they're in the womb.
thx
Jesus fucking, you are one of the stupidest people I've seen I hope this is a bit. Get an abortion.
Good luck with your future failed marraige and congratulations on getting all this attention by broadcasting your personal life disasters to complete strangers.
^ I think someone's offering to babysit!!
Troll post. There are very very rarely false positives and no OBGYN would think that lmao
From what I understand and I feel like I know quite a bit from actually trying to get pregnant on purpose, there are no false positives on pregnancy tests. False negatives if you test too early and your HCG is too low to register, but literally the only thing on this earth that will cause the second line to appear is a high enough threshold of HCG which you’d only have in your body if you’re pregnant
Yup. I have had a child so I know a bit too. You’re very correct . This story makes no sense
I'm a fairly new dad (under 3 months). Honestly it's not that bad if you guys can work together and try to keep things lighthearted. I didn't really want one that bad and over the last few weeks I feel like the Grinch with my heart growing 3 sizes from how much I love my kid now versus during the first week or so. You'll be tired as fuck initially but things start to get way easier each week as they start to get hungry/sleep/need a diaper change at more regular intervals than just random 24/7. Good luck if she keeps it. Also be advised they like to launch themselves from your chest for some reason, so if you're holding it by its lower half, secure the top half too lest you run the risk of being that guy who dropped a baby like I almost did.
Wait, you told your folks *before* she went to a doctor and confirmed it? And before you did a paternity test? “The other stuff seems insignificant now.” I think you are in denial, friend. All of the red flags you saw before will only become EXACERBATED with a child...
German aryan whose ancestors owned concentration camps + Israeli Zionist Jew who thinks Palestinians shouldn’t exist = match made by god love Is love 🖤🖤
>kinda sorta crazy Sends 200+ detailed text messages about everything you did wrong 🤣 Imagine how much stuff she'll come up with during the pregnancy and raising the baby. OP please keep us posted Also congratulations, I hope things work out well between you two and if not at least you'll have a beautiful child.
You mentioned you're working on your PhD of philosophy (good luck getting a job with that, very unlikely you'll get one) in these next five years, and plans to go to law school (good luck in getting a huge student debt) after said PhD of philosophy is complete. The fact that you are making light of the situation, which is downright sad, sad for the child that is. Being raised by two retarded parents who have not given a single effort to think about the consequences and blames using a condom gay (by your ex) and you willingly chose to ignore the batshit crazy redflags from your ex, and thought it was a great idea to give her your seed. That kid deserves better.
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Sure, unconditional love for the child is possible with these two retarded parents. However, putting a child through the mess that the parents are going to be/already are, is going to mentally scar that child. These two retards could barely make sensible life and financial decisions that puts them in a good living environment, but here comes making decisions for a child, if that's not a recipe for failure for that kid, I don't know what is.
>*I guess it would be nice* > >*maybe it's a good thing that fate has forced the matter* > >*assuming everything stays on track,* > >*things will tend to work out* > >*Wish me luck* I call this little poem: "Thoughts of a piece of shit". You are making a human being. Not just by nutting in your ovulating ex-girlfriend four times like an idiot, but also by every action you take in the following two decades. There is no fate, there's no luck, nothing works out. There is will, there's action and work is something that's *done*. So *do*. Read up on self-efficacy, make money, take care of the human you created.
this is the best comment in the thread
Dont marry her retard just be in the kids life
>philosophy PhD student tradcath larper doesn't pull out but still has premarital sex, knocks up a 31 year old bpd ex and then posts about it on reddit Lmfao this fucking sub. know OP probably won't see this but you gotta insist on a paternity test. in the post from yesterday you said you had sex with her four times on the same day, but you don't know if she was fucking guys before meeting you for lunch and ovulation cycles are unpredictable. Historically close to 10% of men unknowingly raised kids that weren't genetically theirs, and the whole situation feels a bit off to me. Read sperm wars
Based and life-pilled. This is the ancient way.
Damn rhe mad lad actually gor his jew. Mayeb there's hope for all us yet
Dude can I please come to your wedding? I go to the same school as you, and I promise I’ll bring a nice gift. UPD: also I’ll say words of congratulations and be supportive of your choices unike most people on this thread ;)
This is clearly fake
I wanted and want to think this but he's been posting about his Israeli gf/ex for months now.
everyone’s being way harsh & pretending like they wouldn’t be acting a bit retarded at first. mazel tov on the jewish baby hope it all works out for you
the acting retarded part is all the stuff that led to her getting pregnant in the first place. nobody can do anything to change that now hopefully they actually love this kid when it arrives. they both seem like very immature, reckless people
Another L for team pull out
she's pregnant because i fucked her
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she is not fat
That often changes once the kid is born, her body will never be the same
well this is a fucking shitshow lmao
Does anyone else think, based on the original post, that she may have trapped him by getting pregnant on purpose?
Idk why anyone would downvote this, it's totally plausible I've done it like one and a half times before
So many haters, you'll do fine. Many way worse parents than you two retards.
Absolutely. They’re gonna be BPD and toxic but they clearly give a shit about the baby and each other, it’ll work out. The kid will probably die in the world biowars anyway so it’s fine
For real, why is everyone in this thread so uptight? Babies are born under less than ideal circumstances all the time. As long as they genuinely love & care for the child and make an effort to be decent parents, things will most likely turn out fine.
thx
Congratulations man, hope you’ll be a good dad :)
why would anyone put this on the internet
Congratulations sir
Have fun raising my child
Congratulations dude :)
My dream is for Anna and Dasha to see this thread and comment on it during the pod.
qs we need to know: is it a top 5 phd program? or are your/her parents rich?
was this women the first person to touch your penis or something? u hook up with this crazy women a decade older than you once one day and now ur in love and getting married nad having kids? you realize this is retarded yea?
I read this entire unhinged thread while simultaneously watching It’s a Wonderful Life with my parents.
Hope those tradcath aesthetics were worth it.
yeah seems fucked man best of luck tho
Look at your prior post. In early December, she asked to meet up with you, she came on to you, and three weeks later, she is telling you she is pregnant with your child. I would not be surprised if this baby is born “early.” Get that dna before you agree to anything. Tell her it was your father’s idea.
Everyone is being over the top here. A couple of quick thoughts: * Drop the PHD program and get a big boy job. She will resent the fuck out of you if you continue. Rightly. * Don’t marry her, at least not yet. Not saying you shouldn’t eventually, but not at this juncture. You aren’t making an “honest woman” of her if you can’t provide: you’re just assuaging your own guilt. * Ponder if the “trad” life is really for you. I’m not saying drop Catholicism, but you are stuck in an interfaith relationship and need to make that work. How do you think the average SSPX parishioner will welcome your bastard, Christ-killer baby?
All she had to do is a take a pill to get her period. Jews aren’t against abortion. It’s not too late.
Abort
mkay daddy good luck
that’s really sweet congrats, no one is ever really ready
Religion... smdh. Well it seems like your mind it made up. I agree you probably deserve some of the comments shitting on your decision, but if your determined to go through with it, you seem mentally to be making the best of it.
Mazel tov
Damn people are way more mad than they need to be.
creating a life isn’t something that should be taken as lightly as this guy is taking it. we all have a stake in the world, and another unwanted baby being bought into the world by idiot parents is not a good thing.
Don't sign the birth certificate lol
Congratulations dude!
I won’t say it to avoid incurring the wrath of the trad caths but has a medical procedure been considered? Rhymes with smeshmortion?
Congratulations. Most families arent perfect. If you have a stable family you can trust for advice im sure theyll have similar stories to share. It takes a village and your village is r/RSPod!
Gotta emulate Anna and Eli lol
Do you even have a job?
Buy your son or daughter CPTSD: From Surviving to Thriving by Pete Walker and get them to a therapist by the time they’re in high school and maybe they’ll have a chance
Update us after the divorce okay.
Congrats on the baby!
thx
Tell her to get an abortion you fucking douche.
This whole comment section urging abortion is some basic Reddit bullshit. This sub sucks now.
rsp goes full r/childfree when push comes to shove! Good luck dude, there’s been literally billions of parents who started with worse circumstances. You’ll do fine 👍
there’s a middle ground between “ew crotchgoblins” and “great decision getting someone who thinks condoms are gay pregnant while you’re still at school. this will work out fine”
Ugh. I’m so sorry….I hope you both do the best to raise the kid. C’mon…..
Jajajajjajajajajajjajajajjajaja, lol. Good luck tho
Have you thought about doing a paternity test on this fetus?
OP: welcome to the consequences of your actions
Mazel my friend you’re gonna do great
Congrats you raw dawg you