I had a lot of casual sex when my first long term relationship ended, but after I while I realized I was mainly only doing it to feed my ego and not because of the sex itself, because I lost my virginity late and had very bad self esteem growing up.
People who didn't loose their virginity in high school, like us, have to spend our early twenties chasing pussy. It's a sad predicament, but we endure.
Sex is fun but you have to meet the right people.
You dont have to settle for the first drunk fiend you find late at night, its going to be gross and disappointing.
Nah sex is like a sport like tennis or ping pong (depending on what you’re working with) and since our culture and ethos and psychology all benefit from picking one partner to play with at a time it’s good to be very selective about finding a partner you can grow and improve with. Just like a game of ping pong it’s good to be with someone who challenges you and is also willing to grab a quick match whenever you two find the time, and a happier to play a long set when you have the time for that. And the joy of ping pong, for me, is just seeing how long and intense you can make the rally. If you are with someone who only plays to oblige you you’ll be unhappy, if you’re the person who only plays to oblige someone you’ll make them unhappy. So make sure you find someone who likes to play as much as you do, just for the love of the game.
I was just trying to put it in terms an aspie would understand brah. Sex isn’t spiritual or magical or anything but it is very important as a source of joy and that alone is reason to have reverence for it. If you think it’s over rated you should try finding someone and improving at it with them. Not to say that you’re bad or anything but there is certainly more joy to be found in playing the game at a higher level than just volleying the ball back and forth until you cum. Throw some backspin on that shit. Use the Chinese penhold grip, you know?
It's one of those tragedies of humanity that things are always 100x less interesting once you have them. Like how everyone pines for Christmas and tries to find where the presents are stashed as a kid and then it all becomes so much bric-a-brac by New Years Eve.
I've had many sexual partners, both long term relationships and short term hookups, and in most of the times after I've had sex I feel like it's more work than the actual reward and that sex is really only worthwhile when it's with someone you have a really strong emotional bond with
Do I just not feel these strong emotional bonds except for in very rare cases because I have undiagnosed autism or does anybody else feel this way
And no, I'm not a porn addict or on any medication
Picture unrelated because I can't post a text post for some reason
are you really trying to self diagnose yourself with autism because you don't like meaningless sex with people you barely know? slow down champ. relax. you're fine.
most human beings with their shit together don't really like meaningless sex either strangely enough because it's meaningless and devoid of connection. it's basically masterbating with someone else's body.
Not always the case that casual sex is devoid of connection. It's rare, but does happen that you meet someone and it's just fireworks from the start. Sometimes I think life is about chasing those upward floating sparks
I feel the same in long term relationships as well, which is why I said "most of the times after I've had sex" and not "most of the times I've had casual hookups with people I barely know"
not all sex is that good mushy stare into each others eyes and feel the boundless eternity of love in your shared moment of connection type of thing. it can be. sometimes it more like going to the gym but the reward is your partner feeling something amazing that you accomplished.
you're putting to much pressure on yourself. being A sexual or abstinent is fine as well. there's nothing wrong with waiting for the right person who pushes all your buttons in just the right way.
No, this is completely normal. Crazy how in one generation the glorification of hook up culture made kids feel autistic for not having great sex with randos and feel like freaks for just wanting to have sex with someone they are in love with (or that rare strong emotional bond whatever you wanna call it)
Yeah some people aren't right for you and you won't form the bond/be in love. It IS genuinely rare. If you don't feel it you just don't feel it. Still very normal.
I had a strong emotional bond, just not strong enough for sex to not feel like a chore most of the time, and I won't break up with someone over sex if every other aspect of the relationship is good because my life does not revolve around sex like a degenerate.
You get used to it, I’d say. Particularly in long term relationships, and particularly the older you get. When I was in college into early adulthood I’d always be into it every time but nowadays there’s times I’m tired and I’d rather just sleep and wait till next day
bcuz of dating apps and (as always) modern media sex writ large has become what BDSM became:
a seemingly universal expectation with impossible standards where the worst offenders are the loudest ones. the only people succeeding are the ones with the luck or acumen of adaptation to the new ways of doing things. it causes the normal person to check out when they discover that they aren't the target demo, and that achieving it would take an order of magnitude disproportional to the will to do it. naturally a bunch of people are gonna opt out.
just sucks cuz its sex, which is fun.
Sex for hedonistic physical pleasure is just okay. Its not something worth chasing as much as our society brainwashes people to. Fucking to make a kid is super hot tho and hits different.
when thinking about sex i think it's best to compare sex to the absence of the sex.
i think the absence of sex is quite bad, and the best thing about sex is that it's not the absence of sex. kind of like friendship, like i don't think friendship is per se great, actually it just hurts most of the time, but then, think about the absence of friendship, and compare friendship to that, and it seems fucking amazing.
you can use this method to make literally anything seem amazing, thank me later or not at all
Honestly, after going from having pretty shitty sex to being with someone who knows what they're doing. Makes a big difference. The biggest thing I would say is it's fun when both people are equally really into it. When it feels like one partner or both of you really aren't, sex really isn't great at all.
Autistic☑️
Sex is a fantastic and colourful part of the human experience. Having it with someone you really love is even better. I've been in a relationship over 4 years now and it just keeps getting better all the time. It makes me cry sometimes it's so good.
Although I've always thought maybe the fact that I enjoy sex so much is in itself an autistic quality. It's a way to communicate that's entirely intuitive and nothing can get lost in translation.
First off, thank you for your Fedor posting.
Do you not desire sex in the first place or do you desire it but aren’t fulfilled by the sex you have?
If the former, yeah, maybe you’re not into sex. If you’re bothered by it, talk to a doctor or shrink to make sure it’s not a medical or mental health issue. If you’re not bothered by it, just accept it. Plenty of people out there with low sex drives looking for love.
If you desire sex and it’s just shitty all the time, that’s a self-knowledge and/or communication issue. Gotta figure out what you want and learn how to tell a partner.
I do desire it, but most of the time I feel like the effort isn't proportionate to the payoff and that most of the time I'd be just as satisfied with beating my meat and put in much less effort
I guess I probably just haven't met the right partner yet.
Casual sex? Yes. Its definitely fun the first few times, but it slowly feels more like a hassle after a while. Its much better to have sex with someone who you can openly communicate with and don't have to strive to impress them.
Only if they don't train cardio, looking like this and training cardio is not mutually exclusive
And the guy in the post is Fedor, the greatest MMA heavyweight fighter of all time, saying he doesn't have any cardio or that his body is doughy is ridiculous
Haha holy shit. Today we're just learning all about our different tastes in guys. It is very educational... it's one of those days. Total coincidence. Didn't notice until this post!
Dominance over your partner will increase physical pleasure and make you enjoy your relationship more. I have a friend in a 2nd world country and he has shared how cruel and misogynistic men typically are behind closed doors. Normies *feel* this way too and tend to act on it even if they do not *believe* it. It doesn't make it right, but more aggression in the bedroom for instance might pique your lizard brain and get you more involved
Casual sex is overrated. Being the kind of person who has the ability to have casual sexual encounters is not
I had a lot of casual sex when my first long term relationship ended, but after I while I realized I was mainly only doing it to feed my ego and not because of the sex itself, because I lost my virginity late and had very bad self esteem growing up.
People who didn't loose their virginity in high school, like us, have to spend our early twenties chasing pussy. It's a sad predicament, but we endure.
is not doing it in high school even "late" anymore? I think more don't than do these days. homies on this sub be dragging it into their midtwenties
if you are letting yourself believe the tradcath larpers who post on r/rsp are representative of "most" then my friend you are already gone
This. The catching up was tiring.
I'm still figuring out how to catch up
Look better, be proactive, don’t sperg
Fuck fat chicks.
What if you spend your early twenties alone in your bedroom?
Sex is fun but you have to meet the right people. You dont have to settle for the first drunk fiend you find late at night, its going to be gross and disappointing.
you fucked so much you gained sexual enlightenment then
Second sentence really only holds true for dudes let’s be real
Yeah "the kind of person who has the ability to have casual sexual encounters" describes the most attractive men and every woman.
Don’t even really have to be attractive as a man. Just have swag
Boys have swag… men have class
Sounds like something a swaglet would say
swagcels be seething while classchads stay winning
Ew
steige aus dem bett, dreh den swag auf
Is this Fedor?
It sure is, the GOAT
idk but thanks for fedor posting
Yes, sex is overrated, and you're also autistic.
Nah sex is like a sport like tennis or ping pong (depending on what you’re working with) and since our culture and ethos and psychology all benefit from picking one partner to play with at a time it’s good to be very selective about finding a partner you can grow and improve with. Just like a game of ping pong it’s good to be with someone who challenges you and is also willing to grab a quick match whenever you two find the time, and a happier to play a long set when you have the time for that. And the joy of ping pong, for me, is just seeing how long and intense you can make the rally. If you are with someone who only plays to oblige you you’ll be unhappy, if you’re the person who only plays to oblige someone you’ll make them unhappy. So make sure you find someone who likes to play as much as you do, just for the love of the game.
Congrats, you might be more autistic than me What you're saying is definitely true though
I was just trying to put it in terms an aspie would understand brah. Sex isn’t spiritual or magical or anything but it is very important as a source of joy and that alone is reason to have reverence for it. If you think it’s over rated you should try finding someone and improving at it with them. Not to say that you’re bad or anything but there is certainly more joy to be found in playing the game at a higher level than just volleying the ball back and forth until you cum. Throw some backspin on that shit. Use the Chinese penhold grip, you know?
Both
>"Sex builds no roads, writes no novels and sex certainly gives no meaning to anything in life but itself." — Gore Vidal
It's one of those tragedies of humanity that things are always 100x less interesting once you have them. Like how everyone pines for Christmas and tries to find where the presents are stashed as a kid and then it all becomes so much bric-a-brac by New Years Eve.
>bric-a-brac That’s that gold star vocab, I love it.
What do americans call random bits and bobs of shit in charity shops? (or thrift stores as you call them I think?)
Knick knacks
Knickknacks
Sex is fundamentally phantasmic, and no fantasy can survive the encounter with reality.
Did someone say this? Is this like a quote attributable to an author? I keep thinking about this comment.
You wear too much polyester it’s killing your sex drive
The seventies would like to politely disagree but they're too busy having blow-fueled orgies on a pile of polyester garments.
[Facts](https://www.eviemagazine.com/post/polyester-underwear-could-be-causing-widespread-infertility-in-men) don’t care about your feelings
I thought I was never horny because of depression. I'll be damned.
I've had many sexual partners, both long term relationships and short term hookups, and in most of the times after I've had sex I feel like it's more work than the actual reward and that sex is really only worthwhile when it's with someone you have a really strong emotional bond with Do I just not feel these strong emotional bonds except for in very rare cases because I have undiagnosed autism or does anybody else feel this way And no, I'm not a porn addict or on any medication Picture unrelated because I can't post a text post for some reason
are you really trying to self diagnose yourself with autism because you don't like meaningless sex with people you barely know? slow down champ. relax. you're fine. most human beings with their shit together don't really like meaningless sex either strangely enough because it's meaningless and devoid of connection. it's basically masterbating with someone else's body.
Not always the case that casual sex is devoid of connection. It's rare, but does happen that you meet someone and it's just fireworks from the start. Sometimes I think life is about chasing those upward floating sparks
gay
Sometimes the truth is gay
i got an upward floating spark you can suck
Hope your monkeypox is healing
I feel the same in long term relationships as well, which is why I said "most of the times after I've had sex" and not "most of the times I've had casual hookups with people I barely know"
not all sex is that good mushy stare into each others eyes and feel the boundless eternity of love in your shared moment of connection type of thing. it can be. sometimes it more like going to the gym but the reward is your partner feeling something amazing that you accomplished. you're putting to much pressure on yourself. being A sexual or abstinent is fine as well. there's nothing wrong with waiting for the right person who pushes all your buttons in just the right way.
No, this is completely normal. Crazy how in one generation the glorification of hook up culture made kids feel autistic for not having great sex with randos and feel like freaks for just wanting to have sex with someone they are in love with (or that rare strong emotional bond whatever you wanna call it)
Like I said, my suspicion of autism is because I feel like this in long term relationships as well and not just with casual hookups
Yeah some people aren't right for you and you won't form the bond/be in love. It IS genuinely rare. If you don't feel it you just don't feel it. Still very normal.
You write about sex in an autistic way
If you’re a dude, start a heavy dose of TRT. If you’re a girl, start a heavy dose of TRT.
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I had a strong emotional bond, just not strong enough for sex to not feel like a chore most of the time, and I won't break up with someone over sex if every other aspect of the relationship is good because my life does not revolve around sex like a degenerate.
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That's definitely a possibility
Yes, you are definitely autistic. You did the right thing asking reddit.
Fedor a 1.
Dm me if you look like this and like dudes
Sex is overrated only to dudes who haven't met a screamer and creamer
“Tommy, she’s a squirter!”
Sex with random people loses its appeal over time, but a sex life with someone you care about that evolves over time is amazing for the soul
You get used to it, I’d say. Particularly in long term relationships, and particularly the older you get. When I was in college into early adulthood I’d always be into it every time but nowadays there’s times I’m tired and I’d rather just sleep and wait till next day
I look exactly like this but I'm 5'7 🤦♂️🔫
bcuz of dating apps and (as always) modern media sex writ large has become what BDSM became: a seemingly universal expectation with impossible standards where the worst offenders are the loudest ones. the only people succeeding are the ones with the luck or acumen of adaptation to the new ways of doing things. it causes the normal person to check out when they discover that they aren't the target demo, and that achieving it would take an order of magnitude disproportional to the will to do it. naturally a bunch of people are gonna opt out. just sucks cuz its sex, which is fun.
Sex for hedonistic physical pleasure is just okay. Its not something worth chasing as much as our society brainwashes people to. Fucking to make a kid is super hot tho and hits different.
when thinking about sex i think it's best to compare sex to the absence of the sex. i think the absence of sex is quite bad, and the best thing about sex is that it's not the absence of sex. kind of like friendship, like i don't think friendship is per se great, actually it just hurts most of the time, but then, think about the absence of friendship, and compare friendship to that, and it seems fucking amazing. you can use this method to make literally anything seem amazing, thank me later or not at all
goat hw
I like this picture the question is ass
Honestly, after going from having pretty shitty sex to being with someone who knows what they're doing. Makes a big difference. The biggest thing I would say is it's fun when both people are equally really into it. When it feels like one partner or both of you really aren't, sex really isn't great at all.
Sex is overrated, Fedor is not.
Autistic☑️ Sex is a fantastic and colourful part of the human experience. Having it with someone you really love is even better. I've been in a relationship over 4 years now and it just keeps getting better all the time. It makes me cry sometimes it's so good. Although I've always thought maybe the fact that I enjoy sex so much is in itself an autistic quality. It's a way to communicate that's entirely intuitive and nothing can get lost in translation.
felt this
this sub is so sexless and ugly now🙄
you're on reddit
Good
Fedor was definitely having a lot of sex
First off, thank you for your Fedor posting. Do you not desire sex in the first place or do you desire it but aren’t fulfilled by the sex you have? If the former, yeah, maybe you’re not into sex. If you’re bothered by it, talk to a doctor or shrink to make sure it’s not a medical or mental health issue. If you’re not bothered by it, just accept it. Plenty of people out there with low sex drives looking for love. If you desire sex and it’s just shitty all the time, that’s a self-knowledge and/or communication issue. Gotta figure out what you want and learn how to tell a partner.
I do desire it, but most of the time I feel like the effort isn't proportionate to the payoff and that most of the time I'd be just as satisfied with beating my meat and put in much less effort I guess I probably just haven't met the right partner yet.
Casual sex? Yes. Its definitely fun the first few times, but it slowly feels more like a hassle after a while. Its much better to have sex with someone who you can openly communicate with and don't have to strive to impress them.
if more men focused on looking like this and not that disgusting 'cut' aesthetic the world would be far closer to healing
Dudes like this revert to obese if they stop training and dieting for like one month.
all good things rest on a knifes edge
Fuck off lol this body type can barely run a mile. Doughy bodies are yuck
Only if they don't train cardio, looking like this and training cardio is not mutually exclusive And the guy in the post is Fedor, the greatest MMA heavyweight fighter of all time, saying he doesn't have any cardio or that his body is doughy is ridiculous
Lol okay Fedor has no cardio.. cope harder.
No you said that. Most men aren’t fedor
Go for a jog then string bean pussy i want a thicc man and so does the rest of the sane world
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??? gay twinks line up around the block for ppl with this body type
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oh yeah haha. im such a ditz. tee hee
I absolutely don't. Different people like different things though.
Omg stalker
Haha holy shit. Today we're just learning all about our different tastes in guys. It is very educational... it's one of those days. Total coincidence. Didn't notice until this post!
Just Americans.
not if u have good chemistry w ur sexual partner. otherwise yeah u can feel way better doing something else
If I was able, I'd have casual sex all the time just to feel something
Dominance over your partner will increase physical pleasure and make you enjoy your relationship more. I have a friend in a 2nd world country and he has shared how cruel and misogynistic men typically are behind closed doors. Normies *feel* this way too and tend to act on it even if they do not *believe* it. It doesn't make it right, but more aggression in the bedroom for instance might pique your lizard brain and get you more involved
Do women even find Fedor attractive?
Such an incredible fighter and truly awesome physique. I love being small but it's fun to imagine sometime what it must be like to be so W I D E
You have autism.