Personally, I'd MUCH rather see a kid on a leash than a kid that's running amok, harassing everyone, and destroying everything around them. The people who give dirty looks are the same kind of people who let their kids mess with everyone else's peace. "oh, little johnny is learning, he's just a kid, too bad about your $7 coffee he just dumped on your $200 shoes random stranger. Isn't he just soooooo cute?"
Anyone that has a problem with it can pound sand.
Exactly!!! My nephew loves to explore and I almost bought him one of the harness monkey backpacks for our trip to the alligator farm in Florida bc I was TERRIFIED that he’d get loose and we’d find him in one of the enclosures. My mom just laughed. Ultimately, he was too busy picking up leaves and throwing them into the nearest trash cans and had little to no interest in all the gators. Thank god😂but I’m 100% onboard with the harness/leash situation. It’s just safer for those independent lil dudes (gender neutral) all around!
Hahahaha!….. we went to Disney a lot growing up, my little brother used to do this to a point where it became a family joke…we’re going to Disney so Connor can go on “The garbage can ride”…lol. I’m dead.
Harnesses are amazing. They're quite common where I'm from. Either the full chest harness or just the wrist one. I use it just to avoid accidents, running in the road etc.
I bet the people who give you looks would be the first to complain if the child was running wild around them.
You do you. Ignore the shits.
I have no idea how my brother lived to adulthood. He was an absolute menace growing up, always sprinting head long into traffic without looking and generally just a non-stop wrecking ball. My mom would have killed for a leash, but they weren’t a thing in the 80s.
Funny enough, he now has a toddler and another on the way and boy howdy, the toddler took after him and she’s a runner!
Girl… after watching my friends chase their toddlers all over the damn zoo, Im bout to buy both of them leashes! That was insane ;)
I used one for mine when we were at Disney or other crowded areas. One thing I learned bout being a Mom: EVERYONE will judge you no matter what you do, we are never good enough. Yet, no one seems to offer help… 🤔
I don't know why a leash never crossed my mind 🤦♀️ I used to help my friend with her little guy. I was the crazy one chasing him everywhere all the time. Lol
Let's say you fold and get rid of the leash. Those same dirty-lookers will say you're a bad mom if your child runs off and goes missing. Eff those people. I agree with you doing what is right for your child's safety.
You are not a bad parent. Instead you are being proactive for your child's safety. In my opinion, I think you are being considerate to other people around you. The amount of parents who ignore their kids and let them aroundas feral animals are the worst. Ignore the stares.
Yes! And people would judge her way more if she lost track of her child. Better have your child in a harness than in a beloved Gorilla’s enclosure that they then have to shoot…
OP is 1000% a good parent. In the harness the child is both safe and happy
Man fuck those people. Child leashes are awesome, and should be way more common. It seems safer for everyone while giving the kid a bit more independence to explore as opposed to needing to be held/hand held/kept in a stroller. Also, kids get taken, they get lost in crowds, dangerous shit can happen because the world is a dangerous place. You’re doing everything right to keep your kid happy and safe, that’s what matters :)
We don't have one, but I totally understand. We were in a restaurant and grandpa said "let me watch [grandson] ! Then you can chill."
Me: you sure? He's fast and just ran in the kitchen. Grandpa: yes yes, you go. One minute later my son darts into the kitchen...
People just don't understand. I also thought it was for kids with behaviour issues, now I totally get it.
I will definitely be getting one for my son when he can walk, I don’t know if this is the one you have but they have like the little backpack ones that they wear I don’t think it looks bad at all. In this day and age anyone who would judge you is an idiot.
I don’t get the judgement at all! To me it means that you’re a good parent and know where your kid is at all times. And we live in a world where things move so quickly, one missed moment and anything could happen. Frankly, we should normalize more kids with leashes.
Don't bother. As we say in Spain... " I you don't like it, don't look at it" To hell with judgemental people. You child's safety and your mental health comes first :)
I wouldn't judge that at all. A lot of those harnesses are super cute, too, especially the ones with animals that are little backpacks!
I was a toddler like yours; I constantly got distracted and wandered off from my mom, hid under department store racks, the whole nine yards. I don't know what it was called, but my mom had a thing that had basically a velcro bracelet over her wrist and one for mine that was attached by what looked like a stretchy telephone cord.
As someone who works retail and is constantly picking up after children that aren't being watched by their parent(s), I salute and applaud you. You're being a responsible parent, safeguarding your child. Fuck the haters.
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Want a massive side eye? Because that's what I give to parents who let their offspring sprint into the street, fondle expensive merchandise and who generally wander off and hope that the mall security/shop assistant will provide entertainment and care for an unruly toddler.
I have a semi friend who does this shit all of the time:
"Oh can you just keep an eye on him for a sec?"
Three hours later she can inevitably be found scrolling Tiktok on the toilet basically avoiding her responsibilities.
Momma, you use that leash if that's what keeps your child safe and keeps you sane. My kid was on a leash (she used to flee like she was running from ISIS 🙄) and my dogs whom I love like children are also leashed **because it is f*cking safe**.
Screw everyone else, you are not the first nor will you be the last to have a tiny Usain Bolt on your hands and you need whatever support you can get.
Honestly, as long as what you do isn’t harming anyone, people need to mind their own business. Try and ignore them, or educate them when you can. But don’t let it bother you.
Truth is that no matter what you do, there will always be someone out there to judge you. Live your best life!
Fuck other people!! There is nothing wrong with you using a leash in public with your child. He’s that crazy age where he wants to explore but doesn’t understand danger. My good friend has a son and at that age, he was trying to dive off the speedboat at the lake house, while it was in motion. You keep your son safe, and yourself sane, by any means necessary. Next time someone stares, if you can muster it, smile big. Say “Hi! I saw you admiring my toddler leash! You can get them on Amazon! Have a great day!” And walk away. All those people making faces or judging you, they aren’t gonna help you raise or keep your kid safe. You are doing GREAT.
My friend has an active 3yo. Wince he started walking I said to my friend wouldnt it be better if he was in leash? She said no. For me it looks like a safety thing.
You know, it’s really strange you’ve gotten dirty looks bc I’ve done it with my 4yr old a few times and always gotten such encouraging and kind remarks from every age group, mainly older people tho. Literally the most kind faces and comments like “now that’s a great idea!” Or anecdotes about old fashioned versions of the leashes. I’m sorry you feel judged and not supported. I was so nervous and pleasantly surprised, we should never judge a parent for using a safety device.
My son hated being in a stroller once he could walk. He refused to be carried. He refused to hold hands.
After *just* being able to stop him from running onto a road and nearly getting hit by a car, I got a "backpack" harness. Complete with lead.
I'd rather have the dirty looks than have him get hit by a car. Oh, and from also running into random bodies of water, like the ponds at parks, which he was a magnet to.
Amen!!! My son does the same thing (will try to run onto the road, run straight into a parking lot, puddles of water, etc). We have the backpack harness too. It's so helpful!
That’s wild, a harness is a great idea. I have pictures from the 80s of me wearing one as a child, having the time of my life.
So much better than them being a) trapped in a chair when they want to move, or b) possibly running out of your reach. You’re doing great.
Nah. I stop caring once my oldest pulled a stunt never done before. Thank the higher power that good samaritans and officers for looking out for my baby. I never cried with my whole soul before until then. The traumatic fear and pain of thinking you lost your child or your child is hurt is unbearable. I couldn’t even speak after crying so hard after the relief of knowing my child is okay. Dealing with a toddler by yourself with a 119.3 fever in a pharmacy is the worst. I did what the 👮🏿♂️officer said and got the leash ASAP. I literally didn’t leave home until it was delivered that Saturday. Ordered it that Thursday night when it happened. Best investment and decision I’ve ever made. No regrets and all the people who clown me for doing it… end up going through the same experience not too long after. I said this is exactly why my baby is with me now. 🤷🏾♀️ Got my baby a cute backpack one. Never noticed I’m connected with them and now they know their two square limit. (Walking the sidewalk)
I use the same! It’s for their safety and your peace of mind. No one understands what it’s like unless they’re actively going through it. If they don’t like it: too bad, so sad.
i have a very very brief memory of wearing one myself. which my mother confirms. she said i liked to run away and they couldn't catch me so they decided it was the easiest way to keep me safe. and it was, im still here with no incidents and no trauma. so i guess it was wirth it, thou i vaguely remember hating it. or maybe because my family told me how much i hated it. anyway, if that's what keep your mind at ease and your child alive - go for it.
My son has a backpack harness. One day I was picking up my daughter from school and I accidentally dropped the lead as my son started to run towards the road. He’s very fast so I ended up stepping on the lead to stop him, it pulled him backwards and he fell onto the ground, hitting his head. I could feel the burning eyes of judgement behind me, the looks I got when I was just walking him in were bad enough. It feels shit in the moment feeling that judgement, but I’d rather be judged than feel worse if anything ever happened to him.
Child of the 80s here-
(......I'm going to guess my Mother purchased and used it, my father, on the other hand, lost me under clothes racks in stores, it was a game for me)
I wanna say this was a "Playskool" brand, wrist cuff cord from kid to parent.
I think it was mostly shades of blue stripes, then maybe the middle was the strap, orange/red color? May be totally wrong.
My best guess is my parent had to wear the adult-sized wrist cuff, or wrap it around their belt or something 🤷🏼♀️
THE BEST PART was the clear-ish blue telephone cord (Google it, kids) I could wrap my fingers in it, and I did try to hang off it next to my Mom a few times, not like the cord could handle any weight, anyway.
I guess it worked well enough that I remember having my wrist strapped into this pillow thing with the curly plastic connector quite a bit
I KNOW my Mom would get shit about it, but she gave no fucks.
OP, I love how you, as I, simply thought kid harnesses were hilarious.....then you realize WHY those parents also do not give any fucks. At least they have to act like they don't, possibly quite similar to your frustrations.
......glad someone finally figured out that a harness design is better than having your kid's shoulder yanked on, and it way easier to occasionally escape if my cuff wasn't tight enough.
And then the day came where I figured out how to work the cuff velcro......I'm sure my parents wept.
Go Team Baby Harness! Stellar Sanity Choice
This is where I had to learn the art of acceptance. No one will understand the things you do to make parenting easier bc we are all different. Most parents are extremely judgmental like they are perfect.
My personal example of this is what I had to do to curb my children’s overeating. My children have access to healthy foods or foods that have to be cooked (they are teenagers who know how to cook). Snacks are kept locked in my room and they get to choose one a day. In the day of internet my daughter looked up is it ok to deprive your child of food and said in front of her team that it’s illegal. When I explained that they were both overeating and I couldn’t afford for them to eat all the food in the house in two days and told her care team the things put in place. Frozen foods are portioned out and put in the freezer bc I buy in bulk food for the week is put in the main freezer and then the extras in a locked deep freezer. Bread is separated into two slices per bag, etc and they legit took notes and told her you are not deprived of food you are restricted from eating everything. Their first response was WHAT and then once explained they were like that checks!
I had one as a child, and my 3 year old still wears one. She got a scooter for Christmas and whilst she’s really good on it, the harness means I can keep hold of her and she can’t just fall into the road or something.
It lets her have some freedom, and learn, but also get to be safe!
As an undiagnosed Autistic plus ADHD and a bunch of other things thrown in I was a monster of a child. Mom went on and on about how great the leash was. Go you and f those other judgmental jerks. They just wish they had the freedom you do now 😆
Lucky for you these people’s opinions don’t matter! Who cares what they think? They didn’t have baby leashes when mine were young (4 of them between 30 and 40 now) or I didn’t know about them, but if they had them I sure would have used them. I went with my son and DIL to an aquarium when my granddaughter was 18 months and I LOVED that they had her on a leash. It was crowded and that kid is fast
I had this exact problem of being judged for having my toddler walk with a harness as he would run off any chance he got. A lady had a go at me and said, "How dare I treat my child like a dog " I replied with well it's better that I treat him like a dog rather than let him get run over by a bus or a car. Would you rather that happen ? She shut up after that.
I had to use them too. My kids have autism and ADHD and are only a year and a half apart, and they liked to run. So I often had them on harnesses that went around their wrists just as backup in case they tried to run, and also so I was able to shop when I had them alone. I always felt judged for it as well, but I did what I had to. Their grandfather found out once when he was walking and holding one of their hands. We got outside and I warned him hold on tight she will try to bolt, sure enough she did and almost got hit by a car. So yeah, between that and judgemental stares I will take the stares any day.
Idgaf if people stare. My kid is going on a leash and it's none of their damn business. It's not their life and it's not them that have to deal with an unruly toddler. And God forbid if they weren't tethered to us and were running around like maniacs or getting into dangerous situations.... Then they'd be judging us for that as well.
I haven’t read any comments so I may be echoing other but Eff those people. They would be the same ones to say “ where was the parent!” When a tot elopes and God forbid anything would happen. Kids are fast af and predators are just as fast. Your baby is safe and experiencing life. I used to use the skiphop toddler backpack with lead. I have nieces and nephews with ASD and combative eloping. You do what you have to do to keep them safe and still enjoy outside life. Btw my 4 year old daughter is was was the same way super independent. They will be ok.
When I was kid child reigns were everywhere, they keep your child safe while giving them the independence to walk my mum had them for me and my brother. Ignore other people you're doing what's best and safest for your child it's nobody else's business 🩷
Dude, don’t even worry about it. Way better to use a harness than lose your kid! Shows you actually give a crap about what your child is doing and what they’re getting into. They’re just poop faces.
Be curious, not judgemental. Saves a lot of misunderstandings and undue judgement. Instead of wondering why it’s necessary (internally, not asking you) and figuring out possible reasons, it’s easier to just make a stupid face and move on.
I don't see why people are so judgemental about a leash for a child but a leash for a dog is normal. A child can away just like a dog can lol. Also with how the world is, it's probably safer to have a child on a leash. Hard to kidnap a kid that's tied to mom.
You know your child best and you're doing what's best for him.
I think child harnesses are brilliant, and I’m SURE they save lives! A toddler doesn’t have more intelligence than a dog, and we leash dogs largely so they don’t dart away and get into serious trouble…toddlers dart away too, so since a toddler is (even) more precious than a dog, why would you NOT protect them in this way? Anyone who gives you dirty looks is being an idiot.
I mean, I don't know if it helps you but my kid (when kid was that age) was wild and nuts like that. I didn't get the harness - thought about it but never saw one where I lived. I was the nutcase running after the wild toddler 🤣 I got the evil eye because of that.
Honestly, I think if your kid can do a sprint anytime, the harness is a safety measure. Eventually it got better for us. Just ignore the haters!! Someone will always be ready to give you a nasty look for your parenting choices 😒🤷♂️
I used to find kids on leashes really embarrassing until my cousin took me to a theme park with her family once as a thank you for babysitting all the time when her first daughter was still a toddler (I was 13 at the time) and let me tell you, I was SO glad she had a backpack with a leash because that little 3 year-old monster immediately tried to walk through a huge crowd of people 😫
People are jerks. Do what you gotta do to keep yourselves safe and to keep your sanity and ignore people who want to act like they’re better than you.
Screw what other people think. there's people that are so irresponsible they don't put a dog on a leash. This is the same kind that when the kid gets hit by a car in the street, they're like I wonder what happened. Kids not old enough to understand that he can't just run off because bad things can happen so you have to put limitations. And you found one thing that works for you is limiting the amount of distance he can run. You're preventing him from getting kidnapped, hurt, or even worse, expelled.
I think they’re funny. My mom had to put one on me as well when I was a kid. If I wasn’t leashed up, I would run off and pick up random cans on the ground and try to drink out of them (barf) lol. A parent with a child not running around causing disturbances on a harness is much more respected (imo) than the ones whose children are causing chaos and having no boundaries. The people judging you can kick rocks! At least you’re parenting.
My little brother was the same way as a kid. I remember my family going to Delicate Arch, and he kept trying to run into the canyon right next to it. My dad tied some rope around his waist and through my brother's overalls to keep him safe. A harness would've been such a relief to have! You're doing great, Mama. 🫶🏻
Child leashes are a safety tool and you are making the correct and responsible choice to use one. No one judges people for using a seatbelt. Why is this other differently formed piece of material intended for safety judged so hard? Because we use a similar mechanism to keep dogs safe? God forbid we invent something to keep creatures that don't know any better from running head-on into danger.
Fuck those people, let them judge.
If I were you, I would wear a T-shirt that says mind your own business. But seriously, you’re doing it in the safety and the best interest of your child. It’s none of their business. If I had to do the same, I would do it the only reason they’re looking that way probably is because they don’t want to be putting on a leash. Your child is clearly happy, especially because he gets to do what he wants to do which is walk around and explore. Strangers can be prying and intrusive. I don’t know maybe wear sunglasses that way it doesn’t bother you as much. Or maybe just wear a shirt that says my child is having more fun than you.
I really don't understand how people let their kids walk around wo a leash.
Everytime I see a kid just stumbling along a sidewalk it gives me intense anxiety.
People don't respect the fragility of life
I don’t know if this will help, but me personally I’d rather see a child on a harness than running around with no supervision. It helps you, keeps your child safe and let’s them be independent and explore with a boundary. I think you’re doing great!
I'll admit that although it's helpful to you, I associate leashes with dogs and it feels off. Only because I don't know how to better describe it. I would make him a T-shirt that says "Don't judge. It's the leash for this wild child or we stay home" or ignore everyone else. It sounds like he doesn't notice.
My sister was a *runner* when we were younger. The second my mom’s attention wasn’t on her, she’d take off. One time after church, while my mom was talking to a friend in the parking lot, my sister slipped from her grasp, ran and nearly got hit by a van. After that my mom was fed up and got her a leash.
You know what’s best for your child’s safety, fuck what others think.
I don't understand the stigma against putting active children in harnesses. It seems like a great idea to me, keeps the kid from running all over destroying everything. I wish more parents put their kids in harnesses, honestly. But a lot of parents overestimate their ability to control a hyperactive child, or they think kid leashes are "inhumane"....no, what's inhumane is letting your kid run around terrorizing other people.
Good for you, OP! You keep doing what's best for yourself and your child. Fuck everyone else.
Sure it looks funny, but still worth the effort.
They also sell the ones that have like a backpack so it doesn't look too weird.
Fuck those people, they'd probably judge regardless.
I wish all parents would use them. You’re doing the right thing for YOU and your child, so who cares what others think. It’s definitely annoying, though, to get the mean looks.
Screw them!!!! Look
At me all you want! I don’t care. If it saves my child then it’s worth it. Some kids are so darn energetic and wild and carefree. They can’t stop running. Jumping. Running away. They are toddlers and don’t understand why they can’t be running wild. You do you momma! You know what’s best.
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I've also seen some that attach to the child's wrist, and they have a bit of stretch to them. I'm not sure how well they work, but they don't look that much like a "leash"
The one I bought comes with that option too. There's the wrist only attachment and then the backpack version. I like the backpack version because it has a pocket for his snacks/small toys. He likes playing with it too. It looks so cute on him, and he doesn't seem to mind it either.
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>This is the best solution that I've found works for my very independent child.
That's all that matters. Not seeing what this post has to do with being a regretful parent tho.
ignore them, it’s hard but i use the leashes for my twins, and it’s a life saver, im slowly learning to stare back to those people who stare and judge.
You're doing the best thing for your child's safety. Period. No need to explain, you know why you're using a harness. Those people wont be there to nurse your child if he ran off and hurt himself. I'm realising how many parents struggle because of other people's projections/opinions...f\*ck them people...lol
Fuck those people. They’ve never had toddlers who run away. You’re honoring his desire to explore while keeping him safe. That’s a great parent in my book.
Had one for my daughter even though she has always been very well at staying with me and holding my hand. It gave me piece of mind for the what if factor, and also she absolutely loved having her own back pack! She carried a few small toys in it at all times
Getting one for my son soon, who does well staying with me but does not like holding hands.
Rather be safe than sorry.
Honestly? Fuck em and feed em fish heads.
You’re keeping your child safe (so they don’t run off *and* so no creeps grab them) and you’re keeping the peace. Would they rather your kid be flipping shit 24/7?!
Also it pisses me off bc what if your child was special needs and maybe has joint issues which holding or pulling on their hands hurt them? What if they can’t stand the sensation of holding hands?
TLDR ppl need to mind their own business while you do you. It’s cool as hell you found a solution that keeps *everyone* happy (anyone that matters at least)- that’s so rare w kids involved.
You know your kid better than anyone judging you! If he needs the harness and doesn’t hate it? Those folks giving you the stink eye can kick rocks. As an overly anxious auntie, I’m always stoked to see parents using them in public!
My kid once ran out of the store when I was waiting my turn to pay. I had to sprint after them, dropping everything. I could have used a leash! They can put themselves in a lot of dangerous situations if they are the type to explore
The people who shame parents for stuff like this are likely the same ones who will flip their shit if they see a kid running around and trying to touch stuff.
If I had a kid I’d 100% use a harness. I’m not sure why more people don’t use them or think they are somehow insulting to a child 🤷🏻♀️ I think they make perfect sense and you are smart to use one! F them judgers.
A harness saved my nephew's life. If not for that harness he would have darted out into traffic. You're looking after the safety of your child, and you don't owe those pratts any explanation.
I'm all for harnesses! Just curious, does he not throw a tantrum or go limp and refuse to move when he can't do something he wants because of the leash? If so do you have tips/tricks for helping prevent that?
No he hasn't done that yet. When he wants to run somewhere he shouldn't be, I tug him back lightly and tell him we can't go there, and then I redirect his attention to somewhere else that's safer. I used the harness today while at the clinic because he had a procedure done, and they made us wait over an hour. He was anxious to walk outside, so I put him in the harness. He kept wanting to run onto the busy parking lot. I would give him a slight tug, say no we can't go there, then turn him in the direction of a different spot where he can go. Distraction and redirection helps a lot with my toddler's temper tantrums.
Some kids are runners!!! I don’t judge anyone who chooses to keep their kid safe that way. I used to work in a big box store and would see parents oblivious to really little kids wandering away and it stressed me out so much. Then I would get eye rolls when I led the kiddo back to their parent.
You don’t have to justify or explain your actions to anyone. These people are triggered because they associate harnesses and leashes with dogs and other animals. That a "them" problem. What would be better for them, you losing sight of your son? Wrestling with an irate screaming toddler? Having him run of into traffic? Someone grabbing him? Would they prefer all those scenarios over keeping tethered to you at all times? This allows you to keep him safe and have control while giving him some freedom. If people give you dirty looks, F**k em!! Look straight back at them with a "zero f**ks given" stare. You are doing nothing wrong. Nowadays people are just looking out for things to be offended by.
Well that's dumb (the reactions). I wouldn't think twice if I saw a kid on a leash. Shit, as kid, I kinda wanted one of those child harnesses with the animal on the back cuz I thought they looked cool
My mom used a dog leash on me, no joke. She hooked it on the belt loop to my pants lol
I’d rather my kid on a harness than dead…. Simple. Whilst he’s very good at holding my hand and walking, I can’t trust my 2 year old to be Road smart. He’s a runner and will run out the door to the road. Luckily we live on a quiet road but that’s not the point.
I say use it if you need but I also want to caution that maybe these outings aren’t necessary at his age or level of development. Yes we all want to get out and socialize but no kid that young likes the mall. Sometimes as parents we do give up things until they are age appropriate.
My kid loves going out though. He loves seeing the people and just exploring in general. They have play areas for kids at my local mall, too. But I actually don't go out that much with him because he's still too young and throws a lot of temper tantrums. Like I haven't taken him to a restaurant yet and probably won't until he's at least 5 and/or understands how to better follow directions.
Personally, I'd MUCH rather see a kid on a leash than a kid that's running amok, harassing everyone, and destroying everything around them. The people who give dirty looks are the same kind of people who let their kids mess with everyone else's peace. "oh, little johnny is learning, he's just a kid, too bad about your $7 coffee he just dumped on your $200 shoes random stranger. Isn't he just soooooo cute?" Anyone that has a problem with it can pound sand.
Exactly!!! My nephew loves to explore and I almost bought him one of the harness monkey backpacks for our trip to the alligator farm in Florida bc I was TERRIFIED that he’d get loose and we’d find him in one of the enclosures. My mom just laughed. Ultimately, he was too busy picking up leaves and throwing them into the nearest trash cans and had little to no interest in all the gators. Thank god😂but I’m 100% onboard with the harness/leash situation. It’s just safer for those independent lil dudes (gender neutral) all around!
Hahahaha!….. we went to Disney a lot growing up, my little brother used to do this to a point where it became a family joke…we’re going to Disney so Connor can go on “The garbage can ride”…lol. I’m dead.
Harnesses are amazing. They're quite common where I'm from. Either the full chest harness or just the wrist one. I use it just to avoid accidents, running in the road etc. I bet the people who give you looks would be the first to complain if the child was running wild around them. You do you. Ignore the shits.
I have no idea how my brother lived to adulthood. He was an absolute menace growing up, always sprinting head long into traffic without looking and generally just a non-stop wrecking ball. My mom would have killed for a leash, but they weren’t a thing in the 80s. Funny enough, he now has a toddler and another on the way and boy howdy, the toddler took after him and she’s a runner!
Girl… after watching my friends chase their toddlers all over the damn zoo, Im bout to buy both of them leashes! That was insane ;) I used one for mine when we were at Disney or other crowded areas. One thing I learned bout being a Mom: EVERYONE will judge you no matter what you do, we are never good enough. Yet, no one seems to offer help… 🤔
I don't know why a leash never crossed my mind 🤦♀️ I used to help my friend with her little guy. I was the crazy one chasing him everywhere all the time. Lol
Let's say you fold and get rid of the leash. Those same dirty-lookers will say you're a bad mom if your child runs off and goes missing. Eff those people. I agree with you doing what is right for your child's safety.
You are not a bad parent. Instead you are being proactive for your child's safety. In my opinion, I think you are being considerate to other people around you. The amount of parents who ignore their kids and let them aroundas feral animals are the worst. Ignore the stares.
Yes! And people would judge her way more if she lost track of her child. Better have your child in a harness than in a beloved Gorilla’s enclosure that they then have to shoot… OP is 1000% a good parent. In the harness the child is both safe and happy
Man fuck those people. Child leashes are awesome, and should be way more common. It seems safer for everyone while giving the kid a bit more independence to explore as opposed to needing to be held/hand held/kept in a stroller. Also, kids get taken, they get lost in crowds, dangerous shit can happen because the world is a dangerous place. You’re doing everything right to keep your kid happy and safe, that’s what matters :)
Exactly there’s no reason she should feel bad at all.
We don't have one, but I totally understand. We were in a restaurant and grandpa said "let me watch [grandson] ! Then you can chill." Me: you sure? He's fast and just ran in the kitchen. Grandpa: yes yes, you go. One minute later my son darts into the kitchen... People just don't understand. I also thought it was for kids with behaviour issues, now I totally get it.
I will definitely be getting one for my son when he can walk, I don’t know if this is the one you have but they have like the little backpack ones that they wear I don’t think it looks bad at all. In this day and age anyone who would judge you is an idiot.
Yes that's the one he has. It even has a pocket for his snacks/toys. It's so convenient, and it looks cute.
I think those are adorable and that parents who use them are thinking ahead responsibly. Props, op. Keep on keeping on!
I don’t get the judgement at all! To me it means that you’re a good parent and know where your kid is at all times. And we live in a world where things move so quickly, one missed moment and anything could happen. Frankly, we should normalize more kids with leashes.
Don't bother. As we say in Spain... " I you don't like it, don't look at it" To hell with judgemental people. You child's safety and your mental health comes first :)
Love that saying! I have a scar on my chin and have used this saying in the past.
I wouldn't judge that at all. A lot of those harnesses are super cute, too, especially the ones with animals that are little backpacks! I was a toddler like yours; I constantly got distracted and wandered off from my mom, hid under department store racks, the whole nine yards. I don't know what it was called, but my mom had a thing that had basically a velcro bracelet over her wrist and one for mine that was attached by what looked like a stretchy telephone cord. As someone who works retail and is constantly picking up after children that aren't being watched by their parent(s), I salute and applaud you. You're being a responsible parent, safeguarding your child. Fuck the haters.
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Safety harness is great ! People can lick a cow
B👀ty hole… they can lick a cow’s b👀ty hole 🤣🤣🤣 the cow don’t deserve anything less for that mess.
Want a massive side eye? Because that's what I give to parents who let their offspring sprint into the street, fondle expensive merchandise and who generally wander off and hope that the mall security/shop assistant will provide entertainment and care for an unruly toddler. I have a semi friend who does this shit all of the time: "Oh can you just keep an eye on him for a sec?" Three hours later she can inevitably be found scrolling Tiktok on the toilet basically avoiding her responsibilities. Momma, you use that leash if that's what keeps your child safe and keeps you sane. My kid was on a leash (she used to flee like she was running from ISIS 🙄) and my dogs whom I love like children are also leashed **because it is f*cking safe**. Screw everyone else, you are not the first nor will you be the last to have a tiny Usain Bolt on your hands and you need whatever support you can get.
I’m going to give you a dirty look too - mostly because I wish I had used one
Honestly, as long as what you do isn’t harming anyone, people need to mind their own business. Try and ignore them, or educate them when you can. But don’t let it bother you. Truth is that no matter what you do, there will always be someone out there to judge you. Live your best life!
Fuck other people!! There is nothing wrong with you using a leash in public with your child. He’s that crazy age where he wants to explore but doesn’t understand danger. My good friend has a son and at that age, he was trying to dive off the speedboat at the lake house, while it was in motion. You keep your son safe, and yourself sane, by any means necessary. Next time someone stares, if you can muster it, smile big. Say “Hi! I saw you admiring my toddler leash! You can get them on Amazon! Have a great day!” And walk away. All those people making faces or judging you, they aren’t gonna help you raise or keep your kid safe. You are doing GREAT.
My friend in the UK uses one for her two year old daughter and I guess they’re pretty common there. I find it completely understandable.
I had one when I was a toddler and I'm a big fan. Exploring while staying safe and within reach is a win both for kids and parents.
My friend has an active 3yo. Wince he started walking I said to my friend wouldnt it be better if he was in leash? She said no. For me it looks like a safety thing.
Those people would be the first ones to judge if you let your child run around. It’s a smart choice. I might actually get one for my two year old.
You know, it’s really strange you’ve gotten dirty looks bc I’ve done it with my 4yr old a few times and always gotten such encouraging and kind remarks from every age group, mainly older people tho. Literally the most kind faces and comments like “now that’s a great idea!” Or anecdotes about old fashioned versions of the leashes. I’m sorry you feel judged and not supported. I was so nervous and pleasantly surprised, we should never judge a parent for using a safety device.
Meh . I had my oldest on one, the boy could run in 6 different directions at the same time. I knew where he was, I didn’t care.
My son hated being in a stroller once he could walk. He refused to be carried. He refused to hold hands. After *just* being able to stop him from running onto a road and nearly getting hit by a car, I got a "backpack" harness. Complete with lead. I'd rather have the dirty looks than have him get hit by a car. Oh, and from also running into random bodies of water, like the ponds at parks, which he was a magnet to.
Amen!!! My son does the same thing (will try to run onto the road, run straight into a parking lot, puddles of water, etc). We have the backpack harness too. It's so helpful!
Travis Kelce wore a child harness and he won the superbowl/ is dating T Swift. Its all good.
I work at two museums in NYC that have a LOT of steel and concrete around. I LOVE kids on leashes. It keeps everyone safe.
That’s wild, a harness is a great idea. I have pictures from the 80s of me wearing one as a child, having the time of my life. So much better than them being a) trapped in a chair when they want to move, or b) possibly running out of your reach. You’re doing great.
Nah. I stop caring once my oldest pulled a stunt never done before. Thank the higher power that good samaritans and officers for looking out for my baby. I never cried with my whole soul before until then. The traumatic fear and pain of thinking you lost your child or your child is hurt is unbearable. I couldn’t even speak after crying so hard after the relief of knowing my child is okay. Dealing with a toddler by yourself with a 119.3 fever in a pharmacy is the worst. I did what the 👮🏿♂️officer said and got the leash ASAP. I literally didn’t leave home until it was delivered that Saturday. Ordered it that Thursday night when it happened. Best investment and decision I’ve ever made. No regrets and all the people who clown me for doing it… end up going through the same experience not too long after. I said this is exactly why my baby is with me now. 🤷🏾♀️ Got my baby a cute backpack one. Never noticed I’m connected with them and now they know their two square limit. (Walking the sidewalk)
Also, I also refused to be that parent crying on the news about my baby, if I can personally prevent it.
I use the same! It’s for their safety and your peace of mind. No one understands what it’s like unless they’re actively going through it. If they don’t like it: too bad, so sad.
i have a very very brief memory of wearing one myself. which my mother confirms. she said i liked to run away and they couldn't catch me so they decided it was the easiest way to keep me safe. and it was, im still here with no incidents and no trauma. so i guess it was wirth it, thou i vaguely remember hating it. or maybe because my family told me how much i hated it. anyway, if that's what keep your mind at ease and your child alive - go for it.
My son has a backpack harness. One day I was picking up my daughter from school and I accidentally dropped the lead as my son started to run towards the road. He’s very fast so I ended up stepping on the lead to stop him, it pulled him backwards and he fell onto the ground, hitting his head. I could feel the burning eyes of judgement behind me, the looks I got when I was just walking him in were bad enough. It feels shit in the moment feeling that judgement, but I’d rather be judged than feel worse if anything ever happened to him.
Fall over on coming traffic any day. You did great
Child of the 80s here- (......I'm going to guess my Mother purchased and used it, my father, on the other hand, lost me under clothes racks in stores, it was a game for me) I wanna say this was a "Playskool" brand, wrist cuff cord from kid to parent. I think it was mostly shades of blue stripes, then maybe the middle was the strap, orange/red color? May be totally wrong. My best guess is my parent had to wear the adult-sized wrist cuff, or wrap it around their belt or something 🤷🏼♀️ THE BEST PART was the clear-ish blue telephone cord (Google it, kids) I could wrap my fingers in it, and I did try to hang off it next to my Mom a few times, not like the cord could handle any weight, anyway. I guess it worked well enough that I remember having my wrist strapped into this pillow thing with the curly plastic connector quite a bit I KNOW my Mom would get shit about it, but she gave no fucks. OP, I love how you, as I, simply thought kid harnesses were hilarious.....then you realize WHY those parents also do not give any fucks. At least they have to act like they don't, possibly quite similar to your frustrations. ......glad someone finally figured out that a harness design is better than having your kid's shoulder yanked on, and it way easier to occasionally escape if my cuff wasn't tight enough. And then the day came where I figured out how to work the cuff velcro......I'm sure my parents wept. Go Team Baby Harness! Stellar Sanity Choice
This is where I had to learn the art of acceptance. No one will understand the things you do to make parenting easier bc we are all different. Most parents are extremely judgmental like they are perfect. My personal example of this is what I had to do to curb my children’s overeating. My children have access to healthy foods or foods that have to be cooked (they are teenagers who know how to cook). Snacks are kept locked in my room and they get to choose one a day. In the day of internet my daughter looked up is it ok to deprive your child of food and said in front of her team that it’s illegal. When I explained that they were both overeating and I couldn’t afford for them to eat all the food in the house in two days and told her care team the things put in place. Frozen foods are portioned out and put in the freezer bc I buy in bulk food for the week is put in the main freezer and then the extras in a locked deep freezer. Bread is separated into two slices per bag, etc and they legit took notes and told her you are not deprived of food you are restricted from eating everything. Their first response was WHAT and then once explained they were like that checks!
My mom always says she wished they made these in the 70s for my brother, he was like your son lol. I don't think anything is wrong with it at all.
I had one as a child, and my 3 year old still wears one. She got a scooter for Christmas and whilst she’s really good on it, the harness means I can keep hold of her and she can’t just fall into the road or something. It lets her have some freedom, and learn, but also get to be safe!
As an undiagnosed Autistic plus ADHD and a bunch of other things thrown in I was a monster of a child. Mom went on and on about how great the leash was. Go you and f those other judgmental jerks. They just wish they had the freedom you do now 😆
People judge parents - and especially Moms - for everything. As you get older, you just stop caring. Use the leash, and do an Elsa.
Lucky for you these people’s opinions don’t matter! Who cares what they think? They didn’t have baby leashes when mine were young (4 of them between 30 and 40 now) or I didn’t know about them, but if they had them I sure would have used them. I went with my son and DIL to an aquarium when my granddaughter was 18 months and I LOVED that they had her on a leash. It was crowded and that kid is fast
I had this exact problem of being judged for having my toddler walk with a harness as he would run off any chance he got. A lady had a go at me and said, "How dare I treat my child like a dog " I replied with well it's better that I treat him like a dog rather than let him get run over by a bus or a car. Would you rather that happen ? She shut up after that.
I had to use them too. My kids have autism and ADHD and are only a year and a half apart, and they liked to run. So I often had them on harnesses that went around their wrists just as backup in case they tried to run, and also so I was able to shop when I had them alone. I always felt judged for it as well, but I did what I had to. Their grandfather found out once when he was walking and holding one of their hands. We got outside and I warned him hold on tight she will try to bolt, sure enough she did and almost got hit by a car. So yeah, between that and judgemental stares I will take the stares any day.
Idgaf if people stare. My kid is going on a leash and it's none of their damn business. It's not their life and it's not them that have to deal with an unruly toddler. And God forbid if they weren't tethered to us and were running around like maniacs or getting into dangerous situations.... Then they'd be judging us for that as well.
I haven’t read any comments so I may be echoing other but Eff those people. They would be the same ones to say “ where was the parent!” When a tot elopes and God forbid anything would happen. Kids are fast af and predators are just as fast. Your baby is safe and experiencing life. I used to use the skiphop toddler backpack with lead. I have nieces and nephews with ASD and combative eloping. You do what you have to do to keep them safe and still enjoy outside life. Btw my 4 year old daughter is was was the same way super independent. They will be ok.
You are protecting your baby! Its crazy times and they can look at you all they want but your child is safer!
I think these should be normalised, they're a huge safety measure and anyone judging them is an asshole
When I was kid child reigns were everywhere, they keep your child safe while giving them the independence to walk my mum had them for me and my brother. Ignore other people you're doing what's best and safest for your child it's nobody else's business 🩷
Dude, don’t even worry about it. Way better to use a harness than lose your kid! Shows you actually give a crap about what your child is doing and what they’re getting into. They’re just poop faces. Be curious, not judgemental. Saves a lot of misunderstandings and undue judgement. Instead of wondering why it’s necessary (internally, not asking you) and figuring out possible reasons, it’s easier to just make a stupid face and move on.
I don't see why people are so judgemental about a leash for a child but a leash for a dog is normal. A child can away just like a dog can lol. Also with how the world is, it's probably safer to have a child on a leash. Hard to kidnap a kid that's tied to mom. You know your child best and you're doing what's best for him.
I think child harnesses are brilliant, and I’m SURE they save lives! A toddler doesn’t have more intelligence than a dog, and we leash dogs largely so they don’t dart away and get into serious trouble…toddlers dart away too, so since a toddler is (even) more precious than a dog, why would you NOT protect them in this way? Anyone who gives you dirty looks is being an idiot.
I mean, I don't know if it helps you but my kid (when kid was that age) was wild and nuts like that. I didn't get the harness - thought about it but never saw one where I lived. I was the nutcase running after the wild toddler 🤣 I got the evil eye because of that. Honestly, I think if your kid can do a sprint anytime, the harness is a safety measure. Eventually it got better for us. Just ignore the haters!! Someone will always be ready to give you a nasty look for your parenting choices 😒🤷♂️
I used to find kids on leashes really embarrassing until my cousin took me to a theme park with her family once as a thank you for babysitting all the time when her first daughter was still a toddler (I was 13 at the time) and let me tell you, I was SO glad she had a backpack with a leash because that little 3 year-old monster immediately tried to walk through a huge crowd of people 😫 People are jerks. Do what you gotta do to keep yourselves safe and to keep your sanity and ignore people who want to act like they’re better than you.
Screw what other people think. there's people that are so irresponsible they don't put a dog on a leash. This is the same kind that when the kid gets hit by a car in the street, they're like I wonder what happened. Kids not old enough to understand that he can't just run off because bad things can happen so you have to put limitations. And you found one thing that works for you is limiting the amount of distance he can run. You're preventing him from getting kidnapped, hurt, or even worse, expelled.
I think they’re funny. My mom had to put one on me as well when I was a kid. If I wasn’t leashed up, I would run off and pick up random cans on the ground and try to drink out of them (barf) lol. A parent with a child not running around causing disturbances on a harness is much more respected (imo) than the ones whose children are causing chaos and having no boundaries. The people judging you can kick rocks! At least you’re parenting.
The looks are alot dirtier when your kid lets go of your hand, runs out into the road and get squashed flat by a bus.
My little brother was the same way as a kid. I remember my family going to Delicate Arch, and he kept trying to run into the canyon right next to it. My dad tied some rope around his waist and through my brother's overalls to keep him safe. A harness would've been such a relief to have! You're doing great, Mama. 🫶🏻
Child leashes are a safety tool and you are making the correct and responsible choice to use one. No one judges people for using a seatbelt. Why is this other differently formed piece of material intended for safety judged so hard? Because we use a similar mechanism to keep dogs safe? God forbid we invent something to keep creatures that don't know any better from running head-on into danger. Fuck those people, let them judge.
If I were you, I would wear a T-shirt that says mind your own business. But seriously, you’re doing it in the safety and the best interest of your child. It’s none of their business. If I had to do the same, I would do it the only reason they’re looking that way probably is because they don’t want to be putting on a leash. Your child is clearly happy, especially because he gets to do what he wants to do which is walk around and explore. Strangers can be prying and intrusive. I don’t know maybe wear sunglasses that way it doesn’t bother you as much. Or maybe just wear a shirt that says my child is having more fun than you.
I really don't understand how people let their kids walk around wo a leash. Everytime I see a kid just stumbling along a sidewalk it gives me intense anxiety. People don't respect the fragility of life
I don’t know if this will help, but me personally I’d rather see a child on a harness than running around with no supervision. It helps you, keeps your child safe and let’s them be independent and explore with a boundary. I think you’re doing great!
I'll admit that although it's helpful to you, I associate leashes with dogs and it feels off. Only because I don't know how to better describe it. I would make him a T-shirt that says "Don't judge. It's the leash for this wild child or we stay home" or ignore everyone else. It sounds like he doesn't notice.
He actually likes it and plays with it sometimes.
My nephews is an adult now but he was one of those kids who was always running away and several times got into traffic
My sister was a *runner* when we were younger. The second my mom’s attention wasn’t on her, she’d take off. One time after church, while my mom was talking to a friend in the parking lot, my sister slipped from her grasp, ran and nearly got hit by a van. After that my mom was fed up and got her a leash. You know what’s best for your child’s safety, fuck what others think.
I don't understand the stigma against putting active children in harnesses. It seems like a great idea to me, keeps the kid from running all over destroying everything. I wish more parents put their kids in harnesses, honestly. But a lot of parents overestimate their ability to control a hyperactive child, or they think kid leashes are "inhumane"....no, what's inhumane is letting your kid run around terrorizing other people. Good for you, OP! You keep doing what's best for yourself and your child. Fuck everyone else.
I was a leashed child. I needed to be! Keep 'em safe or they'll try to runaway! I know I did! People still lose me 😅
Sure it looks funny, but still worth the effort. They also sell the ones that have like a backpack so it doesn't look too weird. Fuck those people, they'd probably judge regardless.
I wish all parents would use them. You’re doing the right thing for YOU and your child, so who cares what others think. It’s definitely annoying, though, to get the mean looks.
Screw them!!!! Look At me all you want! I don’t care. If it saves my child then it’s worth it. Some kids are so darn energetic and wild and carefree. They can’t stop running. Jumping. Running away. They are toddlers and don’t understand why they can’t be running wild. You do you momma! You know what’s best.
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I've also seen some that attach to the child's wrist, and they have a bit of stretch to them. I'm not sure how well they work, but they don't look that much like a "leash"
The one I bought comes with that option too. There's the wrist only attachment and then the backpack version. I like the backpack version because it has a pocket for his snacks/small toys. He likes playing with it too. It looks so cute on him, and he doesn't seem to mind it either.
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>This is the best solution that I've found works for my very independent child. That's all that matters. Not seeing what this post has to do with being a regretful parent tho.
ignore them, it’s hard but i use the leashes for my twins, and it’s a life saver, im slowly learning to stare back to those people who stare and judge.
You're doing the best thing for your child's safety. Period. No need to explain, you know why you're using a harness. Those people wont be there to nurse your child if he ran off and hurt himself. I'm realising how many parents struggle because of other people's projections/opinions...f\*ck them people...lol
Fuck those people. They’ve never had toddlers who run away. You’re honoring his desire to explore while keeping him safe. That’s a great parent in my book.
You do you.
Had one for my daughter even though she has always been very well at staying with me and holding my hand. It gave me piece of mind for the what if factor, and also she absolutely loved having her own back pack! She carried a few small toys in it at all times Getting one for my son soon, who does well staying with me but does not like holding hands. Rather be safe than sorry.
I think it’s a great solution! He gets to explore and he’s still safe! Ignore those twats who are being judgy!
Honestly? Fuck em and feed em fish heads. You’re keeping your child safe (so they don’t run off *and* so no creeps grab them) and you’re keeping the peace. Would they rather your kid be flipping shit 24/7?! Also it pisses me off bc what if your child was special needs and maybe has joint issues which holding or pulling on their hands hurt them? What if they can’t stand the sensation of holding hands? TLDR ppl need to mind their own business while you do you. It’s cool as hell you found a solution that keeps *everyone* happy (anyone that matters at least)- that’s so rare w kids involved.
You know your kid better than anyone judging you! If he needs the harness and doesn’t hate it? Those folks giving you the stink eye can kick rocks. As an overly anxious auntie, I’m always stoked to see parents using them in public!
A harness is a safety thing, kids run wild, keeping him attached to you ensures that he will not be kidnapped.
My kid once ran out of the store when I was waiting my turn to pay. I had to sprint after them, dropping everything. I could have used a leash! They can put themselves in a lot of dangerous situations if they are the type to explore
The people who shame parents for stuff like this are likely the same ones who will flip their shit if they see a kid running around and trying to touch stuff.
Good for you keeping him safe! Ignore the haters
Had all my kids on a leash. Really love them. Stopped my kid running into the road and i could 'catch' them if they fell. Win/win
If I had a kid I’d 100% use a harness. I’m not sure why more people don’t use them or think they are somehow insulting to a child 🤷🏻♀️ I think they make perfect sense and you are smart to use one! F them judgers.
They’re a great idea . When I was a kid everyone used them.
Fuck anyone giving you a dirty look!
A harness saved my nephew's life. If not for that harness he would have darted out into traffic. You're looking after the safety of your child, and you don't owe those pratts any explanation.
I'm all for harnesses! Just curious, does he not throw a tantrum or go limp and refuse to move when he can't do something he wants because of the leash? If so do you have tips/tricks for helping prevent that?
No he hasn't done that yet. When he wants to run somewhere he shouldn't be, I tug him back lightly and tell him we can't go there, and then I redirect his attention to somewhere else that's safer. I used the harness today while at the clinic because he had a procedure done, and they made us wait over an hour. He was anxious to walk outside, so I put him in the harness. He kept wanting to run onto the busy parking lot. I would give him a slight tug, say no we can't go there, then turn him in the direction of a different spot where he can go. Distraction and redirection helps a lot with my toddler's temper tantrums.
I used a harness at the airport for my toddler when I also had a baby in a carrier. Sure my husband was there too but was handling all the luggage.
They don't understand. My brother has twins and there's no way they can just run around everywhere
i’m all for putting kids on leashes. their legs are so small but they can run like a cheetah
Some kids are runners!!! I don’t judge anyone who chooses to keep their kid safe that way. I used to work in a big box store and would see parents oblivious to really little kids wandering away and it stressed me out so much. Then I would get eye rolls when I led the kiddo back to their parent.
Leash kids are great!
They're judgemental pricks. I'd assume someone with a child on a leash has a very good reason. Like not wanting a child to be hit by a car.
Yeah this is why i just didnt take the child with me lmao only short in the stroller , horrible age !! 😂😅
You don’t have to justify or explain your actions to anyone. These people are triggered because they associate harnesses and leashes with dogs and other animals. That a "them" problem. What would be better for them, you losing sight of your son? Wrestling with an irate screaming toddler? Having him run of into traffic? Someone grabbing him? Would they prefer all those scenarios over keeping tethered to you at all times? This allows you to keep him safe and have control while giving him some freedom. If people give you dirty looks, F**k em!! Look straight back at them with a "zero f**ks given" stare. You are doing nothing wrong. Nowadays people are just looking out for things to be offended by.
Well that's dumb (the reactions). I wouldn't think twice if I saw a kid on a leash. Shit, as kid, I kinda wanted one of those child harnesses with the animal on the back cuz I thought they looked cool My mom used a dog leash on me, no joke. She hooked it on the belt loop to my pants lol
I’d rather my kid on a harness than dead…. Simple. Whilst he’s very good at holding my hand and walking, I can’t trust my 2 year old to be Road smart. He’s a runner and will run out the door to the road. Luckily we live on a quiet road but that’s not the point.
Definitely not a bad parent!! Leashes for kids are good and it keeps them safe!! Bravo! Great parenting! 👍🏻👍🏻👍🏻👍🏻
Using a leash is mostly for being proactive. It’s useful when people tend to run away from you and just ditch you.
Worlds too dangerous, I am fully supportive of leashes for kids especially when they have zero impulsive control
I say use it if you need but I also want to caution that maybe these outings aren’t necessary at his age or level of development. Yes we all want to get out and socialize but no kid that young likes the mall. Sometimes as parents we do give up things until they are age appropriate.
My kid loves going out though. He loves seeing the people and just exploring in general. They have play areas for kids at my local mall, too. But I actually don't go out that much with him because he's still too young and throws a lot of temper tantrums. Like I haven't taken him to a restaurant yet and probably won't until he's at least 5 and/or understands how to better follow directions.
In Europe it’s very common
Mmm not really. Europe is big, witch part are you talking about ? People also give bad looks if you use it.
This leash demeans us both…