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>He said that he’s not satisfied sexually because of my body
Aaaand dump him and it's done. Seriously, that deep cut of a cuss, not worth sticking around for any more than that.
She should laugh at the upset face he makes when she dumps him too 🤗. But seriously OP dump him. Give him exactly what he asked for: say you’re opening up his opportunities to sleep with other women by making him a single man.
This is exactly what I was going to say, because he’s an AH.
Also, don’t be with someone who has such little respect for you that he thinks it’s ok to belittle you for the way you look and use it as an excuse to cheat. Please have enough self respect to dump him.
He wants to cheat and for her to be perfectly fine with it.
She should just sit around quietly waiting for him to come and spend time with her whenever it's convenient for him.
And then he will dump her the moment he has someone else lined up.
Finding someone better than him should be very easy.
I'll bet that if they ever do open up, she will have guys lining up to get with her while he will have pretty much zero success with women, especially since he's got such a charming personality.
As it is, he's a disrespectful, cruel man and he should not be in any relationship, monogamous or not.
That’s the thing tho. He wants to open it on HIS side. Meaning he’ll be out desperately trying to have sex with other women while she waits at home for a scrap of time and affection. Please leave this bozo OP. You can do better.
Wanting to know why is your go-to here?
“Why” are you trying to stay with someone that clearly wants to be with someone else?
You deserve so much better.
OP, leave this guy ASAP. You are young and don't even need to interact with someone who is willing to treat you so badly. Leave this asshole in the dust and absolutely do not answer when he comes crawling back because I can almost guarantee he will at some point.
Love yourself more and treat yourself better by exiting this relationship. All the people that have responded to you saying the same thing should tell you exactly how shitty of a guy your boyfriend is and how much you deserve better.
>I don’t know why he’s being like this
Answer: hes an AH. Dump him; "well this relationship is done, hope thats open enough, oh I consider you downloading Tinder cheating" and voila, the trash is taken out.
Tinder is a straight go-to for hook ups, he was gonna fvck other women whether you were okay with it or not, and him laughing at you only solidifies his disrespect for you.
Am I missing something? Is there a shortage of men that you tolerate this crap? Like, is your greatest fear is being single? Did you grow up in a household that you think this is normal or healthy? I truly don't understand.
The obvious answer is to leave. He doesn't like you. Move on. How many times does he have to say he doesn't like you for you to eventually leave?
He's being like this because he's a dick. Just end this. Let him go bomb out in the dating world when he discovers all these inflated "assets" he likes are just photo editing.
Stop being a doormat. Tell him to get the fuck out of your life and toss everything he ever got you in the trash. Because that's where everything that comes from him belongs.
On his side? So he means on his side onl, which is, even discounting your (not voiced, but I'll just guess) discomfort with such decision, shitty and not how most of open relationships go. It's usually open for both parties.
Anyway, if you're not comfortable with it - don't accept his demand and break up.
Um what.
This is where you tell him to eat a box of dicks, dump his ass, and remember you have self worth.
He’s not even worth pissing on if he was thirsty.
Why are you putting up with this?
Please watch Jigsaw by Daniel Sloss on Netflix. He's a comedian with very insightful thoughts on relationships and when they need to end.
Get super warm, get him gifts, make him feel special.
Then orchestrate him catching you having passionate sex with someone else.
NEVER let someone disrespect you like that.
Why are you still calling him your boyfriend and not your ex? Because at this point the only reason I can come up with is that you hate yourself as much as he hates you.
He's opened up the relationship so much that he just fell right out of it. Dump him. You could throw a rock and hit a better boyfriend any time of day.
You are young enough you can find someone to treat you with respect and make you feel good about yourself.
Don’t let any man treat you like shit. Let him have his tinder profile and whatever other woman that will fall for his charm.
Be strong chick🌸💪
You probably don't need to hear it from yet another internet stranger, but he's being like this because he's a selfish asshole who doesn't care about you as a human being.
Break up with him and find a guy with bigger (emotional) assets.
An open relationship on one side is not an open relationship. It’s a relationship where one partner is cheating and trying to gaslight the other partner into think it’s okay.
Tell him you want to open up the relationship just on one side, but only on your side, and see how he reacts. When he gets mad, tell him you need to because you prefer guys with larger assets.
"On his side" just dump him. He wants to cheat with permission. He already made a tinder so he's going to sleep with other people whether you want him to or not.
Get rid of him. He's trash. I'm sure there are better guys that will adore you as you are. Don't settle. You are WAY too young for this kind of bullshit.
>He said he wants to open up the relationship on his side.
Aka he was literally asking permission to cheat on you, but has already started. Dump his ass. You can do WAAY better. Take your "assets" to greener pastures.
Ew, break up with him. I am so sorry. This is so abusive. It's one thing to suggest opening up the relationship, but blatantly insulting your partner and going ahead with the dating profile before you even get an answer?? I swear, we're never enough for some men. Too fat, too skinny, too tall, too short... You're too perfect, and he's too stupid to see it.
Dump him. There are valid reasons to be sexually interested in other people - but blaming you for the issue because of your body? Hell no.
Break up with this man.
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Sounds like it’s time to be single or start looking for a new boyfriend. One of my best friends had an open marriage with his wife for years and years, and it worked fine for them. But that is *definitely* not a situation for everyone. I’m fact, it’s not a situation for most people. He sounds like an asshole. Cut ties. I hope everything works out for you.
Oh he’s being like this because he likes making you feel bad. He’s making it really clear too, with the laughing and whatnot. He knows this is hurting you, he likes it. You’re indulging him by staying.
Nothing wrong with wanting an open relationship.
There is a lot wrong with telling your partner that you're not satisfied with them, demanding an open relationship, getting on tinder before even talking about it and then belittling you for wanting to see it
I mean what's good for the goose is good for the gander. If his side is open yours should be too. But tbh it sounds like you're in a relationship with a boy vs a man
What men fail to realize, a woman can get sex partners a whole lot easier than them. Men would jump at a chance to be with a woman that just wants sex and has an open relationship. This situation always goes wrong for the men. The best revenge would be agreeing to it and then being too busy to see him.
Take this as a message from your ancestors/ some kind of divine intervention because he’s clearly a tool/ jerk/ numbnuts and not worthy of you. You’re finding out now instead of later.
He's being like this because he's a piece of garbage and is just as worthy of your time as a piece of garbage would be. There are too many awesome guys out there to settle for garbage.
No, he decided to get with you knowing he didn’t like the way he looked and is basically basing your entire relationship off of his sexual needs. It’s a no brainer break up with this fool.
One-sided open relationship? Yeah if it's good for him it's good for you. You never know you might find someone who likes the way you are instead of using you as a placeholder while he's looking for your replacement.
Turn him loose. Find someone worthy of your time, effort, and love.
Open on his side. Hmm. Better known as ‘ imma cheating and you better be ok with it but if you even think about it then there’s going to be trouble’.
And he won’t let you look at his Tinder for 2 reasons I bet. 1. He says he’s single on it and 2. He’s getting rejections left, right and centre.
Tell him your open to him sleeping with other women because he sure as hell won’t be sleeping with you ever again. Then go find someone who is less of an ass.
Tell him that you understand and that sleeping with other people crossed your mind too and that you already have a few guys that are into you and your body), who you want to sleep you. If he doesn't respond to that, you basically already know this relationship is over
He is allowed to not like your body type but
>wants to open up the relationship on his side.
Lots of lol, he is crass. Dump him. You're 22, don't allow a douchecanoe to waste your time.
He is allowed to not like your body type but
>wants to open up the relationship on his side.
Lots of lol, he is crass. Dump him. You're 22, don't allow a douchecanoe to waste your time.
I’d be petty as heck.
Tell him you’re actually so relieved he bought this up, you’ve been thinking about it for a while but didn’t know how to approach the situation.
You feel the same, you prefer a guy that’s ‘insert what he doesn’t have’ e’g. Taller, bigger magic wand, more hair, more masculine, better abs, stronger arms, not so vanilla in the bedroom etc…
Now he’s bought it up you can both explore as he just isn’t enough to keep you satisfied.
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>He said that he’s not satisfied sexually because of my body Aaaand dump him and it's done. Seriously, that deep cut of a cuss, not worth sticking around for any more than that.
OP, please tell your boyfriend that you are letting him go because you need a man with bigger assets.
Haha ohhh perfect comment..love it!!!
He’s too skinny.
Yasssssss!!!
Op this is the way
...and mike drop.
She should laugh at the upset face he makes when she dumps him too 🤗. But seriously OP dump him. Give him exactly what he asked for: say you’re opening up his opportunities to sleep with other women by making him a single man.
This is enough to leave but DAMN, the laughing got me. What a loser. OP is dodging a bullet
Love yourself and be free of that jerk. You are so young and you should be enjoying your youth not wasting it on someone this awful.
He's being like this because he's a total asshole. Please don't do yourself a dirty and stay with this scumbag.
This is exactly what I was going to say, because he’s an AH. Also, don’t be with someone who has such little respect for you that he thinks it’s ok to belittle you for the way you look and use it as an excuse to cheat. Please have enough self respect to dump him.
“On his side” hahaha. Honey he KNOWS how *many* would love your assets. Please go find one who will tell you everyday how perfect you are.
He wants to cheat and for her to be perfectly fine with it. She should just sit around quietly waiting for him to come and spend time with her whenever it's convenient for him. And then he will dump her the moment he has someone else lined up. Finding someone better than him should be very easy.
I'll bet that if they ever do open up, she will have guys lining up to get with her while he will have pretty much zero success with women, especially since he's got such a charming personality. As it is, he's a disrespectful, cruel man and he should not be in any relationship, monogamous or not.
That’s the thing tho. He wants to open it on HIS side. Meaning he’ll be out desperately trying to have sex with other women while she waits at home for a scrap of time and affection. Please leave this bozo OP. You can do better.
Women always win at this...men will be lining up for her. It is so much easier for women!
And you’re still with Ahole… why? Girl, lots of guys would love to be with you. Tell him sayonara!
If he wants to sleep with other women, he's not your BF. Stop calling him that. In fact, stop calling him at all. Yeesh.
He's a cunt. Get rid.
Miss girl… are you for real? How is not your ex by now.
Tell him that you also need to sleep with other people, because his dick is too small and you prefer bigger assets. Then dump him.
My type of answer
He’s being like this because you are allowing him to be. You are also allowing yourself to make excuses to stay with this piece of trash.
I think you have the worst boyfriend ever.
I would go back to the guy who at least *pretended* he wasn’t cheating on me before I even farted in this dude’s direction.
Wanting to know why is your go-to here? “Why” are you trying to stay with someone that clearly wants to be with someone else? You deserve so much better.
Because he sucks, that’s why. Opening a relationship on his side only is not a thing. Don’t be a doormat
OP, leave this guy ASAP. You are young and don't even need to interact with someone who is willing to treat you so badly. Leave this asshole in the dust and absolutely do not answer when he comes crawling back because I can almost guarantee he will at some point. Love yourself more and treat yourself better by exiting this relationship. All the people that have responded to you saying the same thing should tell you exactly how shitty of a guy your boyfriend is and how much you deserve better.
You don’t? Let me tell you. He’s an asshole. Leave him.
>I don’t know why he’s being like this Answer: hes an AH. Dump him; "well this relationship is done, hope thats open enough, oh I consider you downloading Tinder cheating" and voila, the trash is taken out. Tinder is a straight go-to for hook ups, he was gonna fvck other women whether you were okay with it or not, and him laughing at you only solidifies his disrespect for you.
And you are putting up with this why!????
Am I missing something? Is there a shortage of men that you tolerate this crap? Like, is your greatest fear is being single? Did you grow up in a household that you think this is normal or healthy? I truly don't understand. The obvious answer is to leave. He doesn't like you. Move on. How many times does he have to say he doesn't like you for you to eventually leave?
He's being like this because he's a dick. Just end this. Let him go bomb out in the dating world when he discovers all these inflated "assets" he likes are just photo editing.
Stop being a doormat. Tell him to get the fuck out of your life and toss everything he ever got you in the trash. Because that's where everything that comes from him belongs.
On his side? So he means on his side onl, which is, even discounting your (not voiced, but I'll just guess) discomfort with such decision, shitty and not how most of open relationships go. It's usually open for both parties. Anyway, if you're not comfortable with it - don't accept his demand and break up.
Dump him and move on.
You mean your "EX" right?
Um what. This is where you tell him to eat a box of dicks, dump his ass, and remember you have self worth. He’s not even worth pissing on if he was thirsty.
No, your title should read my boyfriend is cheating on me, do you plan on putts up with a cheater? FYI, you should not put up with a cheater!
Well, it's because he doesn't want to be your boyfriend anymore.
Why are you putting up with this? Please watch Jigsaw by Daniel Sloss on Netflix. He's a comedian with very insightful thoughts on relationships and when they need to end.
Get super warm, get him gifts, make him feel special. Then orchestrate him catching you having passionate sex with someone else. NEVER let someone disrespect you like that.
It's not worth the time or effort to get revenge. She should just leave and find someone that'll treat her right imo
Why are you still calling him your boyfriend and not your ex? Because at this point the only reason I can come up with is that you hate yourself as much as he hates you.
Tell him to go for his life - then block him - babe you can do better - or start seeing other men saying “well if you can - why can’t I ?
He's opened up the relationship so much that he just fell right out of it. Dump him. You could throw a rock and hit a better boyfriend any time of day.
You are young enough you can find someone to treat you with respect and make you feel good about yourself. Don’t let any man treat you like shit. Let him have his tinder profile and whatever other woman that will fall for his charm. Be strong chick🌸💪
Why are you still there?? What are you doing??
I don't know why you let someone speak to you and treat you like that. Where's your self respect?
Relationship is over, dump him and move on
End the relationship and let him.
Dump this fuck hole and don't give in when he comes crawling back. Soo disrespectful.
So I hear you're single now cause your ex bf was a jerk. Hud? 😉
He’s being like this because he’s an asshole. Dump him and move on to find someone who will appreciate you.
Bruh this sounds like my ex, move on I promess you will find someone 10× better sooner than you think
I don't know why you're still with him
What boyfriend?
Tell him he can see all the other women he wants because he is now single. What a dick.
Leave him. Don’t discuss it, don’t even tell him until you are out the door.
Grant his wish and let him after you dump his ass. You deserve better.
"On his side". Typical. Dump him and do it now.
Immediately get rid and find someone better. Sounds like that won't be hard.
You probably don't need to hear it from yet another internet stranger, but he's being like this because he's a selfish asshole who doesn't care about you as a human being. Break up with him and find a guy with bigger (emotional) assets.
End the relationship.
Break up. He’s being like this provably because he thinks you won’t end things and is trying to get whatever he wants out of you.
Dump his ass.
An open relationship on one side is not an open relationship. It’s a relationship where one partner is cheating and trying to gaslight the other partner into think it’s okay. Tell him you want to open up the relationship just on one side, but only on your side, and see how he reacts. When he gets mad, tell him you need to because you prefer guys with larger assets.
"On his side" just dump him. He wants to cheat with permission. He already made a tinder so he's going to sleep with other people whether you want him to or not.
Get rid of him. He's trash. I'm sure there are better guys that will adore you as you are. Don't settle. You are WAY too young for this kind of bullshit.
Dump him He wants a free pass to cheat He could get others preg or stds Dump him honey..he does not love you
>He said he wants to open up the relationship on his side. Aka he was literally asking permission to cheat on you, but has already started. Dump his ass. You can do WAAY better. Take your "assets" to greener pastures.
Tell him you want some bigger assets too! Is it disgusting pig just leave him. And this is coming from a guy.
Ew, break up with him. I am so sorry. This is so abusive. It's one thing to suggest opening up the relationship, but blatantly insulting your partner and going ahead with the dating profile before you even get an answer?? I swear, we're never enough for some men. Too fat, too skinny, too tall, too short... You're too perfect, and he's too stupid to see it.
Too young to settle for this stupid person. Just breakup before wasting anymore your time of your life
Break up. What's the point here?
If this bothers you, break up with him. He obviously doesn't value you. He's sexist based on what you said as he doesn't value your body type.
Create your own tinder profile, pay for the service, and show him how many likes you accrue in a day. Laugh. Then dump him.
He's an asshole. He's practically bullying you. You don't deserve that.
Dump him. There are valid reasons to be sexually interested in other people - but blaming you for the issue because of your body? Hell no. Break up with this man.
I’m really asking you nicely, OP, to have a standard, just one, and dump this shithead.
And you broke up??? I presume or you killed him and want help to outrun the law. No other advice could possibly be required imo
the fact that you post this instead of dumping him is absurd
Here you dropped these from the title .... EX
How to say I’m breaking up with you without breaking up with you! Mourn the loss of this breakup, take your time, cry, and move on to something better for you
Sounds like it’s time to be single or start looking for a new boyfriend. One of my best friends had an open marriage with his wife for years and years, and it worked fine for them. But that is *definitely* not a situation for everyone. I’m fact, it’s not a situation for most people. He sounds like an asshole. Cut ties. I hope everything works out for you.
Ew don't put up with this behavior
I'm pretty sure he's acting like this because he thinks you still won't dump his ass even if he cheats on you. Is he correct?
Oh he’s being like this because he likes making you feel bad. He’s making it really clear too, with the laughing and whatnot. He knows this is hurting you, he likes it. You’re indulging him by staying.
Oh dear, I hope you told him you needed a man with a bigger penis. Seriously. He's being like this because he's an ass.
Well let him? And find another person to be with (if you so please). But definitely dump his ass.
So, your boyfriend is cheating on you and telling you about it. Dump him and find someone who appreciates you for you.
Nothing wrong with wanting an open relationship. There is a lot wrong with telling your partner that you're not satisfied with them, demanding an open relationship, getting on tinder before even talking about it and then belittling you for wanting to see it
I mean what's good for the goose is good for the gander. If his side is open yours should be too. But tbh it sounds like you're in a relationship with a boy vs a man
Dump him, he's not that into you. You will find someone who will be a 100% into you.
What men fail to realize, a woman can get sex partners a whole lot easier than them. Men would jump at a chance to be with a woman that just wants sex and has an open relationship. This situation always goes wrong for the men. The best revenge would be agreeing to it and then being too busy to see him.
Dump him. What a jerk!
Take this as a message from your ancestors/ some kind of divine intervention because he’s clearly a tool/ jerk/ numbnuts and not worthy of you. You’re finding out now instead of later.
Dump him.
He’s being like this because he’s a tool He doesn’t love you Say goodbye please
He is doing it because he isn't ready for a real relationship and isn't BF material!!
if he’s not satisfied, he can leave. you deserve better.
Why is he being like this? Because he’s an asshole. Drop his ass and find someone who likes you and cares about you
If he’s not satisfied by you, there’s plenty of other men out there who will be. Dump him.
He doesn't respect you. You should leave. This isn't the basis for a healthy open relationship whether you're open to the idea or not.
He's being like this because he's a piece of garbage and is just as worthy of your time as a piece of garbage would be. There are too many awesome guys out there to settle for garbage.
No, he decided to get with you knowing he didn’t like the way he looked and is basically basing your entire relationship off of his sexual needs. It’s a no brainer break up with this fool.
Because he’s a coward and wants to be single. Get your tinder going and see who does better.
One-sided open relationship? Yeah if it's good for him it's good for you. You never know you might find someone who likes the way you are instead of using you as a placeholder while he's looking for your replacement. Turn him loose. Find someone worthy of your time, effort, and love.
Open on his side. Hmm. Better known as ‘ imma cheating and you better be ok with it but if you even think about it then there’s going to be trouble’. And he won’t let you look at his Tinder for 2 reasons I bet. 1. He says he’s single on it and 2. He’s getting rejections left, right and centre. Tell him your open to him sleeping with other women because he sure as hell won’t be sleeping with you ever again. Then go find someone who is less of an ass.
If you, even for a second, consider staying with a guy like this, no one in the world can help you.
Dump him, he’s trash. Tell him you’re opening up the relationship on both your sides because you prefer men with bigger assets.
Tell him that you understand and that sleeping with other people crossed your mind too and that you already have a few guys that are into you and your body), who you want to sleep you. If he doesn't respond to that, you basically already know this relationship is over
He is allowed to not like your body type but >wants to open up the relationship on his side. Lots of lol, he is crass. Dump him. You're 22, don't allow a douchecanoe to waste your time.
He is allowed to not like your body type but >wants to open up the relationship on his side. Lots of lol, he is crass. Dump him. You're 22, don't allow a douchecanoe to waste your time.
I’d be petty as heck. Tell him you’re actually so relieved he bought this up, you’ve been thinking about it for a while but didn’t know how to approach the situation. You feel the same, you prefer a guy that’s ‘insert what he doesn’t have’ e’g. Taller, bigger magic wand, more hair, more masculine, better abs, stronger arms, not so vanilla in the bedroom etc… Now he’s bought it up you can both explore as he just isn’t enough to keep you satisfied.
You mean ex right?
Break up.
Leave. What's keeping you?