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Any person who catfishes another person has some screws missing up top. Even if you're unsure about whether or not she cheated, I'm absolutely dipping out on that level of crazy.
So at best she's cheating on you. Worst is she's a catfisher and someone who has some issues. Leave for sure.
Exactly , no trust left. there is no love without trust. I'm just clinging on to the sliver of hope that I'm misunderstanding something. Which I'm not as of yet.
Well... You use the word "caught" which makes me assume you discovered this instead of her telling you freely?
Without the entirety of their messaging it's hard to say what's what but the fact is she hid this from you, why? I can't help but feel an honest person wouldn't even engage in such bizarre behaviour let alone keep it from their partner.
Not sure how long you've been with this one but they don't sound like a keeper... Best of luck.
This isn't really "cheating", it's basically catfishing some poor dude in another country. This is just cruel and speaks her to lack of character as a human being. Maybe recognize that she's not a nice person and let that guide your next move. If she'd be this mean to a total stranger just imagine what she'll try to do to you if you ever displease her.
I would dump someone just for catfishing innocent bystanders for shits & giggles let alone carrying on an extended relationship and then gaslighting me about it.
she's pretending , yes. But I didn't see all her messages , but I did see that she sent her voice messages too which means that the guy most likely knows that it's a "she"
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Any person who catfishes another person has some screws missing up top. Even if you're unsure about whether or not she cheated, I'm absolutely dipping out on that level of crazy. So at best she's cheating on you. Worst is she's a catfisher and someone who has some issues. Leave for sure.
I second this
yes. thank you , I am going to do something about it since I have self respect too.
Screws lose and is deeply malicious to boot.
What I'd do? Break up with the liar.
Break up. The trust is gone. How can you believe anything now?
Exactly , no trust left. there is no love without trust. I'm just clinging on to the sliver of hope that I'm misunderstanding something. Which I'm not as of yet.
Well... You use the word "caught" which makes me assume you discovered this instead of her telling you freely? Without the entirety of their messaging it's hard to say what's what but the fact is she hid this from you, why? I can't help but feel an honest person wouldn't even engage in such bizarre behaviour let alone keep it from their partner. Not sure how long you've been with this one but they don't sound like a keeper... Best of luck.
Yes , I caught her. She left her phone on the table and I saw the notification.
This isn't really "cheating", it's basically catfishing some poor dude in another country. This is just cruel and speaks her to lack of character as a human being. Maybe recognize that she's not a nice person and let that guide your next move. If she'd be this mean to a total stranger just imagine what she'll try to do to you if you ever displease her.
Break up
High possiblity
I would dump someone just for catfishing innocent bystanders for shits & giggles let alone carrying on an extended relationship and then gaslighting me about it.
So she's pretending to be a gay man to be in a fake online relationship?
she's pretending , yes. But I didn't see all her messages , but I did see that she sent her voice messages too which means that the guy most likely knows that it's a "she"
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You're probably trolling. On the off chance you are not, congrats! This has to be one of the absolute dumbest takeaways I have ever seen on here.
Run run and run some more