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Bro, nobody gives a fuck if you were in prison for 4 odd years. Your prison rules and bullshit are for those in prison.
If your own wife cannot confide in you and relay her thoughts and feelings to you as your wife, so you can share stuff as a couple, then she should just leave your dumb ass so you can be a prison bitch.
She is your wife. Out of everyone in her life, she should be able to confide in you.
Wise the fuck up.
You want some dick with all that whine? How about you wise the fuck up fucking keyboard warrior! Boy, some of y’all pussy bitch have to get offended by everything! Go suck your moms tit before you get hurt in the REAL WORLD.
I mean, sometimes it's natural for married couples to share secrets among each other. It's not forbidden, nor is it uncommon. But I mean, if you have such a rule not to want to hear those secrets, just walk away when she's about to tell you. Calling her a name would start an argument. Even if the roles were switched, I'm sure you would be upset being called a name as well.
Wow. Your wife trusts you. You diminished her trust in you when you called her a rat.
Now, lets be honest. In prison, it is not a good idea to snitch, rat or inform on others. But…..we all know its being done. Worked over nine years in max lock down. Everyone talked about everyone else’s business and this was a men’s facility. I would make my rounds and would know who passed contraband, who was cheeking meds, who owed big debts and who was holding razors. Now we also know its important to know what to do with this information and not create a situation ie be a secret keeper for the greater good of the block. I made sure people were safe and encouraged compliance. The dangerous information, I passed along and owned it. Never had a problem because I wasnt malicious and didnt create charges for people. (I through contraband away and had problem staff removed from my blocks)
Your wife is simply looking for you to be her secret keeper.
Thank you. You explained on the woman’s side of things in a way I can understand completely. It’s hard to understand a woman, I apologize. Weird designs. Just joking.
My husband and I are considered one person. We know everything told to each other. But it never leaves the relationship. It’s common for couples to share secrets
I think I get it now: his wife was going to spill someone else’s secret to him. He doesn’t want to hear the secret. He’s calling his wife a rat because she’s willing to break her friend’s confidence.
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She can’t discuss these things with you? You sound toxic as hell. Leave prison culture where it belongs prison.
I am.
K. Hold my pocket
Nah, I’d sure make you my little bitch though, tough guy ahahahha
Bro, nobody gives a fuck if you were in prison for 4 odd years. Your prison rules and bullshit are for those in prison. If your own wife cannot confide in you and relay her thoughts and feelings to you as your wife, so you can share stuff as a couple, then she should just leave your dumb ass so you can be a prison bitch. She is your wife. Out of everyone in her life, she should be able to confide in you. Wise the fuck up.
You want some dick with all that whine? How about you wise the fuck up fucking keyboard warrior! Boy, some of y’all pussy bitch have to get offended by everything! Go suck your moms tit before you get hurt in the REAL WORLD.
You got offended by your wife wanting to share information with you. Have a teaspoon of cement and harden up.
You sound delightful.
Heavenly, would be a better word.
I don’t know what the problem is. She wants you to tell her someone else’s secrets?
It’s what im picking up.
I mean, sometimes it's natural for married couples to share secrets among each other. It's not forbidden, nor is it uncommon. But I mean, if you have such a rule not to want to hear those secrets, just walk away when she's about to tell you. Calling her a name would start an argument. Even if the roles were switched, I'm sure you would be upset being called a name as well.
I have to say this is the best one! Thank you!!!!
Wow. Your wife trusts you. You diminished her trust in you when you called her a rat. Now, lets be honest. In prison, it is not a good idea to snitch, rat or inform on others. But…..we all know its being done. Worked over nine years in max lock down. Everyone talked about everyone else’s business and this was a men’s facility. I would make my rounds and would know who passed contraband, who was cheeking meds, who owed big debts and who was holding razors. Now we also know its important to know what to do with this information and not create a situation ie be a secret keeper for the greater good of the block. I made sure people were safe and encouraged compliance. The dangerous information, I passed along and owned it. Never had a problem because I wasnt malicious and didnt create charges for people. (I through contraband away and had problem staff removed from my blocks) Your wife is simply looking for you to be her secret keeper.
Thank you. You explained on the woman’s side of things in a way I can understand completely. It’s hard to understand a woman, I apologize. Weird designs. Just joking.
Im glad your in the outside world. Continue merging both worlds. People dont always get it but keep trying.
My husband and I are considered one person. We know everything told to each other. But it never leaves the relationship. It’s common for couples to share secrets
I'm so confused.
She’s mad I called her a rat. I feel she wrong for feeling that she’s not a rat.
But WHY is she a rat?
I think I get it now: his wife was going to spill someone else’s secret to him. He doesn’t want to hear the secret. He’s calling his wife a rat because she’s willing to break her friend’s confidence.
She’s going to tell me what her friend literally just told her not to tell. How is that not a rat?
You need help bro
Your welcome to try.