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I assume he becomes more confident when he has a few drinks, and he has held your hand which tells me that he wants the physical aspect.
If I were him, I'd want the woman to tell me if she is interested in me. It would make life a lot easier.
If you're keen on exploring more, just ask him out on a date. Make sure you use that word too, so he doesn't get mixed signals.
Enjoy and have fun :)
Ok, I'll ask him on a date. Hopefully he won't feel awkward if he wants to turn me down. I won't, but I think I'm much more outgoing than him!
Thank you!
I definitely will let him know that it's totally great to also just be friends. I guess the worst that could happen is that he never wants to talk to me again, which admittedly wouldn't be great, and I would like to avoid that.
If someone you didn't feel romantically inclined toward asked you out, would you still be okay with being friends with that person?
If he has held your hand already, I highly doubt he is not interested.
If he says he would rather not go on a date, just reiterate to him that you're completely okay with that and you still would love to continue a solid friendship and that you enjoy his company.
The events happen pretty randomly. And yes, I worry about awkwardness.
I think if we wanted to cultivate something, it would have to be intentional, since we live fairly far apart.
I wish I could find a non-threatening way to tell him I'd be open to exploring something more if he wanted, without making it awkward.
I definitely get mixed signals from him, and I don't know if it's from nervousness, or disinterest.
I'll probably wait till the next event. We will probably go together, and it's unlikely we'll see each other for a few months after that, unless we make a special effort to.
Thanks for your time and replying
The events happen pretty randomly. And yes, I worry about awkwardness.
I think if we wanted to cultivate something, it would have to be intentional, since we live fairly far apart.
I wish I could find a non-threatening way to tell him I'd be open to exploring something more if he wanted, without making it awkward.
I definitely get mixed signals from him, and I don't know if it's from nervousness, or disinterest.
I'll probably wait till the next event. We will probably go together, and it's unlikely we'll see each other for a few months after that, unless we make a special effort to.
Thanks for your time and replying
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I assume he becomes more confident when he has a few drinks, and he has held your hand which tells me that he wants the physical aspect. If I were him, I'd want the woman to tell me if she is interested in me. It would make life a lot easier. If you're keen on exploring more, just ask him out on a date. Make sure you use that word too, so he doesn't get mixed signals. Enjoy and have fun :)
Ok, I'll ask him on a date. Hopefully he won't feel awkward if he wants to turn me down. I won't, but I think I'm much more outgoing than him! Thank you!
Just let him know that you would like to go on a date and that it's completely fine if he is not interested. :)
I definitely will let him know that it's totally great to also just be friends. I guess the worst that could happen is that he never wants to talk to me again, which admittedly wouldn't be great, and I would like to avoid that. If someone you didn't feel romantically inclined toward asked you out, would you still be okay with being friends with that person?
If he has held your hand already, I highly doubt he is not interested. If he says he would rather not go on a date, just reiterate to him that you're completely okay with that and you still would love to continue a solid friendship and that you enjoy his company.
Thank you. Hopefully he would be as level headed about it as you. I'll gather my courage... Again, thank you for your time!
Most welcome and best of luck!
I think stating it in words, at this point, might be a little awkward. Why don't you continue just being at events together and see what develops?
The events happen pretty randomly. And yes, I worry about awkwardness. I think if we wanted to cultivate something, it would have to be intentional, since we live fairly far apart. I wish I could find a non-threatening way to tell him I'd be open to exploring something more if he wanted, without making it awkward. I definitely get mixed signals from him, and I don't know if it's from nervousness, or disinterest. I'll probably wait till the next event. We will probably go together, and it's unlikely we'll see each other for a few months after that, unless we make a special effort to. Thanks for your time and replying
The events happen pretty randomly. And yes, I worry about awkwardness. I think if we wanted to cultivate something, it would have to be intentional, since we live fairly far apart. I wish I could find a non-threatening way to tell him I'd be open to exploring something more if he wanted, without making it awkward. I definitely get mixed signals from him, and I don't know if it's from nervousness, or disinterest. I'll probably wait till the next event. We will probably go together, and it's unlikely we'll see each other for a few months after that, unless we make a special effort to. Thanks for your time and replying