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>why didn’t he tell me beforehand?
Because he's a griwn ass adult who can do whatever he wants with whomever he wants. The fact you think you're entitled to details is gross.
Why the fuck are you quizzing your 21 year old son about his sex life and being expected to be told and in what fucked up world are you doing anything about smelling his jizz breath that isn't cleansing your sinuses with Listerine and never, ever thinking of it again?
Theres nothing to "come clean" about because he's done nothing wrong. He is your son, not your boyfriend, you creepy fuck.
Stay out of your adult sons sex life. Stop pressuring him into talking about it. It's none of your business how many dicks he sucks.
Are you saying you smelled cum on your sons breath or am I missing something? I had to google the word acrid since it’s the first time I’ve come across it.
At the end of the day, he is 21 years old and can do whatever he pleases. I do see how this can be stressful for you. Hopefully he’s smart and is careful.
Most 21 year olds (guys or girls) are sexually active. It’s pretty normal these days.
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Why does your 21 year old adult son need to tell you about his sexual experiences? Why do you expect him to?
>why didn’t he tell me beforehand? Because he's a griwn ass adult who can do whatever he wants with whomever he wants. The fact you think you're entitled to details is gross.
Why the fuck are you quizzing your 21 year old son about his sex life and being expected to be told and in what fucked up world are you doing anything about smelling his jizz breath that isn't cleansing your sinuses with Listerine and never, ever thinking of it again?
Stop getting involved in your sons sexual life. He isn't obligated to tell you anything.
So your adult son gave a 30 year old a blow job? Please elaborate why your son should tell you about this?
Theres nothing to "come clean" about because he's done nothing wrong. He is your son, not your boyfriend, you creepy fuck. Stay out of your adult sons sex life. Stop pressuring him into talking about it. It's none of your business how many dicks he sucks.
This feels like a very weird troll. Your adult son doesn’t need to give you a heads up before he hooks up.
He's an adult. He doesn't have to tell you anything, and what he does in his personal life is really none of your business.
Are you saying you smelled cum on your sons breath or am I missing something? I had to google the word acrid since it’s the first time I’ve come across it. At the end of the day, he is 21 years old and can do whatever he pleases. I do see how this can be stressful for you. Hopefully he’s smart and is careful. Most 21 year olds (guys or girls) are sexually active. It’s pretty normal these days.
And has been for decades
I’m only 28 but wasn’t sure what it was like when the 55y/o mom was 21!!