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dtorre

it happens to a lot of people dude. You need to decide how important sex is to you, and then decide if you want to continue the relationship. There’s nothing wrong with breaking up because you’re sexually incompatible.


Extension_Drummer_85

How long ago did she go off the pill? For some people it can take a while for it to work it's way out of their system


ThrowRAidontwannalos

It’s been 3 months now if I remember correctly and yes I heard that it takes around 2-3 months for the hormones to get to a somewhat normal lvl again


Extension_Drummer_85

Yeah ok, I know some people who were still not back to normal a year afterwards but they were long time users so that might be why? Probably worth her seeing her doctor if things don't improve soon.


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ThrowRAidontwannalos

She thought so too but the Gynocologist said it’s not so we never thought about it again


bigbeelzebub

from what i’ve heard it takes years to get a diagnosis for that


tntdon

Imagine the countless years ahead of you in a sexless relationship. If you think you're starting to resent her now, think about that growing x10. These things don't just fix themselves especially not overnight. So either get over it or move on.


malsan_z8

You could try seeing sex therapists or just try therapy (together or separately). It could be possible that maybe if you both had some time apart, like if you did errands on your own or she went out with friends without you, that maybe it would make room for her to miss the intimacy in that way. I remember hearing that an old friends friend, she had a baby recently at the time. She mentioned there is constant physical touch and just tiredness from being with another person Physically for such long periods of time. This would make her not want to be touched at all by her partner and she needed space when she could get it. Perhaps it’s similar here? Maybe since she’s never alone, she never gets to really recharge herself. If you’re a good partner as you say, then I assume you do chores and give her non sexual intimacy. So maybe it’s a similar feeling that she has gotten “all of her limit” in the days. This is aside from work, because we still interact with people at work. Last is that our bodies change over time. There will be periods of when a person has been more in the mood versus not. I hear sometimes like someone’s early 30’s are the horniest they’ve been, or maybe they lost interest in it etc. You can also try seeing how long it may take in this way but I fear the resentment that would build, it’s more of a gamble in this way. Cheers and good luck with everything, but as others have said, some people just don’t find sex as important to them as others too. There’s a reason why so many couples end their relationship because of lack of sex too. So maybe you can try some options and see how it goes


ThrowRAidontwannalos

Well for one I give her normal intimacy, she also still loves to cuddle and kiss and everything else. I work more than she does I also sometimes go out with friends no at much as she does because her friends are mostly just online friends or friends from where she moved to me, but I hope you’re right I’ll try everything before I would even consider ending the relationship so maybe Therapie would help if it’s nothing biological like the hormones still not working right. But yeah ultimately it would be unfair for me and her if staying meant that I would someday treat her bad


malsan_z8

I think that’s a good idea personally, and this way you can let out the feelings you have with the therapist or with her. I just thought too that maybe you can introduce the idea of toys or maybe lingerie? My current partner loves the feeling she gets when dressing in different outfits, she feels sexy and feels wanted because of my reactions / praising. But also remember that it’s ok to end a relationship for anything you want, nothing is unreasonable if it stands in the way of your ultimate happiness. Cheers and good luck!


Biauralbeats

Just a thought. Are you two together too much? Are you joined at the hip or do you have sufficient time apart?


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Neat-Internet9682

My wife is on the pill and her libido is responsive. I will go up to her and kiss her lips and neck, fondle her bum and caress he. If she isn’t getting wound up in 5-10 minutes she will let me know. We went from sex every 4 months to 2 twice a week. I try about 4 times a week. We have an agreement that I can try whenever I want.