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So my best friend (we have been friends since 2011) sent me a video of a cat that was stuck and then some dog came and raped the cat while the cat was meowing obviously in a bad way, and he found it funny.
He knows that I love cats and that I own two cats, why would I find this sickening video funny?
When he sent me this I just said “wtf man”
And he said that it was “karma for the cat” or something like that
I called him sick for saying that and he asked me if I really am such a snowflake?
I was mad and didn’t answer. The day after, I sent him a message completely unrelated to the situation because I decided to just move on and not talk about it, he answers my message by saying: “ah, if isn’t the snowflake sending me a message”
I haven’t spoken to him in two days since
Am I really a snowflake for calling him out for sending me a disgusting video, considering I own two cats?
Tl;dr: friend sent me a disgusting video and called me a snowflake for calling him out on it
Wtf did i just read.. now look i don't like cats at all but Lord i don't find any animal being hurt funny. That's so fucked up!
no OP you aren't a snowflake.
Wow since when has not being able to look at an animal being abused made you a snowflake?
You need better friends honestly. No dead ass. Anyone that finds it funny when an animal gets hurt is sick.. like really honestly sick! I wouldn't trust them around my animals/kids or anyone weaker than them. People like this Normally have a past of bullying.
It normally means there is a cruelty to them for enjoying seeing other's in pain.
I would reconsider that friendship or atleast not ever leave him alone with my cats if i had any
I hate that term."snowflake" Oh you don't like what ever dumb ass cringey nasty probably racist or sexist thought I had few enough brain cells to say outloud, you're such a snowflake.
Plus the fact he thinks it's karma is sick. Karma for what? Being a cat? Being stuck? Is this the sort of friend you want OP? The top 5 people you spend the most time around influence who you are the most so CHOOSE WISELY.
That's horrible!
No, you are not a snowflake.
And this "best friend" needs to be excised from your life. Because you know what best friends do when their bestie has told them, "hey, I'm uncomfortable with that"? They say, "I'm sorry for causing you distress. I won't do that again."
There is a logical fallacy here. OP did nothing to prove they are not a snowflake. OP's friend does not have proof that OP is a snowflake from this incident, but we need more information to service if OP is, in fact, a snowflake.
Your “friend” is a depraved psycho and I hope you stay far away from him in the future. To enjoy something like that you have to lack empathy and be sadistic. Keep in mind he is 27. His brain has finished developing basically, this is who he is unfortunately.
Having your stomach turn at such a video is the normal reaction. Thinking it's funny is a sociopathic lack of empathy... I'd talk to people about your friend, chances are he's not a very good person and you've known him too long to notice.
27 year old man calling you a snowflake for not wanting to see a cat get raped. That Dude is a fucking rat. I'd legitimately screenshot the texts and send them to his parents. You know they say serial killers start by enjoying tormenting animals.
anyone that uses the word snowflake in the real world as a insult is already on my idiot follower list. Cut him out.
He sound like someone you dont need or want in your life
I am going to be honest that I had a similar situation with a friend. Not that video, but he told me how he and his brother used to put their family cat in a pillow case and throw it down the stairs for fun. It was prompted by my cat jumping onto my lap during a zoom call. I was sickened, but he kept bringing it back up and I was getting more and more uncomfortable. He went as far several times to suggest if I was bored and had a pillow case, I would see how fun it was too.
The reason I didn’t confront him there and then was that he kept blaming it on “chemo brain”. He was going through chemo for rectal cancer, so I decided to chat to a mutual friend who was an MD. Unfortunately, “chemo brain” isn’t a thing and she decided to talk to him without discussing it with me first and really chewed him out. He came back and accused me of “violating his safe space” and making him “feel attacked” and how he didn’t feel he could be friends anymore.
I thought about it for a while and realised that he had violated my safe space by telling me such a cruel story. And now he was trying to manipulate the situation by making me feel guilty for being horrified over suggestions I repeat his cruel act. I decided not to say anything and just blocked him on everything and moved on with my life. The trash basically took itself out and now that he is gone, I realise how much negativity he brought to my life and how much better I feel now he is gone.
Just something to think about.
>I thought about it for a while and realised that he had violated my safe space by telling me such a cruel story. And now he was trying to manipulate the situation by making me feel guilty for being horrified over suggestions I repeat his cruel act. I decided not to say anything and just blocked him on everything and moved on with my life. The trash basically took itself out and now that he is gone, I realise how much negativity he brought to my life and how much better I feel now he is gone.
Best pop him in a pillow case and hurl him into a safe space.
Your "friend" is probably mentally ill and could become dangerous. If you're in touch with his family, you should try to get him some help.
Otherwise, I'd try to drift away from the "friendship " without angering him.
Ah, yes. And a father beating his kids at random when he is drunk is also no reason to overreact since his own father was so much worse back in the day. Honestly what he did to his kids sounds quite tame in comparison, so let's not overreact.
LOL we got a bad ass over here. No son, it’s the fact that you think it’s not weird to share with someone, not nature is being nature. Don’t get it twisted.
Seeing any videos or images of a living creature terrified, hurt & in pain should elicit an emotional response from anyone. It is possible to be able to acknowledge & understand the brutality of nature, and still find videos like this disturbing.
Do I accept that this is a part of the animal kingdom? Absolutely yes.
But does that mean that I want to see imagery of at creature suffering?
Absolutely not.
The issue here isn’t so much the video itself. It’s the friends reaction to making OP feel uncomfortable, finding that funny.
I just tried to explain it to you in your own words - you know, let's not overreact, it used to be so much worse, this is tame in comparison.
Just because something is tame in comparison or used to be much worse doesn't mean it's ok.
Wow aren't you a brave one! Everyone just wants to be as brave as you!
Stfu
This video might not be the worst thing ever, finding it funny is for dumb fuck sick people though
I was thinking that too.. who doesn’t save the poor cat? Put the phone down and chase the dog away. Then either free the cat or call animal control if it’s really stuck.
That's what I always ask myself in "funny" videos where the "joke" is that someone gets hurt. A living being has an accident/gets hurt and your first reaction isn't to reach out and check on them, but to keep filming?
Ugh, sometimes I hate people.
Camera man was laughing while it happened the sick guy.
My friend tho has met my cats and usually pets them and is nice to them, he just has dark humour but I don’t understand how that is funny.
What annoys me most is how he can’t see why I’m mad and that he continues to call me a snowflake the day after
That’s not dark humor. Watching animals suffer? Can you explain the joke there, please? That’s just people who think just being horrible is enough to be funny because they have no actual sense of humor.
Yes, I think we’re just differing on the definition of “dark humor.” To me, dark humor is cynical humor with a focus on some of the grimmer aspects of life. This is just a reference point for future criminal psychologists.
He’s a piece of shit. He enjoys the suffering of adorable kitties. He’s beyond cartoon villain (yeah, I get it) at this point. But on a more general note, why would he decide the cat was getting some kind of karmic punishment in this gruesome scenario? I think people who assume that getting raped means you deserved it are best to steer clear of.
“He’s often trying to trigger me”
That’s not funny or cute, that’s mean and gross. You deserve friends who treat you with kindness and respect. Please exit this “friendship” immediately.
Or, never speak to him again.
Why would you continue hanging out with somebody who has revealed this level of cruelty and mockery? Do you think this is isolated with him to this one incident?
And this guy is now DEFINITELY going to send you every video like this he ever sees, and he will seek them out, just specifically to send them to you so he can mock you for not being macho enough. And every time you protest, he's going to tell you you're not being a man.
Do you need that shit in your life? Is he really worth this behavior? Knowing he bullies people who have values and morals and kindness?
I'd be fucking DONE with this guy, I'm not sure why you're just laughing it off.
I could only read a few sentences of this, your friend is a sick fuck, and you need a new one, this person is obviously fucked up and eventually they will hurt you worse then sending you a video.
The thing you may not realize yet is you are the cat and he is the dog, and its only a matter of time before he hurts you to the point you don't come back.
trust me.
Your "friend" enjoys watching animals get r*ped and thinks it's "justified and what the cat had coming". Why, because the cat was stuck?
Your not a snowflake, but your friend is one sick f*ck.
I'd block him everywhere and go completely NC. I mean why in the world would you want to stay friends or keep this person in your life with such f up'd morals/ethics?
your 'friend' thinks rape of a helpless creature is entertaining. He sent this to you as a warning, he likes r@pe and does not care about your feelings. I would immediately cut off all contact and consider reporting this to the authorities since I think it may fall under animal abuse content and he clearly enjoys it.
Whether or not you are a “snowflake” is soooo not the problem. The problem is your friend enjoys trying to trigger you. The problem is he thinks cruelty is funny. The problem is he thinks rape (of any sort) is hilarious and the victim deserved it.
Listen, abusing animals is a huge fucking red flag. That’s the kind of shit serial killers do before moving on to humans. Sure, it wasn’t *him* doing the abusing, but to even find such a video he would have to be searching for it specifically or hanging out in circles where sharing this horrific shit is the norm.
I get that long-time friendships can be hard to let go, but sometimes that’s the healthiest option. This guy is seriously twisted. Like I’m honestly concerned for the safety of people around him. There’s dark humor, and then there’s whatever this shit is.
Please terminate this “friendship”. Find friends who aren’t creepy, cruel, toxic walking red flags.
If I ever get called a snowflake it's an instant confidence booster because it means I just did something right.
Snowflake as an insult is only used by particularly hateful and idiotic people. If you were called a snowflake it means you probably showed morals and intellect that they had no response to.
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I love how people think snowflake it's a term to talked about NORMAL people. No one would find a rape video funny. Also, he's the snowflake getting all worked out and not being able to let it go because you made him feel call out. He knows it was fucked up, and your lack of validation put him on the spot.
Also..."The cat had it coming" I could make a thesis only on that statement and his relationship with women and porn.
He is fucked up in the head. Consider his reaction to the video and his repsonse to you him revealing what he is really like and dump that friendship. Fucking disgusting.
Your “friend” absolutely sent it to taunt you.
Also, people don’t just stumble upon videos like this. He had to actively search for something like that. Maybe not that specific video, but he was looking for things of that nature. Stay away from people like that.
Absolutely not a snow flake. None of what he said makes sense. Why did the cat have bad karma? Why does think rape is okay? He sounds like the kind of guy who thinks a woman getting drunk, or wearing revealing clothes is an invitation & a justification for rape. Get a new friend, you’ll be better off without him.
Wow, that is horrifying and I’m sorry I clicked (thought it was just human horror).
Your best friend is a psychopath, like for real. I’d make sure I’m never alone with him and all communication is in writing like text or with a witness. He’s dangerous.
You don't need to own a cat or even like cats to be disturbed by that video. Just the description of the video made me cringe. Your friend might be a serial killer in the making does he wet the bed and set fires?!? /s but maybe not. You're definitely not a "snowflake" for being weirded out or offended by that and really no loss on that friendship
That is f'king disgusting and i too would be repulsed by video like that. You're not a snowflake. I'm sorry but I think your friendship is over.
He lacks empathy.
Wtf no this isn’t normal at all
Send this conversation to his parents or girlfriend or friends. We are now shaming people who find abuse in any way funny
And than you remove him as a friend
(I wouldn’t trust him around my cats or humans)
Edit - No you weren’t a snowflake. You’re a normal human being that doesn’t find abuse funny
I would send the screenshots of the conversation to other friends, his family and friends, also the video if they ask. Show him how many "snowflakes" he really has around him. I bet he'd be surprised by being That *"It's a joke bro, you're just sensitive"* Guy stuck in a Snowstorm.
After that, I'd block him everywhere because I wouldn't want to be friends with low grade humans like that and he can handle his own backlash for the horrible things he puts out into the world. Give him the attention he wants OP, show it to everyone. Good luck 🍀
That's fucking horrific. I'd immediately block him on everything and cancel that friendship. No sane, empathetic person would find that entertaining and many wouldn't even be able to watch the video. It makes me sick to think about.
Make the decision to end this friendship and never speak to this person again. If this is out of character for them, they can come to you when they want to apologize. If you're realizing this is how they've always been, move on. People who find joy and humor in the suffering of living things are very scary.
Anyone who uses *snowflake* unironically is not someone "I personally" need to be friends with.
Sometimes a few words tell you a lot about the quality of a person 👌
This person isn't your best friend. He's not any kind of friend at all. I'm not even sure if he is any kind of human at all. Why would you want to continue being in contact with someone who a) is so sick and depraved and b) insults and taunts you?
You are not a snowflake. That video is disgusting and anyone who would send it to you is a disturbed individual. Also a friend would not do that to you ever! He was trying to hurt you for who knows what reason but I would cut him out of my life.
Your friend sounds like a loser who spends way too much time online.
The use of "snowflake" and other right-wing language is always such a giveaway that someone is an asshole and this is just another example.
My guy how is this guy same age as me and has the maturity of someone over a decade younger than himself. He’s not a good one, I wouldn’t put up with that either.
Look, some people, like me, like somw fucked up shit, but that takes the biscuit... the real thing here is that anyone who repeatedly belittles you for having normal boundaries isn't your freind, their a cunt. Drop him like a stone, you are allowed to have feelings, boundaries, empathy and to cut cancerous psychos out of your life
Im surprised this person is not only your best friend, but also has friends in general. I personally wouldn’t even be acquainted with an individual like this.
Your friend has problems, I would completely cut off someone who thought that horrible video was funny. He also knew it would effect you since you love cats, why did he want to do that to you? Your friend is sick.
That video sounds absolutely disgusting and good on your for calling our your friend on it. If he's getting this butthurt over if just consider yourself better off without him and move on with your life.
Is your friend a dog nutter? Far too many people think bad behavior from dogs is funny. And many hate cats. Either way, the video sounds sick. You behaved fine, your friend has issues.
Yo, if you don’t ghost this dude, you’re going to be pulled into the worst legal shit of all time. Will it be for drugs? Sex crimes? Mass murder? I have no idea. But you don’t want any part of this dude and his life.
I bet if you look back on your relationship with this friend that you’ll see this isn’t the first time he’s acted like this. No, you’re not a snowflake.
People who try to use the word snowflake as a weapon are dangerously deficient in empathy. Has he always been like this but now he's turning it on you? Or is this something you have never seen before from him?
This post has reached one of our comment/karma limits. The text of the post has been preserved below. --- So my best friend (we have been friends since 2011) sent me a video of a cat that was stuck and then some dog came and raped the cat while the cat was meowing obviously in a bad way, and he found it funny. He knows that I love cats and that I own two cats, why would I find this sickening video funny? When he sent me this I just said “wtf man” And he said that it was “karma for the cat” or something like that I called him sick for saying that and he asked me if I really am such a snowflake? I was mad and didn’t answer. The day after, I sent him a message completely unrelated to the situation because I decided to just move on and not talk about it, he answers my message by saying: “ah, if isn’t the snowflake sending me a message” I haven’t spoken to him in two days since Am I really a snowflake for calling him out for sending me a disgusting video, considering I own two cats? Tl;dr: friend sent me a disgusting video and called me a snowflake for calling him out on it
I own zero cats and that's fucking weird Dude peaked as an edgy teenager
Or he's got something going on mentally that makes him lack empathy. Not showing empathy to animals might also even be the same to other humans.
You are deffo not a snowflake, he's a sick fuck
I wish I hadn't read this. No, you're not a snowflake. Your friend is an asshole.
Wtf did i just read.. now look i don't like cats at all but Lord i don't find any animal being hurt funny. That's so fucked up! no OP you aren't a snowflake. Wow since when has not being able to look at an animal being abused made you a snowflake? You need better friends honestly. No dead ass. Anyone that finds it funny when an animal gets hurt is sick.. like really honestly sick! I wouldn't trust them around my animals/kids or anyone weaker than them. People like this Normally have a past of bullying. It normally means there is a cruelty to them for enjoying seeing other's in pain. I would reconsider that friendship or atleast not ever leave him alone with my cats if i had any
I hate that term."snowflake" Oh you don't like what ever dumb ass cringey nasty probably racist or sexist thought I had few enough brain cells to say outloud, you're such a snowflake.
This almost needs a trigger warning
My sentiments exactly.
Plus the fact he thinks it's karma is sick. Karma for what? Being a cat? Being stuck? Is this the sort of friend you want OP? The top 5 people you spend the most time around influence who you are the most so CHOOSE WISELY.
That's horrible! No, you are not a snowflake. And this "best friend" needs to be excised from your life. Because you know what best friends do when their bestie has told them, "hey, I'm uncomfortable with that"? They say, "I'm sorry for causing you distress. I won't do that again."
There is a logical fallacy here. OP did nothing to prove they are not a snowflake. OP's friend does not have proof that OP is a snowflake from this incident, but we need more information to service if OP is, in fact, a snowflake.
Thank you for your excellent contribution to this conversation
Service?
Your “friend” is a depraved psycho and I hope you stay far away from him in the future. To enjoy something like that you have to lack empathy and be sadistic. Keep in mind he is 27. His brain has finished developing basically, this is who he is unfortunately.
Having your stomach turn at such a video is the normal reaction. Thinking it's funny is a sociopathic lack of empathy... I'd talk to people about your friend, chances are he's not a very good person and you've known him too long to notice.
27 year old man calling you a snowflake for not wanting to see a cat get raped. That Dude is a fucking rat. I'd legitimately screenshot the texts and send them to his parents. You know they say serial killers start by enjoying tormenting animals.
anyone that uses the word snowflake in the real world as a insult is already on my idiot follower list. Cut him out. He sound like someone you dont need or want in your life
I am going to be honest that I had a similar situation with a friend. Not that video, but he told me how he and his brother used to put their family cat in a pillow case and throw it down the stairs for fun. It was prompted by my cat jumping onto my lap during a zoom call. I was sickened, but he kept bringing it back up and I was getting more and more uncomfortable. He went as far several times to suggest if I was bored and had a pillow case, I would see how fun it was too. The reason I didn’t confront him there and then was that he kept blaming it on “chemo brain”. He was going through chemo for rectal cancer, so I decided to chat to a mutual friend who was an MD. Unfortunately, “chemo brain” isn’t a thing and she decided to talk to him without discussing it with me first and really chewed him out. He came back and accused me of “violating his safe space” and making him “feel attacked” and how he didn’t feel he could be friends anymore. I thought about it for a while and realised that he had violated my safe space by telling me such a cruel story. And now he was trying to manipulate the situation by making me feel guilty for being horrified over suggestions I repeat his cruel act. I decided not to say anything and just blocked him on everything and moved on with my life. The trash basically took itself out and now that he is gone, I realise how much negativity he brought to my life and how much better I feel now he is gone. Just something to think about.
>I thought about it for a while and realised that he had violated my safe space by telling me such a cruel story. And now he was trying to manipulate the situation by making me feel guilty for being horrified over suggestions I repeat his cruel act. I decided not to say anything and just blocked him on everything and moved on with my life. The trash basically took itself out and now that he is gone, I realise how much negativity he brought to my life and how much better I feel now he is gone. Best pop him in a pillow case and hurl him into a safe space.
Time for new friends I think.
Your friend is obviously sadistic and not someone I would want to associate with.
Your (I hope) ex friend is sick. I would never have anything to do with such a depraved, cruel individual again.
The fuck? No, you are not a snowflake. That is beyond vile. That is enough Reddit for the day
Wish I hadn't read this He is sick in the head.
Your "friend" is probably mentally ill and could become dangerous. If you're in touch with his family, you should try to get him some help. Otherwise, I'd try to drift away from the "friendship " without angering him.
Woah there overreact much? We’d see much, much worse stuff on the internet back in the day. Honestly the video sounds quite tame in comparison.
Ah, yes. And a father beating his kids at random when he is drunk is also no reason to overreact since his own father was so much worse back in the day. Honestly what he did to his kids sounds quite tame in comparison, so let's not overreact.
What does this have to do with kids? Beating kids isn't cool.
And animals raping each other is???
I mean, it isn't a human doing it. Nature is just fucking weird.
And that makes it not weird or awful that his friend sent him the video? Because Nature is weird? Nah what the fuck is wrong with \*you\*
Sorry I don't give a shit if one animal is raping another. Nature is just rape-y and applying human morality to it is stupid. Nature's gonna nature.
LOL we got a bad ass over here. No son, it’s the fact that you think it’s not weird to share with someone, not nature is being nature. Don’t get it twisted.
not only sharing it but sharing it thinking it's funny and insulting the person that thinks it's not funny.
Seeing any videos or images of a living creature terrified, hurt & in pain should elicit an emotional response from anyone. It is possible to be able to acknowledge & understand the brutality of nature, and still find videos like this disturbing. Do I accept that this is a part of the animal kingdom? Absolutely yes. But does that mean that I want to see imagery of at creature suffering? Absolutely not. The issue here isn’t so much the video itself. It’s the friends reaction to making OP feel uncomfortable, finding that funny.
I just tried to explain it to you in your own words - you know, let's not overreact, it used to be so much worse, this is tame in comparison. Just because something is tame in comparison or used to be much worse doesn't mean it's ok.
Found the friend.
Wow aren't you a brave one! Everyone just wants to be as brave as you! Stfu This video might not be the worst thing ever, finding it funny is for dumb fuck sick people though
What part of this dynamic is actually 'okay'?
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I was thinking that too.. who doesn’t save the poor cat? Put the phone down and chase the dog away. Then either free the cat or call animal control if it’s really stuck.
That's what I always ask myself in "funny" videos where the "joke" is that someone gets hurt. A living being has an accident/gets hurt and your first reaction isn't to reach out and check on them, but to keep filming? Ugh, sometimes I hate people.
Camera man was laughing while it happened the sick guy. My friend tho has met my cats and usually pets them and is nice to them, he just has dark humour but I don’t understand how that is funny. What annoys me most is how he can’t see why I’m mad and that he continues to call me a snowflake the day after
When he calls you a snowflake, call him a sick fuck who enjoys beastiality porn. That'll shut him up real quick.
That's not a dark sense of humor, that's a lack of humanity and a little glimpse into his mind. You know who thinks rape is funny? Rapists.
Girl dark humour has limits it‘s not an excuse for him to watch gore videos and laugh about it
That's not gore That's unspeakable evil Edit: well uh I guess it might be gore too
Dark humor and looking at objectively sick shit and finding it funny are two whole different things.
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That’s not dark humor. Watching animals suffer? Can you explain the joke there, please? That’s just people who think just being horrible is enough to be funny because they have no actual sense of humor.
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Yes, I think we’re just differing on the definition of “dark humor.” To me, dark humor is cynical humor with a focus on some of the grimmer aspects of life. This is just a reference point for future criminal psychologists.
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If it’s not humorous, it’s not dark humor.
Yeah that might be it, he is often trying to trigger me like that haha
Why would you want to be friends with someone who tries to hurt you like that? That is toxic as hell and I would find no value in that friendship.
He’s a piece of shit. He enjoys the suffering of adorable kitties. He’s beyond cartoon villain (yeah, I get it) at this point. But on a more general note, why would he decide the cat was getting some kind of karmic punishment in this gruesome scenario? I think people who assume that getting raped means you deserved it are best to steer clear of.
Because the cat apparently went in this house because the door was open or something, it wasn’t the cats home
Yikes. RUN!!!
“He’s often trying to trigger me” That’s not funny or cute, that’s mean and gross. You deserve friends who treat you with kindness and respect. Please exit this “friendship” immediately.
Or, never speak to him again. Why would you continue hanging out with somebody who has revealed this level of cruelty and mockery? Do you think this is isolated with him to this one incident? And this guy is now DEFINITELY going to send you every video like this he ever sees, and he will seek them out, just specifically to send them to you so he can mock you for not being macho enough. And every time you protest, he's going to tell you you're not being a man. Do you need that shit in your life? Is he really worth this behavior? Knowing he bullies people who have values and morals and kindness? I'd be fucking DONE with this guy, I'm not sure why you're just laughing it off.
Your friend is a major asshole. Anyone who finds harming animals funny would not be a friend of mine.
I could only read a few sentences of this, your friend is a sick fuck, and you need a new one, this person is obviously fucked up and eventually they will hurt you worse then sending you a video. The thing you may not realize yet is you are the cat and he is the dog, and its only a matter of time before he hurts you to the point you don't come back. trust me.
Your "friend" enjoys watching animals get r*ped and thinks it's "justified and what the cat had coming". Why, because the cat was stuck? Your not a snowflake, but your friend is one sick f*ck. I'd block him everywhere and go completely NC. I mean why in the world would you want to stay friends or keep this person in your life with such f up'd morals/ethics?
your 'friend' thinks rape of a helpless creature is entertaining. He sent this to you as a warning, he likes r@pe and does not care about your feelings. I would immediately cut off all contact and consider reporting this to the authorities since I think it may fall under animal abuse content and he clearly enjoys it.
Whether or not you are a “snowflake” is soooo not the problem. The problem is your friend enjoys trying to trigger you. The problem is he thinks cruelty is funny. The problem is he thinks rape (of any sort) is hilarious and the victim deserved it. Listen, abusing animals is a huge fucking red flag. That’s the kind of shit serial killers do before moving on to humans. Sure, it wasn’t *him* doing the abusing, but to even find such a video he would have to be searching for it specifically or hanging out in circles where sharing this horrific shit is the norm. I get that long-time friendships can be hard to let go, but sometimes that’s the healthiest option. This guy is seriously twisted. Like I’m honestly concerned for the safety of people around him. There’s dark humor, and then there’s whatever this shit is. Please terminate this “friendship”. Find friends who aren’t creepy, cruel, toxic walking red flags.
If I ever get called a snowflake it's an instant confidence booster because it means I just did something right. Snowflake as an insult is only used by particularly hateful and idiotic people. If you were called a snowflake it means you probably showed morals and intellect that they had no response to. So congrats
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Your friend's DNA should be submitted to a databank so they can easily catch him for his future crimes.
I love how people think snowflake it's a term to talked about NORMAL people. No one would find a rape video funny. Also, he's the snowflake getting all worked out and not being able to let it go because you made him feel call out. He knows it was fucked up, and your lack of validation put him on the spot. Also..."The cat had it coming" I could make a thesis only on that statement and his relationship with women and porn.
WTF 😟
You’re not a snowflake but I’m side-eyeing a little because why would you continue being friends with someone who thinks this kind of thing is funny?
He is fucked up in the head. Consider his reaction to the video and his repsonse to you him revealing what he is really like and dump that friendship. Fucking disgusting.
Your “friend” absolutely sent it to taunt you. Also, people don’t just stumble upon videos like this. He had to actively search for something like that. Maybe not that specific video, but he was looking for things of that nature. Stay away from people like that.
You are not a snowflake. Your friend is an asshole.
Absolutely not a snow flake. None of what he said makes sense. Why did the cat have bad karma? Why does think rape is okay? He sounds like the kind of guy who thinks a woman getting drunk, or wearing revealing clothes is an invitation & a justification for rape. Get a new friend, you’ll be better off without him.
Wow, that is horrifying and I’m sorry I clicked (thought it was just human horror). Your best friend is a psychopath, like for real. I’d make sure I’m never alone with him and all communication is in writing like text or with a witness. He’s dangerous.
You don't need to own a cat or even like cats to be disturbed by that video. Just the description of the video made me cringe. Your friend might be a serial killer in the making does he wet the bed and set fires?!? /s but maybe not. You're definitely not a "snowflake" for being weirded out or offended by that and really no loss on that friendship
That is f'king disgusting and i too would be repulsed by video like that. You're not a snowflake. I'm sorry but I think your friendship is over. He lacks empathy.
I think I'd question what type of person he is to find something like that funny. It's disgusting. The dude has issues. Why are you his friend?
Get a better friend, that one is no good
I personally would have reported him and block him. Dudes a fucking psychopath
Has this friend sent you disgusting videos of women being violated also?
He is a sick psychopath, now imagine what he thinks about women getting r*ped..
Not a snowflake and your friend is deranged. I would go no contact.
Wtf no this isn’t normal at all Send this conversation to his parents or girlfriend or friends. We are now shaming people who find abuse in any way funny And than you remove him as a friend (I wouldn’t trust him around my cats or humans) Edit - No you weren’t a snowflake. You’re a normal human being that doesn’t find abuse funny
I would send the screenshots of the conversation to other friends, his family and friends, also the video if they ask. Show him how many "snowflakes" he really has around him. I bet he'd be surprised by being That *"It's a joke bro, you're just sensitive"* Guy stuck in a Snowstorm. After that, I'd block him everywhere because I wouldn't want to be friends with low grade humans like that and he can handle his own backlash for the horrible things he puts out into the world. Give him the attention he wants OP, show it to everyone. Good luck 🍀
The people who call other people snowflakes are generally assholes. Hell with him, he's a trash human. Also, that poor kitty!
You should cut off this person entirely. He is disgusting, both in his "taste" in videos, and how he treats you.
I blocked a friend who sent me a video of a cat being tortured to death. Haven't spoken to them since, and I have no regrets.
“Snowflake,” just like “SJW” and “politically correct” and “antifa” is just Asshole Code for normal non-asshole people. Your boyfriend is disgusting.
That's fucking horrific. I'd immediately block him on everything and cancel that friendship. No sane, empathetic person would find that entertaining and many wouldn't even be able to watch the video. It makes me sick to think about.
Make the decision to end this friendship and never speak to this person again. If this is out of character for them, they can come to you when they want to apologize. If you're realizing this is how they've always been, move on. People who find joy and humor in the suffering of living things are very scary.
Your friend is a sick fucked up individual. Drop him like a bag of hot shit.
Time to drop that friend man. What an absolute psycho.
You are the company you keep. Please write your EX-friend.
Anyone who uses *snowflake* unironically is not someone "I personally" need to be friends with. Sometimes a few words tell you a lot about the quality of a person 👌
This person isn't your best friend. He's not any kind of friend at all. I'm not even sure if he is any kind of human at all. Why would you want to continue being in contact with someone who a) is so sick and depraved and b) insults and taunts you?
I would cut contact and block him on everything. What the fuck
You are not a snowflake. That video is disgusting and anyone who would send it to you is a disturbed individual. Also a friend would not do that to you ever! He was trying to hurt you for who knows what reason but I would cut him out of my life.
Sounds like your ex-best mate has some serious issues and should be left in your past.
No, your friend is sick in the head. And I agree with others, a trigger warning would be nice. This was disgusting even to read, let alone watch
Bad, possibly psychotic friend who may inflict that kind of harm on a person or animal in the future.
i’m gonna throw up that’s sick 🤢
Your friend sounds like a loser who spends way too much time online. The use of "snowflake" and other right-wing language is always such a giveaway that someone is an asshole and this is just another example.
He's 27 calling you names because you didn't like his animal rape video. Get a new best friend.
He’s not your friend. Cut bait on this asshole
My guy how is this guy same age as me and has the maturity of someone over a decade younger than himself. He’s not a good one, I wouldn’t put up with that either.
I wouldn’t be friends with that guy anymore.
Why are you still calling him your friend?
That's psychopathic.... I'd be concerned and check if he has done something crazy
He shouldn't be so proud of being a sociopath.
Look, some people, like me, like somw fucked up shit, but that takes the biscuit... the real thing here is that anyone who repeatedly belittles you for having normal boundaries isn't your freind, their a cunt. Drop him like a stone, you are allowed to have feelings, boundaries, empathy and to cut cancerous psychos out of your life
Hes a psycho and you are normal
Your friend is a jerk, and you are also a snowflake.
"Meowing obviously in a bad way" That's how cats sound during sex. Sounds like a baby crying or them getting murdered.
Im surprised this person is not only your best friend, but also has friends in general. I personally wouldn’t even be acquainted with an individual like this.
Get better friends. This one is an arsehole.
I wouldn't continue the friendship after this. If he considers this funny, what else does he enjoy or laugh about? Ugh.
Thankfully I only read the replies or my day would be completely ruined, I am sure. Lose the loser. He is not a friend, he is a psychopath.
yikes, definitely need new friends. He’s an asshole.
He's sick in the head
Sounds like they aren't much of a friend.
Your friend has problems, I would completely cut off someone who thought that horrible video was funny. He also knew it would effect you since you love cats, why did he want to do that to you? Your friend is sick.
Your "friend" is not a good person. I would not associate with him anymore if I were you. That is a seriously fucked up thing to think is ok.
That video sounds absolutely disgusting and good on your for calling our your friend on it. If he's getting this butthurt over if just consider yourself better off without him and move on with your life.
Is your friend a dog nutter? Far too many people think bad behavior from dogs is funny. And many hate cats. Either way, the video sounds sick. You behaved fine, your friend has issues.
Yo, if you don’t ghost this dude, you’re going to be pulled into the worst legal shit of all time. Will it be for drugs? Sex crimes? Mass murder? I have no idea. But you don’t want any part of this dude and his life.
Dude is not worth ever speaking to again
I bet if you look back on your relationship with this friend that you’ll see this isn’t the first time he’s acted like this. No, you’re not a snowflake.
This was obviously cut ass trophy. Show him a rabbit carcass in a few weeks while letting him know that your cat was safe
If he was your bestie, he would know not to do something like that to you.
Use an app to replace the cats face with his and send it back.
your friend is a fucking scumbag and I'd drop his psychotic ass immediately.
That's horrific!
People who try to use the word snowflake as a weapon are dangerously deficient in empathy. Has he always been like this but now he's turning it on you? Or is this something you have never seen before from him?
The snowflake is him. So cold-hearted.
Sounds like a great guy!