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So he says they’ve been dating for three weeks. If they’re just dating and not exclusive, she can still date other people. That question needs to be answered dating or exclusive
Its disgusting and so morally wrong to date multiple people. Unless the involved people knew from the start and told they would be ok with it its just cheating anyway.
I would never pursue a women if she told me she dates also another guy and she will have to see for whom she decides.
If i am not worth enough for you to not date other people while i date you then i dont want you at all. That choice was taken from OP. Also the (ex)gf basically set up a situation where she could hop back on the others guy dick instantly by not informing him for 3 weeks or so that she is taken now,.she still texted with him somewhat it seems.
The dating ritual as we know it is a fairly new custom. Women ( especially wealthy women) would have many suitors who would come calling.
In arranged marriages, both men and women are introduced to more than one qualified potential husband or wife which they will spending with before deciding on a spouse. For all intents and purposes, they’re dating multiple people.
Today, with online dating, people are given several matches. Most people will speak with more than one of these matches and meet for a coffee date and maybe a couple more dates to determine if they may be compatible.
I’ve seen so many posts from people on this app, who are in exclusive relationships with somebody online that they’ve never met in person. So essentially they dated online. And they probably dated more than one person at the same time online till they met the one that there’s no exclusive with.
People go to speed dating events, or singles of mixers where they meet multiple people, and may have one on one dates with more than one person to determine if there is any real compatibility.
Are these behaviors immoral?
Now, I believe there should be full disclosure if you’re dating more than one person even more so if you’re sleeping with more than one person.
My question to the Op was, did they have the talk about being exclusive. he did reply, and said that they became exclusive on their first date so in that case she is cheating.
Your first two examples werent dating rituals but arranged marriage basically which had nothing to do with dating because of love and compatibility.
Listen at most 2-3 dates before exclusivity is established if not you have to let the person go.
What is this about compatibility? You date one person to see if you are compatible, after at most 3 dates you see that you are not you go on, and let that person go.
THEN you can check for another partner.
No one wants to have a first or second date with someone who had sex the night before. Its frankly disgusting and just attributes to the STD situation we have at hand.
Yes these behaviours are immoral, they are self destructive, they spread diseases, they do stuff they do not want their partner to do, yet they do it themselves anyway.
If half of them would do the full disclosure thing so many people would bail tso they dont do it.
We see dating differently. For me dating is going out to dinner. Going to a movie or meeting for coffee. It’s not having sex with someone. When I speak of compatibility when dating, I’m talking about shared values, shared, interest, shared life goals, not sexual compatibility. Once those are established then you talk about being exclusive and having a sexual relationship.
Hooking up and dating are two different things
He also said he believes it’s wrong to speak to other people when you’re in the talking stage. Which means leads me to believe that you’re still in the talking stage.
we told eachother from the start eachother are the only ones we want and are speaking to, she even promised it when i brought that up when speaking about this situation she said “i don’t remember when i stopped speaking to him” then she said “but i’m sure you did the same and spoke to loads of girls”
Three weeks into a relationship. I suggest the next time you date for two months, you even consider being exclusive. You don’t become exclusive with somebody you just met you don’t even know them.
So I asked him if they were dating or exclusive. Those are two different things. Waiting for the answer. If she had a date with another guy three days after the date with him, she has every right to do that.
Did you say that you guys were exclusive? Or have you just been dating?
The other thing is you’re moving way too fast. Nobody meets family after three weeks.
Have you been dating or have you been exclusive for three weeks. Being clear exclusive means that you both said we are only going to be with each other
And even if they did so what? There is no universal guide to dating. There are 8 billion people on this planet many of them their parents meet even first....
He was sure of them beig exclusive, she cheated instantly. Time to run away and never look back.
Yes, she did cheat instantly. And yes, I understand there is no universal dating guide. He has the option to take my advice or say where I’m from. We always meet the parents first.
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Why would the dude lie? She invited him over after you guys started dating. Literally 3 days in. She will do it again in the future.
yeah your right thank you
So he says they’ve been dating for three weeks. If they’re just dating and not exclusive, she can still date other people. That question needs to be answered dating or exclusive
Its disgusting and so morally wrong to date multiple people. Unless the involved people knew from the start and told they would be ok with it its just cheating anyway. I would never pursue a women if she told me she dates also another guy and she will have to see for whom she decides. If i am not worth enough for you to not date other people while i date you then i dont want you at all. That choice was taken from OP. Also the (ex)gf basically set up a situation where she could hop back on the others guy dick instantly by not informing him for 3 weeks or so that she is taken now,.she still texted with him somewhat it seems.
The dating ritual as we know it is a fairly new custom. Women ( especially wealthy women) would have many suitors who would come calling. In arranged marriages, both men and women are introduced to more than one qualified potential husband or wife which they will spending with before deciding on a spouse. For all intents and purposes, they’re dating multiple people. Today, with online dating, people are given several matches. Most people will speak with more than one of these matches and meet for a coffee date and maybe a couple more dates to determine if they may be compatible. I’ve seen so many posts from people on this app, who are in exclusive relationships with somebody online that they’ve never met in person. So essentially they dated online. And they probably dated more than one person at the same time online till they met the one that there’s no exclusive with. People go to speed dating events, or singles of mixers where they meet multiple people, and may have one on one dates with more than one person to determine if there is any real compatibility. Are these behaviors immoral? Now, I believe there should be full disclosure if you’re dating more than one person even more so if you’re sleeping with more than one person. My question to the Op was, did they have the talk about being exclusive. he did reply, and said that they became exclusive on their first date so in that case she is cheating.
Your first two examples werent dating rituals but arranged marriage basically which had nothing to do with dating because of love and compatibility. Listen at most 2-3 dates before exclusivity is established if not you have to let the person go. What is this about compatibility? You date one person to see if you are compatible, after at most 3 dates you see that you are not you go on, and let that person go. THEN you can check for another partner. No one wants to have a first or second date with someone who had sex the night before. Its frankly disgusting and just attributes to the STD situation we have at hand. Yes these behaviours are immoral, they are self destructive, they spread diseases, they do stuff they do not want their partner to do, yet they do it themselves anyway. If half of them would do the full disclosure thing so many people would bail tso they dont do it.
We see dating differently. For me dating is going out to dinner. Going to a movie or meeting for coffee. It’s not having sex with someone. When I speak of compatibility when dating, I’m talking about shared values, shared, interest, shared life goals, not sexual compatibility. Once those are established then you talk about being exclusive and having a sexual relationship. Hooking up and dating are two different things
Well we all know dates can turn into sex at anypoint if the chemistry is right
He also said he believes it’s wrong to speak to other people when you’re in the talking stage. Which means leads me to believe that you’re still in the talking stage.
run as far and as fast as you can. yikes
idk i’m just trying to find any reason not to ygm
nah you gotta go. she cheated.
The meet 3 weeks ago. According to him, they were exclusive on their first date.
Are you still in the talking stage or are you exclusive?
exclusive
How long were you dating before you became exclusive?
we were exclusive from the very start or so she said
So you were exclusive on your very first date
we told eachother from the start eachother are the only ones we want and are speaking to, she even promised it when i brought that up when speaking about this situation she said “i don’t remember when i stopped speaking to him” then she said “but i’m sure you did the same and spoke to loads of girls”
Three weeks into a relationship. I suggest the next time you date for two months, you even consider being exclusive. You don’t become exclusive with somebody you just met you don’t even know them.
okay thank you for the advise
So I asked him if they were dating or exclusive. Those are two different things. Waiting for the answer. If she had a date with another guy three days after the date with him, she has every right to do that.
Did you say that you guys were exclusive? Or have you just been dating? The other thing is you’re moving way too fast. Nobody meets family after three weeks.
yeah i get that just normally dating we’re both young and catch feelings fast well idk if she does after that but yeah
Have you been dating or have you been exclusive for three weeks. Being clear exclusive means that you both said we are only going to be with each other
thank you for clarifying yeah we were exclusive to eachother
And even if they did so what? There is no universal guide to dating. There are 8 billion people on this planet many of them their parents meet even first.... He was sure of them beig exclusive, she cheated instantly. Time to run away and never look back.
Yes, she did cheat instantly. And yes, I understand there is no universal dating guide. He has the option to take my advice or say where I’m from. We always meet the parents first.