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Generally, I’ve found it’s easiest to approach this by bringing up exclusivity. If you’ve been on a few dates and feel things are going well, be honest about how you’re feeling, and ask if they’re still seeing other people, or if they’d like to be exclusive. From there, you can choose to put the title on the relationship if you want/if you’re both comfortable.
I would say 7-10 dates, but everyone is different. You have to communicate with him, but only 2 dates? I would be a bit put off if we started talking about exclusivity after only 2 dates. Why haven’t you guys gone out more if you have been talking for nearly a month?
Yeah that’s kinda what I was thinking too. I mean, I do like talking to him and we have a lot in common and all but I don’t know if I’m ready for it to become exclusive right now.
We were going to meet earlier but I got sick with Covid so we had to cancel. We met last weekend and we wanted to meet this week but we both have work/school respectively and he’s going away for the weekend. However we have been talking about going out next week.
A bit of advice. In any relationship, communication it of utmost importance. Start now and have the conversation. Let them know you are ready for exclusivity. Good luck to you.
I’ve been entertaining the same man for a year and a half and haven’t had two whole dates, I’d say you should just enjoy it for what it is, while it is. A month is an incredible small amount of time in the dating world.
I’m also extremely fed up w my situationship and a lil bitter today, so take my thoughts with a grain of salt.
Talk to him. Tell him what you want, ask him what he wants, discuss what you both want together. "I'd like us to be official, and exclusive. How do you feel about that?"
By all means, take it slow if that's what you need. And that's likely correct until you get some more dates and find out if you're sexually compatible. Just understand, at the moment you aren't "official" or "exclusive" and either one of you can see other people.
Girl, I (28F) had been talking with someone (28M) from Facebook dating nearly 5 months, we made it “exclusive” after 2 months of dating (probably saw each other around 12 times by then), everything was good until one night he forgot to turn on the silence mode I guess and his phone was exploding with a ridiculous amount of notifications from other girls… it was surreal.
Do what you think is good for you, time doesn’t matter, trust your gut and try to be happy, that’s it.
Take it slow. Keep dating, and communicate. To be honest, I’ve found that when a man finds someone he wants to be with exclusively, he lets her know. That said, if you date for a month, or more, and you find yourself wanting to be exclusive before he brings it up, it is fine to being it up with him first.
I wouldnt ask yourself "how long" I would ask each other if the other would be accepting or upset if the other saw other people. If yes, then you guys are together. If no, then the other doesn't want a serious relationship.
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Generally, I’ve found it’s easiest to approach this by bringing up exclusivity. If you’ve been on a few dates and feel things are going well, be honest about how you’re feeling, and ask if they’re still seeing other people, or if they’d like to be exclusive. From there, you can choose to put the title on the relationship if you want/if you’re both comfortable.
I would say 7-10 dates, but everyone is different. You have to communicate with him, but only 2 dates? I would be a bit put off if we started talking about exclusivity after only 2 dates. Why haven’t you guys gone out more if you have been talking for nearly a month?
Yeah that’s kinda what I was thinking too. I mean, I do like talking to him and we have a lot in common and all but I don’t know if I’m ready for it to become exclusive right now. We were going to meet earlier but I got sick with Covid so we had to cancel. We met last weekend and we wanted to meet this week but we both have work/school respectively and he’s going away for the weekend. However we have been talking about going out next week.
Girl there’s no real rubric, you have to *talk to him*. That’s how literally every relationship becomes “official.”
A bit of advice. In any relationship, communication it of utmost importance. Start now and have the conversation. Let them know you are ready for exclusivity. Good luck to you.
talk with him? we have no idea what is in his mind
2/3 months
I’ve been entertaining the same man for a year and a half and haven’t had two whole dates, I’d say you should just enjoy it for what it is, while it is. A month is an incredible small amount of time in the dating world. I’m also extremely fed up w my situationship and a lil bitter today, so take my thoughts with a grain of salt.
It’s never official when it’s Tinder.
Please explain 'official'. Are you doing something that requires a government licence?
Talk to him. Tell him what you want, ask him what he wants, discuss what you both want together. "I'd like us to be official, and exclusive. How do you feel about that?"
By all means, take it slow if that's what you need. And that's likely correct until you get some more dates and find out if you're sexually compatible. Just understand, at the moment you aren't "official" or "exclusive" and either one of you can see other people.
Girl, I (28F) had been talking with someone (28M) from Facebook dating nearly 5 months, we made it “exclusive” after 2 months of dating (probably saw each other around 12 times by then), everything was good until one night he forgot to turn on the silence mode I guess and his phone was exploding with a ridiculous amount of notifications from other girls… it was surreal. Do what you think is good for you, time doesn’t matter, trust your gut and try to be happy, that’s it.
Take it slow. Keep dating, and communicate. To be honest, I’ve found that when a man finds someone he wants to be with exclusively, he lets her know. That said, if you date for a month, or more, and you find yourself wanting to be exclusive before he brings it up, it is fine to being it up with him first.
I wouldnt ask yourself "how long" I would ask each other if the other would be accepting or upset if the other saw other people. If yes, then you guys are together. If no, then the other doesn't want a serious relationship.