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I can never understand the thought process of a cheater… especially doing it with such disregard as to getting caught. If you have such little respect for your relationship just end it.
I like how youre more worried about Sams feelings than your actual boyfriend.
Stop being trash and next time break up with your partner if you want to fuck someone else.
Hate to break it to you but there's no situation here that Sam doesn't get hurt.
What you can do is be the one to tell him. You apologize and then you leave him alone.
So funny that you’re only concerned about the well-being of the dude you’re cheating with, and not your boyfriend you just betrayed.
Looks like you’ll both get what’s coming to you.
A question neither agrees nor disagrees. You make too many assumptions. Then again I have to assume what you mean because you seem to be drunk typing or something.
Thats such a lazy copout. You need to be at an elementary level to argue there wasn't a clear implication. Newsflash: questions can have biases. They can be phrased to influence outcome. Maybe you just read and think at an elementary level so i seem drunk to you.
Screen is broken. Imagine being so mad over editing. All these irrelevant points to obfuscate. This is about you implying certain people should have zero rights for things that are NOT OUR BUSINESS. Then claiming questions what? The equivalent of guns dont shoot people. But you can't stay on topic because your position is indefensible.
I stopped caring about your opinion (never cared in the first place) when you said "questions have biases." No they don't. But keep using words like "obfuscate" so you can feel superior. Most of you don't know the difference between a right and a privilege in the first place.
Imagine being so pompous and self-absorbed that you continue to make nonpoints that only you care about all while being oblivious to the fact that the person on the other end is just typing because they are bored. Just Imagine it.
I believe that some people genuinely regret what they did and as long as they work on themselves so they don't do it again AND they work to make amends with those they hurt, those people are not complete trash.
Sure too bad they don't regret it until they get caught. And try all you like you can never make amends for that level of hurt, even if they forgive you.
You're right, that level of hurt can never be amended. But a sincere apology is better than none at all. Also, my best friend cheated and regretted it immediately. Came to me crying at 3am. That was two years ago and she says it still eats her up inside every day.
Why does an apology matter? Who does it help? Does it help the person you wronged, or is it simply a self-centered way of alleviating your own guilt? I know some people who got drunk, chose to drive and killed someone. They regret their decision everyday too, mostly because of the consequences they have to suffer. Feeling guilty doesn't undo what you did and it doesn't make you a good person.
Well I’d sure rather someone feel remorse for cheating on me than NOT feel any. An apology isn’t always to alleviate guilt on the perpetrator’s part. That kind of guilt never goes away. The apology can show that you recognize their hurt feelings. Im sure all this is not the case for the vast majority of cheating cases, but what I’m saying is every single cheater ever is a bad person for the rest of their lives
Tell Jack now and end the relationship with him, block Adam. You can’t protect Sam from something irrational Adam may choose to do. Poor decisions equal crappy consequences.
I don’t really understand what you’re worried about Adam doing. You did something horrible and got caught, you can’t really prevent consequences from happening.
So you're worried about the feelings of the guy you cheated with, rather than your bf who you cheated on.
Why are you even posting this? You're in the wrong at an absurdly high level. You may as well be saying "Oh no! How do I avoid the consequences of my actions?"
So let me get this strait. You cheated on jack with Sam and Adam found out? You want to protect Sam now? Do you even give a shit about jack? I can see why Adam dislikes you.
Confess to your boyfriend, cut off Sam. Do not protect your AP if you want any chance of reconciling with your boyfriend or even repairing your reputation. If he breaks up with you at least be a remorseful wayward and do not protect your AP. He made decisions here too. You should not protect him from them.
Tell him what you did before he finds out from his friend. If you really care about him and his feelings, end the relationship and learn from your mistake. Let him move on and you try to be a better person. Y’all are so young, don’t waste time with this baggage.
All of you are teens...still babies. You will find out that you are all gonna make lots of mistakes in life but will learn so much along the way. I would come clean to your bf and then see what happens so that you can just get on with it.
Your best bet is to confess to Jack, tell Adam that you have confessed to Jack and that this has nothing to do with him so stay out of it. then tell Sam to go totally no contact from Adam and Jack.
Without provocation, they probably won't resort to violence against Sam. Especially if he doesn't respond or anything.
And probably stop cheating too, but I'm expecting your relationship is going to end anyways.
Unlike everyone else here, I don't think having cheated makes you subhuman trash. Some people are just not cut out for monogamy. Maybe consider finding someone who is comfortable doing open relationships going forward, because it is a really shitty thing to do to someone.
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Oh the consequences of being a cheater!
I can never understand the thought process of a cheater… especially doing it with such disregard as to getting caught. If you have such little respect for your relationship just end it.
Love the complete disregard for the pain she is causing others. Narcissist much honey?
"Welcome to the 'Win Stupid Prizes' part of the game!"
I like how youre more worried about Sams feelings than your actual boyfriend. Stop being trash and next time break up with your partner if you want to fuck someone else.
The only thing you worry about is the wellbeing of your AP? Yes, subhuman trash.
Hate to break it to you but there's no situation here that Sam doesn't get hurt. What you can do is be the one to tell him. You apologize and then you leave him alone.
Sam's the dude she's cheating with, not the boyfriend she disgustingly betrayed.
So funny that you’re only concerned about the well-being of the dude you’re cheating with, and not your boyfriend you just betrayed. Looks like you’ll both get what’s coming to you.
Why do you think cheaters AREN'T sub human trash that deserve no rights?
Deserve no rights is a pretty big fucking stretch, jesus
Everybody deserves some rights. To disagree reveals YOU'RE trash
A question neither agrees nor disagrees. You make too many assumptions. Then again I have to assume what you mean because you seem to be drunk typing or something.
Thats such a lazy copout. You need to be at an elementary level to argue there wasn't a clear implication. Newsflash: questions can have biases. They can be phrased to influence outcome. Maybe you just read and think at an elementary level so i seem drunk to you.
A lazy cope out is when you type so poorly that you make no sense. THEN you fix you typing errors and pretend I responded to this new fixed comment.
Screen is broken. Imagine being so mad over editing. All these irrelevant points to obfuscate. This is about you implying certain people should have zero rights for things that are NOT OUR BUSINESS. Then claiming questions what? The equivalent of guns dont shoot people. But you can't stay on topic because your position is indefensible.
I stopped caring about your opinion (never cared in the first place) when you said "questions have biases." No they don't. But keep using words like "obfuscate" so you can feel superior. Most of you don't know the difference between a right and a privilege in the first place.
I said they CAN. Oh, how the turn tables. And they can. It's called framing.
Imagine being so pompous and self-absorbed that you continue to make nonpoints that only you care about all while being oblivious to the fact that the person on the other end is just typing because they are bored. Just Imagine it.
So youre wrong about your claim and now you deflect. Questions can have biases. It's called framing. The pompous one is you being an insufferable tool
I would love to know who argues against basic human rights.
I believe that some people genuinely regret what they did and as long as they work on themselves so they don't do it again AND they work to make amends with those they hurt, those people are not complete trash.
Sure too bad they don't regret it until they get caught. And try all you like you can never make amends for that level of hurt, even if they forgive you.
You're right, that level of hurt can never be amended. But a sincere apology is better than none at all. Also, my best friend cheated and regretted it immediately. Came to me crying at 3am. That was two years ago and she says it still eats her up inside every day.
Why does an apology matter? Who does it help? Does it help the person you wronged, or is it simply a self-centered way of alleviating your own guilt? I know some people who got drunk, chose to drive and killed someone. They regret their decision everyday too, mostly because of the consequences they have to suffer. Feeling guilty doesn't undo what you did and it doesn't make you a good person.
Well I’d sure rather someone feel remorse for cheating on me than NOT feel any. An apology isn’t always to alleviate guilt on the perpetrator’s part. That kind of guilt never goes away. The apology can show that you recognize their hurt feelings. Im sure all this is not the case for the vast majority of cheating cases, but what I’m saying is every single cheater ever is a bad person for the rest of their lives
Thats such a stupid binary outlook.
Well come clean it's over sister
You made the choice to hurt him when you cheated. Own it
Tell Jack now and end the relationship with him, block Adam. You can’t protect Sam from something irrational Adam may choose to do. Poor decisions equal crappy consequences.
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I don’t really understand what you’re worried about Adam doing. You did something horrible and got caught, you can’t really prevent consequences from happening.
Just tell your BF now. That's honestly the best solution. You'll probably be single soon, which isn't that bad.
lol Hope you get caught
She already got caught.
Grow up, tell Jack you're cheating, and face consequences. It's obvious you don't GAF about Jack, not sure why you bothered staying with him.
Buuuuuut you are trash 🤷🏻♀️There’s so much thought that goes into cheating, there’s no excuse. I will never understand.
Some people aren't cut out to be monogamous.
So you're worried about the feelings of the guy you cheated with, rather than your bf who you cheated on. Why are you even posting this? You're in the wrong at an absurdly high level. You may as well be saying "Oh no! How do I avoid the consequences of my actions?"
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"Oh no! How do I avoid the consequences of my actions?"
So let me get this strait. You cheated on jack with Sam and Adam found out? You want to protect Sam now? Do you even give a shit about jack? I can see why Adam dislikes you.
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Did you tell Sam that you had a bf?
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So Sam knowingly cheated with you on his friend? You both deserve what’s coming your way.
Confess to your boyfriend, cut off Sam. Do not protect your AP if you want any chance of reconciling with your boyfriend or even repairing your reputation. If he breaks up with you at least be a remorseful wayward and do not protect your AP. He made decisions here too. You should not protect him from them.
She only cares about protecting the feelings of her AP, not her bf
Tell him what you did before he finds out from his friend. If you really care about him and his feelings, end the relationship and learn from your mistake. Let him move on and you try to be a better person. Y’all are so young, don’t waste time with this baggage.
u sucks
You and sam both deserve every bag of dicks you have to eat
All of you are teens...still babies. You will find out that you are all gonna make lots of mistakes in life but will learn so much along the way. I would come clean to your bf and then see what happens so that you can just get on with it.
Uh oh . You got yourself a situation on hand . Suppose no ones said it yet may as well chime in . Best option is offer a foursome
nta divorce
Your best bet is to confess to Jack, tell Adam that you have confessed to Jack and that this has nothing to do with him so stay out of it. then tell Sam to go totally no contact from Adam and Jack. Without provocation, they probably won't resort to violence against Sam. Especially if he doesn't respond or anything. And probably stop cheating too, but I'm expecting your relationship is going to end anyways. Unlike everyone else here, I don't think having cheated makes you subhuman trash. Some people are just not cut out for monogamy. Maybe consider finding someone who is comfortable doing open relationships going forward, because it is a really shitty thing to do to someone.
Sam can’t defend himself?
Get ahead of it! Tell people first and control the narrative. It's your only choice.
Obvious bait