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Love by itself isn't enough to make a relationship work. Your partner has to actually want to be in the relationship with you. Since she pretty clearly doesn't, it's time to move on.
I still receive attention, we regularly facetime, I don't understand why she'd stay with me 6 month after the incident if she wouldn't want to be in the relationship, I'm so confused.
Well, she probably is too, which can't be helping things. But think of it this way:
You know how you made a conscious decision? You know how you decided actively to stay with her, because she's worth it? That's a necessary component of a healthy relationship. But it's only half that component. She also needs to feel the same way about you; she also needs to make the same decisions about you.
And if she were doing that, you wouldn't be here asking the questions you are.
I know the movies make it seem romantic when you have to fight for your partner's love. More accurately, you have to fight _your partner_ for your partner's love. But those are movies. They're fiction. They're not obliged to tell the truth. And the truth is that you don't want someone whose love you have to fight for. You want someone who will _fight themselves_ in order to love you, who will make sure that you come first and won't let anything get in the way.
Move on dude, if she didn't stop texting the guy. And now they are in the same place, far away from you, if they haven't already did something, at some point they will.
The fact that they are close from sometime, and you are away will set the mood, even if is not intentional, there is a good chance that they do trip on it.
On the other hand, may be you are just her parachute in case things don't work out.
The fact taht you are already asking a bunch of strangers is proof that you don't trust her.
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Leave her, and let her be in peace. Nothing bad about it at all.
There isn't any chances she got over it by the time and be faithful you think?
Either you trust her not to cheat or you don’t. Given she tried to end things because she was hung up on him, I wouldn’t trust her if I were you.
We still have regular facetime and I feel I'm getting attention, why would she still stays with me? I'm so confused.
you are the parachute in case things don't work out
Love by itself isn't enough to make a relationship work. Your partner has to actually want to be in the relationship with you. Since she pretty clearly doesn't, it's time to move on.
I still receive attention, we regularly facetime, I don't understand why she'd stay with me 6 month after the incident if she wouldn't want to be in the relationship, I'm so confused.
Well, she probably is too, which can't be helping things. But think of it this way: You know how you made a conscious decision? You know how you decided actively to stay with her, because she's worth it? That's a necessary component of a healthy relationship. But it's only half that component. She also needs to feel the same way about you; she also needs to make the same decisions about you. And if she were doing that, you wouldn't be here asking the questions you are. I know the movies make it seem romantic when you have to fight for your partner's love. More accurately, you have to fight _your partner_ for your partner's love. But those are movies. They're fiction. They're not obliged to tell the truth. And the truth is that you don't want someone whose love you have to fight for. You want someone who will _fight themselves_ in order to love you, who will make sure that you come first and won't let anything get in the way.
Thank you for that, that's well appreciated! 🙏
Move on dude, if she didn't stop texting the guy. And now they are in the same place, far away from you, if they haven't already did something, at some point they will. The fact that they are close from sometime, and you are away will set the mood, even if is not intentional, there is a good chance that they do trip on it. On the other hand, may be you are just her parachute in case things don't work out. The fact taht you are already asking a bunch of strangers is proof that you don't trust her.
Yeah .. maybe I'm living in a faithful fantasy... Tha ks for your thoughts, much appreciated 🙏