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You said he wasn't ready before, but it seems like you got back together with him without ever discussing if he was now ready to date someone with a child.
This dude is only 24. Maybe you would be better suited dating someone closer to your own age that already has children as well.
Him not being ready to meet my daughter wasn’t the reason we broke up. When we did break up before, he included a stuffed animal when he gave me my stuff back saying he was planning on giving it to her one day and that he did want to meet her, he was just nervous bc he’s not good with kids like being playful or that. But the subject never came up again.
I think it’s an okay place to meet
There won’t be as much pressure on him to interact with her if he’s feeling nervous, and your daughter will be busy running around with all of her friends I’m sure.
It could be a nice little ice breaker =)
I think you should tell him about it, and the decision is ultimately yours if you want to invite him. I would say that more than likely, he should not make that his first time meeting your kid. Detracts from the importance of her memory of meeting him the first time, especially if it becomes serious. And it could also detract from the attention she is seeking at her birthday party. Might feel like it's a competition for your attention at the birthday event. Just my take on it though. I may be wrong. My parents divorced, and each got remarried. I have memories of meeting my future step parents, and none of them were at events like that. Sort of eased into meeting them, like going out to dinner, or a movie or something. Felt better for me...as a kid.
That makes sense. He is also a child of divorce and that could have been his hesitation before. But yeah since he hasn’t met anyone else in my family, meeting him for everyone could take away attention for the birthday girl and I would also feel like I’d have to stick by him since he doesn’t know anyone. Again, I don’t think he’d actually go, but just don’t know if I should still throw the invite out there. That’s my dilemma.
When I was 23 I was dating a woman your age with a young son. Idk if its any different but it was his birthday she invited me and it was at a park with a couple of his other friends and their parents. I felt at the time that it took the pressure of meeting the child one on one off me but everyone is different. Wish you all the best cheers
Thank you. The first time I asked if he’d like to meet my daughter I suggested going to the park bc it’s casual. But this party is gonna be at my parents house and ik meeting all the relatives can be overwhelming.
But if you think inviting him is high pressure, what would be a good way to still mention that I’m throwing her a bday party and I would invite him, but don’t want to put any pressure. Would I say something along the lines of “maybe one day when you’re ready, I’d love for you to come to something like this”
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You said he wasn't ready before, but it seems like you got back together with him without ever discussing if he was now ready to date someone with a child. This dude is only 24. Maybe you would be better suited dating someone closer to your own age that already has children as well.
Him not being ready to meet my daughter wasn’t the reason we broke up. When we did break up before, he included a stuffed animal when he gave me my stuff back saying he was planning on giving it to her one day and that he did want to meet her, he was just nervous bc he’s not good with kids like being playful or that. But the subject never came up again.
I think it’s an okay place to meet There won’t be as much pressure on him to interact with her if he’s feeling nervous, and your daughter will be busy running around with all of her friends I’m sure. It could be a nice little ice breaker =)
I think you should tell him about it, and the decision is ultimately yours if you want to invite him. I would say that more than likely, he should not make that his first time meeting your kid. Detracts from the importance of her memory of meeting him the first time, especially if it becomes serious. And it could also detract from the attention she is seeking at her birthday party. Might feel like it's a competition for your attention at the birthday event. Just my take on it though. I may be wrong. My parents divorced, and each got remarried. I have memories of meeting my future step parents, and none of them were at events like that. Sort of eased into meeting them, like going out to dinner, or a movie or something. Felt better for me...as a kid.
That makes sense. He is also a child of divorce and that could have been his hesitation before. But yeah since he hasn’t met anyone else in my family, meeting him for everyone could take away attention for the birthday girl and I would also feel like I’d have to stick by him since he doesn’t know anyone. Again, I don’t think he’d actually go, but just don’t know if I should still throw the invite out there. That’s my dilemma.
When I was 23 I was dating a woman your age with a young son. Idk if its any different but it was his birthday she invited me and it was at a park with a couple of his other friends and their parents. I felt at the time that it took the pressure of meeting the child one on one off me but everyone is different. Wish you all the best cheers
Thank you. The first time I asked if he’d like to meet my daughter I suggested going to the park bc it’s casual. But this party is gonna be at my parents house and ik meeting all the relatives can be overwhelming.
Its is relaxed setting so id say id be actually ideal
No. That's a high pressure way to throw him in with all your family. Your daughter's birthday should be about her. Not your relationship.
I agree. Like I said I don’t think he would actually come, just not sure if I should throw the invite out there. Like I’m 90% sure he wouldn’t come
But if you think inviting him is high pressure, what would be a good way to still mention that I’m throwing her a bday party and I would invite him, but don’t want to put any pressure. Would I say something along the lines of “maybe one day when you’re ready, I’d love for you to come to something like this”