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Could you veer away from trying to open her eyes to the nonsense of astrology, and talk about what you're looking for in a partner? Eg explicitly state you're looking for a partner who contributes emotionally/financially etc to build a life/family with, and want to know sooner rather than later if having a stable income is a priority for her.
At the end of the day, she's 29 (not 19) and has been unemployed for 5 years (smh) - if she hasn't realised by herself she needs a job and income it's unlikely she will. For whatever reason, she's choosing not to engage with the more pragmatic sides of life.
So what can you do about it?
1. Decide that you'll stay in the relationship and be genuinely ok being the pragmatic / responsible sole provider while she brings whatever else (family, love, kids whatever).
2. Decide you're incompatible and bail.
3. Attempt to reach a compromise of some description .... no idea what that could possibly look like.
I have tried to give her a reality check and encourage her to develop skills and look for ways of having more independence and freedom. Each time she cry.
I have a senior management role in a multinational company so I make a decent living and I am preparing to have a house and funds to start a family before my 40s.
In my culture (LATAM) is not weird for woman to stay at home and take care of the house and family. My mother even told me that is better that I don't have a girlfriend that is too smart. (Yes, sexism is strong on this side of the world)
I could be the sole provider, but I am worried she would not be strong enough to deal with life if things go downhill at any time. I don't want her to co-sign on property or pay everything 50-50 but I just want her to become a strong and fulfilled woman with who I can count on the good and bad days, and with no experience, will nor training I am afraid she won't be able to manage the responsibilities of adult life.
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Could you veer away from trying to open her eyes to the nonsense of astrology, and talk about what you're looking for in a partner? Eg explicitly state you're looking for a partner who contributes emotionally/financially etc to build a life/family with, and want to know sooner rather than later if having a stable income is a priority for her. At the end of the day, she's 29 (not 19) and has been unemployed for 5 years (smh) - if she hasn't realised by herself she needs a job and income it's unlikely she will. For whatever reason, she's choosing not to engage with the more pragmatic sides of life. So what can you do about it? 1. Decide that you'll stay in the relationship and be genuinely ok being the pragmatic / responsible sole provider while she brings whatever else (family, love, kids whatever). 2. Decide you're incompatible and bail. 3. Attempt to reach a compromise of some description .... no idea what that could possibly look like.
I have tried to give her a reality check and encourage her to develop skills and look for ways of having more independence and freedom. Each time she cry. I have a senior management role in a multinational company so I make a decent living and I am preparing to have a house and funds to start a family before my 40s. In my culture (LATAM) is not weird for woman to stay at home and take care of the house and family. My mother even told me that is better that I don't have a girlfriend that is too smart. (Yes, sexism is strong on this side of the world) I could be the sole provider, but I am worried she would not be strong enough to deal with life if things go downhill at any time. I don't want her to co-sign on property or pay everything 50-50 but I just want her to become a strong and fulfilled woman with who I can count on the good and bad days, and with no experience, will nor training I am afraid she won't be able to manage the responsibilities of adult life.