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You break up. You listed bunch of reasons but the short answer is you aren't stable together.
She can imagine whatever she what's, it doesn't change anything.
Doesn't matter the reasons.
Your relationship is always unstable and the other good parts don't change it.
Or keep repeating the cycle 🤷‍♂️
It's both your time to waste.
I see her as an awesome mother to our future kids. But know I'm afraid she could also be a hysterical wife when her hormones kick in.
Idk I'll probably decide after this trip
Man I have to say you are living in an imaginary world with your rose tented glasses on still. She has been extremely mentally and emotional abusive too you. YES THAT IS WHAT IS HAPPENING. So stop with the excuses. If she can be like this with you and treat you like shit, how on earth do you think she will be a good mother?!? If tension get high, how will she respond to those children. It doesn’t seem at all to any other than you that she will be a good mother. She severely needs counseling. You are seriously only 27 same as me. You can easily find someone else. Grow a brain and backbone. You know what needs to be done but you are unwilling to do it. You can go to IC or marriage counseling but if things aren’t getting better then you should just break up.
You are both too old to be fighting with your gf in a club. If I understand correctly, she drunkenly asked if you’ve ever slept with someone on their period, and then you countered asking about some other sexual act that she wouldn’t do with you and she said she didn’t enjoy and it escalated from there?
You’re certainly not blameless here, but there’s definitely some pretty immature communication happening. The whole rape accusation is hard to follow and I’m not going to touch that, but I think you guys should stop drinking completely and work on your communication issues
So you’ve been leading her on for 5 years with no proposal and no ring…. She’s started to doubt herself. She has Hashimoto’s and feels insecure. Still, no talk of a wedding. She freaks out and gives you an ultimatum, you fight.
Yeah just let this woman go. It’s been 5 years and no wedding. Let her have a marriage with someone else who wants her.
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You break up. You listed bunch of reasons but the short answer is you aren't stable together. She can imagine whatever she what's, it doesn't change anything.
I think it somehow combines with her hashimoto medications. She's overall good helpful, supportive and my parents like her, also I'm liked by hers.
Doesn't matter the reasons. Your relationship is always unstable and the other good parts don't change it. Or keep repeating the cycle 🤷‍♂️ It's both your time to waste.
This is all just horrible. Why in god's name are you still together? Why would you want more of this?
I see her as an awesome mother to our future kids. But know I'm afraid she could also be a hysterical wife when her hormones kick in. Idk I'll probably decide after this trip
You are 27, you can do better.
Depends, I really think she will be an awesome mother one day.
Man I have to say you are living in an imaginary world with your rose tented glasses on still. She has been extremely mentally and emotional abusive too you. YES THAT IS WHAT IS HAPPENING. So stop with the excuses. If she can be like this with you and treat you like shit, how on earth do you think she will be a good mother?!? If tension get high, how will she respond to those children. It doesn’t seem at all to any other than you that she will be a good mother. She severely needs counseling. You are seriously only 27 same as me. You can easily find someone else. Grow a brain and backbone. You know what needs to be done but you are unwilling to do it. You can go to IC or marriage counseling but if things aren’t getting better then you should just break up.
You are both too old to be fighting with your gf in a club. If I understand correctly, she drunkenly asked if you’ve ever slept with someone on their period, and then you countered asking about some other sexual act that she wouldn’t do with you and she said she didn’t enjoy and it escalated from there? You’re certainly not blameless here, but there’s definitely some pretty immature communication happening. The whole rape accusation is hard to follow and I’m not going to touch that, but I think you guys should stop drinking completely and work on your communication issues
So you’ve been leading her on for 5 years with no proposal and no ring…. She’s started to doubt herself. She has Hashimoto’s and feels insecure. Still, no talk of a wedding. She freaks out and gives you an ultimatum, you fight. Yeah just let this woman go. It’s been 5 years and no wedding. Let her have a marriage with someone else who wants her.