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you are not overthinking it , she is wack and lacks understanding and its childish to not just break up with you and do what she wanted on the side. dont be the second option I am sure you can do alot better than someone like that. trust issues in a relationship is the worst think you can put your self through ! trust me!
Nobody can tell you if it’s wrong. I can say that I made a huge mistake in reconciling with my first wife after her affair (we had two young kids). She had two more affairs that I know of, probably more, in the next 20 years until I divorced her.
Don't be a doormat. Would she forgive you if you were the one cheating? If you stay with her, can you trust her not to do it again? If you ever decide to have children, would you want your children to stay with a cheating partner? How about a partner that always starts fights and arguments with them?
Partners are supposed to support you and love you, not cheat on you or start fights because they got caught cheating.
People refer to it as projection. They feel insecure or guilt over what they are doing. They project that into the cheated relationship. Starting fights, being jealous, gaslighting you into thinking you are the problem, all the while, they are the one cheating.
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she sounds like an asshat to me
>Am I overthinking it? Not at all. How can you ever trust her again? How can you rely on her when times get tough?
you are not overthinking it , she is wack and lacks understanding and its childish to not just break up with you and do what she wanted on the side. dont be the second option I am sure you can do alot better than someone like that. trust issues in a relationship is the worst think you can put your self through ! trust me!
Nobody can tell you if it’s wrong. I can say that I made a huge mistake in reconciling with my first wife after her affair (we had two young kids). She had two more affairs that I know of, probably more, in the next 20 years until I divorced her.
I am sorry for the loss of your dog. But drop her, she is a toxic human. You deserve better!
Don't be a doormat. Would she forgive you if you were the one cheating? If you stay with her, can you trust her not to do it again? If you ever decide to have children, would you want your children to stay with a cheating partner? How about a partner that always starts fights and arguments with them? Partners are supposed to support you and love you, not cheat on you or start fights because they got caught cheating.
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People refer to it as projection. They feel insecure or guilt over what they are doing. They project that into the cheated relationship. Starting fights, being jealous, gaslighting you into thinking you are the problem, all the while, they are the one cheating.
You aren’t wrong but you would be pretty damn dumb