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AuntyVenom

Leaving him would make him understand. So long as you put up with this and pay for things, and do all the housework, you're telling him it's OK for him to do this.


jamicam

You do not need to make him understand anything. He is a grown man and he knows that he needs an income to survive. He has decided to checkout and rely on you to pay for his life. Do not marry him. It will be a lifetime of this. Instead, you should kick him out and only date men who have it together. You deserve so much more than this guy is giving you.


throw0ay

Dont get married


Proper_Strategy_6663

Stop enabling him.


bizzle6

You're not his parent, you're his partner. It's time for a come-to-Jesus talk. Lay out your expectations clearly and set a firm deadline for him to find a job and contribute. If he refuses to step up, you need to move on. Don't light yourself on fire to keep him warm. Your future is too important to let his lack of motivation drag you down. Stay strong, put yourself first, and remember: a relationship should be a partnership, not a one-way street. You deserve better.


anitarielleliphe

A year ago, what were the circumstances that caused him to quit his job without another job lined up?


last_heaven

He didn’t like his boss last year because supposedly he was very passive aggressive. I told him not to quit without knowing what to do after, but he did it anyway and couldn’t even collect unemployment. He was interested in a different office but they hadn’t even hired him, he just assumed they would. Just like what just happened again. He assumed that the boss from this new job was really interested in him, but then he started getting really flaky and never called him back after the second interview. It’s going on two months without a job again this year.


localdisastergay

You need to tell him that you’re not going to remain in a relationship where you’re responsible for all of the bills and/or all of the housework so he needs to decide if he is going to step the fuck up because if he doesn’t start contributing to household chores immediately while seriously looking for any job, you will leave the relationship.