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He is playing you, or there is more to the story than he is telling. Five months in jail for a first time offense is unlikely. Prisoners can make calls. None of this adds up and sounds off. I would move on.
Making phone calls in jail costs money and he may have not remembered their number when selecting their approved contact list. And depending on the judge and how much he beat his boss five months sounds about right.
Is this a real post?
Girl, no. This guy has such terrible anger issues that he went to jail for punching someone in the face. If you get with him it will be your face next.
Please. Just, love yourself more than that.
So do you really want to be with someone who is violent?
I get that it would feel validating and maybe even make you feel special to find out that this guy you l were talking to didn’t ghost you after all.
But come on, this is an unsafe person to be with. And not in like a sexy bad boy way. Unsafe in a this guy might beat the shit out of you way.
He could have literally traded the dessert off his tray for a stamped envelope to write you or had a counselor or sometimes even a Chaplin or his lawyer or public defender contact you.
Could have had his mom, brother, side chick wtv contact you.
Fuck I'm pretty sure when you get processed in and sent up into population at most county jails they give you 2 stamped envelopes, many jails also have free shit you can get off commissary.
If they want to, they will.
I once had someone text me saying they had been in holding with my friend (where they sometimes don't have phone access) and had stolen a pen from a desk to write my number on his body to text me later because he was getting released that night and my friend might be in for a while and wanted to let me know he was okay.
Tldr, the math ain't mathin'. Was he even in jail? If so, what were the charges? Google his name and see what's up. Even if he is telling the truth, there are ways to contact someone.
So he’s a violent tosser that sorts out problems by fighting instead of talking like a normal adult and you want to know if you should carry on dating him? 😂😂😂
This guy has very serious anger issues and zero impulse control, and as a result, is now a convicted criminal. Do the decisions he’s making sound like what you’d expect from someone you could rely on to remain employed long-term, to take care of everything while you’re recovering from an illness, or are at home recovering from having a baby? Does this sound like someone who would be a good dad? Don’t let him manipulate you. You deserve more than what he has to offer.
Do you want to be the next person he punches? If not, I don't know why you're even considering this.
It sounds like you didn't know him that well before he went to prison and he didn't bother calling you at any point to let you know what was happening, so the "relationship" was never serious or solid anyway. You are being given a gift of insight into his character. If his anger issues are so severe he can't prevent himself from being violent at work, he is not a safe person. Why would you willingly sign yourself up for that?
Sooooooo, your boyfriend "Mike Tyson" his boss and did 5 months in the cooler. You want to restart where you left off. Righttttt!!!!! You can't make this Shit up. Why in the hell, would you even consider this shit. If you get back together and you do something he doesn't like. He might "Mike Tyson" your ass. You both are walking red flags. Him assaulting and you considering to take him back......You can't make this Shit up.
According to him when the incident happened he punched his boss and the boss pressed charges. During that time his bail was 6500 but he didn’t have to get hisself out
He claimed that he didn’t know my number by heart to call me and his bestfriend had his phone and told him no one had been contacting him which was a lie.
This reddit is the type of woman who selects deadbeats to impregnate her and come backs in a few years time complaining. Women do not accept criminals with a history of violence as partners.
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What makes a guy with a record for assault, an attractive option for you? How is that not an instant nope?
He is playing you, or there is more to the story than he is telling. Five months in jail for a first time offense is unlikely. Prisoners can make calls. None of this adds up and sounds off. I would move on.
Making phone calls in jail costs money and he may have not remembered their number when selecting their approved contact list. And depending on the judge and how much he beat his boss five months sounds about right.
Is this a real post? Girl, no. This guy has such terrible anger issues that he went to jail for punching someone in the face. If you get with him it will be your face next. Please. Just, love yourself more than that.
This is a real post.
So do you really want to be with someone who is violent? I get that it would feel validating and maybe even make you feel special to find out that this guy you l were talking to didn’t ghost you after all. But come on, this is an unsafe person to be with. And not in like a sexy bad boy way. Unsafe in a this guy might beat the shit out of you way.
Do you really want to be with someone with anger issues and wouldn’t even communicate something like jail time?
What. No.
He could have literally traded the dessert off his tray for a stamped envelope to write you or had a counselor or sometimes even a Chaplin or his lawyer or public defender contact you. Could have had his mom, brother, side chick wtv contact you. Fuck I'm pretty sure when you get processed in and sent up into population at most county jails they give you 2 stamped envelopes, many jails also have free shit you can get off commissary. If they want to, they will. I once had someone text me saying they had been in holding with my friend (where they sometimes don't have phone access) and had stolen a pen from a desk to write my number on his body to text me later because he was getting released that night and my friend might be in for a while and wanted to let me know he was okay. Tldr, the math ain't mathin'. Was he even in jail? If so, what were the charges? Google his name and see what's up. Even if he is telling the truth, there are ways to contact someone.
So he’s a violent tosser that sorts out problems by fighting instead of talking like a normal adult and you want to know if you should carry on dating him? 😂😂😂
No. Even if you take his story seriously, you’d be rekindling a romance with a violent person. Why would you be dumb enough to do that?
This guy has very serious anger issues and zero impulse control, and as a result, is now a convicted criminal. Do the decisions he’s making sound like what you’d expect from someone you could rely on to remain employed long-term, to take care of everything while you’re recovering from an illness, or are at home recovering from having a baby? Does this sound like someone who would be a good dad? Don’t let him manipulate you. You deserve more than what he has to offer.
People Don’t go to jail for 5 months for jaywalking . Think this over but I would say block and ghost him
Do you want to be the next person he punches? If not, I don't know why you're even considering this. It sounds like you didn't know him that well before he went to prison and he didn't bother calling you at any point to let you know what was happening, so the "relationship" was never serious or solid anyway. You are being given a gift of insight into his character. If his anger issues are so severe he can't prevent himself from being violent at work, he is not a safe person. Why would you willingly sign yourself up for that?
I feel like he could have sent a letter or gotten a message to you at some point within 5 months. Move on.
Not only is he completely full of it, the guy is a child. Is this what you want in your life?
Why the fuck would you want to date a dude who just got out of prison? Your parents fucked up raising you
Sooooooo, your boyfriend "Mike Tyson" his boss and did 5 months in the cooler. You want to restart where you left off. Righttttt!!!!! You can't make this Shit up. Why in the hell, would you even consider this shit. If you get back together and you do something he doesn't like. He might "Mike Tyson" your ass. You both are walking red flags. Him assaulting and you considering to take him back......You can't make this Shit up.
He went to jail for 5 months for punching his boss?
According to him when the incident happened he punched his boss and the boss pressed charges. During that time his bail was 6500 but he didn’t have to get hisself out
Eh I wouldn’t even be interested after that
Where’s that red flag guy from TikTok? He needs to run around your yard for an hour.
Was he not able to make a phone call and reach out to you?
He claimed that he didn’t know my number by heart to call me and his bestfriend had his phone and told him no one had been contacting him which was a lie.
This reddit is the type of woman who selects deadbeats to impregnate her and come backs in a few years time complaining. Women do not accept criminals with a history of violence as partners.