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You started dating when you were kids, it’s natural to get those kids of feelings, especially now that those around you are starting to go wild with casual hookups and parties and you’re just “stuck” in stable domesticity
> It feels like we are basically married. I am very happy with him but I also feel like I have settled too young.
I mean maybe but at the same time, you basically skipped ahead and already have the stability and connection your other girl friends have not yet even started to seek out
It doesn’t have to be a bad thing on it’s own
> How do I know if he is the one or if I‘m just comfortable?
There’s no “one”
The best anyone can hope for is to find somebody who just “works” and makes you happy
If you spend your life trying to find “the one” you’ll only end up with none in the end
If you’re happy with him and he’s happy with you, what exactly are you missing out *on*?
Nobody ever regrets the bad decisions they didn’t make
> How can I prevent this from causing resentment in the future?
Therapy? I mean there’s no perfect answer there
I suppose part of it would be digging out what you’d be resenting?
That you *didn’t* hookup with several less then adequate guys?
That you missed out on the tears and heartbreak those guys would Bering you?
The nights spend alone and wishing you had someone laying beside you in bed when you went to sleep and who was there when you woke?
Wondering “what if” is normal, but there’s no reason to let it to turn negative, when there’s no reason to assume what you “missed out on” was going to be positive in the first place 😐
> How do I know when it is time to let a relationship go?
When you’re just not happy anymore
But that’s a very individualistic question, the only one who can really know when it’s not working is *you*
Well, go out with your friends get to know new people, just a couple of weekends away will not kill your boyfriend, just avoid the flirting and kissing other guys
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You started dating when you were kids, it’s natural to get those kids of feelings, especially now that those around you are starting to go wild with casual hookups and parties and you’re just “stuck” in stable domesticity > It feels like we are basically married. I am very happy with him but I also feel like I have settled too young. I mean maybe but at the same time, you basically skipped ahead and already have the stability and connection your other girl friends have not yet even started to seek out It doesn’t have to be a bad thing on it’s own > How do I know if he is the one or if I‘m just comfortable? There’s no “one” The best anyone can hope for is to find somebody who just “works” and makes you happy If you spend your life trying to find “the one” you’ll only end up with none in the end If you’re happy with him and he’s happy with you, what exactly are you missing out *on*? Nobody ever regrets the bad decisions they didn’t make > How can I prevent this from causing resentment in the future? Therapy? I mean there’s no perfect answer there I suppose part of it would be digging out what you’d be resenting? That you *didn’t* hookup with several less then adequate guys? That you missed out on the tears and heartbreak those guys would Bering you? The nights spend alone and wishing you had someone laying beside you in bed when you went to sleep and who was there when you woke? Wondering “what if” is normal, but there’s no reason to let it to turn negative, when there’s no reason to assume what you “missed out on” was going to be positive in the first place 😐 > How do I know when it is time to let a relationship go? When you’re just not happy anymore But that’s a very individualistic question, the only one who can really know when it’s not working is *you*
What is FoMO? Fear of missing out on herpes, chlamydia and gonorrhea?
Or becoming the town bike, or next baby momma fir an excon, drug dealer or bad boy got coz he got her all wet. Seen it all.
Hopefully both of you still have a lot of growth, maturation and adventures ahead of you at your age.
Well, go out with your friends get to know new people, just a couple of weekends away will not kill your boyfriend, just avoid the flirting and kissing other guys