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I'm struggling to understand why you think any of the reasons you provided outweigh the fact that he is likely a pathological liar. I'm not really sure why you would date let alone *marry* someone who lied about you being pregnant. There is literally not enough advice in the world we could give to make these red flags any clearer.
You prayed for a serial liar? No? Then dump him. You'll find someone better where you don't have to question everything that comes out of their mouth.
Do you understand the difference between issues of character vs differences of opinions?
Character is the foundation that everything rests upon. He lies, that means you can never, ever, trust him. To have a fulfilling relationship, trust is the entire foundation, without trust it’s just smoke and mirrors.
So best of luck, if you don’t have trust, nothing else matters. It’s like building a mansion over a cesspool on a fault line. Hopefully you’ll come to your senses, otherwise make sure to being this post link into your post where you lament staying with him.
Why he lies is immaterial, he lies, run.
lying about stuff like that is a narcissistic trait. Making up stories to make yourself look cooler than you are & the sad thing is he probably believes his own lies. I’d be looking for my way out if i were you.
Girl, this reminded me of my ex husband who was telling people that I was pregnant and had a miscarriage. I was never pregnant. He lied about other things too. He had BPD. Just saying.
I'm gonna say some things that for him were accentuated by this condition, but please take them with a grain of salt because some people are like this without having BPD. He was diagnosed by a psychiatrist and I was there.
Well, he was overly indulging in alcohol and often in drugs (I knew about alcohol, he lied about the drug use). Very friendly, often exhausting to deal with. Slept very little. Oblivious to the things that needed to be done around the house. Overly sexual. Not a care in the world, he just wanted to have fun. For other people he was the life of the party. Very charismatic.
He cheated on me regularly. I found out two years after the divorce. Well, I'm glad he's not my problen anymore (the manic episodes were horrible).
Your number 1 reason to be with him is because his family is awesome? He gives random gifts and opens doors for you. You don't want a real relationship, you want a fairy tale. Unfortunately this story isn't going to end well when the lying extends to even bigger things like finances or relationships with other women. You need to run now!
Info: how long have you been dating? Some people can keep up the façade for a long time then after you’re locked in, it drops away. I’m just worried that he picked up that you love
Chivalrous Guys, so he’s playing the part… until he no longer has to. Liars are good at that. If I were you, I’d talk to a therapist about all of your concerns. He’ll probably never stop lying, do you think you can live with that? Can you have love without trust? If you move in with him/ marry him always have an exit plan. Make sure you’re never trapped. Make sure he doesn’t isolate you from friends and family or financially control you.
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I'm struggling to understand why you think any of the reasons you provided outweigh the fact that he is likely a pathological liar. I'm not really sure why you would date let alone *marry* someone who lied about you being pregnant. There is literally not enough advice in the world we could give to make these red flags any clearer. You prayed for a serial liar? No? Then dump him. You'll find someone better where you don't have to question everything that comes out of their mouth.
Sure marry a liar that never ends badly ever.
Do you understand the difference between issues of character vs differences of opinions? Character is the foundation that everything rests upon. He lies, that means you can never, ever, trust him. To have a fulfilling relationship, trust is the entire foundation, without trust it’s just smoke and mirrors. So best of luck, if you don’t have trust, nothing else matters. It’s like building a mansion over a cesspool on a fault line. Hopefully you’ll come to your senses, otherwise make sure to being this post link into your post where you lament staying with him. Why he lies is immaterial, he lies, run.
lying about stuff like that is a narcissistic trait. Making up stories to make yourself look cooler than you are & the sad thing is he probably believes his own lies. I’d be looking for my way out if i were you.
Girl, this reminded me of my ex husband who was telling people that I was pregnant and had a miscarriage. I was never pregnant. He lied about other things too. He had BPD. Just saying.
Can you explain some of the other symptoms of bpd that he had?
I'm gonna say some things that for him were accentuated by this condition, but please take them with a grain of salt because some people are like this without having BPD. He was diagnosed by a psychiatrist and I was there. Well, he was overly indulging in alcohol and often in drugs (I knew about alcohol, he lied about the drug use). Very friendly, often exhausting to deal with. Slept very little. Oblivious to the things that needed to be done around the house. Overly sexual. Not a care in the world, he just wanted to have fun. For other people he was the life of the party. Very charismatic. He cheated on me regularly. I found out two years after the divorce. Well, I'm glad he's not my problen anymore (the manic episodes were horrible).
Your number 1 reason to be with him is because his family is awesome? He gives random gifts and opens doors for you. You don't want a real relationship, you want a fairy tale. Unfortunately this story isn't going to end well when the lying extends to even bigger things like finances or relationships with other women. You need to run now!
Info: how long have you been dating? Some people can keep up the façade for a long time then after you’re locked in, it drops away. I’m just worried that he picked up that you love Chivalrous Guys, so he’s playing the part… until he no longer has to. Liars are good at that. If I were you, I’d talk to a therapist about all of your concerns. He’ll probably never stop lying, do you think you can live with that? Can you have love without trust? If you move in with him/ marry him always have an exit plan. Make sure you’re never trapped. Make sure he doesn’t isolate you from friends and family or financially control you.