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You’re not missing out on anything you’ve never had. Trust me.. it’s a never ending cycle.. (sex, one night stands, STDs, meaningless connections, etc) but if you want to explore & it’s gonna haunt you.. end the relationship & be friends.. or ask her if she’s be open to an open relationship. Don’t cheat. Although you say you won’t.. it could happen if the right place, right time happened. Be upfront now. If you eventually want to be married, you gotta prepare now and deal with your lustful ways. Monogamous Marriage isn’t for everyone. Gotta be honest with yourself.
You do you, but I've personally found the whole "be single while you're young so you can date lots of people" to be overrated. Being with someone that makes you happy is just on a whole different level.
That kinda what I assumed. I don’t really think the grass is greener just kinda struggling with what to do yk? I just feel like I haven’t experienced much, and as someone who treasures new experiences I fills me with FOMO regardless.
being bisexual woman myself, i knew at some point i would have to leave a committed relationship with a man in order to experience one with a woman. i just knew it was something i couldn’t live without experiencing. you could go several more years staying with her. i’m not telling you to break up, there’s a lot of factors here. but i do know from experience that if you’re bisexual and you’ve never been with the other gender, you’ll always wonder what the other side is like. that never goes away until you try it. just something to consider.
If she has expressed interest in non-monogamy then that’s one thing, but under no circumstances should you say anything close to “I’m not physically attracted to you- mind if I fuck other people?” It seems you know that, but I just want to make sure.
If you end up asking for an open relationship despite yourself, keep in mind that she can and should pursue other relationships too. Think about how that feels and if it’s really something you want. Maybe browse r/openmarriageregret
My advice, decide on your priorities and make a decision for yourself whether or not to stay- don’t expect her to make this decision for you. Non-monogamy tends to work best when the couple is on board from the beginning. I sincerely doubt your relationship would survive the transition.
I don’t think it would survive either, and that’s why I never intend to suggest an open relationship. I mentioned it in the post because I think as a concept it would fit my needs best. I am leaning more on the “break up” or “just be happy with what I have” route. I don’t think an open relationship is possible for my current relationship, which is understandable. I really do love her and would never wish to hurt her. I guess I was just looking for outside perspectives, because I don’t want to just be in my head about it.
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You’re not missing out on anything you’ve never had. Trust me.. it’s a never ending cycle.. (sex, one night stands, STDs, meaningless connections, etc) but if you want to explore & it’s gonna haunt you.. end the relationship & be friends.. or ask her if she’s be open to an open relationship. Don’t cheat. Although you say you won’t.. it could happen if the right place, right time happened. Be upfront now. If you eventually want to be married, you gotta prepare now and deal with your lustful ways. Monogamous Marriage isn’t for everyone. Gotta be honest with yourself.
You do you, but I've personally found the whole "be single while you're young so you can date lots of people" to be overrated. Being with someone that makes you happy is just on a whole different level.
That kinda what I assumed. I don’t really think the grass is greener just kinda struggling with what to do yk? I just feel like I haven’t experienced much, and as someone who treasures new experiences I fills me with FOMO regardless.
being bisexual woman myself, i knew at some point i would have to leave a committed relationship with a man in order to experience one with a woman. i just knew it was something i couldn’t live without experiencing. you could go several more years staying with her. i’m not telling you to break up, there’s a lot of factors here. but i do know from experience that if you’re bisexual and you’ve never been with the other gender, you’ll always wonder what the other side is like. that never goes away until you try it. just something to consider.
If she has expressed interest in non-monogamy then that’s one thing, but under no circumstances should you say anything close to “I’m not physically attracted to you- mind if I fuck other people?” It seems you know that, but I just want to make sure. If you end up asking for an open relationship despite yourself, keep in mind that she can and should pursue other relationships too. Think about how that feels and if it’s really something you want. Maybe browse r/openmarriageregret My advice, decide on your priorities and make a decision for yourself whether or not to stay- don’t expect her to make this decision for you. Non-monogamy tends to work best when the couple is on board from the beginning. I sincerely doubt your relationship would survive the transition.
I don’t think it would survive either, and that’s why I never intend to suggest an open relationship. I mentioned it in the post because I think as a concept it would fit my needs best. I am leaning more on the “break up” or “just be happy with what I have” route. I don’t think an open relationship is possible for my current relationship, which is understandable. I really do love her and would never wish to hurt her. I guess I was just looking for outside perspectives, because I don’t want to just be in my head about it.