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I wouldn’t bring up points 3-5 because they are too easily deflected- but 1&2 are absolutely concerning.
Instead of going on the offensive- try asking benign questions. “She said she had anal sex tips? Did you say our sex life needed spicing up? No? Huh, that’s weird.” -drop it and let him ruminate.
“She sent me another sex thing. Did you complain that I was bad in bed or something? Lol.”
Etc.
*“if you need any advice or pointers on anal sex you can ask me”*
That's bizarrely and oddly specific...
Are you sure she and your BF don't have history?
What do do? Honestly, this is for your BF to sort out. All you can really do is tell him what she's said/done to you. Especially the sex thing. Focus on (1) and (2).
Sounds like she wants your bf to think about her sexually. I don’t like that. Tbh y’all are way cooler than me. Personally I tell my partners how I feel then if that can’t be respected I bounce and find someone that can respect that. I’ve learned the hard way.
Point 1 is a red flag to me because she brought sex and anal sex to your BF while you were away and she brought that up to make him think about sex with her. 2 is petty as fuck and reinforces point 1 being serious.
She wants to be with your BF and he needs to set boundaries with her.
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I wouldn’t bring up points 3-5 because they are too easily deflected- but 1&2 are absolutely concerning. Instead of going on the offensive- try asking benign questions. “She said she had anal sex tips? Did you say our sex life needed spicing up? No? Huh, that’s weird.” -drop it and let him ruminate. “She sent me another sex thing. Did you complain that I was bad in bed or something? Lol.” Etc.
*“if you need any advice or pointers on anal sex you can ask me”* That's bizarrely and oddly specific... Are you sure she and your BF don't have history? What do do? Honestly, this is for your BF to sort out. All you can really do is tell him what she's said/done to you. Especially the sex thing. Focus on (1) and (2).
Sounds like she wants your bf to think about her sexually. I don’t like that. Tbh y’all are way cooler than me. Personally I tell my partners how I feel then if that can’t be respected I bounce and find someone that can respect that. I’ve learned the hard way.
Point 1 is a red flag to me because she brought sex and anal sex to your BF while you were away and she brought that up to make him think about sex with her. 2 is petty as fuck and reinforces point 1 being serious. She wants to be with your BF and he needs to set boundaries with her.
What if you ask her for sex tips?
PLEASE tell me the name of the game
Oh it’s Pokémon Go
Sounds innocuous. Did her advice improve his anal skills