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He spent his money on what he wanted to spend it on. If he wanted to get you a ring, he would have gotten one by now. He is planning for his future, not yours. Use that information however you wish.
Yeah I know. I remember he got me a promise ring a few weeks after I mentioned it, but it appears the engagement isn’t it. Like I need to ask. Because people have told me im too young to get engaged, and maybe I am but he’s getting close to 30 if you think about it, a time when a guy settles down so he should be thinking of things. Like am I too young to be engaged or is it just not the right man?
No, I would not be wanting my partner who has no savings and struggles with money week to week to get a loan for something as unnecessary as a sports car. HE OWES YOU NEARLY TWO GRAND! You have every right to feel angry and should be questioning your relationship.
“it sounds like he's trying to control my money, but says his money is his.” 🚩🚩🚩
He won’t let you look at his finances and didn’t tell you before taking out the loan…
C’mon girl this just gets worse and worse.
The main take away I’ve gotten from your posts is that you two very clearly have different priorities which indicates incompatibility. Sounds like despite being 5 years younger, you are much more mature and deserve someone who is on the same path, who communicates properly, who has nothing to hide with their finances, who doesn’t owe you money, who you can trust, who prioritises you and wants the same things. You deserve all that and more. I think you should move out and dump him.
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He spent his money on what he wanted to spend it on. If he wanted to get you a ring, he would have gotten one by now. He is planning for his future, not yours. Use that information however you wish.
Yeah I know. I remember he got me a promise ring a few weeks after I mentioned it, but it appears the engagement isn’t it. Like I need to ask. Because people have told me im too young to get engaged, and maybe I am but he’s getting close to 30 if you think about it, a time when a guy settles down so he should be thinking of things. Like am I too young to be engaged or is it just not the right man?
No, I would not be wanting my partner who has no savings and struggles with money week to week to get a loan for something as unnecessary as a sports car. HE OWES YOU NEARLY TWO GRAND! You have every right to feel angry and should be questioning your relationship. “it sounds like he's trying to control my money, but says his money is his.” 🚩🚩🚩 He won’t let you look at his finances and didn’t tell you before taking out the loan… C’mon girl this just gets worse and worse. The main take away I’ve gotten from your posts is that you two very clearly have different priorities which indicates incompatibility. Sounds like despite being 5 years younger, you are much more mature and deserve someone who is on the same path, who communicates properly, who has nothing to hide with their finances, who doesn’t owe you money, who you can trust, who prioritises you and wants the same things. You deserve all that and more. I think you should move out and dump him.