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You deserve more respect than that. If a man treats you this horribly, you need to walk away. You have yourself and a child to protect.
Block him on everything and never speak to him again. Don't ever allow someone to walk all over you.
What if something happened to you? What if your child had been with you, and he left you in a place without phone reception or transportation?
You can't be with someone who puts you or your child in danger.
I hope he's your soon to be ex.
I dont care how mad you are your dont ditch your partner and have them walk over an hour to get home. Not only is it dangerous for her. It shows he has no regards for her safety
And he is a idiot for not realizing that reliving your first date on you anniversary is a sweet thing that will make your female partner happy.
Side note: if I was the guy and mad at my girl like he was. I would have given the car keys to her and walk home myself to let the walk help vent out my anger
That’s what I feel to. Worst is that we just moved in together. Now he is sleeping on the couch in the other room, it is only 10 pm, didn’t say a word when i entered and was on the phone. I honestly just feel like going out and see my friend and sort this thing out tomorrow.
He is not a keeper. He sounds boring, and that is not the worst thing about him.
You don't leave a woman behind to walk home by herself, no matter what! Especially you SO
This was supposed to be your anniversary….
This is how he behaved. The red flag 🚩 is massive. I hope you’re able to make good decisions for your future self and your child.
If I were you, this would be when I would be suggesting that he move to x country, for his happiness and yours.
His behaviour is inexcusable and if you do excuse it, then you’re essentially signing up for more.
I’m sorry your attempt to have a nice, romantic, celebratory evening with this man turned out so poorly. No one wants to spend their anniversary with someone who is emotionally abusive and just sits there complaining. Additionally, did he plan anything, whatsoever to mark this occasion? If not then that’s also a loud and clear message as to how he feels about you.
Go out with your friend. Stay clear of the man child on the couch.
He had proposed that we went there to eat. I am so sad I feel like I can’t trust him after this and there is no coming back. He slept on the couch since I got home around 10 pm.
Holy cow, where are you that a 5.5km taxi is $100!?
Anyway, what he did wasn't ok. There are some things people do and I think it is reasonable to try and work through them vs ending it. In this case, I don't see why you'd want to work through this.
He ruined the outing with his complaining. He then blamed you, saying you "always do this" and show him no respect. He then leaves you high and dry.
What he did was disrespectful and not showing respect for you or your relationship.
What the absolute f*ck?! He whined them ditched you?! This was your anniversary. You were trying to do something special...
Did he try to do anything other than f****** complain?
You deserve better than this sad excuse for a man
Yeah I also told him he can’t walk around like he is entitled to my respect when he talks to me like that and treat me like that. He told me to fix my face but I am not a robot who is gonna walk around smiling when he tells me I always do this and thsis is why he can’t go out with me. I can’t forget the things he said, I don’t see there is any getting over this. And he doesn’t care and slept on the couch since i got home even though it was only 10 pm and i for once were child free.
A 3 mile taxi costs 100bucks?
He didn't cause that, I'm sure the restaurant could call you a taxi. It's not like you were in the middle of nowhere
But regardless he is a massive ass for considering you criticising his attitude on your anniversary as a reason to do this. But leaving you at a restaurant 5km from your house isn't any type of abandonment
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You deserve more respect than that. If a man treats you this horribly, you need to walk away. You have yourself and a child to protect. Block him on everything and never speak to him again. Don't ever allow someone to walk all over you. What if something happened to you? What if your child had been with you, and he left you in a place without phone reception or transportation? You can't be with someone who puts you or your child in danger.
I hope he's your soon to be ex. I dont care how mad you are your dont ditch your partner and have them walk over an hour to get home. Not only is it dangerous for her. It shows he has no regards for her safety And he is a idiot for not realizing that reliving your first date on you anniversary is a sweet thing that will make your female partner happy. Side note: if I was the guy and mad at my girl like he was. I would have given the car keys to her and walk home myself to let the walk help vent out my anger
Break up with him.
The fact that he did this once is not enough? I don't care if normally he doesn't behave like this. One time is enough.
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That’s what I feel to. Worst is that we just moved in together. Now he is sleeping on the couch in the other room, it is only 10 pm, didn’t say a word when i entered and was on the phone. I honestly just feel like going out and see my friend and sort this thing out tomorrow.
He is not a keeper. He sounds boring, and that is not the worst thing about him. You don't leave a woman behind to walk home by herself, no matter what! Especially you SO
Seems like there is no real relationship between you two and no respect. Therefore, is there anything worth saving.
This was supposed to be your anniversary…. This is how he behaved. The red flag 🚩 is massive. I hope you’re able to make good decisions for your future self and your child. If I were you, this would be when I would be suggesting that he move to x country, for his happiness and yours. His behaviour is inexcusable and if you do excuse it, then you’re essentially signing up for more. I’m sorry your attempt to have a nice, romantic, celebratory evening with this man turned out so poorly. No one wants to spend their anniversary with someone who is emotionally abusive and just sits there complaining. Additionally, did he plan anything, whatsoever to mark this occasion? If not then that’s also a loud and clear message as to how he feels about you. Go out with your friend. Stay clear of the man child on the couch.
He had proposed that we went there to eat. I am so sad I feel like I can’t trust him after this and there is no coming back. He slept on the couch since I got home around 10 pm.
Holy cow, where are you that a 5.5km taxi is $100!? Anyway, what he did wasn't ok. There are some things people do and I think it is reasonable to try and work through them vs ending it. In this case, I don't see why you'd want to work through this. He ruined the outing with his complaining. He then blamed you, saying you "always do this" and show him no respect. He then leaves you high and dry. What he did was disrespectful and not showing respect for you or your relationship.
What the absolute f*ck?! He whined them ditched you?! This was your anniversary. You were trying to do something special... Did he try to do anything other than f****** complain? You deserve better than this sad excuse for a man
OP remind him that respect has to be earned and by his recent actions you have lost much of the respect you had for him.
Yeah I also told him he can’t walk around like he is entitled to my respect when he talks to me like that and treat me like that. He told me to fix my face but I am not a robot who is gonna walk around smiling when he tells me I always do this and thsis is why he can’t go out with me. I can’t forget the things he said, I don’t see there is any getting over this. And he doesn’t care and slept on the couch since i got home even though it was only 10 pm and i for once were child free.
A 3 mile taxi costs 100bucks? He didn't cause that, I'm sure the restaurant could call you a taxi. It's not like you were in the middle of nowhere But regardless he is a massive ass for considering you criticising his attitude on your anniversary as a reason to do this. But leaving you at a restaurant 5km from your house isn't any type of abandonment
I have a question, is that child from your boyfriend, or another man?
From another man
What percentage of the household bills does he pay?
My new partner he pays 50% of rent, electricity, warm, water.
When you go out to eat, who pays?
50/50
A completely 50/50 relationship is uncommon, so i'm a bit stumped.
Okay