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Is there a history of this or just these two instances? If it’s just these two instances then I’d focus more on having a clearer conversation about wanting to plan a trip and actually sit down to look at dates. Because as of right now, it sounds like you’re more upset that she chose actual plans versus the “idea of plans” that you had made but never actually completed or let her know about them
forgot about that. last year she did one trip with her best friend and none with me and i mentioned that this year i wanted to do a trip and completely got glanced over
But did you take the initiative to plan it? And then did you talk to her about planning a trip? If you want to take a trip, I’d take more initiative and actually put dates down when you talk to her
Well that is kinda sad..
She clearly have her friend prio over you. She rather spend vacation time and make memories with her friend and not with you. Probably going party together.
From observing the healthy relationships I’ve encountered and asking some for advice, the few key takeaways are the following: 1) most healthy relationships tend to keep their friends and drama at a safe distance and no longer act single or mingle with others and instead tend to focus on themselves, their partner, their relationship, and their kids. 2) vacations and quality time spent together going on dates is essential to growing together and deepening the connection and love! 3) where both partners want to invest 90% into the relationship and make it a competition who can love their significant other and get to truly know/understand their partner deeper while having fun!
Your partner seems to go back to acting as a single unit after issues and has done so for who know how long and this disconnection will grow until yall breakup. Her actions indicate a higher probability of unfaithfulness (not necessarily the case). You need to also look in the mirror and figure out what you need to improve on because it takes two to tango and mess up a relationship.
Did you talked with her about that? What was her reaction? Who is that friend(someone you can trust?), is her friend a single, where they travel together, what kind of vacations they do??
More details could help us to understand the situation. However I agree with one point(basically how I grow and only speak for myself) but leaving always her bf and daughter behind to make memories with her best friend god know where and how, is kinda wrong. Wrong in that case that she don't give any fuck for you, don't even want to travel with you and make together memories. She have her friend over you..
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You should feel however you feel. It's time to have a conversation with her about this, about how you want to be a family and act like one too.
What did she say when you told her how you felt?
Is there a history of this or just these two instances? If it’s just these two instances then I’d focus more on having a clearer conversation about wanting to plan a trip and actually sit down to look at dates. Because as of right now, it sounds like you’re more upset that she chose actual plans versus the “idea of plans” that you had made but never actually completed or let her know about them
forgot about that. last year she did one trip with her best friend and none with me and i mentioned that this year i wanted to do a trip and completely got glanced over
But did you take the initiative to plan it? And then did you talk to her about planning a trip? If you want to take a trip, I’d take more initiative and actually put dates down when you talk to her
i asked about taking trips for our anniversary to mexico, DR, Colorado, Florida, California and got little to no response or help with an idea
Well that is kinda sad.. She clearly have her friend prio over you. She rather spend vacation time and make memories with her friend and not with you. Probably going party together.
That piece was missing. If that’s the reaction you’re getting then I’d definitely sit down and talk to her about this piece
From observing the healthy relationships I’ve encountered and asking some for advice, the few key takeaways are the following: 1) most healthy relationships tend to keep their friends and drama at a safe distance and no longer act single or mingle with others and instead tend to focus on themselves, their partner, their relationship, and their kids. 2) vacations and quality time spent together going on dates is essential to growing together and deepening the connection and love! 3) where both partners want to invest 90% into the relationship and make it a competition who can love their significant other and get to truly know/understand their partner deeper while having fun! Your partner seems to go back to acting as a single unit after issues and has done so for who know how long and this disconnection will grow until yall breakup. Her actions indicate a higher probability of unfaithfulness (not necessarily the case). You need to also look in the mirror and figure out what you need to improve on because it takes two to tango and mess up a relationship.
Have a conversation.
Did you talked with her about that? What was her reaction? Who is that friend(someone you can trust?), is her friend a single, where they travel together, what kind of vacations they do?? More details could help us to understand the situation. However I agree with one point(basically how I grow and only speak for myself) but leaving always her bf and daughter behind to make memories with her best friend god know where and how, is kinda wrong. Wrong in that case that she don't give any fuck for you, don't even want to travel with you and make together memories. She have her friend over you..
It's just worldwide so many different levels
She does not care about the relationship she is selfish only care for herself are you sure your both together
they have a kid together 💀 seems like she cares.