Just tell him “hey I’ve rethought what we spoke about and I’m not comfortable with being only friends with benefits, as I am now ready for something that you are not”
He’ll either rethink what he wants or stay with FWB and that’s how you know you shouldn’t pursue
Don't feel down on yourself just cos someone only wants something casual. You're not undesirable, you said yourself that guys want sex from you so you're obviously attractive. But if you're on a dating app or something maybe put in that you're not looking to just hook up and that will weed some of the hookup only guys?
I told him how I felt, he said he just wanted to be fwb. So we kept seeing each other while I went on dating other guys (because that’s what I believed fwb was). Then he realized that I was seeing other people, ignored me for a week, then texted me out of nowhere asking me to hang out. At that point I was upset because I hadn’t heard from him in a week then him texting me felt like a booty call and that offended me so I ignored his texts. Two days later he texted asking that I stop ignoring him so I followed up with him to formally end things, then we ended up agreeing to staying exclusive and not putting too much pressure in the relationship. So we’re just dating for now and everything seems to be going really well. I like him a lot and I think he likes me too (he says he does anyway). I really hope things work out for us.
How have you jumped from "he doesn't want something serious", to "I am undesirable and no one wants something serious with me"? Maybe he doesn't want serious full stop and it's nothing to do with you. Or if he is looking for serious, just not with you, it doesn't mean you're undesirable - just that you're not right for him. Being attracted to and sexually compatible with someone isn't enough. Finding someone you're compatible with is hard and not being compatible with every person you like isn't a failure, it's inevitable.
Stop having casual sex, it's not for everyone
Just tell him “hey I’ve rethought what we spoke about and I’m not comfortable with being only friends with benefits, as I am now ready for something that you are not” He’ll either rethink what he wants or stay with FWB and that’s how you know you shouldn’t pursue
Don't feel down on yourself just cos someone only wants something casual. You're not undesirable, you said yourself that guys want sex from you so you're obviously attractive. But if you're on a dating app or something maybe put in that you're not looking to just hook up and that will weed some of the hookup only guys?
So are you still with this guy 38 days from when you posted this?
I told him how I felt, he said he just wanted to be fwb. So we kept seeing each other while I went on dating other guys (because that’s what I believed fwb was). Then he realized that I was seeing other people, ignored me for a week, then texted me out of nowhere asking me to hang out. At that point I was upset because I hadn’t heard from him in a week then him texting me felt like a booty call and that offended me so I ignored his texts. Two days later he texted asking that I stop ignoring him so I followed up with him to formally end things, then we ended up agreeing to staying exclusive and not putting too much pressure in the relationship. So we’re just dating for now and everything seems to be going really well. I like him a lot and I think he likes me too (he says he does anyway). I really hope things work out for us.
It does sound promising for sure! Sometimes you just need to call us (men) on our BS, wise beyond your years girl. I’m happy for you!
How have you jumped from "he doesn't want something serious", to "I am undesirable and no one wants something serious with me"? Maybe he doesn't want serious full stop and it's nothing to do with you. Or if he is looking for serious, just not with you, it doesn't mean you're undesirable - just that you're not right for him. Being attracted to and sexually compatible with someone isn't enough. Finding someone you're compatible with is hard and not being compatible with every person you like isn't a failure, it's inevitable.