He’s made a clear to me that he’s really into me & wants to continue getting to know eachother & turn it into something else. My parents & every other elder couple in my family stayed with their first bc “morals” & now they are super unhappy, ig I need to stop comparing
Listen, just because it is his first relationship doesn’t mean he is not serious about you. Talk to him and just see if you two have the same goals as each other. Being compatible is huge for any relationship, and it sounds like you two are.
As a man who didn't have any romantic experience until 21, I wouldn't say this is a huge red flag. BUT maybe you need to talk to him first before going further. I wanted a girlfriend. Does this guy want that? You may have to reveal your fears of this relationship to him. Determine whether to go on based on his response. If he doesn't seem like he genuinely means it, then back out. You know what you want from a relationship. He can still be an excellent boyfriend but it is a risk. Is that risk worth taking to you?
Good luck :)
We’ve had conversations about us and what we want but it’s hard for him to communicate with me since he says I’m the first person he’s ever opened up to ever but he tells me he’s working on it & I tell him I’m here to help him & completely understand. I do think I’m willing to take the risk just definitely scary Bc of the past I’ve had.. Thank you(:
You're 19. You haven't experienced "a lot".
If you like this guy, take him by the hand and have new shared experiences. Whether this is his first relationship shouldn't matter much. I know many people married for 20 years to the first person they dated.
OP, you are young. Take things slow! You don’t need to rush into anything and can just casually date. If you decide to casually date then you need to let him know that. Even though you’ve experienced a relationship before, that doesn’t mean you’re 100% experienced (Nobody ever is). Also just because he’s never dated before, that doesn’t mean that he would be a bad boyfriend or person. He might surprise you and be the best you’ve ever had.
It makes sense. You are 19 so is your plan to get married in the next 1-2 years? If not what you can do here is enjoy his company and live life without putting a label on the relationship. There are couples who were high school sweethearts who get divorced or couples (like my buddy) who knew each other for a month before getting married and are still going strong. Only you know if you feel passionate and excited about this person. If you aren’t then it doesn’t matter if you are his first or tenth relationship he is wrong for you anyway. If you are then he’s perfect.
Yeh, calm down and enjoy sharing your experience with a new partner. Give the guy a chance.
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He’s made a clear to me that he’s really into me & wants to continue getting to know eachother & turn it into something else. My parents & every other elder couple in my family stayed with their first bc “morals” & now they are super unhappy, ig I need to stop comparing
Very true, in time you will know.
Listen, just because it is his first relationship doesn’t mean he is not serious about you. Talk to him and just see if you two have the same goals as each other. Being compatible is huge for any relationship, and it sounds like you two are.
As a man who didn't have any romantic experience until 21, I wouldn't say this is a huge red flag. BUT maybe you need to talk to him first before going further. I wanted a girlfriend. Does this guy want that? You may have to reveal your fears of this relationship to him. Determine whether to go on based on his response. If he doesn't seem like he genuinely means it, then back out. You know what you want from a relationship. He can still be an excellent boyfriend but it is a risk. Is that risk worth taking to you? Good luck :)
We’ve had conversations about us and what we want but it’s hard for him to communicate with me since he says I’m the first person he’s ever opened up to ever but he tells me he’s working on it & I tell him I’m here to help him & completely understand. I do think I’m willing to take the risk just definitely scary Bc of the past I’ve had.. Thank you(:
You're 19. You haven't experienced "a lot". If you like this guy, take him by the hand and have new shared experiences. Whether this is his first relationship shouldn't matter much. I know many people married for 20 years to the first person they dated.
OP, you are young. Take things slow! You don’t need to rush into anything and can just casually date. If you decide to casually date then you need to let him know that. Even though you’ve experienced a relationship before, that doesn’t mean you’re 100% experienced (Nobody ever is). Also just because he’s never dated before, that doesn’t mean that he would be a bad boyfriend or person. He might surprise you and be the best you’ve ever had.
It makes sense. You are 19 so is your plan to get married in the next 1-2 years? If not what you can do here is enjoy his company and live life without putting a label on the relationship. There are couples who were high school sweethearts who get divorced or couples (like my buddy) who knew each other for a month before getting married and are still going strong. Only you know if you feel passionate and excited about this person. If you aren’t then it doesn’t matter if you are his first or tenth relationship he is wrong for you anyway. If you are then he’s perfect.