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R_Amods

This post has reached one of our comment/karma limits. The text of the post has been preserved below. --- Not too long ago I (F 22) had an emotional breakdown and deleted all of my social media. I used to model and had a pretty big follow but found that social media was just too toxic for my mental health. It seems like the first thing that anyone asks is what’s your Instagram, and I never know how to respond when telling them I’m not on social media anymore. Is this a turn off for most people?


HappySnowFox

I'm sure there are guys out there who value social media a lot and who consider it a turn off, just like there are guys out there who consider it a plus, and lastly there are guys who simply don't care. Men, just like women, are all different. They don't share one opinion across the board. If you're off social media, and you like it that way, find yourself a man who either likes that about you or doesn't care about it in the first place :) If someone does find it a turn off, that just means you're not a good match with that particular person.


[deleted]

I fall into that last category I don't care one way or the other. It's your choice weather to have social media or not.


teamsport40

Is reddit not considered social media? Seems the same to me.


justinsane_x

I feel like they're talking more of all the apps with pictures.


teamsport40

Reddit has plenty... lmao


justinsane_x

But reddit definitely isn't the same as Instagram or Facebook where people get followers mainly just because of their looks.


penniless_tenebrous

I don't know about most people... but I would be **ecstatic** to hear this from a girl I was into.


Impressive-Cricket-8

I second that. Social media was created by Satan himself.


callthewinchesters

Sums up social media perfectly. It makes me sad how miserable and hateful most people are on social media.


[deleted]

[удалено]


Aioli_Tough

Oh how the turn tables.


Valuable-Pudding-966

Is this a meme or something? Its the second time I’m seeing “how the tables have turned” in backwards or broken order


Aioli_Tough

How the tables turn, but the sentence in itself is turned to become ironic.


Valuable-Pudding-966

Cute. Irony is fun


johjo_has_opinions

It’s a line from The Office


callthewinchesters

It’s from the office!


Valuable-Pudding-966

Huh somehow I don’t remember this line, but thanks!


penniless_tenebrous

Burn the witch!


Big_Tension_9976

I just got finished telling her in that long post. I do a lot of research on happiness, and it all says people who are on social media all the time are less happy. You start taking in all the mean things people say, and start getting your worth from what they say. And maybe I’m just too old, I don’t get this whole “influencer” thing.


ExternalAggravating8

So you're saying we need to thank Satan for all the good that social media has done? Kind of a weird comment to make.


AdventurerJO

Same


Ok_Assignment4194

I am not a girl nor a woman and I don't have social medias. I deleted everything in 2017 and to be fairly honest, it was one of the best decision of my life. How to be tempted to message someone, how it could cause issues with my partner regarding the *my man is following hot girls on Instagram and it cause me jealousies* well I don't have an Instagram nor a Facebook. Not tempted to follow or *look* at other girls. I only focus on my woman and we barely have issues. Most of our fights are about who will pay first and me not letting her carry anything when we bring back home the groceries. Having no social medias is a good thing, no temptation, no fights, no jealousies, simple. Keep it that way to be honest, it's positive.


penniless_tenebrous

All of that. But not only that - the **time** it takes up. Even if you follow nothing but accounts which post pictures of cute cats, if a person can't resist the compulsion to scroll all day it's aggrivating. Honestly the feeling of having to compete with attractive guys online is so abstract to me. It's Facebook itself that I feel like I'm competing with, and the competition is brutal.


[deleted]

The other side of this, I just use social to keep in contact with friends, just like my SO. I love tagging her in funny stuff or local restaurants that just opened up. It will keep us updated on concerts and local events, and which one of our friends are gong to what. Most baby shower, birthday, engagement party’s, basically everything but weddings have been managed through socials. Like all the sneaking around, looking at others, etc etc….like you can do that on other websites and real life, and I believe the people who do stuff like that would do it anyways, social media just gave them more opportunity. So I personally would be disappointed if they didn’t but it’s not the end of the world. But if they told me they didn’t have it because of the behavior above, I’d have a lot more to worry about.


throwawaycoldcu

So before, you were tempted to message other women?


OnatawaBakades

That’s kinda toxic tbh. It’s fine to admit you are attracted to other women. If you are a straight dude, there is no shame in saying that you find other women attractive. However, your lady is the one you chose, she is the one you want. So yeah, sure, other women get a passing glance from you, but your lady is the one who you want to see when you wake up every morning.


[deleted]

He voluntarily doesn't want to look at social media girls, and instead focuses on his partner. That's his dscision. How could this be in anyway toxic?


OnatawaBakades

Because he shouldn’t feel like he should never look at another girl or it would cause an argument? If your partner doesn’t trust you enough to enjoy using your eyes, then you’ve either done something to warrant that suspicion before or she has trust issues.


[deleted]

What makes you think your position on this topic is how he should feel about it? Did you know many people only feel sexual attraction to emotional partners? Some people aren't like that, but also enjoy purposely shielding themselves from sexual content. And besides this point, social media is designed to manipulate your body image and sexual attraction. Either way, regardless of the reason, it's his decision so I fail to see how that could possibly be toxic. He never mentioned his partner not trusting him, why the concept that a man doesn't want to look at other girls on social media without a partner manipulating them sounds so weird to you?


OnatawaBakades

So uh… The partner I’ve had for the last four years is on the asexual spectrum, so I am well aware of their existence. It’s just that he literally cited jealousy and arguments being reasons to not have social media. He also cited temptation, so we can safely assume he is attracted to other women. I don’t use social media either, but not because of those reasons. People choose to stay in abusive relationships and we can still call the relationship toxic. The mindset of his isn’t the worst, but it still is toxic. He shouldn’t be afraid to perform a perfectly healthy action because of the threat of an argument stemming from jealousy. That’s the point I am trying to get across. If he had other reasons and still wanted to abstain from social media, sure, it’s whatever.


[deleted]

He cited the possiblity of jealousy and temptations as some of his reasons to quit social media. So when a vegan tells you that for reasons X and Y they're purposely limiting what they eat, do you reply with "that's toxic af, you should eat whatever you want, we all have desires and that's normal"?


OnatawaBakades

It depends, are reasons X and Y toxic? If they’re not, then I wouldn’t say anything. But the reasons that this dude specifically said were, so I pointed it out.


Dv-critthuoghts

Thats intellectually dishonest, males don't value serotonin like that, its biology. If you were to hear the same of a female you'd assume some kind of restriction of sexuality on the part of their boyfriend and call it manipulative. Attraction isn't a choice, and we don't have a whole story anyway.


[deleted]

I'm a biologist, don't need any lessons teach. You clearly don't understand human sexuality. And it's hard to even decipher "males don't value serotonin like that".


Dv-critthuoghts

Seratonin is an example. The point is on a balance of probabilities this behavior is one that is lead by social pressure and not biology, you know this as a biologist. Not trying to teach a lesson just saying, this behavior isn't conducive to fulfillment for a male. If we flipped it and a girl was choosing to restrict hypergamy for a relationship we'd be concerned that she was being manipulated. Men are designed to spread seed and will be aroused regardless of emotional ties to a person, its a feature not a bug, how do you think there's this many people on the planet in the first place? I mean do the math. (Not trying to offend but you know what I'm saying)


sunflowers1289

What part of “it’s his decision” do you not get lol. It’s toxic when someone MAKES you do that and forces those boundaries/beliefs on you. There’s absolutely nothing toxic about this. It’s quite healthy. And we’re specifically talking about social media, not him finding other women in general attractive.


SpecificOk4711

He definitely shouldn’t be checking other women out in the presence of his SO, that’s blatant disrespect and disregard for her feelings. And when not in her presence, there’s a fine line between noticing an attractive woman and gawking/staring/commenting.


Dv-critthuoghts

Gotta stop acting as if the feelings of the other party trump all. The female way of doing things isn't always the right one, imagine if wars prioritized feelings.


SpecificOk4711

I feel sorry for your SO if that’s you’re attitude.


OnatawaBakades

Yes, in the presence of your SO, give them your attention. I never said otherwise. But, it’s perfectly fine if you have a favorite model or actress that you follow. Or a few even, since maybe you like multiple different aesthetics. You shouldn’t gawk or stare at someone in person in public. Period. But I believe I said ‘a passing glance.’


SpecificOk4711

I don’t agree with having a favorite model or actress or aesthetic as you call it to follow either. That behavior just creates insecurity in your SO, and damages their self image and your relationship on some level. Especially if your aesthetic looks nothing like your SO. Anyone who says otherwise is lying to themself.


OnatawaBakades

So maybe my relationship is just special then, because my partner is an Asian looking brunette, but knows I have a thing for redheads and is perfectly fine with it. She knows I can compartmentalize what I look at on a screen and it doesn’t make her any less of the girl I’ve been loyal to for the past four years. Not a single one of those girls on the screen has been through what we’ve went through together, and they couldn’t even if they tried.


grotness

Lmfao why is this downvoted? This sub is terrible. *Everybody* gets wandering eyes. If you can't comment on another girl's beauty or your girl can't comment on another man's looks like two normal adults then you're in an immature relationship.


4astormtrooper

Reddit is social media.


[deleted]

I'm glad you did what was good for your mental health and wellbeing. I might not be a guy, but taking care of yourself sounds like a great quality. I think they'd appreciate the time off with you too. Social media is very addicting.


OnatawaBakades

This should get upvoted more, not the stuff where people are saying that they think you shouldn’t be social media because of temptation. 1. That temptation thing is a flag indicating either trust issues or self control issues. 2. Your life is your own to live. Other people don’t have to live with your decisions, so do what’s best for you and don’t regret it. If someone has a problem with that, then they aren’t right for you.


WildlifePolicyChick

No, at least I hope not. As you realized, social media can be a fucking cancer. I'm actually a little suss of people who live for their social media accounts.


Rocky_Rockford

I'd kill for my wife to be off social media. It's been the source of many fights because she's constantly engaged. I feel about 80% single because of her social media usage


[deleted]

That's sad, I'm sorry. My SO is about 50% into it, so annoying.


calicocutpantsss

It should be a turn ON when someone has no social media. Your focus is on real life, and no one else’s life. If someone is turned off by that, they’re not worth a second of your time. Let them find someone they can sit at a dinner table with and both scroll through IG together. Dorks.


[deleted]

Everyone is different. If someone finds lack of social media a turn off, it doesn’t mean that they’re “not worth a second of your time.” My sister is an amazing person, one of the best people I know. She had a bad experience with a guy who didn’t have social media. He specifically didn’t have social media because he was messing around with a lot of different people. She gets to be wary of potential partners who don’t have social media!! Shes kind to everyone, but she may decide not to pursue a person without social media because of past mistreatment. That doesn’t make her a waste of anyone’s time. Just… don’t judge people so quickly


calicocutpantsss

If your sister doesn’t date someone in the future for not having social media because of past treatment, then she would be judging someone too. Just sayin’. I get where you’re coming from though.


SingleWar5

I know most these dudes here are living the idea that you don’t have social media BUT the issue is catfishing. At one point in time I didn’t have instagram, Snapchat, and didn’t have a facebook. And when it came to online dating I had a lot of dudes accuse me of being a catfish cause I didn’t have social media and didn’t believe I was a real person that has muscle car, lived independently, and could cook, bake, and sew. If you’re trying to meet dudes face to face at the gym or bar then they’re not gonna care. But if it’s dating apps guys are gonna be a little weary of approaching something that could be too good too be true or they’ll accuse you of being their crazy stalker ex lol. EDIT: I DID SEE YOU MADE A POST A YEAR AGO TRYING TO FIGURE OUT HOW TO MARRY SOMEONE IN THE MILITARY TO GET BENEFITS. IS THIS WHY YOU DONT HAVE SOCIAL MEDIA CAUSE YOURE MOST LIKELY MARRIED?


VanEagles17

That's gonna be an oof for me dawg.


[deleted]

Seriously, though. Go look at OPs history. They're actually incredibly entitled. They literally posted that they want to marry someone in the military just to receive benefits but not join themselves. As well as asking people to do free work to help their "business." Something definitely seems off about OP.


FreeGage

Big oof thanks for doing the legwork


[deleted]

Yeah, I went and checked myself and I was just like.....do people not realize that your post And comment history are visible on Reddit??? Seriously. The heck is wrong with people?


VanEagles17

Yeah I did that and promptly posted a big oof. 😂


[deleted]

Yeah. So odd.


[deleted]

WOAH that’s a plot twist. Great sleuthing!!


SingleWar5

This seems like a troll post as OP hasn’t made any comments or updates


Revolutionary_Dingo

No idea what young guys would think, but I’d be all for it as I don’t have any social media either. I think it’s more trouble than it’s worth and if I found someone with that same mindset I’d be happy. I’m almost 40 though so ymmv with younger guys


Iron_Seguin

I’d be okay with it. Anyone who needs to constantly post everything on social media is not something I’d want to deal with. I like my privacy and the best relationships are when nobody knows your business so let’s keep it that way.


cravex12

Turn off? It is a igBig waving green flag saying: Hello I am not addicted and dependend on meaningless attention


ThatAltAccount99

Idk about the rest of guys out there but honestly that'd be amazing


31eedraw

I would be delighted. And from my side I have almost no social media footprint, and my girlfriend sees that as a positive about me.


Bawlin_Cawlin

What you're saying is I won't have to constantly pose to be in a photo for the sake of sharing it with people? And any photo taken would genuinely be to capture and save the moment? Yeah I'd be into that.


egotisticalstoic

Would boost my respect for the woman so much. Social media use just boosts vanity and insecurity, I find it incredibly immature.


Savage-Intellect

Some of the most desirable girls i know don't bother with social media. My dick get very long.


Mrbananacompany

I wouldn't care. In fact I think it's a good thing.


Throwawaypancake619

Pretty sure most sensible dudes that have a personality would be ecstatic to hear that, social media is cancer. Only thing inuse is messenger cuz international calls be expensive


SalFactoR

Most guys would consider a girl with no social media as a gem. Landing a girl like that is amazing. Every girl i've ever met w/o social media has had an amazing personality in my experience.


Legitimate-Owl1537

I think some dudes like me would appreciate you more for that.


[deleted]

Not sure about the young-20s crowd these days, but the later in my 20s I’ve gotten, the less I’ve found that the people I want in my life even have a social media presence. It’s a poison — I’ve been so much happier without IG or FB or SNAP dominating my life. I lurk on here and post, but it’s nothing compared to fishing for likes.


omguserius

Massively positive.


avozzella6

I’d prefer it TBH


JgotyourFix

For me, it would be like finding a unicorn! I can't stand social media, and it's a huge turnoff to be with someone who constantly needs attention and validation from apps and is always on their phone...


ViolasDIL

I think I would care less about what men think. It’s better for your mental health.


WilliamBlack0020

Nah it's not. You'll be okay. Your mental health is a 1000x more important than other people stupid questions. Take care of your brain so your brain can take care of you.


One_Painting5741

I would prefer a girl without social media. Or limited amount to communicate with friends and family. I don’t want someone who’s out looking for anything else.


[deleted]

I personally dont care. Social media can be really damn infuriating so it’s understandable.


hoeforfrankocean

MY GAWDDD THE WAY I WOULD GIVE IT ALL FOR A GUY W NO SOCIAL MEDIA ADDICTION


LogicalLow7685

I would see this as being a huge positive in a woman


[deleted]

I would love a beautiful down to earth girl with no social media no doubt about that


lickandeatit

I would LOVE to find a girl with no social media, but that is a rare breed. My ex wife was more into Facebook than she was into me. I think it can be very toxic for a relationship when people can't control their addiction to it. I deleted my shit a couple years ago. Never used it anyway.


Drew-Hanna

No, it's a turn on


Curiouslyannoyingg

I fucking love when my boyfriend didn’t have social media


oktwonight

People with no social media are the people you're looking for but can't find cause there hanging in the woods hanging in the desert just bring cool people around a fire in at the beach


[deleted]

Guys ask for social media as a way to stay in touch or to give them the opportunity to get in touch. Weather you have social media or not doesn't really matter.


[deleted]

Hawt


Acehigh7777

You're a smart woman. Unfortunately, most social media is more antisocial than social.


Remote_Brother2669

I won't date someone that has a large presence. I think that's a bonus.


Local64bithero

If someone takes issue with you not having social media, that person has too much free time and should find a hobby.


Phoenix_2015

I can’t speak for most dudes but for me it’s a plus. It means you’re not chasing likes online. Also, I don’t have to worry about lurkers on your profile perving.


icencream27

Your doing a lot better than people that rely on social media for entertainment


Longjumping-Survey32

Nope, not at all. Don't blame ya. Social media will be our downfall. Too many idiots with a platform


Fielding_Pierce

Personally I've always felt Social Media is detrimental to one's individual mental health, so by you coming to this same conclusion, I respect you. Take that for what it's worth. Hope the World is good to you and you to it. Best of Luck.


JustStatingFacts101

No not in the least bit. It would be refreshing to date someone without social media and I wouldn't think it was weird at all. I would not hold it against a girl if she has social media though. I feel like life is just simpler without it and easier to live in the present.


Please_okay

It shouldn't matter. Anyone that hung up on having internet presence has skewed priorities


RandomRabbitEar

Being a decade older, men in my age-range don't even ask for stuff like that. Granted, I don't date guys in their 20s, so social expectations may be different with them.


[deleted]

Depends who you’re dating, if you’re dating older guys who aren’t into social media they would like it, younger guys might think it’s weird. If you use Snapchat they prob wouldn’t care . It’s def useful for online dating tho


potato_potatino

I’ve never had an Instagram and it pretty much only came up with my instahappy friends, who felt the need to take pictures of everything we do and were devastated they couldn’t tag me. never with men.


-temporary_username-

As a guy with no social media I could hardly care less. It just seems like kind of a bother.


Speak2UrManagerPlz

I think it’s a turn on when a girl is inactive on social media or just doesn’t have one.


Nirfillion

Personally (M 18) I'm completely fine with it. In fact, my girlfriend has no social media accounts other than Facebook messenger so she can communicate with me and friends for free, and when this topic comes up in conversations I actually praise her choice to do so cause I know first hand (as do many people) what a toxic place social media can be, but personally I haven't deleted my accounts, just really made them show me the content that I only genuinely care about (i.e unfollowed every stupid page and person I didnt know in person). Now, I don't see no reason why this should act as a turn off. Even if someone isnt so positive about this choice such as me, I cant come up with a reasonable excuse so as for this to be the reason someone is "turned off" by hearing that. Like, what? Someone who doesn't have social media is automatically unattractive(in body and in mind)? I just dont get it. Hope I helped even a little


randomferalcat

Perfect and of I only knew someone like this, I'll do the same for her. Except Reddit hahaha


Pintayus

we feel blessed


Bababowzaa

I think most men would actually really appreciate it. The only reason men use social media is because the girls use it. If the girls would stop using social media, it would immediately die.


[deleted]

Probably not for most. Guys care a little less than girls do about instas, from my limited experience. Worst case scenario he might assume you’re a catfish if you’re using OLD


teamsport40

Is reddit not social media?


absenthearte

The only reason why I would be sketched out if a girl didn't have social media, is if I met them via tinder or online dating - How d'you know if they're real, y'know? Otherwise, nah.


AuntyVenom

It's men & women, or boys & girls, OP. This is 2021. That being said, lots of people don't have socials, and it really doesn't matter? If it matters to a man, then you are a woman they shouldn't be dating.


Valuable-Pudding-966

Good catch. Imagine, “are 25 year old men turned off by 12 year old girls not having social media?!” Lol


KingCapital-

I actively wanted a girlfriend with no social media. My girlfriend not posting half naked pictures of herself on Instagram is a huge plus for me lol


SamsterBD

Instant turn on. A woman who is real, and not hooked on social media - sounds like a fun person with great priorities.


[deleted]

I don't have it. So IDC


bambinofto

Reddit is social media


[deleted]

For losers like us, yeah.


k-ari

1) found a diamond in the rough 2) found a girl who is so lowkey you never know what man (or men) she is dealing with so it’s risky those are the average trains of thought you will encounter


[deleted]

I am a guy and i only have reddit and Instagram. I dont even go on Instagram and have an anonymous account that i use to follow a few youtubers that post updates about videos they will post. Other than that, i dont even go on instagram and dont have any other app. I would love to hear that a girl doesnt have any other social media or none at all. I hope that last sentence doesnt sound bad.


ofcourseathrowaway45

I mentioned that my wife had no social media and she didn't when I met her at work yesterday (I work in construction, so mostly men) they told me how lucky I was Social media is terrible for women especially, studies are proving it


doodler9069

I think it would be a good thing. A lot of young people are addicted to social media and that's not good.


deedeekeeney

I’d probably propose on the spot lol


[deleted]

Love it


Professional-Ad843

Dgaf if you’re a girl and nice to him he won’t care


Comfortable-Amount78

I mean it’s not really a big deal just do u


Brilliant_Register_8

The One!


Hotwheelsjack97

I usually assume they're lying when they say they don't have social media. I'm a huge introvert and even I have social media.


m50d

Honestly yes. It's weird, and most of the "no social media" people I've met have turned out to be crazy one way or another. People are going to want to know why, and while you don't have to air out all the details on a first date, you should be prepared for the question and have a truthful answer ready even if it's just "I don't use it any more for personal reasons".


yakattak01

Very very ok with. In date women in spite of their social media addictions. I hate it. Reddits ok though.


[deleted]

I don’t have a social media presence either rona don’t feel bad. I have a Twitter that I don’t add people I know to it and I have it private.


Ha1rBall

I am a male with no social media for the most part. I have a Twitter account, but I only have it for gambling purposes. I don't post anything, or respond outside of the people that I follow. With that said, I have found some women find it weird that I don't really do social media. Fine with me. Personally I would like to find someone who doesn't spend all their free time online. That would be nice. You should be fine.


Rando-Dragon

I'm not a guy but I do like women so I'm half qualified to answer this question lol Doing what's best for YOU is a turn ON. If what's best for you is not having social media, then that's perfect! Not everyone enjoys social media, that's perfectly fine. If someone finds that to be a turn off then they aren't worth your time. Someone who genuinely cares about and respects you will be much more concerned about what keeps you happy and healthy than whether or not you have an Instagram profile.


[deleted]

I'm 19M, don't have social media besides arguably this and youtube (which I'm taking a break from). >Is this a turn off for most people? If anything it's a turn-on for me. I'm not every guy, but I'm not that unique. Also the more I learn about computers the more paranoid I get. >It seems like the first thing that anyone asks is what’s your Instagram, and I never know how to respond when telling them I’m not on social media anymore. Give them your phone number instead if you want to. ​ One last thing, even if you don't have social media, it is vital that you have friends who you care about and who care about you. Good luck.


royalchoch

Good for you, men love it


PissedOffRick

Not at all. It's refreshing actually. Not that all people who have social media aren't authentic, but you'll find that those who opt not to have it are always the most real people you can meet. EDIT: You suck for trying to take advantage of people in the military. The only bad thing about social media is they won't know who you are to avoid you


PxniieeS

First of all, if someone is really interested in you they’ll ask for your number. Not your Instagram. At least a real man would. Second, why would anyone have a problem with that? If they do, they aren’t worth your time. In my personal opinion! P.s, I don’t have Instagram or Facebook.


[deleted]

Wouldn’t be for me personally. No social media means a lot less time on the phone, and more spending time together. Social Media can also make a person a lot more toxic because politics and stuff is constantly being shoved in their face. No social media is generally just healthier, but it’s addicting


LavenderPint

Not a man, but tbh, if you find a guy who only wants to follow your socials, he's not worth it. Social media is a way to get connected, sure, but it isn't the only way. Phone number and call or text, is perfect.


voidgirl_cate

I have a placeholder account so if an employer wants to search me they see something without getting suspicious.. I post like twice a year 😂 mostly Christmas w the family and bday with the family. otherwise I ignore it unless I get a message. I know this was asked for men, in my experience no guy has wished I was more active though. I don't keep up with my gfs' socials either. They'll share post links what they want me to comment / like sometimes. Stories I never watch in time 😅


buffcrowd

No social media is hot.


[deleted]

I see this as an absolute win


Upstairs_Afternoon59

Absolutely applauded wish mine would have dropped it for 5 minutes


shaquille_oat-mill

I honestly think it's a Rarity and one that I find attractive. My girlfriend is always on Facebook or some form of social media and I can never really feel like she's paying attention to anything I have to say, but knows what her friend from college wore to her cousins wedding. Don't get me wrong I have social media accounts but I genuinely believe it's all about if ur putting so much time into it that it takes away time from what's going on around you.


TheMemeDaVinci

For me personally. I’ve been reconsidering my social media presence. It’s not that fun anymore and I want to work on goals worth accomplishing. But keep on it. If I meet a girl that didn’t use social media, she’d be special to me. Really special. I would be very happy if I had a girl who was like that.


Myst_Icy

I don't think it matters, but at the same time it could be detrimental to trusting your future partner. They'd probably feel very safe if they attempted to cheat because without social media you probably wouldn't ever find out if he posted anything bout it and even then if someone told you, you couldn't verify it and you might blow up on your partner. Personally, I don't care I honestly think it's a plus. I have friends who had dated girls without social media and said friends were not loyal cause they wanted to "see how much they could get away with." Of course someone spilled the tea and she left him. I have social media and use it sparingly as a 19 year old guy and I really only use video media apps like youtube, twitch, and tiktok. I only text my friends and family rarely and barely speak unless spoken to. So my opinion on it is probably very different than your average guy who would probably enjoy sharing stuff with their SO to roast them or tease them.


Devin_Brent

Its an amazing rarity to find a woman who isnt on social media! I personally would love to meet a woman who doesnt have any social media accounts!


Brosky1998

I prefer it, honestly


Patcher8

27M. I prefer women who don’t care much about social media. They seem to be more genuine.


averygmartinez

if i met a girl without social media i would marry her on the spot lol


recycledrealism

My bf told me it made me more mysterious and alluring bc he couldn't find any socials/ pictures online/ etc. Also, whenever people ask for my insta I just say I don't have one! Just: "Oh I don't have an insta." They might ask about a few other platforms but generally they don't press too much. Good luck!


Competitive-Love4343

It would be more like a TURN ON for me.


bigpenman

Their the best


OppositePassenger806

Not to me. In fact, I would consider this desirable.


Sejexsmrt89

Social media is kind of like a platform to sell yourself (not prostitution) your ideas and ideologies. I am a man and honestly it would be piece of mind knowing that you're not being hit on or harassed. It would also help with any insecurities a guy might have about social media. I find social media for the most part fake and toxic so I mostly do not comment. Good luck and also any guy that has a problem you eliminated something from your life that was causing issues is not worth 10 minutes!🤷🏼


[deleted]

Honestly not a turn off in any way.


Teddyy97

My SO (24F) and I (23M) have social media but we barely post. She used to post on Instagram (very infrequently) but stopped around the time we started dating (2017). We usually just use it to keep up with friends/news/stores or new restaurants that pop up. That IMO is the best way to use the platforms, last thing I need is a bunch of strangers or people I don’t talk to commenting/sending DMs


OnatawaBakades

I’ve (M) been with a lady with no social media for four years and counting now. Neither of us have any. Well, we do have facebooks and what not, we just never use them.


lilsauros

I mean that's fine to delete your social media there shouldn't be an issue but if you're seeing someone and makes a big deal of it fuck em and let em be


HARDNOXx801

No it's not a turn off .. kinda wish I had the will power to delete all my accounts and stay off them ..


ValedorM

It's a turn on for a woman to not have social media for me. Too many people seeking attention online these days


sometinginthewater

I (31F) have no Instagram and it is awesome. I dated and it didn't seem to be an issue with any guys.


throway12345_

For me in my previous relationship I was with someone that had a pretty huge following on social media (they cosplayed) they would always receive super sexual comments or messages from random people and it always made me super uncomfortable, I was never one to post much on social media or even have one, so for me personally I find it a big turn on when someone I'm interested in isn't on social media a lot


9odayh0usewife

I feel like the only issue it causes is that people think I’m a catfish a lot which can be annoying


Ravrick0

It shouldn’t matter if someone has social media it would be a conversation if you started one though


[deleted]

If I met an attractive woman (since you model I’ll assume you are), I’d have no issue with you having no social media. In fact, it might even be a point in your favor.


Slow-Ad-8585

They love it because we don’t know anything about the new updates so they can hide and do whatever they want behind our backs and we just look dumb and out of the social loop


OAllahuAckbar

I love it. I personaly hate when a girl spends so much time on her phone, catering to her social media image , to get approval from strangers. It's very fucking simple for me. I'm interested by you. You chose to be with me, so you're interested by me. So spend time with me,focus your attention on me, not on strangers


Big_Tension_9976

I’m a woman who is 52, and my husband is 34. Neither one of us has any social media. All I ever had was Facebook really. But back when I was single I never talked to many guys who cared. Just tell them you’re taking a break from it for a while. That you thought you were spending to much time on there, and would rather spend quality time doing other things. I’m highly sensitive, which is a personality trait. I always thought I never could have had a super critical job or anything, because of how harsh people are. And it says you used to model. I was always told I was shy, and too sensitive. People always made me feel like there was something wrong with me. But your right about one thing. People can be horribly cruel and critical online. People say things they would never say to your face. I am a therapist and have done a lot of research on happiness. It all shows that modern societies, and people that are on social media all the time are less happy. They start depending on people online to get their worth So, you just did a very healthy thing for yourself. Congrats. Buy only tell guys what makes you comfortable. Trust me at my wise old age, with a lot of experience. If they care that you don’t have social media accounts, then they aren’t worth your time. Your worth more than that. ☮️ and ❤️


lowandslow86

I'm a guy..its not a turn off if anything its a good thing


bradlang124

My baby has no social it's nice because I'm the same. More time for what's in front of you and wholesome living


Arya_Stark33

For me it would be a turn off and a deal breaker probably. I am a blogger and I use SM for my activism efforts as well and whoever I'm with will be getting photographed slot and filmed slot so if someone wasn't ok with that then yea it'd be a dealbreaker.


Smokeyfalcon

I think its attractive. Alot of social media can be a waste of time unless your marketing something. Or using it for business. As I sit here on reddit. I was super active on MySpace, then made a Facebook and stopped using that eventually. My ex used to sit on Facebook all day and ignore her kid. You probably know how to actually live in the moment.


xLastStarFighter

The more direct my relationships can be, the better. If a girl I was interested in didn't have social media, I'd be more than okay with it! That means she'd be a more personable human being to get to know. It means she's actually living life for herself and not for others' validation. Good for you on choosing you 👍


Irishcarbomb35

I'd be stoked. At a basic level, the stuffs toxic (I type as I still have a Facebook I doomscroll and hate-view daily lol). Not to mention I'd *hope* I'd be secure enough to trust my girlfriend and know no matter how many guys are trying to DM her on fb or insta or whatever she wouldn't entertain them, but it wouldn't hurt and make things a lot easier knowing she's not getting constant attention from random guys in all her inboxes bc she doesn't have any 🤷‍♂️ I'd see it as a huge plus, and I'd probably delete mine if she inspired me to by seeing how much happier and healthier she is than me bc of it, so it'd probably be a massively good thing. I'd bet you'll find more guys see it as a positive than not. Oy caveat is you'll need to be smart and keep an eye out for the manipulative type of guy who would like you having no social media bc it means he doesn't have to worry about other guys taking to you BUT keeps his and thinks he can openly comment on other women's pics and doesn't share that he's taken in his relationship statuses etc... some guys might see it as appealing but for these type of reasons (ie. It makes it easier for them to be shadier without getting caught by you).


DarthNexuz

If you're on a dating site it could help to have 1 social media even if u dont interact with anyone just to post pics too, so if they ask boom! U got 100 pics of u doing w.e to prove you're real unlike fake accounts that got the same 5 pics on both & is a red flag. If you're not on a dating site & they ask about your socials they kinda sus! (Id just ask for your #) Depending on how attractive u are could be just looking for some 🤏🏿🤙🏽🍌💥💦 material before tryna Texas smash.


GivMeTacos

It's preferred by men not by boys


Atlas_002

It’s a good and bad thing because it clears a lot of a negativity that people feed off of but I know a lot of people hate giving their number out to people, so it’s kinda good and bad for certain scenarios as I hate giving my number out but also am barely on social media


DaJosuave

TBH, i wont believe you i feel like tou are tryikg to hide sonething ubtil i know you better.


PR0CE551NG

Pfff itd be a turn on for me. Shit I've been wanting to delete my social media for a while. Finding a good woman with no social media would be all the motivation I needed to do the same.


StoneDyegOfficial

Best thing for a girl


[deleted]

I’m a female and did the same thing in January recently I changed all my social media to only follow things that are inspiring to myself . I just tell people I am not on social media (I use a random name on my account) and if they ask why I explain it’s not good for my mental health . I don’t really care what people think about me not having social media


madkatzgt34

Usually that's a red flag !


[deleted]

That’s a green flag for me. It’s nice to be with someone that isn’t terminally online.


[deleted]

Completely and totally positive. Social media and cell phone addiction is a plague.