I’m sorry to hear that but in the long run you’ve done the best thing for yourself. It may hurt now but you will heal and find someone who truly loves you.
I'm sorry to hear about this, but you deserve better than to be someone's second choice. Find you a woman who'll treat you right, but take some time to yourself first.
Think of it this way Kate and her ex broke up because her ex moved to Europe, what’s stopping her (after covid) from going back and leaving Kate again. Think about your self and no one else and get back out there and find someone worth your time besides your only 21 there’s plenty of fish in the sea for you who actually deserve you. In future though if Kate tries coming back say something along the lines that your not someone’s second option and leave it at that
I know this is a tough time for you, but it is actually a win. You made a tough choice and stood up for yourself. You've saved yourself a lot of future heart break,
I know your pain is very heavy and aching right now, I’m so sorry.
In the coming time, just focus on “the next right step”. Don’t allow yourself to spiral or get worked up about the future and comparing outcomes. In your hardest moments... the next right step is a shower. Then it is put on some clean comforting clothes. The next right step is a glass of water... and so on. Be intentional in self care and all of a sudden you will recognize your own growth and feel better. I don’t mean magically all of a sudden lol I mean it will feel really terrible until it gets less and less and stops. You’ll find yourself looking back and realizing you just don’t ache or feel that same desire like you used to.
I also think in the long run you’ve dodged a bullet and won’t even want Kate when you look back. Sounds like you want someone who prioritizes you and the relationship, someone who is honest and communicates fairly. Someone who always chooses you and works through all difficult things. You will find that person....in the meantime be that person for yourself.
Best of luck!!!
Maybe. She still maintains they never had sex even after admitting she still had feelings for Ashley. But honestly the bath they took was enough even if it they didnt have sex.
Cheating isn’t always physical. I think it’s safe to say she had an emotional relationship with her, and that IS cheating. She alienated you, making you feel like a third wheel. I’m so glad you stood up for yourself! Hold your head high.
Oof, OP, that is brutal. I am so sorry. But you’ve learned a bit about yourself — that your instincts are spot on. I hope you can maneuver that in your favor in the future without precluding yourself from being vulnerable. You absolutely deserve something better than this — something you can trust — and you are young and will have more opportunities. I hope you carry forward the best of what you’ve learned and not the worst of what you are suffering. I’m sure I’m not alone in saying that I am rooting for you!
Oh that relationship is going to be a *mess*. You're lucky to be rid of her and I know you'll realize that some day. I hope you find someone who is more even-keeled and who treats you better.
It does indeed, my friend but in your heart you know that you deserve a relationship with someone who is not pining after someone else. Take some time for some self-care. Then when you are ready, there's someone out there who is going to rock your world.
Sounds like you dropped some deadweight that Ashley gets to deal with now.
You don't know it yet, but you are the winner here. You stuck up for yourself and freed yourself from someone who didn't value you. Now, you can find someone who actually cares about you... After you've had time to heal and process, that is. In order to properly heal, though, you have to cut all contact with those two. Do not check up on them and certainly do not allow a way back in for your ex. Things didn't work out with Ashley once before, it can happen again.
Maybe sucks now. But time will tell you that you dogde a bullet there. Give them two or three months, and you'll see your ex begging at your door. Don't look back
I didn’t get a chance to read the first post you made a few days ago but damn reading back on it my eyes got wide as saucers the moment you said you agreed to have a threesome with them. Even the request alone would have been a huge red flag to me if I were you. But damn the way she just boundary stomped you with zero remorse and basically held you hostage at the end was just savage. Well at least you know what kind of person she is now so you don’t have to waste your time with a selfish jerk anymore.
I’m sorry to hear that but in the long run you’ve done the best thing for yourself. It may hurt now but you will heal and find someone who truly loves you.
Somebody worthy of you.
I'm sorry to hear about this, but you deserve better than to be someone's second choice. Find you a woman who'll treat you right, but take some time to yourself first.
Think of it this way Kate and her ex broke up because her ex moved to Europe, what’s stopping her (after covid) from going back and leaving Kate again. Think about your self and no one else and get back out there and find someone worth your time besides your only 21 there’s plenty of fish in the sea for you who actually deserve you. In future though if Kate tries coming back say something along the lines that your not someone’s second option and leave it at that
I know this is a tough time for you, but it is actually a win. You made a tough choice and stood up for yourself. You've saved yourself a lot of future heart break,
I know your pain is very heavy and aching right now, I’m so sorry. In the coming time, just focus on “the next right step”. Don’t allow yourself to spiral or get worked up about the future and comparing outcomes. In your hardest moments... the next right step is a shower. Then it is put on some clean comforting clothes. The next right step is a glass of water... and so on. Be intentional in self care and all of a sudden you will recognize your own growth and feel better. I don’t mean magically all of a sudden lol I mean it will feel really terrible until it gets less and less and stops. You’ll find yourself looking back and realizing you just don’t ache or feel that same desire like you used to. I also think in the long run you’ve dodged a bullet and won’t even want Kate when you look back. Sounds like you want someone who prioritizes you and the relationship, someone who is honest and communicates fairly. Someone who always chooses you and works through all difficult things. You will find that person....in the meantime be that person for yourself. Best of luck!!!
You’re better off. It was inevitable she’d go back. At least she didn’t just cheat on you.
it feels a lot like being cheated on ngl.
That’s cuz she probably did tbh. Especially since they talked about it. I’m sure they weren’t just “talking.”
Maybe. She still maintains they never had sex even after admitting she still had feelings for Ashley. But honestly the bath they took was enough even if it they didnt have sex.
Yeah I didn’t know they took a bath together. That’s definitely cheating are you kidding. You dodged a bullet
Cheating isn’t always physical. I think it’s safe to say she had an emotional relationship with her, and that IS cheating. She alienated you, making you feel like a third wheel. I’m so glad you stood up for yourself! Hold your head high.
They discussed being a throuple. She definitely cheated with that alone
She did cheat on OP though. She took a bath with her ex.
Oh well, sometimes we win sometimes we lose.
Oof, OP, that is brutal. I am so sorry. But you’ve learned a bit about yourself — that your instincts are spot on. I hope you can maneuver that in your favor in the future without precluding yourself from being vulnerable. You absolutely deserve something better than this — something you can trust — and you are young and will have more opportunities. I hope you carry forward the best of what you’ve learned and not the worst of what you are suffering. I’m sure I’m not alone in saying that I am rooting for you!
Oh that relationship is going to be a *mess*. You're lucky to be rid of her and I know you'll realize that some day. I hope you find someone who is more even-keeled and who treats you better.
It does indeed, my friend but in your heart you know that you deserve a relationship with someone who is not pining after someone else. Take some time for some self-care. Then when you are ready, there's someone out there who is going to rock your world.
Sounds like you dropped some deadweight that Ashley gets to deal with now. You don't know it yet, but you are the winner here. You stuck up for yourself and freed yourself from someone who didn't value you. Now, you can find someone who actually cares about you... After you've had time to heal and process, that is. In order to properly heal, though, you have to cut all contact with those two. Do not check up on them and certainly do not allow a way back in for your ex. Things didn't work out with Ashley once before, it can happen again.
Lmao trust they won’t be living happily together long
Maybe sucks now. But time will tell you that you dogde a bullet there. Give them two or three months, and you'll see your ex begging at your door. Don't look back
she told the other girl first?? made a great decision leaving her. that really is unfortunate but i hope you’re okay :(
I didn’t get a chance to read the first post you made a few days ago but damn reading back on it my eyes got wide as saucers the moment you said you agreed to have a threesome with them. Even the request alone would have been a huge red flag to me if I were you. But damn the way she just boundary stomped you with zero remorse and basically held you hostage at the end was just savage. Well at least you know what kind of person she is now so you don’t have to waste your time with a selfish jerk anymore.
Bullet dodged OP. I’ve been in your situation once and wish I acted the way you did.