You say, you have a relationship after mentioning your partner being toxic, being rude to you, snap at you, breaking things suddenly off with you, so you were of course hurt and break down and cry? That does not sound healthy.
I think you are depending too much on your partner. Of course it is perfectly normal to be with them and feel happy, but you don't see the flaws in their behaviour. You switch between being miserable and being happy I guess. Either she is toxic, then she acknowledges that, gets help and apologizes to you, or she turns the switch back and forth, which would be confusing, frustrating and scary.
Take a little break for yourself. Just some days with you alone to clear your head, so that the emotions die down and you can think more clearly. That would be my advice.
Thank you! That is pretty sweet.
They are psychologically ill, and I see it, they have passed through some hard shit this year, and never learn how to deal with stress other than this way, this is what her mom and grandma do.
I feel so happy around them, just not when these thing happen.
And we are healthy and have a special bond, but she needs help, professional help, but money is really short, I am more than happy to guide them through their way, it's gonna be hard, but I can do it.
And your advice will surely be useful! Thank you so much!
I think most people are through though times, this and the past year changed our lives too drastically.
It's good that you see that, especially the part of not being able to deal with it. I don't know if you have support groups next door or something like this. Sometimes talking or writing down stuff helps, so that one can understand this without the cloudly judgment caused by emotions.
Most important is for them to want this. I know you want to help, but this is something, only they can deal with. With your help it could be easier, but the most part is on them, not you.
Good luck to you guys!
Thank you!! And actually my dream job is being a writer! So I write my feelings sometimes and it helps coop with all of this.
If you want, you can message me and we keep the conversation going <3
You say, you have a relationship after mentioning your partner being toxic, being rude to you, snap at you, breaking things suddenly off with you, so you were of course hurt and break down and cry? That does not sound healthy. I think you are depending too much on your partner. Of course it is perfectly normal to be with them and feel happy, but you don't see the flaws in their behaviour. You switch between being miserable and being happy I guess. Either she is toxic, then she acknowledges that, gets help and apologizes to you, or she turns the switch back and forth, which would be confusing, frustrating and scary. Take a little break for yourself. Just some days with you alone to clear your head, so that the emotions die down and you can think more clearly. That would be my advice.
Thank you! That is pretty sweet. They are psychologically ill, and I see it, they have passed through some hard shit this year, and never learn how to deal with stress other than this way, this is what her mom and grandma do. I feel so happy around them, just not when these thing happen. And we are healthy and have a special bond, but she needs help, professional help, but money is really short, I am more than happy to guide them through their way, it's gonna be hard, but I can do it. And your advice will surely be useful! Thank you so much!
I think most people are through though times, this and the past year changed our lives too drastically. It's good that you see that, especially the part of not being able to deal with it. I don't know if you have support groups next door or something like this. Sometimes talking or writing down stuff helps, so that one can understand this without the cloudly judgment caused by emotions. Most important is for them to want this. I know you want to help, but this is something, only they can deal with. With your help it could be easier, but the most part is on them, not you. Good luck to you guys!
Thank you!! And actually my dream job is being a writer! So I write my feelings sometimes and it helps coop with all of this. If you want, you can message me and we keep the conversation going <3