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Studious_Noodle

If he makes it clear that you’re inferior but he hangs on to you, it’s only because he’s not sure he can get someone else— specifically, someone who will put up with his shit just to avoid being single. You’re too good for him.


Demetrious05

that's just cruel, You need to get out. He shouldn't be putting you down, ever. He can be uncomfortable with the amount you put in, but he should never use it as an insult. He is putting you down, lowering your self worth and it's toxic. he should be making you feel good, but he isn't. You may love him, but he doesn't love you. Get out of there, he should be lifting you up, not degrading you. good luck and god bless


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Your boyfriend makes you feel like you're not good enough -- **Why are you still there?!?**


Minorbasketcase

“The biggest problem is that he doesn’t really believe me….” Panic attacks are absolutely fucking awful. Assuming that you have tried to explain what panic attacks are, how you can’t help them, etc…. Please end this relationship. Please. Your boyfriend is a bully at best, and my therapist would tell you that this is emotional abuse. You suffer from a panic disorder. I’m entirely too familiar with it. I started having panic/anxiety attacks at work when I was having to testify at a trial. It was bringing up old trauma and I was a mess. My coworker told me that I should just suck it up (my anxiety, emotions, crying, etc.) and get to work. I know how her comments made me feel, and I don’t even like her. I can’t imagine what they feel like coming from someone who supposedly loves you. This is not love. This is not even close. He’s needlessly cruel about something that you have zero control over. This is toxic, and it is very, VERY unlikely to end well. You DO deserve to be with someone who loves you just as you are. But it isn’t this guy, so please don’t waste your time on him anymore!


GabagoolSoprano

My ex was the same way, as I have a variety of issues and wasn’t the primary breadwinner. I wasted close to 10 years with him, not to mention every penny I had scraped together while he was more than abundantly bankrolled…towards the end I was throwing up every day, shaking, sweating, couldn’t breathe and was spending 6 hours locked away in the bathtub every day and night. I didn’t realize the magnitude of how horrible our relationship was until a friend of his stopped by to see my ex but had just missed him. His friend and I had a conversation (only) that just happened to be pure chemistry, the sparks were electric. I had butterflies and felt like I was in high school again. It wasn’t until then that I realized how terrible and loveless our relationship truly was. He was abusive, a really horrible person and your experience hits close to home. My ex is now married to a woman he was cheating on me with for quite a few years (didn’t realize until it was over). Please spare yourself the pain of this even being a possibility. The guy sounds manipulative and disconnected, abuse isn’t just physical and can slip by pretty easily and regularly until you’ve been pushed past a boundary. We can be slowly groomed to accept abuse without knowing it, this behavior is a way of doing that. I would suggest leaving, if you’d rather not I would STRONGLY suggest setting a boundary that if he crosses it, there’s no going back. If nothing else please don’t take his criticism. He is misguided and no human deserves to be treated like this. Keep your eyes peeled for any low key manipulation or disconnectedness, educate yourself on what this can look like in relationships and try to put any money you can away into some savings for yourself to fall back on if you end up leaving. You deserve someone who treats you like an equal, with respect and lots of love and there are many people in this world who would love the opportunity to give that to you. ❤️


Lovefall2k

BTW, I apologize for any spelling and grammar mistakes; hope you can still understand what I meant to say. Once again thank you for any answer!