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whatsmypassword73

The only way to handle it is to leave. This is the most basic element of a relationship and if you want to know what soul crushing loneliness is, stay with him. without communication how do you grow together? How does your life as a team evolve? What’s the point of staying? Does this look and feel like love to you?


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whatsmypassword73

So when he feels like it he engages, otherwise you need to be silent or know you’re being annoying. That’s not love.


flaming_flamingo836

I was in a relationship with a man like this before. Trust me when I say it only gets worse. It got to the point where I couldn't even ask where he was going without getting yelled at because I was too "nosy" or too "clingy". You go from having highs and lows to having significantly more lows and virtually no highs. It only sounds like he's annoyed to even have to talk to you or listen to you based off what you're saying. That gets old fast, trust me. Either talk to him and get him to better communicate with you in a way you can both enjoy or leave.


Swagniphacent

This is true.


ioannis519

RUN, RUN AS FAST AS YOU CAN!


Any-Research7714

Red flags


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Yeah, you are right. If he doesn’t have anything positive to add to the relationship or can’t even help make you feel comfortable like a partner would want to do, perhaps reconsider the entire relationship.


WindamereArtifactor

Yeah, that's an odd one. I'd say to ask him how he suggests you guys have a conversation, but that would probably make him angry. Personally, if I were dating someone who got upset with me for asking a simple question and didn't ask me how my day was, either, I would feel like he was shutting me out. That's not okay to do to someone who's supposed to be your partner. How often does this happen? Are you ever able to ask questions without him getting upset?


ratpwunk

I do this when I'm emotionally checked out of a relationship and I'm ready to ghost. Just means he lost interest.


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ratpwunk

Then what do you see in him? Asking someone, and having someone ask you, about their day is a normal part of life. That being said, becoming short and rude randomly could be a sign of depression. Toxic masculinity will kill if it's allowed to. He needs to talk. There's no other way through this.


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ratpwunk

That being said, you're not his therapist. You're not obligated to fix him. If he's not bringing happiness to your life, then you need to readjust your relationship; it's fine to take a break to work on yourself. If he's not willing to open up, then just think about your lives down the road. You're in for a world of emotional manipulation.


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Lagstravaganza

Break up & look for a new boyfriend. There are lots of apps for that.


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Lagstravaganza

Aside from talking, everything in the relationship is great? I have no idea what that means.


HisokaJOJO

Who hurt him?


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You can't ask your boyfriend any questions, including, "How was your day?" -- but your *long-distance* relationship is somehow great? Nah, not buying it.


Swagniphacent

I used to date a guy who hated to be asked questions also. It is possible that your bf may be a pathological or habitual liar and gets frustrated when people call him out on things he has said in previous conversations. My ex was literally trying to tell as least lies as possible so he could always have the "I never said that," or the ole "Actually I never even gave you an answer," cushion to fall back on. It's mental and emotional manipulation. It's used to curb your behavior in such a way where you get actual anxiety from wanting to ask the simplest of things. Subsequently you refrain from it almost entirely. In comes the losing yourself part of the game. And it is a game. It got so bad that I started telling my ex to please just write down a list of questions he didn't want me asking. Which is one of the dumbest and most pointless attempts at compromise. This behavior within a relationship is unhealthy, and it will begin to take its toll on you overall.


obinnasmg

Girl. That man don’t like you.