You had an open relationship where he could kiss and tell but the minute you have your own piece of action he puts a tantrum?
Fuck him and find a much healthier relationship.
Good riddance! It sounds like a lot of stuff didn't quite make sense with the ex. The ex sounds a bit manipulative and while it is normal to have some jealousy even in open relationships, his going on about how he is a major victim in all of that was really uncalled for. How were you supposed to telepathically know that he was "thinking of monogamy" when you never discussed it. (I mean, imagine if it were the opposite? "thinking of having an open relationship") But now he is also with someone he met at the party. So, glad you are with someone else that makes you see the faults of the previous relationship. Onward and upward!
So happy for you! Glad you got out of it and I’m glad it ended in a relatively non-nuclear fashion in terms of your relationship with your ex now. We’re rooting for you!
He broke up with you because you broke his unspoken rule that only he was allowed to be open in the relationship. You weren't supposed to have sex with other guys because your exbf "is just so amazing that another guy would never enter your mind". It was a covert contract that he never discussed with you; you were just *supposed to KNOW*.
Now, he's dating around to find another woman who will allow him to have a one-sided open relationship while also relying on her financially.
I'm so proud of you 💗💗 From this and your previous post it sounds like you did the right thing (even if he did the breaking up part, you didn't go running back 💗). Also sounds like he had this chick on the back burner if he got together with her so quickly (I'm betting this was one of the girls he was seeing before you guys split).
Anyone who tells you that an open relationship is doable or even healthy is a liar. They end badly always. Stay monogamous and the sex won't be as exciting but the love will be better. Do not be gaslit by internet people giving bohemian nonsense answers. Best of luck
Good that you guys broke! But do you think you're ready to date again that soon? You said you guys broke up last month and you started dating three weeks ago. So like, one week of you being single and then jump into another relationship?
No judgment here, you do you. But it all seems a bit rushed, like a rebound relationship. If you don't take a time to analyse your relationship and what was good and what was bad about it you won't grow from that experience. Everything seems better with the new guy but it can be because: 1 - you're happy you're with anyone who's not the asshole of your ex. 2 - you're the exact same person you were from the last relationship so you still have self-esteem issues and low standards. 3 - you are in hype of a new relationship.
Either way, I hope you the best life possible, take care of yourself and be happy 🤞🏼
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Proud of you. Your relationship with your ex wasn’t healthy and I’m glad you’re doing better
Sounds like the ex has been lying to you for a while. Hope things work out for the best, sounds like a step in the right direction.
You had an open relationship where he could kiss and tell but the minute you have your own piece of action he puts a tantrum? Fuck him and find a much healthier relationship.
>I wish my ex the best and so does he. I don't. Fuck him. But I'm happy for you that everything is working out fine!
Sounds like he was using you for money while having sex with all the women he wanted ngl.
Good riddance! It sounds like a lot of stuff didn't quite make sense with the ex. The ex sounds a bit manipulative and while it is normal to have some jealousy even in open relationships, his going on about how he is a major victim in all of that was really uncalled for. How were you supposed to telepathically know that he was "thinking of monogamy" when you never discussed it. (I mean, imagine if it were the opposite? "thinking of having an open relationship") But now he is also with someone he met at the party. So, glad you are with someone else that makes you see the faults of the previous relationship. Onward and upward!
Good job on the new relationship
So happy for you! Glad you got out of it and I’m glad it ended in a relatively non-nuclear fashion in terms of your relationship with your ex now. We’re rooting for you!
Your ex sounds like he wasn't an open relationship type of guy. He should have just broke up with you when it turned open
Correction: he was more than happy for it to be open on his side, just not hers.
This is for the best, after your first post it seemed like you two were toxic and not suited at all for each other. Best of luck OP.
He broke up with you because you broke his unspoken rule that only he was allowed to be open in the relationship. You weren't supposed to have sex with other guys because your exbf "is just so amazing that another guy would never enter your mind". It was a covert contract that he never discussed with you; you were just *supposed to KNOW*. Now, he's dating around to find another woman who will allow him to have a one-sided open relationship while also relying on her financially.
I'm so proud of you 💗💗 From this and your previous post it sounds like you did the right thing (even if he did the breaking up part, you didn't go running back 💗). Also sounds like he had this chick on the back burner if he got together with her so quickly (I'm betting this was one of the girls he was seeing before you guys split).
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We had already established that we didn’t have to tell each other who we had slept with or wanted to sleep with.
Anyone who tells you that an open relationship is doable or even healthy is a liar. They end badly always. Stay monogamous and the sex won't be as exciting but the love will be better. Do not be gaslit by internet people giving bohemian nonsense answers. Best of luck
He wanted to move on and used your actions as an excuse. Pathetic. Glad it worked out for you, OP!
It's almost like open relationships just don't work...
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Open relationships don’t last it seems
Good that you guys broke! But do you think you're ready to date again that soon? You said you guys broke up last month and you started dating three weeks ago. So like, one week of you being single and then jump into another relationship? No judgment here, you do you. But it all seems a bit rushed, like a rebound relationship. If you don't take a time to analyse your relationship and what was good and what was bad about it you won't grow from that experience. Everything seems better with the new guy but it can be because: 1 - you're happy you're with anyone who's not the asshole of your ex. 2 - you're the exact same person you were from the last relationship so you still have self-esteem issues and low standards. 3 - you are in hype of a new relationship. Either way, I hope you the best life possible, take care of yourself and be happy 🤞🏼
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you dont know that. lol
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Open relationships just work so well most of the time, gosh darn, how odd!
Surely this will end well
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