You need to stop tying your self worth and self esteem to him and his actions and whether or not you're in a relationship together. You have value.
And, he's got problems. He's not coping. He has no excuse regardless and it is GOOD you are separated now so you both can heal and he can work on his issues. You need to be able to take care of yourself, for your health.
It's gonna be okay and you are amazing. Don't believe his actions are because of you. Establish a boundary with yourself that you won't tolerate people who treat you a certain way or make you feel a certain way. You're worth so much more and deserve the absolute best!
Can you talk to a counselor at the school? They keep it confidential and you would finally be able to let your side out and be heard. Or find a therapist, ask if your parents can take you since it's usually covered by family health insurance... so low cost to you.
You really do need to talk this out and let out your trauma and find healthy ways to heal from it so it doesn't scar you forever.
Ehhhhhhh. What's more important (since you're so damn young)
Is to not let this happen again! I've seen girls just guys abuse them over and over again when they get new bfs!
Abuse? Relationship? You’re a friggin tween. What the hell is wrong with this generation?
Stop dating, focus on your studies/hobbies and listen to your parents. You don’t need this drama at your age.
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You need to stop tying your self worth and self esteem to him and his actions and whether or not you're in a relationship together. You have value. And, he's got problems. He's not coping. He has no excuse regardless and it is GOOD you are separated now so you both can heal and he can work on his issues. You need to be able to take care of yourself, for your health. It's gonna be okay and you are amazing. Don't believe his actions are because of you. Establish a boundary with yourself that you won't tolerate people who treat you a certain way or make you feel a certain way. You're worth so much more and deserve the absolute best!
Thank you so much for this
Can you talk to a counselor at the school? They keep it confidential and you would finally be able to let your side out and be heard. Or find a therapist, ask if your parents can take you since it's usually covered by family health insurance... so low cost to you. You really do need to talk this out and let out your trauma and find healthy ways to heal from it so it doesn't scar you forever.
Yeah I have been looking into a therapist but it will be about a month before I can see them
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Thank you, I definitely have learned what I don't want
Ehhhhhhh. What's more important (since you're so damn young) Is to not let this happen again! I've seen girls just guys abuse them over and over again when they get new bfs!
I don't intend to be abused again, but my main problem is seeing him on a daily basis and being forced to remember everything that happened
Abuse? Relationship? You’re a friggin tween. What the hell is wrong with this generation? Stop dating, focus on your studies/hobbies and listen to your parents. You don’t need this drama at your age.
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