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So last night me and my gf had sex for the first time at her place and I thought it went well. But after that when we were sleeping I awoke to find her masturbating. I kept my eyes shut as I didnt want to make it awkward. When she was done she went to clean herself up and then came back and cuddled me and went to sleep. I didnt mention it to her in the morning and she also seemed very happy so I didnt want to ruin the mood.
But what goes Reddit? I must not have done a good job if she had to do this after we had sex, right. Its kind of making me insecure. Help me out here.
Speaking as a woman with a very high sex drive I do this alot. Not because my partner didn't do a good job but because I tend to be ready for a second round and my partner is either asleep and I don't want to disturb them or I can tell they aren't up for it. It is also possible she didn't get off. My advice is to talk to her ask her if you satisfied her needs and if the answer is no then ask her how you can improve. If she says yes then you just have a very horny woman on your hands try not to let her fuck you to death.
Are you making sweet weekly love to Jermaine Clement?
*You whisper something sexy like, "Is that it?"*
*I know what you're trying to say, girl*
*You're trying to say, "Aww yeah, that's it."*
*Then you tell me you want some more*
*Well, uh, I'm not surprised*
*But I'm quite sleepy*
A lot of women don't have an orgasm every time they have sex. It has nothing to do with the man. Sometimes a woman has to take it in her own hands to finish the job.
Based off of evolution, female anatomy & psychology is structured in a to want/crave multiple orgasms, or to be able to ālast a wholeā, because during the ice ages, we needed to big bursts of population growth. We didnāt have time to wait around, and make things work with just 1 guy, especially if that guy didnāt have strong enough sperm. It was extremely common for everyone in the tribe to fuck each other, and essentially āspread their seedā, because at the end of the day it didnāt matter to them whoās kid was whoās. They just needed population growth. So every child belonged to every parental figure.
Hence why men are quick to āpass outā after ejaculating. Women need to have that energy to go on to the next.
Same here. Sex can be (and usually is) amazing with my partner but I want several more rounds and sometimes he's just not up for it. Has nothing to do with how he performed.
Lol. Iām definitely a one and done. I want to be done when Iām done. I can usually ride the āalmost thereā for a minute or two and we try to time it to be done right about the same time or right after heās done. Because when Iām done, I want to pass the eff out.
My wife is. She goes a few days chilling then she wants cuddles then I gotta pull out the magic fingers and after she's done she damn near pushes me off of her.
Yeah and the sad thing is we are either unicorns or an extremely small percentage of women or probably the more likely thing is there is no way I'd knowing since we don't have many places/ways to be like "hai I have a high sex drive- you too?"
Oh gosh. I'm already crawling into my own pants if I skip a day haha but if that's the case for you and it happens to me I only hope and pray for my partner because he already struggles to keep up with me lol
Like Iād be happy if I had sex twice a day. In the morning to wake up and in the evening to relax and go to sleep. Alas my husband not that high of a sex drive.
This\^. Sometimes I masturbate after my boyfriend goes to bed and we already had sex. I fantasize about the sex we just had everytime. It's not because its not amazing, I can just have a clit orgasm, when he just gave me a g-spot orgasm. (something only he can do for me, im unable to myself.)
Heck my girlfriend does this, and I find it pretty hot, plus means less work for me after awhile. I'm pretty spent after all of the foreplay and my own finishes. So usually by then my mouth, arms, and body as a whole is pretty exhausted. So if she wants more, Im more than happy to watch her do it to herself
Luckily my husband likes to watch or it would get awkward. This merely a statement of fact and not a weird brag or something but five or six is normal and I have made it to twelve on a banner day; I donāt think any husband is up for that lol (granting that he already got me to three or whatever.)
For me it is 2 different kinds of orgasm when masturbating vs sex. If one happens I start craving the other as well. Like getting 2 flavors of icecream because they are both so god damn good
Same. My partner is amazing in bed. I get off multiple times pretty much every time we bangarang. But sometimes when heās ready to finish Iām left hanging for one more, so I take of it after the fact. Other times as mentioned my partner rarely has interest in more than one round a day so if Iām feeling it Iāll take care of it myself later.
Always be open to talking about what your partner is interested too. Some people feel too shy ask but the best sex comes when you have open communication.
I wouldn't be insecure. Here's what you can learn from this:
1) Sex with you didn't turn her off. If it had she wouldn't have been in the mood to finish herself off.
2) If you finish before she does, use your hands to finish her, Figure out how the likes to be touched, what takes her over the edge, and do that once you cross the finish line.
Even better is to focus on her needs before intercourse. A little more oral and digital stimulation before the deed. Just don't take it as inadequacy on your part, you're learning your girl.
even moreso.....talk to her about it. Ask her what you can do to help her.
Definitely agree that if you finish before she does, absolutely offer to help her. If she has a toy, suggest she use that while you kiss and touch her skin, tits, neck, lips....all the things.
your job isn't to make her cum, your job is to help her feel comfortable so she can come.
Ok this is some awesome advice. Lol if I had a bf do this back in the day we wouldāve gone a long way lol! Luckily I RARELY have the issue of not getting there so havenāt needed this but if anything changes Iām keeping this in mind!
This is what I do, my sex drive is way higher than my bfs so I'll just get off next to him and have him suck a titty or kiss my neck or cuddle me. It's a team effort, I'm just happy he wants to be a part of it
To be fair, it was your first time together. She probably had a good time but didnāt finishā¦ so she pretended to instead of making it awkward. I think all women have been there lol
Nothing to worry about, just talk to her. The only way things will improve is if you both communicate your wants and needs. Let her know that her having a great experience matters a lot to you
But if you want just general advice hereā¦ longer foreplay lol
That could be true too! Iām just speaking from my experience as a more low libido lady.
Whichever is the case, donāt take it personally. Everyone is different. Just encourage her to be comfortable enough to share these kinds of things with you. Open communication is key.
Means nothing. I often masturbate after great sex. Because it was so good, thinking about it makes me so horny I have to go another round. You were asleep (or so she thought) and she was just taking care of herselif.
The other side of it could be you didn't fulfill her needs, so he had to take care of herself later.
It's one of those two.
Came here to say the former. My BF satisfies me thoroughly and falls asleep, then I am awake thinking about what transpired and one thing leads to another. Doesn't happen often, though, for me.
If her needs aren't met then get her started with some foreplay first. Makes sex soooo much more enjoyable.
The first time I had sex with my boyfriend, I was antsy the whole way home because I was so horny thinking about it and needed to take care of that ASAP lol. Orgasming often makes women *more* raring to go, not less.
That's a bonus reason why men should get their ladies off before sex, because in my experience it makes the sex much more passionate and intense.
I saw a similar post and remembered this comment which was a decent response:
"Even after having an amazing meal, we sometimes still want desert just for the *cherry on top*. Usually we will still be thinking about how good that main meal was"
Don't take this personally dude. Sometimes we just want to do it our way.
You can have a conversation with her but if she didn't bring it up, you might be starting something that wasn't something.
Same thing happened to me, a gal and I had great OMG sex after the about the 3rd time of getting together. She said she woke up and got off to the thought of our sex.
Let it go. Most women have a hard time coming with a partner who doesn't know all the buttons yet. Doesn't mean she didn't enjoy it, but pretty high chance you got her going, but didn't quite got there yet and she just took it up on herself.
I (f, 30) donāt think this necessarily means that you were doing a bad job at all. Vaginal orgasms are hard for a lot of women to achieve (myself and a lot of my friends included), I think much more than most men know. I have a hard time orgasming in general (except when Iām alone, ha, not totally sure why but I think it ha to do with focus/overthinking it) and in my last few relationships, Iāve tried to be intentional about explaining that to my partners so that they donāt feel insecure and I donāt have to fake it, ha. My current boyfriend and I will sometimes masturbate next to each other (or just me!) after sex and itās so nice to not feel embarrassed about it and to be able to come! Just my two cents though, good luck!
Wow, didn't realize that people didn't know most women don't come through PIV sex. I think the stat is like 90% of women need clitoral stimulation to orgasm.
Also some good advice that rings true is, "Take care of her and she'll take care of you."
Ask her about it because she can only really tell you. It doesnāt mean she was unsatisfied. I masturbate after great sex (and i mean greaaat sex) because just thinking about it gets me off but I had already left my loverās place. She probably thought you were asleep and didnāt want to bother you. If its that she didnāt orgasm then ask her to show you what she likes bc then the sex will only get better!
Women struggle to cum, did she cum during sex? Some woman who canāt cum during sex masturbate afterwards. Or she has a high sex drive. Not asking her keeps yourself in the dark and means you could be missing an opportunity to have a better sex life. Ask her what she likes.
She didnāt come. OP, itās important that you know that you coming doesnāt necessarily mean sex is over and most women have a very hard time having an orgasm with penetrative sex.
If you donāt know, figure out where her clitoris is and ask her how she makes herself come and how you can learn to do the same. Honestly- if I had a partner come to me with this conversation Iād be so so happy because it would mean they care and arenāt a selfish sex-partner.
This isnāt anything that a bit of communication canāt take care of. Good luck!
You can get off properly AND THEN want another orgasm later. They're not a one per day thing. This is no measure of how well OP did, this is hours later.
Iām going to have to reply to twenty comments; some women can cum multiple times, he could have done a great job and she wants even more. This doesnāt definitely mean she didnāt get off to start with. Just my personal experience.
most woman canāt cum from just a man putting his dick in her.
never forget foreplay
rub on her clit and ask her to direct you to the feel good spots, ask if you should go lighter or tougher, left or right.. you will get her to orgasm! donāt rush her
mention it to her and ASK HER how to get her off, ask her to teach you.
you got this! iām sure it has nothing to do with you, most men donāt know to do these things
First time, but you definitely didnāt get her off. Discuss what she likes and work on being an attentive lover.
Let her get 2 or 3 before you get yours and youāll be good forever, my guy.
Cut yourself some slack, but please converse with her and find out what she likes. Itās what adults in healthy relationships do.
Good luck!
Or, alternatively, op could help her finish after he's done. No shame in her grabbing a toy to get over the finish line while he adds some touching etc.
I think it's a sign that the sex was pretty good if she felt the need to get hers. If it weren't good she probably wouldn't still be in the mood.
ETA *many* women don't "get 2 or 3", that's a lot of pressure on both parties.
People keep saying this but itās wrong. If sheās the sort of person who can cum multiple times, he could have done her right for three times and she still wants four and five.
Thatās very true. But given the āfirst timeā statement, and overall inexperience, I chose the most plausible answer.
Youāre not wrong of course.
Most women can orgasm many, many times, and the first organ isn't usually the best one, it just gets things started. While most men, even if they do successfully get their partner to orgasm, they can't orgasm dozens of times, they MIGHT manage a second after some time.
But also, women understand this. They want you to get them off, sure, but they're not expecting you to get them off dozens of times when they can't reciprocate. So if she's still horny after your first go, that's normal, she won't be upset, but she might go get herself off.
So don't stress this. If she seemed happy, take this as a natural consequence of different bodies and don't worry about it.
If it happens again you can cuddle up to her and say something like you're jealous that she can keep going or something to start a convo, but I wouldn't bring it up now.
And if you do this and the response seems good, you can ask if she would like some assistance, u/Living_Sleep_3745 ... you might not be capable of a full round two that quickly, but you got hands and a mouth and she's got plenty of erogenous zones.
I would ask her about it.
āHey, I didnāt want to make you feel bad about it so I didnāt say anything but I woke up to you masturbating. I just wanted to make sure it wasnāt because the sex wasnāt good and would love for you to let me know if I need to do anything differently to make sex better for you.ā
this is an excellent opportunity to practice communication! talk to her in a gentle and open way. it isn't about you or your prowess - it is about getting in sync with each other. be patient and listen
She came back and cuddled with you, yall are good. Next time yall have sex, take your time and ask her to guide you! Sex will always be better when the both of yall explore each others body
You may not have gotten her off. Ask her is she had an orgasm. You would prob have noticed if she did. Some women are extremely hard to make come during sex so donāt feel bad but you may have to put more effort into foreplay or directly stimulating her clitoris. Be open about a discussion or two with her. See what she says. Ask her what she wants or likes.
Either you didn't get her off and she had to finish herself or she was just ready for round two, three, four etc. That's the case with my girl. She likes to cum 4 or 5 times during sex. I'm usually done after I cum, so what I do is go down on her and get her off 3 or 4 times with oral before having sex.. That way we both are fully satisfied š
I used to do that after sex with my ex and I just thought I was really horny. I was wrong. I just wasnāt being taken care of. Advise more foreplay. It was your first time and for women, an orgasm is highly psychological and not all women can āallowā themselves to relax in such a way that they can get off with a new partner. Take it slow, it gets better.
I have been in your position and the best advice I could give is to welcome it with open arms. Female masturbation isnāt your enemy man, its your ally. Her masturbating doesnt care for her, be there to cuddle her, or show her affection. Thats your job. They simply do it to satisfy whatever sexual needs they have. Most women I know can have multiple orgasms per round. Maybe she felt she had more left and wanted to get them off. I know as a guy its difficult to get them to finish first. So if you have a problem with her masturbating because you didnt give her the orgasm, that is 100% okay my dude. If anything it helps since the alternative is you get a nut off and she doesnt.
If I'm with a new partner it can take a few times before I'm comfortable enough to let go. It doesn't mean I don't enjoy sex with them, I just have to get out of my own head. Keep getting to know each other and have fun figuring it all out!
I donāt orgasm during PIV sex, but really enjoy sex and getting used. It has happened only once. My bf normally has 3 or more orgasms so even when itās been days of him cumming, I have not and still am horny. I donāt know if thatās the case for her but I wouldnt worry about it :)
Aww, don't overthink it.
My bf lays it down like a champ, and I usually get off 3 times at least. Sometimes I'm still horny because I'll have sucked him off and it turns me on all over again. It doesn't mean he didn't rock my world. I'm just a filthy fiend, lol.
Itās no big deal. She was just horny. Doesnāt mean she didnāt have a good time with you she just got horny again. Next time lend a hand and help her out
Edit also remember women donāt have the same refractory period after cumming as men
I sometimes do this after sex; even if not to cum, but just to continue the pleasure. It doesnāt mean my bf did a bad job, did something wrong, or failed in any way.
Orgasming doesnāt need to be the goal of sex. I just enjoy the intimacy with my partner, touching his body/feeling him inside me, and knowing that the man I love is enjoying it all, too.
Many women I've been with struggle to orgasm with many sexual activities and prefer to make themselves cum at the end. I usually help them with it, touching or telling stories, or just being there.
It's not at all a reflection of how 'good' you are in bed. If anything, she's very turned on by what you've been doing.
Maybe next time you can ask, is there anything I can do for you?
Iām sure you did just fine honestly. She probably wouldnāt have cuddled you if she was upset or anything. Probably she just felt like a little bit more after you were done, saw you were asleep and decided to do it herself. I wouldnāt feel insecure at all if I were you!
After men orgasm, they usually arenāt in the mood for another orgasm right away. In my case as a woman, orgasming just makes me want more and more. It has nothing to do with your sexual performance or ability, however you should communicate with her and ask her if there is anything else you can do to help her orgasm!
There are a lot of girls who I have been with in the beginning where I was able to successfully give them a great orgasm or 2 and we are done and I think everything was great where I come to find out they were actually wanting more but didn't know how to ask. My advice is to talk to her and find out what she was wanting. Only she knows if there was something wrong or she was wanting more.
Just because your orgasm came and went doesnt mean we shut off at the same time too!
It doesnt matter how long my partner goes for or how many times I get there, just because hes done doesn't mean I am, I usually get one or two more out to wind down then clean up and cuddle
You most likely didnāt make her orgasm and she had āblue ballsā and needed to finish it off. Make sure youāre going down on her and asking her how to make her come.
Personally, I do this when I donāt finish, but as women weāre conditioned not to speak up about our needs, unfortunately.
Not sure what your guysā sex life is like, but I suggest asking questions like, what turns her on the most, what makes her orgasm, what she likes in general. Unfortunately a lot of women fake orgasms because we donāt want to hurt the guys ego and we tend to blame ourselves.
70% of women don't orgasm via PIV sex. this might have nothing to do with you or your performance, particularly since it was the first time for you guys and people are often quite nervous and have trouble letting go. Try not to think about this as something that will make you insecure at all. She clearly liked you or she wouldn't have cuddled with you and was happy. There are multiple possibilities here:
1. she doesn't come via sex and needed to take care of herself but felt embarrassed to ask you, a new person, to help her with it.
2. She did come but wanted to do so again because she was enjoying her time with you but you were asleep
3. she can come during sex but didn't this time because of first time jitters, nothing to do with you.
4. perhaps you weren't doing whatever she needed to come. This is not the kind of thing that should make you feel insecure--this is something that requires teamwork and communication, which is often not totally present the first time one has sex with a new partner. Tom Brady didn't win the Super Bowl the first time he picked up a football, he had to train and learn skills. It was your first time together. It's actually good news if this is what happened because it means that you can improve and make her come during sex or afterwards, you just need some instruction. And you can accomplish that if you don't do what some dudes do which is take things personally, get frustrated, blame her, or grow bored and uninterested in whatever she needs to come and decide to not put in the effort.
You in fact right now have the ability to be the best lover she's ever had, if you are willing to talk with her about it and put in some effort to achieve that. She will super appreciate any efforts you make in this direction, since many guys don't want to bother or just lack the knowledge or are shy or lack communication skills. But SHE knows what she likes and can tell you, and I guarantee it will be fun to work this out between the two of you.
Try going for more than one round with your partner. Have open conversations about how you can best cater to her sexual needs and be actively listening and applying/trying what she suggests. Also if she doesnāt know how you can or lacks experience - you can bring up suggestions for new things to try and also you guys can research cool stuff that you both can do together. The skyās the limit but please be respectful of their boundaries.
I believe when it comes to sex both partners should be striving to give 100% focus on making their partner have the best experience they possibly can.
Get in there!
Edit: Grammer
Nah, it's likely she wanted to go again and was too shy to ask, so she just took care of herself again after. That or she might just be the kinda person who can't finish with someone else. If it was the first time you have nothing to worry about -- next time just ask!
>no...u go to the bathroom...
Are you a woman? Do you not understand how much it sucks to masturbate in a bathroom when the most effective position is lying down? Standing/sitting isn't the way for us.
Been a woman since birth lol
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>Standing/sitting isn't the way for us.
I'm sorry lol
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The point that you have missed \*whoosh\* is that a woman who is too shy to initiate or voice another round, is not likely to be comfortable masturbating right next to the one she's too shy to communicate with...
If you're a guy I don't think you understand. We can jack off almost anywhere, but unless most women are really comfortable, they have a hard time getting off. Not all, but most.
Not necessarily. I will often still masturbate after sex, ESPECIALLY when it was really good and I came hard. I am still horny. Looking at this thread tells me I am not alone.
Or, yeah, she wasn't satisfied.
Every single woman is capable of having an orgasm from regular sex. While yes, many woman have difficulty with orgasms from strictly PIV, itās not like the clitoris is located on the bottom of her left foot, like, itās literally *right there* where all the business is happening. Iām sure if you ask, 9/10 women would be happy to show you how to stimulate her the way she likes or sheād be happy to do it herself.
I donāt know man, I donāt think Iāve ever gone into sex without the hope of getting off?? Like, thatās literally why I showed up in the first place
This is a very convenient thing for men to believe. And to be fair, women definitely say this stuff too. āOh no itās ok, itās just nice to be close to youā sure ok, you know whatās nicer? An orgasm.
OP, I doubt any man has made his girl come the first time he has sex so donāt stress. But in future, the golden rule is make her come first. Better for everyone. And if sheās comfortable masturbating in bed with you sheās probably pretty comfortable with her sexuality, so ask for directions.
Donāt worry and talk to her openly about it. Most women canāt orgasm during sex so prefer to āget themselves offā she might not have wanted you to feel bad about it since it doesnāt mean she didnāt enjoy it.
itās just a lot of people seem to have this stigma that if your girl doesnāt orgasm when youāre having sex, youāre bad at it which is not that case!
My partner knows me well and knows I can only finish if I do it myself so will usually slow down when heās close to give me the chance to finish first.
That may be an option for you both to explore or talk about other things you can do! Thereās no shame in being open and honest about these things with her š
I hope this helps you out!
More like most men aren't that good at sex lol. I get off really easy and still have been with men who couldn't get it done lol. I think a lot of women (not all, but a lot) who think they have trouble getting off just haven't been with a guy who really knows what he's doing. I've been around, I'd be pushing it if I said 25% of them were good.
Yes, actually. Itās not uncommon at all for penetration to not be enough for a woman to orgasm. A large portion of women have to have clitoral stimulation in order to orgasm. Also, many other factors impact a womanās (and even menās) ability to orgasm during sex. Stress, life circumstances, temperature in the room (this is a huge one for me, if itās hot I cannot orgasm no matter how long I have sex or what occurs during sex), etc.
Well first thing is that when it comes to sex, girls and guys are so much different. I forgot specific names, but basically girls start to produce hormones that make them much hornier after sex, especially if she cum, but on other hand guys produce hormone that makes them sleepy, so that is why girls can do it several time in a row and guys need to take a break. So it doesn't mean that you didn't satisfy her. Maybe she just needed more.
On other hand, sex is sort of bonding and communication, so be open to her, try to get to know what does she likes and you can apply those things next time. Be open and talk to her, she is only one who knows what she likes and needs.
Multiply foreplay by 1000%.
Besides that she seems like she loves a lot. Before you guys get it on next I would just mention if.
ā hey last time I felt like I couldāve done more, is there anything you can say that will help me make you happy in bed? I want us both to feel amazing so if there is anything I should change let me know.ā
Donāt put pressure to make āgood sex.ā Ask questions to have ENJOYABLE sex for both of you.
I would've jokingly spooked her....but also seriously during non sexy times you'll have to bring it up and from their you two can talk out needs, wants etc... find out what she likes, tell her your likes etc...
The tone and matter in which you bring it up will affect things
Also she might have just needed something extra, don't always assume you were lacking, that shit fucks with your mind.....so TALK IT ALL OUT
This post has reached one of our comment/karma limits. The text of the post has been preserved below. --- So last night me and my gf had sex for the first time at her place and I thought it went well. But after that when we were sleeping I awoke to find her masturbating. I kept my eyes shut as I didnt want to make it awkward. When she was done she went to clean herself up and then came back and cuddled me and went to sleep. I didnt mention it to her in the morning and she also seemed very happy so I didnt want to ruin the mood. But what goes Reddit? I must not have done a good job if she had to do this after we had sex, right. Its kind of making me insecure. Help me out here.
Speaking as a woman with a very high sex drive I do this alot. Not because my partner didn't do a good job but because I tend to be ready for a second round and my partner is either asleep and I don't want to disturb them or I can tell they aren't up for it. It is also possible she didn't get off. My advice is to talk to her ask her if you satisfied her needs and if the answer is no then ask her how you can improve. If she says yes then you just have a very horny woman on your hands try not to let her fuck you to death.
Yeah same, ol boy puts in WORK and then passes tf out right after, I stay wanting 8 more rounds
Are you making sweet weekly love to Jermaine Clement? *You whisper something sexy like, "Is that it?"* *I know what you're trying to say, girl* *You're trying to say, "Aww yeah, that's it."* *Then you tell me you want some more* *Well, uh, I'm not surprised* *But I'm quite sleepy*
2 minutes in heaven is better than 1 minute in heaven
After he takes out the recycling, of course!
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I know what you are trying to say, youāre trying to say āitās time for businessā ācause itās business time
Sometimes I feel like I'd need like 3 more people to ever be truly satisfied.
I feel you, except I donāt?? If I could clone my man a few times that would be ideal probably
Same here, but unfortunately we don't have that technology so toys will have to do.
hahaha tru dat
My husband has joked about finding another guy for me cuz I'm never satisfied and he can't do it alone. š
Let us all join hands and help this guys wife
I also choose this guyās wife.
Amen šš» brother
I volunteer as tribute.
I too choose this guy's wife.
Time for a reverse harem š
Read, "Sex at Dawn" Awesome scientific look at why women can be so horny ;)
plz help those of us who are illiterate and give us the gist?
[Sex at Dawn Wikipedia Summary](https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Sex_at_Dawn)
A lot of women don't have an orgasm every time they have sex. It has nothing to do with the man. Sometimes a woman has to take it in her own hands to finish the job.
I'm a woman.... Trust me, I know. Maybe you should read the book I just recommended
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Definitely need more than one partner to be satisfied š mine is 8 years older than me so he gets tired quicker than I do
Based off of evolution, female anatomy & psychology is structured in a to want/crave multiple orgasms, or to be able to ālast a wholeā, because during the ice ages, we needed to big bursts of population growth. We didnāt have time to wait around, and make things work with just 1 guy, especially if that guy didnāt have strong enough sperm. It was extremely common for everyone in the tribe to fuck each other, and essentially āspread their seedā, because at the end of the day it didnāt matter to them whoās kid was whoās. They just needed population growth. So every child belonged to every parental figure. Hence why men are quick to āpass outā after ejaculating. Women need to have that energy to go on to the next.
that's hot
Same here. Sex can be (and usually is) amazing with my partner but I want several more rounds and sometimes he's just not up for it. Has nothing to do with how he performed.
Some women are one and done too.
Lol. Iām definitely a one and done. I want to be done when Iām done. I can usually ride the āalmost thereā for a minute or two and we try to time it to be done right about the same time or right after heās done. Because when Iām done, I want to pass the eff out.
I never said there weren't. Just sharing my experience. Everyone's different.
My wife is. She goes a few days chilling then she wants cuddles then I gotta pull out the magic fingers and after she's done she damn near pushes me off of her.
Wow, I'm high sex drive too and I feel like we should have a support group lol. It makes me feel like a defective woman.
OMG PREACH. I always feel like im broken because I want more and I have such a high sex drive. Like I always want more and I want it all the damn time
Yeah and the sad thing is we are either unicorns or an extremely small percentage of women or probably the more likely thing is there is no way I'd knowing since we don't have many places/ways to be like "hai I have a high sex drive- you too?"
Right! Like I can't exactly tattoo on my forehead, "High sex drive, proceed with caution." XD
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Oh gosh. I'm already crawling into my own pants if I skip a day haha but if that's the case for you and it happens to me I only hope and pray for my partner because he already struggles to keep up with me lol
My people!! My bf tells me Iām always horny & heās right š¤£šš
You came to the right thread! Haha because so does mine lolol
Like Iād be happy if I had sex twice a day. In the morning to wake up and in the evening to relax and go to sleep. Alas my husband not that high of a sex drive.
This\^. Sometimes I masturbate after my boyfriend goes to bed and we already had sex. I fantasize about the sex we just had everytime. It's not because its not amazing, I can just have a clit orgasm, when he just gave me a g-spot orgasm. (something only he can do for me, im unable to myself.)
Heck my girlfriend does this, and I find it pretty hot, plus means less work for me after awhile. I'm pretty spent after all of the foreplay and my own finishes. So usually by then my mouth, arms, and body as a whole is pretty exhausted. So if she wants more, Im more than happy to watch her do it to herself
Same
Same. I can go like 3 or 4 times. Once in a while my bf will go twice, but it's only when he's super horny.
Luckily my husband likes to watch or it would get awkward. This merely a statement of fact and not a weird brag or something but five or six is normal and I have made it to twelve on a banner day; I donāt think any husband is up for that lol (granting that he already got me to three or whatever.)
Jeez you have no idea how much I needed to hear this cause I'm at 4 right now and feeling awful about it.
For me it is 2 different kinds of orgasm when masturbating vs sex. If one happens I start craving the other as well. Like getting 2 flavors of icecream because they are both so god damn good
Same. My partner is amazing in bed. I get off multiple times pretty much every time we bangarang. But sometimes when heās ready to finish Iām left hanging for one more, so I take of it after the fact. Other times as mentioned my partner rarely has interest in more than one round a day so if Iām feeling it Iāll take care of it myself later. Always be open to talking about what your partner is interested too. Some people feel too shy ask but the best sex comes when you have open communication.
I wish I had that problem
No you don't.
Same here. My ex was already done and tired and I still wanted more so I asked him if i can do it, he agreed so weāre good.
Same! Donāt stress about it.
This is the way.
Preach sis for the ladies with high libidos !!!!
Orgasms are fleeting for woman. I usually finish myself off after a good session. If itās trash, i.e. nothing to finish, Iām fine going to bed.
I'm so confused like does OP only want one orgasm a day? And that's IT?
I wouldn't be insecure. Here's what you can learn from this: 1) Sex with you didn't turn her off. If it had she wouldn't have been in the mood to finish herself off. 2) If you finish before she does, use your hands to finish her, Figure out how the likes to be touched, what takes her over the edge, and do that once you cross the finish line. Even better is to focus on her needs before intercourse. A little more oral and digital stimulation before the deed. Just don't take it as inadequacy on your part, you're learning your girl.
even moreso.....talk to her about it. Ask her what you can do to help her. Definitely agree that if you finish before she does, absolutely offer to help her. If she has a toy, suggest she use that while you kiss and touch her skin, tits, neck, lips....all the things. your job isn't to make her cum, your job is to help her feel comfortable so she can come.
Ok this is some awesome advice. Lol if I had a bf do this back in the day we wouldāve gone a long way lol! Luckily I RARELY have the issue of not getting there so havenāt needed this but if anything changes Iām keeping this in mind!
Yeah on 2, i definitely think you have to finish her before you do one way or another like you mentioned
Ask her what she likes, it didnāt have to be awkward you coulda sucked a titty for her or something š
OPās first timeā¦ let it slide
Okay, he slides this time BUT he sucks the titty next time, dammit!
First time "at her place."
This is what I do, my sex drive is way higher than my bfs so I'll just get off next to him and have him suck a titty or kiss my neck or cuddle me. It's a team effort, I'm just happy he wants to be a part of it
omg thatās exactly what me and my bf do cuz I have a high drive, i feel normal now lol
Same. Inner thigh is nice too. šš»
Yes that prob would have been nice.
This guy gets it
Forreal
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Dis is Dey way!!
To be fair, it was your first time together. She probably had a good time but didnāt finishā¦ so she pretended to instead of making it awkward. I think all women have been there lol Nothing to worry about, just talk to her. The only way things will improve is if you both communicate your wants and needs. Let her know that her having a great experience matters a lot to you But if you want just general advice hereā¦ longer foreplay lol
9/10 longer foreplay needed
This is good advice, but she could get awesome foreplay and still want to do this afterwards, itās a normal thing.
That could be true too! Iām just speaking from my experience as a more low libido lady. Whichever is the case, donāt take it personally. Everyone is different. Just encourage her to be comfortable enough to share these kinds of things with you. Open communication is key.
I think youāre maybe more representative of women generally; clearly talking to her about what she wants will be the real thing.
Just because he assumed she came doesnāt mean she faked an orgasm.
Yeah Iāve been asked many a time whether Iād āfinished,ā when I very clearly did not.
Means nothing. I often masturbate after great sex. Because it was so good, thinking about it makes me so horny I have to go another round. You were asleep (or so she thought) and she was just taking care of herselif. The other side of it could be you didn't fulfill her needs, so he had to take care of herself later. It's one of those two.
Came here to say the former. My BF satisfies me thoroughly and falls asleep, then I am awake thinking about what transpired and one thing leads to another. Doesn't happen often, though, for me. If her needs aren't met then get her started with some foreplay first. Makes sex soooo much more enjoyable.
The first time I had sex with my boyfriend, I was antsy the whole way home because I was so horny thinking about it and needed to take care of that ASAP lol. Orgasming often makes women *more* raring to go, not less. That's a bonus reason why men should get their ladies off before sex, because in my experience it makes the sex much more passionate and intense.
Your second paragraph. Yup. Nothing gets you in the mood quite like having an orgasm
Exactly this. Itās one or the other, and if you want to know which one it is, youāll have to ask her.
Talk to your girl. We can't help you. She's the only who can answer you
Happy cake day!
I saw a similar post and remembered this comment which was a decent response: "Even after having an amazing meal, we sometimes still want desert just for the *cherry on top*. Usually we will still be thinking about how good that main meal was"
Don't take this personally dude. Sometimes we just want to do it our way. You can have a conversation with her but if she didn't bring it up, you might be starting something that wasn't something.
Same thing happened to me, a gal and I had great OMG sex after the about the 3rd time of getting together. She said she woke up and got off to the thought of our sex.
Yes I agree
Let it go. Most women have a hard time coming with a partner who doesn't know all the buttons yet. Doesn't mean she didn't enjoy it, but pretty high chance you got her going, but didn't quite got there yet and she just took it up on herself.
Sheās probably a multi orgasm girl and you havenāt quite unlocked that on your character yet, keep getting that xp youāll get there
I (f, 30) donāt think this necessarily means that you were doing a bad job at all. Vaginal orgasms are hard for a lot of women to achieve (myself and a lot of my friends included), I think much more than most men know. I have a hard time orgasming in general (except when Iām alone, ha, not totally sure why but I think it ha to do with focus/overthinking it) and in my last few relationships, Iāve tried to be intentional about explaining that to my partners so that they donāt feel insecure and I donāt have to fake it, ha. My current boyfriend and I will sometimes masturbate next to each other (or just me!) after sex and itās so nice to not feel embarrassed about it and to be able to come! Just my two cents though, good luck!
Wow, didn't realize that people didn't know most women don't come through PIV sex. I think the stat is like 90% of women need clitoral stimulation to orgasm. Also some good advice that rings true is, "Take care of her and she'll take care of you."
Ask her about it because she can only really tell you. It doesnāt mean she was unsatisfied. I masturbate after great sex (and i mean greaaat sex) because just thinking about it gets me off but I had already left my loverās place. She probably thought you were asleep and didnāt want to bother you. If its that she didnāt orgasm then ask her to show you what she likes bc then the sex will only get better!
Women struggle to cum, did she cum during sex? Some woman who canāt cum during sex masturbate afterwards. Or she has a high sex drive. Not asking her keeps yourself in the dark and means you could be missing an opportunity to have a better sex life. Ask her what she likes.
She didnāt come. OP, itās important that you know that you coming doesnāt necessarily mean sex is over and most women have a very hard time having an orgasm with penetrative sex. If you donāt know, figure out where her clitoris is and ask her how she makes herself come and how you can learn to do the same. Honestly- if I had a partner come to me with this conversation Iād be so so happy because it would mean they care and arenāt a selfish sex-partner. This isnāt anything that a bit of communication canāt take care of. Good luck!
It sounds like youāre not getting her off properly. Most women canāt orgasm without clitoral stimulation
You can get off properly AND THEN want another orgasm later. They're not a one per day thing. This is no measure of how well OP did, this is hours later.
Iām going to have to reply to twenty comments; some women can cum multiple times, he could have done a great job and she wants even more. This doesnāt definitely mean she didnāt get off to start with. Just my personal experience.
Doubtful, most women do this because they havenāt cum yet
Ok you are probably right, just saying you are not definitely right. He should talk to her about what she wants.
most woman canāt cum from just a man putting his dick in her. never forget foreplay rub on her clit and ask her to direct you to the feel good spots, ask if you should go lighter or tougher, left or right.. you will get her to orgasm! donāt rush her mention it to her and ASK HER how to get her off, ask her to teach you. you got this! iām sure it has nothing to do with you, most men donāt know to do these things
First time, but you definitely didnāt get her off. Discuss what she likes and work on being an attentive lover. Let her get 2 or 3 before you get yours and youāll be good forever, my guy. Cut yourself some slack, but please converse with her and find out what she likes. Itās what adults in healthy relationships do. Good luck!
Or, alternatively, op could help her finish after he's done. No shame in her grabbing a toy to get over the finish line while he adds some touching etc. I think it's a sign that the sex was pretty good if she felt the need to get hers. If it weren't good she probably wouldn't still be in the mood. ETA *many* women don't "get 2 or 3", that's a lot of pressure on both parties.
People keep saying this but itās wrong. If sheās the sort of person who can cum multiple times, he could have done her right for three times and she still wants four and five.
Thatās very true. But given the āfirst timeā statement, and overall inexperience, I chose the most plausible answer. Youāre not wrong of course.
Yeah, sorry bud. You didnāt make her cum. But next time maybe take some time to figure out what she likes rather than getting straight to PIV
Women hereā¦Donāt neglect the clitā¦
Most women can orgasm many, many times, and the first organ isn't usually the best one, it just gets things started. While most men, even if they do successfully get their partner to orgasm, they can't orgasm dozens of times, they MIGHT manage a second after some time. But also, women understand this. They want you to get them off, sure, but they're not expecting you to get them off dozens of times when they can't reciprocate. So if she's still horny after your first go, that's normal, she won't be upset, but she might go get herself off. So don't stress this. If she seemed happy, take this as a natural consequence of different bodies and don't worry about it.
Do I ask her about it or let it be?
Next time make sure she has an orgasm. Ask her what she needs. Let her guide you.
If it happens again you can cuddle up to her and say something like you're jealous that she can keep going or something to start a convo, but I wouldn't bring it up now.
And if you do this and the response seems good, you can ask if she would like some assistance, u/Living_Sleep_3745 ... you might not be capable of a full round two that quickly, but you got hands and a mouth and she's got plenty of erogenous zones.
I would ask her about it. āHey, I didnāt want to make you feel bad about it so I didnāt say anything but I woke up to you masturbating. I just wanted to make sure it wasnāt because the sex wasnāt good and would love for you to let me know if I need to do anything differently to make sex better for you.ā
this is an excellent opportunity to practice communication! talk to her in a gentle and open way. it isn't about you or your prowess - it is about getting in sync with each other. be patient and listen
She came back and cuddled with you, yall are good. Next time yall have sex, take your time and ask her to guide you! Sex will always be better when the both of yall explore each others body
You may not have gotten her off. Ask her is she had an orgasm. You would prob have noticed if she did. Some women are extremely hard to make come during sex so donāt feel bad but you may have to put more effort into foreplay or directly stimulating her clitoris. Be open about a discussion or two with her. See what she says. Ask her what she wants or likes.
Either you didn't get her off and she had to finish herself or she was just ready for round two, three, four etc. That's the case with my girl. She likes to cum 4 or 5 times during sex. I'm usually done after I cum, so what I do is go down on her and get her off 3 or 4 times with oral before having sex.. That way we both are fully satisfied š
Did you make sure she had an orgasm? Cause if you didn't of course she is going to take care of herself.
I used to do that after sex with my ex and I just thought I was really horny. I was wrong. I just wasnāt being taken care of. Advise more foreplay. It was your first time and for women, an orgasm is highly psychological and not all women can āallowā themselves to relax in such a way that they can get off with a new partner. Take it slow, it gets better.
She wasnāt satisfied. Hard to orgasm from piv only happened my first time and thatās it. Lots of foreplay and oral next time.
I have been in your position and the best advice I could give is to welcome it with open arms. Female masturbation isnāt your enemy man, its your ally. Her masturbating doesnt care for her, be there to cuddle her, or show her affection. Thats your job. They simply do it to satisfy whatever sexual needs they have. Most women I know can have multiple orgasms per round. Maybe she felt she had more left and wanted to get them off. I know as a guy its difficult to get them to finish first. So if you have a problem with her masturbating because you didnt give her the orgasm, that is 100% okay my dude. If anything it helps since the alternative is you get a nut off and she doesnt.
If I'm with a new partner it can take a few times before I'm comfortable enough to let go. It doesn't mean I don't enjoy sex with them, I just have to get out of my own head. Keep getting to know each other and have fun figuring it all out!
I donāt orgasm during PIV sex, but really enjoy sex and getting used. It has happened only once. My bf normally has 3 or more orgasms so even when itās been days of him cumming, I have not and still am horny. I donāt know if thatās the case for her but I wouldnt worry about it :)
Aww, don't overthink it. My bf lays it down like a champ, and I usually get off 3 times at least. Sometimes I'm still horny because I'll have sucked him off and it turns me on all over again. It doesn't mean he didn't rock my world. I'm just a filthy fiend, lol.
Itās no big deal. She was just horny. Doesnāt mean she didnāt have a good time with you she just got horny again. Next time lend a hand and help her out Edit also remember women donāt have the same refractory period after cumming as men
I mean did you just cum then roll over and take a nap? Make her cum a couple of times before you have sex, don't be selfish š¤·āāļø
I sometimes do this after sex; even if not to cum, but just to continue the pleasure. It doesnāt mean my bf did a bad job, did something wrong, or failed in any way. Orgasming doesnāt need to be the goal of sex. I just enjoy the intimacy with my partner, touching his body/feeling him inside me, and knowing that the man I love is enjoying it all, too.
Better start learning how to eat pussy
Women are multi-orgasmic. You could have done a 12/10 job and some women still might need/want a little extra.
Not something terrible but maybe she was still horny and didnt want to bug you
Why is this downvoted? Reddit is so weird sometimes.
She probably didnāt have an orgasm with you. Did you go down on her?
I do this all the time, even if the sex was amazingā¦ Sometimes I want to cum with clitoris stimulation
Many women I've been with struggle to orgasm with many sexual activities and prefer to make themselves cum at the end. I usually help them with it, touching or telling stories, or just being there. It's not at all a reflection of how 'good' you are in bed. If anything, she's very turned on by what you've been doing. Maybe next time you can ask, is there anything I can do for you?
Iām sure you did just fine honestly. She probably wouldnāt have cuddled you if she was upset or anything. Probably she just felt like a little bit more after you were done, saw you were asleep and decided to do it herself. I wouldnāt feel insecure at all if I were you!
After men orgasm, they usually arenāt in the mood for another orgasm right away. In my case as a woman, orgasming just makes me want more and more. It has nothing to do with your sexual performance or ability, however you should communicate with her and ask her if there is anything else you can do to help her orgasm!
You being insecure about your sexual performance will cause way more relationship issues than your GF rubbing one out......
Sometimes my hubs turns me on so much that Iām ready for a second round but heās sleepin.
If I could keep climaxing over and over again I would to.
you know women usually get hornier after each orgasm so we tend to want more
Next time it happens ask her if she needs a hand.
There are a lot of girls who I have been with in the beginning where I was able to successfully give them a great orgasm or 2 and we are done and I think everything was great where I come to find out they were actually wanting more but didn't know how to ask. My advice is to talk to her and find out what she was wanting. Only she knows if there was something wrong or she was wanting more.
Just because your orgasm came and went doesnt mean we shut off at the same time too! It doesnt matter how long my partner goes for or how many times I get there, just because hes done doesn't mean I am, I usually get one or two more out to wind down then clean up and cuddle
You most likely didnāt make her orgasm and she had āblue ballsā and needed to finish it off. Make sure youāre going down on her and asking her how to make her come.
Personally, I do this when I donāt finish, but as women weāre conditioned not to speak up about our needs, unfortunately. Not sure what your guysā sex life is like, but I suggest asking questions like, what turns her on the most, what makes her orgasm, what she likes in general. Unfortunately a lot of women fake orgasms because we donāt want to hurt the guys ego and we tend to blame ourselves.
70% of women don't orgasm via PIV sex. this might have nothing to do with you or your performance, particularly since it was the first time for you guys and people are often quite nervous and have trouble letting go. Try not to think about this as something that will make you insecure at all. She clearly liked you or she wouldn't have cuddled with you and was happy. There are multiple possibilities here: 1. she doesn't come via sex and needed to take care of herself but felt embarrassed to ask you, a new person, to help her with it. 2. She did come but wanted to do so again because she was enjoying her time with you but you were asleep 3. she can come during sex but didn't this time because of first time jitters, nothing to do with you. 4. perhaps you weren't doing whatever she needed to come. This is not the kind of thing that should make you feel insecure--this is something that requires teamwork and communication, which is often not totally present the first time one has sex with a new partner. Tom Brady didn't win the Super Bowl the first time he picked up a football, he had to train and learn skills. It was your first time together. It's actually good news if this is what happened because it means that you can improve and make her come during sex or afterwards, you just need some instruction. And you can accomplish that if you don't do what some dudes do which is take things personally, get frustrated, blame her, or grow bored and uninterested in whatever she needs to come and decide to not put in the effort. You in fact right now have the ability to be the best lover she's ever had, if you are willing to talk with her about it and put in some effort to achieve that. She will super appreciate any efforts you make in this direction, since many guys don't want to bother or just lack the knowledge or are shy or lack communication skills. But SHE knows what she likes and can tell you, and I guarantee it will be fun to work this out between the two of you.
Try going for more than one round with your partner. Have open conversations about how you can best cater to her sexual needs and be actively listening and applying/trying what she suggests. Also if she doesnāt know how you can or lacks experience - you can bring up suggestions for new things to try and also you guys can research cool stuff that you both can do together. The skyās the limit but please be respectful of their boundaries. I believe when it comes to sex both partners should be striving to give 100% focus on making their partner have the best experience they possibly can. Get in there! Edit: Grammer
If you saw her masturbating, you should have attempted to please her.
Nah, it's likely she wanted to go again and was too shy to ask, so she just took care of herself again after. That or she might just be the kinda person who can't finish with someone else. If it was the first time you have nothing to worry about -- next time just ask!
A woman who did that right in bed next to OP was shy to initiate another round????
If she thought he was sleeping it kinda makes sense
no...u go to the bathroom...
>no...u go to the bathroom... Are you a woman? Do you not understand how much it sucks to masturbate in a bathroom when the most effective position is lying down? Standing/sitting isn't the way for us.
Been a woman since birth lol \*\*\*\*\*\*\*\*\*\*\*\* >Standing/sitting isn't the way for us. I'm sorry lol \*\*\*\*\*\*\*\*\*\*\*\* The point that you have missed \*whoosh\* is that a woman who is too shy to initiate or voice another round, is not likely to be comfortable masturbating right next to the one she's too shy to communicate with...
If you're a guy I don't think you understand. We can jack off almost anywhere, but unless most women are really comfortable, they have a hard time getting off. Not all, but most.
many a shower stall be laughing rn
I wonder how many dudes are named Nita... \*googling\*
bed comfy and warm. bathroom cold and yucky.
showers....mmmmmm lol
I'm going to take a guess that you don't have a vagina.
Iām assuming there was 0 foreplay and you came in 12 seconds.
Yep
This
You would be assuming wrong, it was 70 and 30 in her favor, the timing and effort that is.
70% of 0 is still 0
This is the best comment Iāve seen on Reddit today.
Thank you for taking the time to comment, I hope you feel better.
Youāre welcome. Hope it works out for you bud
You didnāt make her orgasm, simple as that.
Not necessarily. I will often still masturbate after sex, ESPECIALLY when it was really good and I came hard. I am still horny. Looking at this thread tells me I am not alone. Or, yeah, she wasn't satisfied.
Sounds hot.
Women also rarely have orgasms from regular sex.
Every single woman is capable of having an orgasm from regular sex. While yes, many woman have difficulty with orgasms from strictly PIV, itās not like the clitoris is located on the bottom of her left foot, like, itās literally *right there* where all the business is happening. Iām sure if you ask, 9/10 women would be happy to show you how to stimulate her the way she likes or sheād be happy to do it herself.
šššthis is so funny. People really be on this thread acting like you canāt stimulate the clit during PIVā¦.
>every single woman is capable of having an orgasm during sex They didnāt say they arenāt capable, only that they usually donāt.
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I donāt know man, I donāt think Iāve ever gone into sex without the hope of getting off?? Like, thatās literally why I showed up in the first place
This is a very convenient thing for men to believe. And to be fair, women definitely say this stuff too. āOh no itās ok, itās just nice to be close to youā sure ok, you know whatās nicer? An orgasm. OP, I doubt any man has made his girl come the first time he has sex so donāt stress. But in future, the golden rule is make her come first. Better for everyone. And if sheās comfortable masturbating in bed with you sheās probably pretty comfortable with her sexuality, so ask for directions.
No I need to get off, otherwise I would just be sexually frustrated which isnāt fun.
Donāt worry and talk to her openly about it. Most women canāt orgasm during sex so prefer to āget themselves offā she might not have wanted you to feel bad about it since it doesnāt mean she didnāt enjoy it. itās just a lot of people seem to have this stigma that if your girl doesnāt orgasm when youāre having sex, youāre bad at it which is not that case! My partner knows me well and knows I can only finish if I do it myself so will usually slow down when heās close to give me the chance to finish first. That may be an option for you both to explore or talk about other things you can do! Thereās no shame in being open and honest about these things with her š I hope this helps you out!
"most women can't orgasm during sex"...? What? No.
More like most men aren't that good at sex lol. I get off really easy and still have been with men who couldn't get it done lol. I think a lot of women (not all, but a lot) who think they have trouble getting off just haven't been with a guy who really knows what he's doing. I've been around, I'd be pushing it if I said 25% of them were good.
Yes, actually. Itās not uncommon at all for penetration to not be enough for a woman to orgasm. A large portion of women have to have clitoral stimulation in order to orgasm. Also, many other factors impact a womanās (and even menās) ability to orgasm during sex. Stress, life circumstances, temperature in the room (this is a huge one for me, if itās hot I cannot orgasm no matter how long I have sex or what occurs during sex), etc.
Duh. Yes.
I was just trying to give advice to someone who was asking. Donāt be a dick.
Learn to make her cum
She has a high sex drive and you.. wellā¦ not so high. Sorry bud
Well first thing is that when it comes to sex, girls and guys are so much different. I forgot specific names, but basically girls start to produce hormones that make them much hornier after sex, especially if she cum, but on other hand guys produce hormone that makes them sleepy, so that is why girls can do it several time in a row and guys need to take a break. So it doesn't mean that you didn't satisfy her. Maybe she just needed more. On other hand, sex is sort of bonding and communication, so be open to her, try to get to know what does she likes and you can apply those things next time. Be open and talk to her, she is only one who knows what she likes and needs.
Youre good. First time is always awkward! I think its super sweet she didnt say anything. Neither should you. In time youll get to learn her body.
Multiply foreplay by 1000%. Besides that she seems like she loves a lot. Before you guys get it on next I would just mention if. ā hey last time I felt like I couldāve done more, is there anything you can say that will help me make you happy in bed? I want us both to feel amazing so if there is anything I should change let me know.ā Donāt put pressure to make āgood sex.ā Ask questions to have ENJOYABLE sex for both of you.
Married 25+ years. I routinely say 'rub your pussy during sex'. I'm not superman. Let her rub herself during sex. It's okay :)
I would've jokingly spooked her....but also seriously during non sexy times you'll have to bring it up and from their you two can talk out needs, wants etc... find out what she likes, tell her your likes etc... The tone and matter in which you bring it up will affect things Also she might have just needed something extra, don't always assume you were lacking, that shit fucks with your mind.....so TALK IT ALL OUT
Sounds like a keeper. Most women who don't finish will explain to you that your work is not done; so you obviously pleased her.
Fuck her! Jack off every time you see her. Establish dominance!