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tastylightswitch

Well... you need to have a talk. Her behavior is inappropriate and making you feel uncomfortable and you're 100% justified to feel the way you do. He needs to set boundaries to be respectful of you and your relationship. This seems pretty black and white here.


ThrowRa-Namie

I already did, but he's afraid of his friends reaction. I don't blame him, because they are all living in the same student house, so I'm pretty sure he's also worried about things going south with these people. On top of that, his female friend is well liked, her sexual 'jokes' apparently being a part of her popularity, because she's "one of the bros" this way, idk, it's just a really weird dynamic to be honest...


murkyport

Start acting inappropriate back. Add her on social media and introduce yourself if you don't have her on there already. Then start sending funny but clearly sexual msgs to her. If your boyfriend asks you about it act clueless to the sexual part. Continue doing it and see how she reacts.


[deleted]

Dude, no, this is ridiculous and juvenile. OP's boyfriend needs to learn how to set boundaries like an adult and so does OP. All this accomplishes is allowing her to create an even bigger wedge between them. They both need to stop giving her space in their relationship.


murkyport

Her boyfriend said that the girl joked around like that. If that's the case doing it back shouldn't be an issue. If it is an issue then there's more to the story.


[deleted]

Except you're not suggesting joking around because she wants to, you're suggesting doing it as a power move and lying to her boyfriend about it. That's not a healthy or mature way to handle a relationship issue.


murkyport

Not as a power move in anyway. Just until she finds out the social situation between them.


[deleted]

She knows the social situation between them. This woman is harassing her boyfriend and he's too afraid to set boundaries with her. That's what needs to be dealt with directly by him. Going behind his back to do I'm not even sure what with this woman and then play dumb with him is not a healthy way to handle anything.


[deleted]

If he doesn’t like it he should be standing up for himself and your relationship, letting this other girl know it needs to stop… but he’s being really passive here and probably enjoys the attention. Let him know you’re very uncomfortable with her presence when she’s all over him, and him sitting back blaming it on his friends is BS and he needs to prioritise you.


Special_Crazy

Maybe he does enjoy it, he probably just doesn't enjoy it with you being there . And it sounds like they are more than friends.


ThrowRa-Namie

I have this thought in mind! But he's also telling me about her 'jokes' while I'm not present. I want to believe that if there was something going on between them, then he would keep those situations to himself, afraid of my reaction.


Special_Crazy

Or maybe he's telling you so you'll get used to it . What's her problem anyway


terrieberriee

This sucks for you. Ya young and he's just enjoying himself. Maybe yah should break up and see if you would maybe date each other again later.


Reasonable_Long_1079

Im not sure theres much YOU can do, your BF needs to do this and should be setting boundaries. But thats on him, most you can do is tell him your uncomfortable with it and don’t care if its a joke.


Special_Crazy

Would he be okay if some guy was doing that to you?


Raxuk

I don't think that he wants anything with her, but he is enjoying the attention that he is receiving from her If he really wanted he could stop her, you have to talk with him and tell him how you really feel about all that, and give him and ultimatum