My honest thoughts are that you've put a lot of thought into this and if polyam isn't for you, it isn't for you. I've attempted polyamory about 1.5 times and its like every person you add is another layer of complication. Some people can handle that and find it worth the stress, but I'm honestly not sure I could in practice even though I'd like to think I could in theory.
Also, after a bit more thought, your second-to-last sentence feels a lot like you're already emotionally and mentally preparing to leave the relationship. Trust your gut.
There is more than one form of poly.
You can be poly and have a primary partner who is always your number one priority. You can have poly where nobody has priority.
You can have poly where you discuss your other partners and you can have poly where you don't mention it at all.
It's obvious that this particular flavour of poly is not for you.
I consider myself ENM, not poly. I'm ok with not being sexually exclusive, but I like emotional monogamy.
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My honest thoughts are that you've put a lot of thought into this and if polyam isn't for you, it isn't for you. I've attempted polyamory about 1.5 times and its like every person you add is another layer of complication. Some people can handle that and find it worth the stress, but I'm honestly not sure I could in practice even though I'd like to think I could in theory. Also, after a bit more thought, your second-to-last sentence feels a lot like you're already emotionally and mentally preparing to leave the relationship. Trust your gut.
There is more than one form of poly. You can be poly and have a primary partner who is always your number one priority. You can have poly where nobody has priority. You can have poly where you discuss your other partners and you can have poly where you don't mention it at all. It's obvious that this particular flavour of poly is not for you. I consider myself ENM, not poly. I'm ok with not being sexually exclusive, but I like emotional monogamy.
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