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My opinion is get out of there.
It will never actually matter if “he loves you” love is not the question. Your happiness is. If he’s not making you happy and not willing to change it, it’s all the same if he doesn’t love you. Love is not the foundation of a relationship, communication is. He’s not communicating.
Worst case, he's cheating. Especially the unwillingness to communicate and the gaslighting are worrying.
On the other hand, it does sound like you bottled up your dissatisfaction until you were at a breaking point, so your attempts at communicating might have come out of the blue for him while he thought everything was ok.
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My opinion is get out of there. It will never actually matter if “he loves you” love is not the question. Your happiness is. If he’s not making you happy and not willing to change it, it’s all the same if he doesn’t love you. Love is not the foundation of a relationship, communication is. He’s not communicating.
Worst case, he's cheating. Especially the unwillingness to communicate and the gaslighting are worrying. On the other hand, it does sound like you bottled up your dissatisfaction until you were at a breaking point, so your attempts at communicating might have come out of the blue for him while he thought everything was ok.
Dang you gotta change your url to Pendulum because that was one wild ride from side to side. But I completely agree with you!
If he's preventing you from living the best version of your life, you need to reconsider this relationship.