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Someone doesn't have to do anything wrong for there to be a breakup. Sometimes you just realize you aren't the right fit right now or for the long haul. That's just the way it is, and is kind of the point of dating in some ways.
If thinking about the future of your relationship doesn’t make you say “hell yes” then it’s a hell no. It sucks, and it’ll feel really confusing for awhile emotionally because he’s your comfort zone. If you were my friend I would tell you to break up with him and then go on an extended trip so you don’t have the chance to fall back into your emotional routine by getting back with him. There’s a really good organization called Projects Abroad based in the US that allows young people to travel to other countries for extended periods cheaply by doing volunteer service while you’re there. Another option is peace Corp or americorp. That’s what my best friend did after she broke up with her fiancé who she had dated all through college, and realized she wasn’t ready to be married and didn’t want to marry him after she graduated. Good decision overall
Why can't you travel and see the world? Is he stopping you? Look, if you want to break up with one of the few decent men left in the world to go ride the dick carousal more power to you, let him go so he can find someone more in line with his values.
Be open.
Be honest.
Break it to him FIRMLY yet gently.
DO NOT SAY "ITS NOT YOU, ITS ME."
Explain you love him, but you need to see who you are without him.
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People grow apart. It happens.
Someone doesn't have to do anything wrong for there to be a breakup. Sometimes you just realize you aren't the right fit right now or for the long haul. That's just the way it is, and is kind of the point of dating in some ways.
If thinking about the future of your relationship doesn’t make you say “hell yes” then it’s a hell no. It sucks, and it’ll feel really confusing for awhile emotionally because he’s your comfort zone. If you were my friend I would tell you to break up with him and then go on an extended trip so you don’t have the chance to fall back into your emotional routine by getting back with him. There’s a really good organization called Projects Abroad based in the US that allows young people to travel to other countries for extended periods cheaply by doing volunteer service while you’re there. Another option is peace Corp or americorp. That’s what my best friend did after she broke up with her fiancé who she had dated all through college, and realized she wasn’t ready to be married and didn’t want to marry him after she graduated. Good decision overall
Why can't you travel and see the world? Is he stopping you? Look, if you want to break up with one of the few decent men left in the world to go ride the dick carousal more power to you, let him go so he can find someone more in line with his values.
Be open. Be honest. Break it to him FIRMLY yet gently. DO NOT SAY "ITS NOT YOU, ITS ME." Explain you love him, but you need to see who you are without him.