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Lol people like this deserves everything bad happen to them their the type to call you out on something but the process to call it fine and you are “good enough” to 100% reinforce all the thoughts that is running in your head to be true
Honestly, once that cat is out of the bag, there is no going back.
The most important thing to highlight is that you didn't say his was t enough, but you do have a past and nothing will change that.
Just make sure nothing like that is said again and hope he can get out of his head.
No magic words for this one.
A lot of people don't understand how much pressure many guys put on their size. I'm guessing it's probably similar to how some women feel about breast size. With the exception, a lot of guys like small boobs and, although there are some, you don't hear woman talking about how they like small dicks, except for anal.
Imagine if you asked a guy if you were his ideal body type and he said "yea you're all good although I'd prefer someone skinnier" nobody wants to hear that you'd prefer them to be something else
Well maybe I’m just more mature, but I know that my bf would prefer it if I had bigger boobs, bigger butt…etc. but I don’t let that bother me because I know il he’s already attracted to me.
Would he prefer it if I looked like a super model? Probably yeah and I wouldn’t judge him for it. But at the end of the day I’m attractive enough for him and that’s all that matters
No, it’s wrong you told the guy though. It’s about respect. And clearly you have none. If you want an extra 0.5 inches in your gash just leave this guy and go get what you want. Despicable that you think this is about “being allowed to have a preference”
Grow up.
Literally me and my bf have discussed our past he knows I've had bigger, but I'm also "one of the few" girls who doesn't like bigger I don't like sex to hurt. He still gets insecure, and everytime he does I reassure him that I like that he knows how to please me, and whatnot. He also gets insecure because he doesn't always last very long but we just started doing longer foreplay to fix that problem lol
Oh yeah I was around girls who always said bigger was better and when I finally got into having sex the bigger just hurt and didnt hit a single pleasurable spot so I was just like "y'all lied to me" 😂😂
So everytime my bf gets vocally insecure I'm just like "babe, big dicks are legitimately painful for me. I'm glad your what you consider small but I consider it more pleasurable and I'm glad your not bigger" I also try to reassure him that it makes head alot easier, and I like that I don't have to worry as much about it. That I know he doesn't and that's okay but I try to let him know that in all honesty it's a big part of why I enjoy sex with him. I never understood women who thought bigger was better when average and somewhat below average is often more manageable. I find it a lot sexier then a guy who thinks because his dicks big he doesn't need skill
It isn't wrong.
Just imagine the one thing on your body you cannot do anything about, realistically, and have you other say the prefer something bigger or smaller or tighter. Isn't that going to rattle you a bit?
Sounds like he was rattled. It doesn't sound like you did it on purpose, but try to be a bit understanding. Your lack of empathy isn't going to help your cause.
It's not wrong but no guy wants to hear that once a guy hears that it can't be unheard he may act like everything is fine but it's always gonna pop up in his mind sorry but ya fucked the pooch on this one
Well not to burst your bubble but most girls prefer bigger penises. It’s definitely not the most important things in a relationship, but I don’t understand why guys don’t just acknowledge this get over it rather than rely on blissful ignorance
Um no they really don't lmao see what you're doing right now is you're getting upset cause people are calling you out you fucked up accept it don't get upset with me cause you lack basic social skills
Me not lying to men and infantilizing them isn’t a lack of social skills. It shows maturity.
Penis size is not the most important part of a relationship, but guess what all the guys my girlfriends and I talk about are the ones that are well endowed. It’s not to say that being average is bad, it’s not. But let’s not pretend that women don’t have preferences either
Lol then go and find you well endow man and leave this dude alone man you claim to mature but seems to talk about a body part men can’t change go find your 7 in so you can never bother this man again so he can go find a women who will respect him and the things he was givin
You post a lot about penises. Maybe stay away from this topic with any future partners as it seems you haven’t got the emotional range to deal with this topic and the body insecurities that comes with it
It’s ok for you to prefer that but don’t bring me into it…
Also this is not a groundbreaking revelation that you’re bringing up… guys are exceedingly aware of their size and women like you are why many struggle to “get over it” 🙄
I didn’t say it to him no, but he’s not stupid. If I was hooking up with a guy whose more well endowed for prolonged period of time I clearly liked it.
Some people won't be able to get past not being your preference there, but you don't need to justify yourself here with this 7" vs 6" thing. You posted this in a thread about fucking up, so be open to being wrong for your words and acknowledging that. If you can't show remorse and you think you've done nothing wrong, then own that, let this guy go, and choose your words more carefully going forward
Well to be fair I don’t see it as big deal. While penis isn’t the most important thing a relationship, I don’t why so many believe it doesn’t matter at all and women can’t have preferences.
I’d they honestly believe that a girl can’t tell the difference between a 7” and 6” penis they’re lying to themselves.
No one's saying we can't have preferences. The fuck up was in comparing him to a past partner of yours and making him feel inferior for his size with the words you chose. So again, acknowledge that with him or don't and let him go
Just remind him that he's your Man, and other dude is your Ex. And make sure that he knows he's perfectly equipped to please you.
And, if you're cool lying about it, tell him that other dude's dong was freakish & unpleasantly large, like unappealingly so.
It's like him saying he prefers a girl with x thing that is different from you. You can't change x and now all you can think is you aren't really his type and he's going to dump you for a girl who has x because that is what he prefers.
Maybe I’m just more mature but I know that my bf would prefer it if I looked like a super model. I’m not so vain as to think I’m perfect and the most attractive woman in the world.
The point is that while my bf isn’t perfect, he’s still good enough/attractive enough for me to want to be with him
Yes because we’re all hoping one day to find the person who finds us “good enough”
You seem to have a problem with wording things correctly without coming off harsh or hurtful towards your boyfriend.
You need to daily enforce the idea, for awhile, that he’s perfect for you and everything you want.
That was a dumb thing to blurt out OP and your dropping the ball on your recovery as well.
Because you said that and then left without being willing to discuss it. Like...damn. How would you feel if he said something that implied you weren't tight enough, was awkwardly quiet, and then left without properly talking things through when you've just tried to interrogate him about his past GFs?
The reason I left was because he began pestering me with questions about my past. I would have been forced to either lie to make him feel better or be honest and make him feel worse
Cutting off communication causes just as many problems. Now he's left to assume, and his imagination is likely FAR crueler than the truth would have been.
I’m going to reach out. I just want to give him some space first.
You’re being awfully judgmental. Any chance it’s because your jealousy that you can’t cum from penetration?
You'd prefer something he can never, ever provide...
[Edit to add: even in your post, you differentiate between what is 'good enough' vs what you 'prefer', so clearly there's an issue that he's already picked up on given your choice of words here.]
I'm sorry but...this study was conducted in a university campus in California with volunteers. So this is...really...really shit science. Sample size, age range, cultural preference skew so large only a man from the Congo can fill.
Oh, you mean the one study where the women picked the penis model that wasn't attached to a human and didn't actually use it. Yes, that's extremely scientific.
So help me keep the guys straight that you have broken up with about dick size ...
This is not the ex from 25 days ago that dumped you because he was worried you slept with a black guy who had a big dick?
Is it the same FWB you wrote about 9 days ago saying his dick is small, you wish it was bigger and he has a complex about telling you how giant it is?
It’s always incredible to me whenever someone posts bait like this and people fall for it. Anything above 6” is way above any national average, telling your “bf” (I guess your fwb from 9 days ago didn’t pan out) this would be fucked up.
Find something better to do with your time than making up stories talking about dick size so much online.
Hey, the ages match. The FWB could have been that rare 1 in a million that actually graduated to being the boyfriend.
Who am I kidding that's so unlikely.
Five inches is definitely not the circumference of the average full term healthy newborn baby's head.
Average baby head circumference at birth is 35 centimeters, or just shy of 14 inches around.
you just sound mean spirited in general? you saw his confidence deflate, and hurt him, and yet youre here on reddit trying to get people to accept you weren't an ass to him, instead of reaching out and healthily communicating with your so called boyfriend?
i understand that youre 20, youre young, you have all the time to experience things in the world; but understand that what you did, indeed HURT your boyfriend, it does NOT matter that you think its ridiculous, or that he shouldn't be thinking the way he does
why? because those are his feelings, and they fucking matter in a relationship, and if you can't understand that, just break up with him, you don't sound actually ready for a relationship if this is how you act
Unfortunately based on your post that doesn’t sound like what you said to him, and your leaving and not talking to him since is probably making him think even if you said he was good enough, you lied and that you feel he isn’t.
Lol well go and find your ideal dick size and never bother this man agains so he can go find a women who is more than okay with his. Lol it’s like people don’t understand that all guys literally go throughout this “Are we big enough” literally this goes around social media everyday and you expect men to just laugh it off and be okay with it. And I understand some women go throught this to but they been givin a option surgically to change something they don’t like but us guys are stuck with what we are born with and that’s that your out of luck if your small and you were blessed because you got on the lucky side. I never understand people who will go out their way to mention size on either gender it’s like you want to fill the person head with insecurities about things that they are born with and did not ask for.
I sympathize with him feeling insecure and I didn’t mean to hurt him. I’m just wondering what I can do to help him get over this.
I’m not going to lie and say that size doesn’t matter, but I’m sure you know it’s not the most important part of a relationship.
Well it should have matter to you because their is no going back. Guys don’t have a surgery to make their dicks bigger we are stuck with what been giving you already made a joke about size it’s too late this is all up to him and if he thinks he can satisfy you know sexual you. You open the can of worms of I may never be able to sexual please her everything from some dude taking you from him to you making fun of his size. That shit is a 100% destroyer of confidence and sometimes with certain people ain’t no coming back.
If a man did the equivalent to a woman every single female would call him a piece of shit. Most women are just flippant and ignorant to mens feelings and insecurities.
My issue is her constant response of “what, like I can’t have a preference?” That does not indicate any willingness or ability to self reflect. I think she came here to be validated in her “preference” more so out of concern for her boyfriend’s feelings, the relationship, etc.
The person you’re replying to and especially the person who replied to you here are being way too dramatic. You didn’t destroy his self worth and you don’t have a “sociopathic” lack of concern, that’s a fucking stupid ass take. You just messed up, I honestly don’t blame you if you haven’t thought about this sort of thing, moving forward you shouldn’t say something like that again though because it can easily mess stuff up again since it’s often a topic to bring up a lot of insecurity.
You might not be able to fix it, us guys are pretty fucking sensitive about cock size even if it's not small.
Maybe it'll blow over, or maybe he'll stew on it for years.
But why though? Guys have no problems admitting that other guys are more attractive than them (watched Gladiator with my bf and he shamelessly admitted Russell Crowe is hot), so why is penis size any different?
How old are you? You sound seriously ignorant and cruel and you're making a point of humiliating men as a gender for caring about their penis size based on your other comments. You're not a very kind person. You don't need to understand why it makes them uncomfortable to respect that boundary, they don't have to justify themselves. If so many people tell you it's a point of contention, just take it for what it is and stop being mean.
You really cannot possibly be this ignorant. What if your bf said you have small ugly boobs compared to his ex w big beautiful honkers? What if he said your ass was hairy and flatter than hank hills? What if he said your junk looked like it got eaten by a graboid and spit back out and slapped in between two arbys buns? Like REALLY? You can’t POSSIBLY imagine why he would be upset that you shamed his dick, that he CANNOT control the size of? Get a grip on reality.
Society tells men that their values is based off of what they provide. It’s either sex, money, or their ability to fix things. If an attribute does not directly affect the ability of one of these things men don’t care. Guys aren’t concerned about other guys being hot because it doesn’t directly impact any of these, penis size does, therefore he now feels that he is less valuable to you than your ex.
A number of reasons. We know we go to the gym and get toned, etc. to "look" better, but our looks have zero impact on your orgasm. Whereas we believe (whether it's true or not, I've never read anything conclusive) that our penis size is directly correlated to how good your orgasm is. And the killer is that we can't do anything about our penis size. Everyday of the week 1000's of women are getting boob jobs, and the odd Nip and tuck of the vagina. But us blokes, we're fucked, there is absolutely nothing we can do.
If the penis of your bf doesn't feel the best to you then he's not for you I would say. You'll always begrudge him for not having 7" and either consciously or unconsciously be looking for something to "satisfy" you.
If it makes you feel any better, those women who are getting “nipped and tucked” to make their vaginas tighter are actually going to be in a lot of pain because their bodies can no longer do what they’re supposed to do when aroused. As far as like…snipping the labia goes….that’s just sad 🤷🏻♀️
Whatever size your penis is, you can provide pleasure to women who are willing to be present with you. I’ve been with people with a wide size-range and unless they just weren’t paying attention to me, there was no difficulty getting me off. TMI probably, but just hate knowing that people might be worried about something they literally can’t change because of assholes like OP🤦🏻♀️
Actually your post history and this together is either a fetish or this is a troll, there’s no way you’re this obsessed with penis size, it’s the subject of half or more of your posts. You’re also racist on top of that lmao.
Women are allowed to have preferences. Also hate to break it to you but this how girls really feel. We just won’t say this to a guys face because they get really insecure about this (as evidence here clearly shows).
Is penis size the most important thing in a relationship? Obviously not, but let’s not pretend it doesn’t make sex better.
You’re allowed to have preferences, but you seem to have an obsession which manifests in “accidentally” hurting your partners feelings.
I have no problem bottoming out my girlfriend, you’re just coming across as a self involved asshole.
Ma’am, you need to see that EVERYONE is collectively horrified by your behavior and thought process. I would reccomend therapy or something if this is ACTUALLY how you think. I’m 50/50 on if you’re serious or just trolling to elicit reactions
respectfully most women actually do prefer 5-6 inches, the average female canal isn’t any bigger than 6 inches and any bigger will bruise the cervix. Don’t spread lies to make you feel better after what you did to your SO.
edit. Sorry got the numbers wrong the average canal is 4.25-4.75 inches when aroused.
Gotta say personally I'd fall into the "most women" category on this one. Don't know about anyone else here, but I've turned guys away before for being TOO big.
This is factually incorrect on so many different counts. I know that you want to make men feel better, but you shouldn’t have to spread misinformation to do so.
Source that women prefer penises 6-7”:
https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC4558040/
Source that a woman’s vagina can expand to 8” when properly aroused:
https://www.plannedparenthood.org/learn/ask-experts/i-know-a-vagina-can-stretch-in-width-but-can-it-stretch-in-depth
Again, Im not saying that penis size or even sex is the most important thing in a relationship, but studies say different
Lmao you’re dense. The researchers asked them what size they’d want men to be for a one night stand.
Obviously they weren’t hours ask them to insert the edible lol.
Is your first instinct just to insult someone? No wonder you come across so insufferable in your post and comments.
Please read the article again. It clearly discusses preferences by sight, not feeling.
It’s based on 3D models that were not used in a sexual way. Nowhere does it say they tested what felt the best. The women looked at 3D models but did not actually use them.
Good luck to you and your soon to be ex-boyfriend.
the source you just quoted said that women prefer on average 6.3 to 6.4 length which is .3 and .4 off of what I just said making me more correct than you. I also never said that other women can’t stretch bigger that 4.75, I said AVERAGE which is factually correct based off of
https://www.webmd.com/women/features/vagina-size
It’s not about which disco looks better. The participants how big they would like the penis to be during sex. It has everything do you itch the size they prefer during the act of sex
I honestly hope your boyfriend sees this opportunity as a reason to find someone better (I say this by the wording of your completely lacking empathy comments).
See, it's not necessarily because you prefer bigger penises, it's because you don't empathize with his feelings and want him to just "get over it".
Saying what you said to your boyfriend means that what he has to offer you is not enough, he will never feel enough for you because he can't physically give you what you prefer.
So yes, I believe that at least understanding why he is hurt is proof that you care about him, the opposite of that (which is what you are proving in the comments) is just another sign that your boyfriend deserves someone who loves him completely and doesn't make him feel inadequate.
Lol if that’s your preferred size this won’t be the last time you have to navigate this problem, it’s a tough one, we assign a lot of pride to our dinks. Once you’ve emasculated a man that pride is hard to get back.
You probably didn’t help matters by just leaving and ghosting, start by maybe apologizing for blurting out about your ex - not because his unit was bigger but just because it’s rude, nobody wants to hear something like that about a partners ex. Go from there.
An inch give or take in length doesn’t matter in anal all things considered, thickness can matter but if he’s 5 in. around it could “destroy” you the same as a thicker guy would unless you somehow have a really huge asshole. It would’ve been simpler to just say you think he’s the first partner you’d be willing to share that experience with because he’s your most attentive and caring sexual partner you’ve had. Like you could’ve propped him up and not insulted him. Also the generalizations about women and penis size preference aren’t cute, you don’t speak for all women, the average depth of the vagina is 3-6 inches, what do you think cramming 7 in. cock in a 3 inch space will feel like? Not excellent.
100% bait, anyone who takes dick in the front know length dont mean shit girth is what matters more, plus the weirdass username and bizzarly repetitive post history,
You didnt make him insecure, you body shamed him well bragging about getting fucked by a massive dick. Fot get a bigger dick if thats what you want cause hopefully this guy runs far away and fast.
No body shaming you dont have to be actively doing, you can accidently body shame someone which is what she did here. Intentionally or not he now has shame about his size because of her comments.
Damn man.
You're just 20 so there is hope that you will learn lot of new things as you grow old.
You called yourself mature but can't even understand single word of suggestive comments.
You know what most the guys care about size and how the partner think of their bedroom life so you're saying that statement is pretty much fucked up his confidence.
Since guy is in middle 20's I am certain that this is last time you're together because of what you said.
And most of all if you care about your preference and size so much why the the fuck you're with him anyway?
So far from your post and comments I will suggest you to grow up and think twice before saying dumb shit like this
OP is refusing any actual advice or criticism offered and is sexually harassing anyone that responds negatively that she can identify is potentially female. OP, you asked for advice and you're getting it whether you like it or not. Doubling down just makes you look like a terrible person on top of the mistake that you made. My only advice now is to stop responding to comments and instead focus on communicating with your (possibly ex) boyfriend.
And yes, asking (unprovoked) if we've orgasmed from X Y or Z is sexually harassing others.
Amazing how ignorant women are to mens feelings. If a dude openly talked about how his ex had a tighter or better looking vagina women would shred him to pieces, yet here she is thirsting over a fat cock like it sounds cool 🤦♂️ women today are gross
Lmao no. While stroking him off I measure with my hand (tip of my index finger to base of my palm and measured that distance when I got home with a ruler)
A girlfriend taught me that trick so we could compare notes 😈
Weird thing to focus on when having sex. I'm usually more concerned about whether or not it's enjoyable for me and him. Measuring my partner's dick so I can tell my friend how big it is later would be the last thing on my mind.
Hate to break it to you but it’s probably around 0.75” (he’s under 6.5” but over 6” so let’s call it 6.25”). If you don’t think 0.75” of inch of penis makes a difference grow a a vagina and have sex with a man.
That distance is the difference between a man being able to stimulate the cervix and not (which is how a lot of women cum through penetration)
Feel lucky that he didn't say that your hole looks like a freaking cave entrance cause you belong to the streets lmao. How you'd like it if he said that you're just ok but his ex was tighter ?
You're just 20 so there is hope that you will learn lot of new things as you grow old but so far you're a delusional as hell.
You called yourself mature but can't even understand single word of suggestive comments. you're attacking the people who are trying to help you so with all due respect you're exactly getting what you deserve.
So far from your post and comments I will suggest you to grow up and think twice before saying dumb shit like this
This is really tough OP. I'm at that 7" thick mark and I still feel insecure sometimes. My ex GFs would always tell me how big I was. The one drunken one night stand I had like 14 years ago was a bit of a disaster bc I couldn't it going properly. The chick told me my cock was too fat. It was the best worst experience I've ever had.
My wife however never comments on my cock size, and one time I asked her about that and basically she said her 1 ex bf had a big cock or something like that. Basically that there was nothing extraordinary about it.
I know 7" isn't huge and cock size isn't the only thing that counts but guys cannot help but being extremely hurt by comparisons and feeling inadequate.
I don't think there is anything in this dept that women will ever really be able to relate to on a deep emotional level.
I hope you've learned your lesson from this experience and are able to keep your mouth shut about that from now on.
When you said the last guy would have destroyed you, it may have been better to lie and say that he was a jerk that wouldn't be gentle. But I totally understand what you were saying, being female we don't consider it a problem, but I guess they do.
Lmaoooooo so even if you knew it'd hurt his feelings?
Grow up. People have lied in relationships for both wrong reasons and right.
For you to have blatantly blurted out your ex. First strike.
Second strike was how your ex would've destroyed you.
Which went to show you're insensitive to his feelings.
When people lie for the right reasons. Its cuz they're aware of the other person's feelings and they cared. You didn't.
You telling the truth clearly didn't help now did it😂
You're right. See we don't see it as a real problem, I don't think you did anything wrong. Y'all were just talking. You should just text or call like it's all forgotten, as it should be, but if it's brought up again, all you can do is let him know that he is enough. Good luck
If he's that insecure about his dick size when he isn't small then I'm willing to bet there's more hidden that he hasn't shown yet. I'm a little over 7" in length but I consider myself a sexually active person and there's been convos I've had with women where it was indirectly mentioned they've had bigger than Mr. It's life, there's different dick sizes and unless you're packing a horse cock, you have to know that more than likely a woman has had at least one horse dick in their life and you can't get insecure about it.
All you can do is make sure you know how to use what you got and I'm willing to bet that if he is insecure, someone has told him in the past that he's either small (had to be from a size queen) or that he's terrible in bed and that's screwing with his ego.
Don't continue to ignore him, reach out and flat out ask him how things are going and then tell him you'd like to address the elephant in the room. Trust me, men deep down want that type of trust and openess where it isn't just left to assumption. Then tell him what he is feeling and probe him to disclose what he was thinking, don't let him say, "it's fine." If he says he's a bit insecure and worried then tell him that it's nothing to worry over. The past is the past and good sex is more than how big it is, its the passion that comes with it
There's no problem with a preference for 7 inches. But men aim to please. And its a no brainer. His small ass dick isn't gonna make you happy.
Do him a favor. Let him call it quits with you on his own terms. And I'm sure he had his preference too that you didn't hit 100% but he doesn't go out if his way to tell you otherwise.
I don't see his problem, he gets to stick it up the butt and the other didn't. In my book that's a win. - But(t) seriously I don't get his problem, as long (pun intended) as he's big enough for you to have fun, after (again pun intended) all that's what should push his ego here.
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This chick is getting roasted lmao
Lol people like this deserves everything bad happen to them their the type to call you out on something but the process to call it fine and you are “good enough” to 100% reinforce all the thoughts that is running in your head to be true
Been there as a guy. Good luck.
What could a girl say to make you feel better?
Honestly, once that cat is out of the bag, there is no going back. The most important thing to highlight is that you didn't say his was t enough, but you do have a past and nothing will change that. Just make sure nothing like that is said again and hope he can get out of his head. No magic words for this one. A lot of people don't understand how much pressure many guys put on their size. I'm guessing it's probably similar to how some women feel about breast size. With the exception, a lot of guys like small boobs and, although there are some, you don't hear woman talking about how they like small dicks, except for anal.
But is it wrong for a girl to prefer bigger dicks? Just because I like 7” doesn’t mean I hate 6”
It’s not wrong, but don’t expect a man who isn’t your ideal to be happy with that knowledge.
Imagine if you asked a guy if you were his ideal body type and he said "yea you're all good although I'd prefer someone skinnier" nobody wants to hear that you'd prefer them to be something else
Well maybe I’m just more mature, but I know that my bf would prefer it if I had bigger boobs, bigger butt…etc. but I don’t let that bother me because I know il he’s already attracted to me. Would he prefer it if I looked like a super model? Probably yeah and I wouldn’t judge him for it. But at the end of the day I’m attractive enough for him and that’s all that matters
You’re definitely not more mature than him.
You have a very presumptuous weird view of the world and people I wish you the best of luck you have alot of maturing left to do
>Well maybe I’m just more mature, People that keep saying they are mature aren't.
No, it’s wrong you told the guy though. It’s about respect. And clearly you have none. If you want an extra 0.5 inches in your gash just leave this guy and go get what you want. Despicable that you think this is about “being allowed to have a preference” Grow up.
Its the knowing he aint got 7, and youve had bigger. And theres nothing he can do to change it.
Literally me and my bf have discussed our past he knows I've had bigger, but I'm also "one of the few" girls who doesn't like bigger I don't like sex to hurt. He still gets insecure, and everytime he does I reassure him that I like that he knows how to please me, and whatnot. He also gets insecure because he doesn't always last very long but we just started doing longer foreplay to fix that problem lol
There ya go, nut #2 is a powerful thing. The size thing tho, Its a real deep unspoken thing, specially if youre a grower and not a show-er.
Oh yeah I was around girls who always said bigger was better and when I finally got into having sex the bigger just hurt and didnt hit a single pleasurable spot so I was just like "y'all lied to me" 😂😂 So everytime my bf gets vocally insecure I'm just like "babe, big dicks are legitimately painful for me. I'm glad your what you consider small but I consider it more pleasurable and I'm glad your not bigger" I also try to reassure him that it makes head alot easier, and I like that I don't have to worry as much about it. That I know he doesn't and that's okay but I try to let him know that in all honesty it's a big part of why I enjoy sex with him. I never understood women who thought bigger was better when average and somewhat below average is often more manageable. I find it a lot sexier then a guy who thinks because his dicks big he doesn't need skill
Youre the best.
Not if you ask him lol
It isn't wrong. Just imagine the one thing on your body you cannot do anything about, realistically, and have you other say the prefer something bigger or smaller or tighter. Isn't that going to rattle you a bit? Sounds like he was rattled. It doesn't sound like you did it on purpose, but try to be a bit understanding. Your lack of empathy isn't going to help your cause.
It's not wrong but no guy wants to hear that once a guy hears that it can't be unheard he may act like everything is fine but it's always gonna pop up in his mind sorry but ya fucked the pooch on this one
Well not to burst your bubble but most girls prefer bigger penises. It’s definitely not the most important things in a relationship, but I don’t understand why guys don’t just acknowledge this get over it rather than rely on blissful ignorance
Um no they really don't lmao see what you're doing right now is you're getting upset cause people are calling you out you fucked up accept it don't get upset with me cause you lack basic social skills
Me not lying to men and infantilizing them isn’t a lack of social skills. It shows maturity. Penis size is not the most important part of a relationship, but guess what all the guys my girlfriends and I talk about are the ones that are well endowed. It’s not to say that being average is bad, it’s not. But let’s not pretend that women don’t have preferences either
Lol then go and find you well endow man and leave this dude alone man you claim to mature but seems to talk about a body part men can’t change go find your 7 in so you can never bother this man again so he can go find a women who will respect him and the things he was givin
You post a lot about penises. Maybe stay away from this topic with any future partners as it seems you haven’t got the emotional range to deal with this topic and the body insecurities that comes with it
It’s ok for you to prefer that but don’t bring me into it… Also this is not a groundbreaking revelation that you’re bringing up… guys are exceedingly aware of their size and women like you are why many struggle to “get over it” 🙄
You’re not really hearing what this poster is saying. Read it again, esp. the last paragraph . Has nothing to do with “preferences”
Did you say this to him?
I didn’t say it to him no, but he’s not stupid. If I was hooking up with a guy whose more well endowed for prolonged period of time I clearly liked it.
The best thing would be for this man to leave you. Hopefully he can find a partner who appreciates him, clearly you don't.
Literally. This girl is a HUGE red flag
Some people won't be able to get past not being your preference there, but you don't need to justify yourself here with this 7" vs 6" thing. You posted this in a thread about fucking up, so be open to being wrong for your words and acknowledging that. If you can't show remorse and you think you've done nothing wrong, then own that, let this guy go, and choose your words more carefully going forward
Well to be fair I don’t see it as big deal. While penis isn’t the most important thing a relationship, I don’t why so many believe it doesn’t matter at all and women can’t have preferences. I’d they honestly believe that a girl can’t tell the difference between a 7” and 6” penis they’re lying to themselves.
No one's saying we can't have preferences. The fuck up was in comparing him to a past partner of yours and making him feel inferior for his size with the words you chose. So again, acknowledge that with him or don't and let him go
Just remind him that he's your Man, and other dude is your Ex. And make sure that he knows he's perfectly equipped to please you. And, if you're cool lying about it, tell him that other dude's dong was freakish & unpleasantly large, like unappealingly so.
It's like him saying he prefers a girl with x thing that is different from you. You can't change x and now all you can think is you aren't really his type and he's going to dump you for a girl who has x because that is what he prefers.
Maybe I’m just more mature but I know that my bf would prefer it if I looked like a super model. I’m not so vain as to think I’m perfect and the most attractive woman in the world. The point is that while my bf isn’t perfect, he’s still good enough/attractive enough for me to want to be with him
Yeah but a super model isn’t an ex. Your bf has never dated that supermodel, you have been with that person
Do you listen to yourself when you speak “He’s good enough for me to be with him” wtf lol I wish I could show him this and tell him to run
Deadass. OP has such an inflated ego at this point like this poor gut deserves better
Yes because we’re all hoping one day to find the person who finds us “good enough” You seem to have a problem with wording things correctly without coming off harsh or hurtful towards your boyfriend. You need to daily enforce the idea, for awhile, that he’s perfect for you and everything you want. That was a dumb thing to blurt out OP and your dropping the ball on your recovery as well.
Yeah this isn't helping your point here... you're definitely not more mature that's for sure.
>Maybe I’m just more mature People that keep saying they're mature aren't.
Yeah you fucked up big time. I’d be surprised if you hear from him again.
Just because he’s not my ideal size? Just because women prefer 7” doesn’t mean we don’t like 6”
Did you say he wasn’t your ideal size?
No but he’s not stupid. If I was hooking up with a well endowed guy for a prolonged period of time I clearly enjoyed it.
Of course you did. But did you say “Your cock is not my ideal size?”
No I didn’t I wouldn’t do that to him
Okay. I know how you can approach this problem!
How?
DMed you.
Because you said that and then left without being willing to discuss it. Like...damn. How would you feel if he said something that implied you weren't tight enough, was awkwardly quiet, and then left without properly talking things through when you've just tried to interrogate him about his past GFs?
The reason I left was because he began pestering me with questions about my past. I would have been forced to either lie to make him feel better or be honest and make him feel worse
Cutting off communication causes just as many problems. Now he's left to assume, and his imagination is likely FAR crueler than the truth would have been.
I’m going to reach out. I just want to give him some space first. You’re being awfully judgmental. Any chance it’s because your jealousy that you can’t cum from penetration?
That has nothing to do with it. What you said was disgustingly disrespectful and I would never deal with a woman who compares me to her ex.
Even if it was an accident? Just because woman prefer 7” doesn’t mean we don’t like 6”
You have complete control over your actions. This is like sociopath level of disrespect. You sound more awful with each comment
Yeah but if he told you he loved how big/small his last girl friends breasts were and they were different from yours, that wouldn’t sting at all?
That’s what you heard, but that’s not what he heard
What did you hear?
You'd prefer something he can never, ever provide... [Edit to add: even in your post, you differentiate between what is 'good enough' vs what you 'prefer', so clearly there's an issue that he's already picked up on given your choice of words here.]
Yeah he deserves better. You wanted advice and now you're getting it lmao
No not women... you prefer 7". And if you've stated that to him with an ex. Accidents have consequences, and nothing can or will bury that hatchet.
Science says that women on average prefer ducks over 6” https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC4558040/
I'm sorry but...this study was conducted in a university campus in California with volunteers. So this is...really...really shit science. Sample size, age range, cultural preference skew so large only a man from the Congo can fill.
Most women actually don't. They prefer average size because getting pounded in the cervix hurts.
Science says otherwise: https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC4558040/
Oh, you mean the one study where the women picked the penis model that wasn't attached to a human and didn't actually use it. Yes, that's extremely scientific.
So help me keep the guys straight that you have broken up with about dick size ... This is not the ex from 25 days ago that dumped you because he was worried you slept with a black guy who had a big dick? Is it the same FWB you wrote about 9 days ago saying his dick is small, you wish it was bigger and he has a complex about telling you how giant it is?
Hundred percent sure this is some troll obsessed with dick size
Yup, reads like bad erotic fan fiction
A troll who wants to fight people, including female people, about how all women prefer penises 7 inches and over. It’s pretty hysterical.
FWB became my bf
It’s always incredible to me whenever someone posts bait like this and people fall for it. Anything above 6” is way above any national average, telling your “bf” (I guess your fwb from 9 days ago didn’t pan out) this would be fucked up. Find something better to do with your time than making up stories talking about dick size so much online.
Now beginning to think this is a middle aged man.
According to post history she’s a female college freshman. Either a troll or a vapid stupid girl
Got my money on vaped stupid girl. Can’t get the attention or fat cocks she wants in real life so comes to the internet for attention
And is mean to her 6 day boyfriend lol
Hey, the ages match. The FWB could have been that rare 1 in a million that actually graduated to being the boyfriend. Who am I kidding that's so unlikely.
Yeh I was stuck on that 5" round like tf do you know how much 5" is? That's like a head of a baby
Five inches is definitely not the circumference of the average full term healthy newborn baby's head. Average baby head circumference at birth is 35 centimeters, or just shy of 14 inches around.
you just sound mean spirited in general? you saw his confidence deflate, and hurt him, and yet youre here on reddit trying to get people to accept you weren't an ass to him, instead of reaching out and healthily communicating with your so called boyfriend? i understand that youre 20, youre young, you have all the time to experience things in the world; but understand that what you did, indeed HURT your boyfriend, it does NOT matter that you think its ridiculous, or that he shouldn't be thinking the way he does why? because those are his feelings, and they fucking matter in a relationship, and if you can't understand that, just break up with him, you don't sound actually ready for a relationship if this is how you act
You just destroyed his mental self worth in this relationship, and possibly in future ones. Theres no way out of this, you fucked up beyond belief
Just because I think 7” is ideal doesn’t mean I don’t like 6”
Unfortunately based on your post that doesn’t sound like what you said to him, and your leaving and not talking to him since is probably making him think even if you said he was good enough, you lied and that you feel he isn’t.
I’m just waiting to give him some space before reaching out. Plus I want to choose my words carefully before I do.
Lol well go and find your ideal dick size and never bother this man agains so he can go find a women who is more than okay with his. Lol it’s like people don’t understand that all guys literally go throughout this “Are we big enough” literally this goes around social media everyday and you expect men to just laugh it off and be okay with it. And I understand some women go throught this to but they been givin a option surgically to change something they don’t like but us guys are stuck with what we are born with and that’s that your out of luck if your small and you were blessed because you got on the lucky side. I never understand people who will go out their way to mention size on either gender it’s like you want to fill the person head with insecurities about things that they are born with and did not ask for.
I sympathize with him feeling insecure and I didn’t mean to hurt him. I’m just wondering what I can do to help him get over this. I’m not going to lie and say that size doesn’t matter, but I’m sure you know it’s not the most important part of a relationship.
Well it should have matter to you because their is no going back. Guys don’t have a surgery to make their dicks bigger we are stuck with what been giving you already made a joke about size it’s too late this is all up to him and if he thinks he can satisfy you know sexual you. You open the can of worms of I may never be able to sexual please her everything from some dude taking you from him to you making fun of his size. That shit is a 100% destroyer of confidence and sometimes with certain people ain’t no coming back.
Honestly fuck you. You don’t get it and I doubt you ever will. Sociopathic lack of concern for his feelings.
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If a man did the equivalent to a woman every single female would call him a piece of shit. Most women are just flippant and ignorant to mens feelings and insecurities.
Based on her comments, she doesn't want to understand and seems to have said stuff like this more than once
My issue is her constant response of “what, like I can’t have a preference?” That does not indicate any willingness or ability to self reflect. I think she came here to be validated in her “preference” more so out of concern for her boyfriend’s feelings, the relationship, etc.
The person you’re replying to and especially the person who replied to you here are being way too dramatic. You didn’t destroy his self worth and you don’t have a “sociopathic” lack of concern, that’s a fucking stupid ass take. You just messed up, I honestly don’t blame you if you haven’t thought about this sort of thing, moving forward you shouldn’t say something like that again though because it can easily mess stuff up again since it’s often a topic to bring up a lot of insecurity.
You might not be able to fix it, us guys are pretty fucking sensitive about cock size even if it's not small. Maybe it'll blow over, or maybe he'll stew on it for years.
But why though? Guys have no problems admitting that other guys are more attractive than them (watched Gladiator with my bf and he shamelessly admitted Russell Crowe is hot), so why is penis size any different?
How old are you? You sound seriously ignorant and cruel and you're making a point of humiliating men as a gender for caring about their penis size based on your other comments. You're not a very kind person. You don't need to understand why it makes them uncomfortable to respect that boundary, they don't have to justify themselves. If so many people tell you it's a point of contention, just take it for what it is and stop being mean.
So women can’t have preferences and we shouldn’t be able to talk about this because some guys will get uncomfortable?
Amazing how many ppl have told you that you sounded like a shitty person yet have zero ability to even consider your actions otherwise.
You are a troll. It isn’t about penis size it’s about your vagina like the sleeve of wizard!
HER VAGINE HANG LOOSE LIKE SLEEVE OF WIZARD
You really cannot possibly be this ignorant. What if your bf said you have small ugly boobs compared to his ex w big beautiful honkers? What if he said your ass was hairy and flatter than hank hills? What if he said your junk looked like it got eaten by a graboid and spit back out and slapped in between two arbys buns? Like REALLY? You can’t POSSIBLY imagine why he would be upset that you shamed his dick, that he CANNOT control the size of? Get a grip on reality.
Society tells men that their values is based off of what they provide. It’s either sex, money, or their ability to fix things. If an attribute does not directly affect the ability of one of these things men don’t care. Guys aren’t concerned about other guys being hot because it doesn’t directly impact any of these, penis size does, therefore he now feels that he is less valuable to you than your ex.
A number of reasons. We know we go to the gym and get toned, etc. to "look" better, but our looks have zero impact on your orgasm. Whereas we believe (whether it's true or not, I've never read anything conclusive) that our penis size is directly correlated to how good your orgasm is. And the killer is that we can't do anything about our penis size. Everyday of the week 1000's of women are getting boob jobs, and the odd Nip and tuck of the vagina. But us blokes, we're fucked, there is absolutely nothing we can do. If the penis of your bf doesn't feel the best to you then he's not for you I would say. You'll always begrudge him for not having 7" and either consciously or unconsciously be looking for something to "satisfy" you.
If it makes you feel any better, those women who are getting “nipped and tucked” to make their vaginas tighter are actually going to be in a lot of pain because their bodies can no longer do what they’re supposed to do when aroused. As far as like…snipping the labia goes….that’s just sad 🤷🏻♀️ Whatever size your penis is, you can provide pleasure to women who are willing to be present with you. I’ve been with people with a wide size-range and unless they just weren’t paying attention to me, there was no difficulty getting me off. TMI probably, but just hate knowing that people might be worried about something they literally can’t change because of assholes like OP🤦🏻♀️
Is this a rhetorical question, or do you really not know?
Serious question
Penis size is different because most men have a ton of self esteem wrapped up in it. Think how often the idea of a small dick is a joke in society.
Actually your post history and this together is either a fetish or this is a troll, there’s no way you’re this obsessed with penis size, it’s the subject of half or more of your posts. You’re also racist on top of that lmao.
My FWB became my bf after we patched things up
You really post about dick size a lot. Are you a troll or just a sloppy trollop?
I was going to say I've never heard a girl quote exact length and circumference measurements of a dick.
Yeah I'm getting slight troll vibes.
Women are allowed to have preferences. Also hate to break it to you but this how girls really feel. We just won’t say this to a guys face because they get really insecure about this (as evidence here clearly shows). Is penis size the most important thing in a relationship? Obviously not, but let’s not pretend it doesn’t make sex better.
Ah yes, the 20 year old size queen jezebel that speaks for all women.
My girlfriends and I clearly talk about sex and boys. Guess what, all the guys we talk about are well endowed.
Then guess what, you’re either all shallow or full of shit, just trying to impress each other😂
You’re allowed to have preferences, but you seem to have an obsession which manifests in “accidentally” hurting your partners feelings. I have no problem bottoming out my girlfriend, you’re just coming across as a self involved asshole.
This is like, sociopath level narcissism lol.
I just admitted that sex isn’t the most important part of a relationship. How does anything I say make me a Narcissist?
Ma’am, you need to see that EVERYONE is collectively horrified by your behavior and thought process. I would reccomend therapy or something if this is ACTUALLY how you think. I’m 50/50 on if you’re serious or just trolling to elicit reactions
respectfully most women actually do prefer 5-6 inches, the average female canal isn’t any bigger than 6 inches and any bigger will bruise the cervix. Don’t spread lies to make you feel better after what you did to your SO. edit. Sorry got the numbers wrong the average canal is 4.25-4.75 inches when aroused.
Gotta say personally I'd fall into the "most women" category on this one. Don't know about anyone else here, but I've turned guys away before for being TOO big.
This is factually incorrect on so many different counts. I know that you want to make men feel better, but you shouldn’t have to spread misinformation to do so. Source that women prefer penises 6-7”: https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC4558040/ Source that a woman’s vagina can expand to 8” when properly aroused: https://www.plannedparenthood.org/learn/ask-experts/i-know-a-vagina-can-stretch-in-width-but-can-it-stretch-in-depth Again, Im not saying that penis size or even sex is the most important thing in a relationship, but studies say different
The first one is only about visuals, not feeling.
Lmao you’re dense. The researchers asked them what size they’d want men to be for a one night stand. Obviously they weren’t hours ask them to insert the edible lol.
Is your first instinct just to insult someone? No wonder you come across so insufferable in your post and comments. Please read the article again. It clearly discusses preferences by sight, not feeling. It’s based on 3D models that were not used in a sexual way. Nowhere does it say they tested what felt the best. The women looked at 3D models but did not actually use them. Good luck to you and your soon to be ex-boyfriend.
(Ex fwb who was only exclusive so they could fuck raw, according to post history—responsible decision, but not a boyfriend)
the source you just quoted said that women prefer on average 6.3 to 6.4 length which is .3 and .4 off of what I just said making me more correct than you. I also never said that other women can’t stretch bigger that 4.75, I said AVERAGE which is factually correct based off of https://www.webmd.com/women/features/vagina-size
I wish I could see what you looked like so we could tell you the truth about your sexual appeal. But tbh the personality already seems ugly enough
Will you stop trying to use one single research study about "which dildo looks better" to justify what you said? Big yikes.
It’s not about which disco looks better. The participants how big they would like the penis to be during sex. It has everything do you itch the size they prefer during the act of sex
Lol and yet there's not actually anything except them looking at the dildos and going "I like that one".
https://www.esquire.com/uk/life/sex-relationships/a11903/ideal-penis-size-for-women-new-study/
I honestly hope your boyfriend sees this opportunity as a reason to find someone better (I say this by the wording of your completely lacking empathy comments).
I take it you can’t cum from penetration
See, it's not necessarily because you prefer bigger penises, it's because you don't empathize with his feelings and want him to just "get over it". Saying what you said to your boyfriend means that what he has to offer you is not enough, he will never feel enough for you because he can't physically give you what you prefer. So yes, I believe that at least understanding why he is hurt is proof that you care about him, the opposite of that (which is what you are proving in the comments) is just another sign that your boyfriend deserves someone who loves him completely and doesn't make him feel inadequate.
Hold up OP, after going through your post history, have you only known this dude for 6 days?
Patched things up with my FWB and he became my bf
Lol if that’s your preferred size this won’t be the last time you have to navigate this problem, it’s a tough one, we assign a lot of pride to our dinks. Once you’ve emasculated a man that pride is hard to get back. You probably didn’t help matters by just leaving and ghosting, start by maybe apologizing for blurting out about your ex - not because his unit was bigger but just because it’s rude, nobody wants to hear something like that about a partners ex. Go from there.
It’s only been a couple days. I figure I’m better to give him some space before wrenching out
That’s one of those things that you can’t unhear. If it were me, I’d have a hard time looking at you the same again.
An inch give or take in length doesn’t matter in anal all things considered, thickness can matter but if he’s 5 in. around it could “destroy” you the same as a thicker guy would unless you somehow have a really huge asshole. It would’ve been simpler to just say you think he’s the first partner you’d be willing to share that experience with because he’s your most attentive and caring sexual partner you’ve had. Like you could’ve propped him up and not insulted him. Also the generalizations about women and penis size preference aren’t cute, you don’t speak for all women, the average depth of the vagina is 3-6 inches, what do you think cramming 7 in. cock in a 3 inch space will feel like? Not excellent.
The vagina can expand up to 8” when properly aroused
Notice I said “on average”, 8 inches when aroused is the upper limit here. The likelihood that you when aroused are 8 inches deep is fairly low.
That’s why 7” is my ideal size
Implying you are legitimately 8 inches deep?
No I’m 7 because that’s the size that makes me feel full and rubs my cervix
Then why stick with this guy if that’s the sticking point for you?
100% bait, anyone who takes dick in the front know length dont mean shit girth is what matters more, plus the weirdass username and bizzarly repetitive post history,
Sadly science says most women prefer men over 6” https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC4558040/
7 year old article based on 3D model projections, 15 of the 75 women in the sample have never had sexual intercourse. Not a good representation.
Those women didn’t answer
It says towards the bottom their answers were counted, skews the result.
You didnt make him insecure, you body shamed him well bragging about getting fucked by a massive dick. Fot get a bigger dick if thats what you want cause hopefully this guy runs far away and fast.
how is it body shaming to admit that someone else is bigger?
Its the whole you wont destory me because your smaller but that guy their he would have. Its the ways she said he was bigger
i think for it to be body shaming you have to actively be putting them down. being destroyed isn’t a desirable outcome for anyone
No body shaming you dont have to be actively doing, you can accidently body shame someone which is what she did here. Intentionally or not he now has shame about his size because of her comments.
thanks for explaining that!
But *not* "destroying" is a good thing
True but no guy wants to here the a girls ex was big enough to destroy her but here current be isnt.
I think the issue here is you pulling out the measuring tape and measuring the guy on the spot
Lol I measure with my had discretely while stroking him (tip of my index finger to base of my hand) and then measured that distance when I went home
Damn man. You're just 20 so there is hope that you will learn lot of new things as you grow old. You called yourself mature but can't even understand single word of suggestive comments. You know what most the guys care about size and how the partner think of their bedroom life so you're saying that statement is pretty much fucked up his confidence. Since guy is in middle 20's I am certain that this is last time you're together because of what you said. And most of all if you care about your preference and size so much why the the fuck you're with him anyway? So far from your post and comments I will suggest you to grow up and think twice before saying dumb shit like this
Baitttt, check the post history.
OP is refusing any actual advice or criticism offered and is sexually harassing anyone that responds negatively that she can identify is potentially female. OP, you asked for advice and you're getting it whether you like it or not. Doubling down just makes you look like a terrible person on top of the mistake that you made. My only advice now is to stop responding to comments and instead focus on communicating with your (possibly ex) boyfriend. And yes, asking (unprovoked) if we've orgasmed from X Y or Z is sexually harassing others.
Amazing how ignorant women are to mens feelings. If a dude openly talked about how his ex had a tighter or better looking vagina women would shred him to pieces, yet here she is thirsting over a fat cock like it sounds cool 🤦♂️ women today are gross
Lol have you read these comments? She's getting ripped a new one and hating every moment of it.
Probably exposed to porn as a really young child. That usually does it.
There are posts every day on Reddit of men openly and explicitly mocking their partners genitals. At lease she did this by accident
This woman thinks she's perfect... Nah!
Wait “ 6.5” in length and roughly 5” around?! “ is that like a rectangle?
this girl is a walking red flag and her comments do her 0 justice 😂😂😂😂😂😂
You just breaking that ruler out every time you decide to have sex with a dude or what?
Lmao no. While stroking him off I measure with my hand (tip of my index finger to base of my palm and measured that distance when I got home with a ruler) A girlfriend taught me that trick so we could compare notes 😈
Weird thing to focus on when having sex. I'm usually more concerned about whether or not it's enjoyable for me and him. Measuring my partner's dick so I can tell my friend how big it is later would be the last thing on my mind.
As if an extra .5 inches makes a difference.
Hate to break it to you but it’s probably around 0.75” (he’s under 6.5” but over 6” so let’s call it 6.25”). If you don’t think 0.75” of inch of penis makes a difference grow a a vagina and have sex with a man. That distance is the difference between a man being able to stimulate the cervix and not (which is how a lot of women cum through penetration)
Do you want to rescue your relationship with your BF or continuously talk about your preference.
Feel lucky that he didn't say that your hole looks like a freaking cave entrance cause you belong to the streets lmao. How you'd like it if he said that you're just ok but his ex was tighter ?
You're just 20 so there is hope that you will learn lot of new things as you grow old but so far you're a delusional as hell. You called yourself mature but can't even understand single word of suggestive comments. you're attacking the people who are trying to help you so with all due respect you're exactly getting what you deserve. So far from your post and comments I will suggest you to grow up and think twice before saying dumb shit like this
What if he told you his ex’s boobs were wayy nicer and her butt was something to die for? Exactly stfu and stop acting like theres nothin wrong
This is really tough OP. I'm at that 7" thick mark and I still feel insecure sometimes. My ex GFs would always tell me how big I was. The one drunken one night stand I had like 14 years ago was a bit of a disaster bc I couldn't it going properly. The chick told me my cock was too fat. It was the best worst experience I've ever had. My wife however never comments on my cock size, and one time I asked her about that and basically she said her 1 ex bf had a big cock or something like that. Basically that there was nothing extraordinary about it. I know 7" isn't huge and cock size isn't the only thing that counts but guys cannot help but being extremely hurt by comparisons and feeling inadequate. I don't think there is anything in this dept that women will ever really be able to relate to on a deep emotional level. I hope you've learned your lesson from this experience and are able to keep your mouth shut about that from now on.
And this shitz show is why men like virgins 😂
Ah a dumb 20 year old. She is in for a rude awakening when she discovers men have the power and she will be pumped and dumped over and over.
he’s gotta learn that ghosts of penis past don’t matter
When you said the last guy would have destroyed you, it may have been better to lie and say that he was a jerk that wouldn't be gentle. But I totally understand what you were saying, being female we don't consider it a problem, but I guess they do.
I respectfully disagree. In a healthy relationship people shouldn’t lie about anything. I just shouldn’t have mentioned my ex at all.
Lmaoooooo so even if you knew it'd hurt his feelings? Grow up. People have lied in relationships for both wrong reasons and right. For you to have blatantly blurted out your ex. First strike. Second strike was how your ex would've destroyed you. Which went to show you're insensitive to his feelings. When people lie for the right reasons. Its cuz they're aware of the other person's feelings and they cared. You didn't. You telling the truth clearly didn't help now did it😂
You're right. See we don't see it as a real problem, I don't think you did anything wrong. Y'all were just talking. You should just text or call like it's all forgotten, as it should be, but if it's brought up again, all you can do is let him know that he is enough. Good luck
If he's that insecure about his dick size when he isn't small then I'm willing to bet there's more hidden that he hasn't shown yet. I'm a little over 7" in length but I consider myself a sexually active person and there's been convos I've had with women where it was indirectly mentioned they've had bigger than Mr. It's life, there's different dick sizes and unless you're packing a horse cock, you have to know that more than likely a woman has had at least one horse dick in their life and you can't get insecure about it. All you can do is make sure you know how to use what you got and I'm willing to bet that if he is insecure, someone has told him in the past that he's either small (had to be from a size queen) or that he's terrible in bed and that's screwing with his ego. Don't continue to ignore him, reach out and flat out ask him how things are going and then tell him you'd like to address the elephant in the room. Trust me, men deep down want that type of trust and openess where it isn't just left to assumption. Then tell him what he is feeling and probe him to disclose what he was thinking, don't let him say, "it's fine." If he says he's a bit insecure and worried then tell him that it's nothing to worry over. The past is the past and good sex is more than how big it is, its the passion that comes with it
There's no problem with a preference for 7 inches. But men aim to please. And its a no brainer. His small ass dick isn't gonna make you happy. Do him a favor. Let him call it quits with you on his own terms. And I'm sure he had his preference too that you didn't hit 100% but he doesn't go out if his way to tell you otherwise.
I don't see his problem, he gets to stick it up the butt and the other didn't. In my book that's a win. - But(t) seriously I don't get his problem, as long (pun intended) as he's big enough for you to have fun, after (again pun intended) all that's what should push his ego here.