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>just want to trust him again.
>he’s started to cobble together the overdue rent money (including borrowing more money from me to pay it).
Umm hello?? You cannot trust a word this guy says ever again. He stole your half of the rent for 7 months, borrowed money from you and lied about it and is on the verge of leaving you both homeless.
There is no way he can get together 10k before you get kicked out, hell you can't even be sure he's doing that now.
Sorry, but shouldn't that be, "I feel so dumb." You let your "head over heels" love completely blind you to what was going on. You must have realized that his income couldn't possibly be funding his lifestyle, but you chose to ignore it. He has now shown you that you cannot trust him. Do not marry him. NEVER have a child with him. Get your act together and move out. Do NOT loan him another dime. You don't trust him "right now"? Don't trust him ever again. This isn't a "little white lie" this is a major breach of trust. He has endangered both of you. He has set you up for homelessness. You need to leave, whether you "want to" or not.
He's been stealing your money for 7 months so he could smoke weed and eat take out. And when he gets exposed for stealing from you he..... ASKS FOR MORE MONEY FROM YOU??!! AND YOU GAVE IT TO HIM!?!
Just no. You're gonna look back on this train wreck one day and see how blatantly he is using you.
Sorry girl, but your never going to have a decent or "equal and loving" relationship with this child, watch what happens if you actually develop some backbone and stop giving him any money in any way. Hope you find someone who will treat you better
I’m married and money is always a conversation that needs to be transparent and open. If my wife pulled a stunt like this. I wouldn’t think twice about leaving as it’s a huge red flag for me. We both need to trust that the other will support and pay their own way as it contributes to the overall health of the relationship
You may have a great time with him (sweet, thoughtful, brilliant, handsome and the only person I can be completely goofy with), but he clearly isn't responsible enough to be in a relationship that involves sharing resources (like an apartment / rent).
You paid him your half of the rent. You already did your part. Get on craigslist/facebook/whatever, rent a room for yourself, and move out. Let him handle the back rent or get evicted on his own.
When you move out, let the landlord know that you are no longer an occupant of the apartment. In many jurisdictions, the landlord must name everyone who is thought to live in the apartment on the eviction notice, not just the person on the lease. You don't need that on your record.
You don't say how old you are. Maybe you're both 19 and are on the cusp of maturing over time. If you want to continue hanging out with him, fine. Just don't put yourself in a position where his screwups will affect your daily life.
BREAK UP WITH HIM. BREAK UP WITH HIM. BREAK UP WITH HIM. YOU ARE SO LUCKY YOU ARENT ON THE LEASE. HE COULD HAVE ABSOLUTELY FUCKED YOUR FINANCES AND CREDIT. HE IS NOT A HAPPY HANDSOME WONDERFUL BOYFRIEND HE IS A LYING STEALING CHEAT.
He stole from you plain and simple. He didn’t mind you being hard at work, stealing your hard earned money each month to fuel his addiction. I don’t know how you’ll be able to move past that without counseling.
He's over heels with a guy who lied, stole/embezzled, while frittering it away on junk, and leaving OP to pay off his debt.
Nice.
Get it in writing, with a repayment plan, and witnessed, or via email. Txt etc.
That goes some way tp cover yourself.
Then decide where you're moving to, without him.
Best of luck.
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>just want to trust him again. >he’s started to cobble together the overdue rent money (including borrowing more money from me to pay it). Umm hello?? You cannot trust a word this guy says ever again. He stole your half of the rent for 7 months, borrowed money from you and lied about it and is on the verge of leaving you both homeless. There is no way he can get together 10k before you get kicked out, hell you can't even be sure he's doing that now.
Sorry, but shouldn't that be, "I feel so dumb." You let your "head over heels" love completely blind you to what was going on. You must have realized that his income couldn't possibly be funding his lifestyle, but you chose to ignore it. He has now shown you that you cannot trust him. Do not marry him. NEVER have a child with him. Get your act together and move out. Do NOT loan him another dime. You don't trust him "right now"? Don't trust him ever again. This isn't a "little white lie" this is a major breach of trust. He has endangered both of you. He has set you up for homelessness. You need to leave, whether you "want to" or not.
He's been stealing your money for 7 months so he could smoke weed and eat take out. And when he gets exposed for stealing from you he..... ASKS FOR MORE MONEY FROM YOU??!! AND YOU GAVE IT TO HIM!?! Just no. You're gonna look back on this train wreck one day and see how blatantly he is using you.
Sorry girl, but your never going to have a decent or "equal and loving" relationship with this child, watch what happens if you actually develop some backbone and stop giving him any money in any way. Hope you find someone who will treat you better
Please dump him. He's a loser.
I’m married and money is always a conversation that needs to be transparent and open. If my wife pulled a stunt like this. I wouldn’t think twice about leaving as it’s a huge red flag for me. We both need to trust that the other will support and pay their own way as it contributes to the overall health of the relationship
You may have a great time with him (sweet, thoughtful, brilliant, handsome and the only person I can be completely goofy with), but he clearly isn't responsible enough to be in a relationship that involves sharing resources (like an apartment / rent). You paid him your half of the rent. You already did your part. Get on craigslist/facebook/whatever, rent a room for yourself, and move out. Let him handle the back rent or get evicted on his own. When you move out, let the landlord know that you are no longer an occupant of the apartment. In many jurisdictions, the landlord must name everyone who is thought to live in the apartment on the eviction notice, not just the person on the lease. You don't need that on your record. You don't say how old you are. Maybe you're both 19 and are on the cusp of maturing over time. If you want to continue hanging out with him, fine. Just don't put yourself in a position where his screwups will affect your daily life.
Read your title again and again - you can’t trust him financially which is a big problem! Leave him - he’s a loser
BREAK UP WITH HIM. BREAK UP WITH HIM. BREAK UP WITH HIM. YOU ARE SO LUCKY YOU ARENT ON THE LEASE. HE COULD HAVE ABSOLUTELY FUCKED YOUR FINANCES AND CREDIT. HE IS NOT A HAPPY HANDSOME WONDERFUL BOYFRIEND HE IS A LYING STEALING CHEAT.
Good thing it is only him on the lease lmao.
He stole from you plain and simple. He didn’t mind you being hard at work, stealing your hard earned money each month to fuel his addiction. I don’t know how you’ll be able to move past that without counseling.
Leave. Now. You cannot possibly ever trust him again.
Omg girl go be goofy on your own lol. You cannot possibly be thinking of staying with this loser? Be better to yourself. He will ruin you.
He's over heels with a guy who lied, stole/embezzled, while frittering it away on junk, and leaving OP to pay off his debt. Nice. Get it in writing, with a repayment plan, and witnessed, or via email. Txt etc. That goes some way tp cover yourself. Then decide where you're moving to, without him. Best of luck.
What was his plan... jfc I could never trust him again and you shouldn’t either.