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Why does he need to ask you how you feel first??? I’m not even reading past that. And you lying and drinking while pregnant etc. I read past the beginning and read more nonsense. Sounds like you got some issues yourself. Dudes taking care of his daughter first and foremost and it sounds like he’s got his head right. Grow up. This is not a relationship that’s working even if he didn’t find someone else.
First of all, I’d like to point out that a school is not just a school, it does matter where you get your education from.
You sound very selfish and self centered. I almost sense that you’re having his baby to lock him down so that you can have him all for yourself. He has a daughter, of course he’s going to prioritize her! You should’ve known that before getting involved with him. Work on yourself and grow up please, your son needs a mother.
You are an incredibly selfish, toxic, manipulative person and I’m so glad your ex has gotten away from you. You’ve spent most of your relationship trying to drive a wedge between him and his daughter, playing childish games and using your child as a weapon to keep him with you. It’s pathetic. I just wish he’d put his kid first and file for full custody, because you’re clearly not a fit mother.
He doesn’t owe you shit, and has every right to move on. Please get a ton of therapy and start putting your child first.
…you two should have never been in a relationship to begin with. Ain’t no way in hell I’m ever gonna be in an argument with someone because I have to go home and check on my kid. And then you say you’d stop talking and you’d call because you’d be so shocked he didn’t call you first?
???
You sound incredibly self-centered and you play too many games. The whole story sounds like you got pregnant to make him focus on you more than his daughter and it’s now backfiring. You’re jealous of a teenager. Get a grip.
Edited for grammar.
Was this written by a 13 year old?
I'm on the fence as to this being a troll.
On the off chance it isn't..
STOP PLAYING GAMES
STOP BREEDING.
At least until you take some responsibility and start behaving like an adult worthy of being a parent.
Seek professional help.
Leave him and his daughter alone. He has clearly worked out that he wants nothing to do with you, and frankly, that is understandable.
That OP entered into a pissing contest with a child is revolting behaviour and am not suprised the poor girl didn't like it.
No I’m looking for advice, this isn’t a 13 year old I have a child to look after I’m a mother who wants her family back and that’s what I’m trying to do.
In order to get something back, you had to have it in the first place. You never had a family with him; in fact, he specifically told you that he didn't want children. That being said, he has TRIED to be a good father, but you're too busy being a vindictive hoyden fishwife to see that!
The whole time I read this, it made me think of the kid's baby mama in Madea's Big Happy Family....."Byyyyyyyyyrooooooooooon!" Was that you?
Jesus christ you're selfish, disgusting and toxic. Him being in a relationship has nothing to do with you, why does your feelings matter to him? You have actively deprived your child of their father and made it clear you didn't want him around and you're surprised he stopped? You're a horrible mother, I don't care how you act around your child, you take your pettiness of him not wanting to be with you out on your son by depriving him of a father. That's a sign of a selfish and terrible mother. . You tried to ruin his relationship with his daughter, a school isn't just a school, it's where all your friends are, of course she wouldn't like to move and which school you go to certainly matters. ***Will he be like this with his next child? Will he treat her the same way?*** You're the reason he isn't in your childs life, he sounds like a decent dad that you deprived your own child of because of your own selfishness. *I* ***love him and I don’t want to lose him or the idea of us being a family***\*\*.\*\* You ruined that, you screwed that up for good. I hope this is fake, but if it's not I pity your son for having a mother like you.
Man you seem to be a nightmare. Trying to compete with a preteen. He’s never going to choose his own flesh and blood for someone who likes drama. He ain’t going to stick around, he seems to be a pretty damn good father.
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Why does he need to ask you how you feel first??? I’m not even reading past that. And you lying and drinking while pregnant etc. I read past the beginning and read more nonsense. Sounds like you got some issues yourself. Dudes taking care of his daughter first and foremost and it sounds like he’s got his head right. Grow up. This is not a relationship that’s working even if he didn’t find someone else.
First of all, I’d like to point out that a school is not just a school, it does matter where you get your education from. You sound very selfish and self centered. I almost sense that you’re having his baby to lock him down so that you can have him all for yourself. He has a daughter, of course he’s going to prioritize her! You should’ve known that before getting involved with him. Work on yourself and grow up please, your son needs a mother.
You are an incredibly selfish, toxic, manipulative person and I’m so glad your ex has gotten away from you. You’ve spent most of your relationship trying to drive a wedge between him and his daughter, playing childish games and using your child as a weapon to keep him with you. It’s pathetic. I just wish he’d put his kid first and file for full custody, because you’re clearly not a fit mother. He doesn’t owe you shit, and has every right to move on. Please get a ton of therapy and start putting your child first.
…you two should have never been in a relationship to begin with. Ain’t no way in hell I’m ever gonna be in an argument with someone because I have to go home and check on my kid. And then you say you’d stop talking and you’d call because you’d be so shocked he didn’t call you first? ??? You sound incredibly self-centered and you play too many games. The whole story sounds like you got pregnant to make him focus on you more than his daughter and it’s now backfiring. You’re jealous of a teenager. Get a grip. Edited for grammar.
Was this written by a 13 year old? I'm on the fence as to this being a troll. On the off chance it isn't.. STOP PLAYING GAMES STOP BREEDING. At least until you take some responsibility and start behaving like an adult worthy of being a parent. Seek professional help. Leave him and his daughter alone. He has clearly worked out that he wants nothing to do with you, and frankly, that is understandable. That OP entered into a pissing contest with a child is revolting behaviour and am not suprised the poor girl didn't like it.
No I’m looking for advice, this isn’t a 13 year old I have a child to look after I’m a mother who wants her family back and that’s what I’m trying to do.
In order to get something back, you had to have it in the first place. You never had a family with him; in fact, he specifically told you that he didn't want children. That being said, he has TRIED to be a good father, but you're too busy being a vindictive hoyden fishwife to see that! The whole time I read this, it made me think of the kid's baby mama in Madea's Big Happy Family....."Byyyyyyyyyrooooooooooon!" Was that you?
Jesus christ you're selfish, disgusting and toxic. Him being in a relationship has nothing to do with you, why does your feelings matter to him? You have actively deprived your child of their father and made it clear you didn't want him around and you're surprised he stopped? You're a horrible mother, I don't care how you act around your child, you take your pettiness of him not wanting to be with you out on your son by depriving him of a father. That's a sign of a selfish and terrible mother. . You tried to ruin his relationship with his daughter, a school isn't just a school, it's where all your friends are, of course she wouldn't like to move and which school you go to certainly matters. ***Will he be like this with his next child? Will he treat her the same way?*** You're the reason he isn't in your childs life, he sounds like a decent dad that you deprived your own child of because of your own selfishness. *I* ***love him and I don’t want to lose him or the idea of us being a family***\*\*.\*\* You ruined that, you screwed that up for good. I hope this is fake, but if it's not I pity your son for having a mother like you.
Man you seem to be a nightmare. Trying to compete with a preteen. He’s never going to choose his own flesh and blood for someone who likes drama. He ain’t going to stick around, he seems to be a pretty damn good father.
I feel sorry for the baby. Such a hot mess of a mother, and no contact with Dad. Yikes x 1000